All of the things in my head

Whenever I have too much going on in my life, I usually react in one of four ways.

1. I run around like the Energizer Bunny on speed

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Remember that little bunny that keeps going longer and harder than anyone else? Well, that’s me. I Get. Stuff. Done.

I am talking extreme organisation. I’m pre-cooking meals for the week, my floors are sparkling, the clothes are ironed, the kids are clean and fed, and work is trucking along nicely.

I’m kicking goals all over the place and fist pumping the air in the process. I do more than I need to, but I just can’t stop because I’m so amped up.

2. I can’t remember whether I’m Arthur or Martha

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Things slip. I become forgetful.

I’ve been to Coles three times in the past week to buy carrots and have come home with $80 worth of groceries each time, but no carrots. Why can’t I remember the carrots? Can someone please buy me some carrots?

3. It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to

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I become all grouchy and shouty. I whinge. So much whinging, you would think I was channeling my two-year-old.

Everything seems too hard. I’m so tired. Why do I never get to have a daytime nap?

I feel like crying, but there just aren’t any tears. Tears take energy and that is something I don’t have.

Each night I tell myself that I will go to bed early, but each night I’m awake until 11pm and then up at 5am. Thinking. Just thinking.

Why can’t I switch my brain off?

4. Zombieland

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My care factor is zero.

The floors will be in desperate need of a sweep, or a vac, or a mop, or all three. The fridge needs a clean out. I only seem capable of the most basic of things. Even blinking can be burdensome.

As soon as the kids are in bed I trawl mindlessly through Netflix for something to watch and nine times out of 10 settle on Game of Thrones. I then spend my days wondering if the King Slayer will ever see Cersei again. Will Joffrey meet a grisly death at the hands of Sansa? (We are only up to Season 3, so no spoilers please). These are the things that I ponder as I push the reality of my messy fridge, which has no carrots, out of my mind.

Does any of the above sound vaguely familiar to you?

I’ve been all of the above in the past couple of weeks.

Life has been full on with a busy schedule at work, an emotional prep interview, medical tests, study, a vomiting bug, and then another vomiting bug.

Just when I thought I had things under control, things began to unravel just as fast.

A reader reminded me over the weekend to take some ‘me’ time, which I thought was lovely. It brought a smile to my face, so thank you. You know who you are.

I followed her advice and knocked out some decent laps at the pool on Monday morning. The water was a little fresh at first, but as I found my stride I began to feel the calm take over and the overwhelm disappear.

It was much needed and I feel like I’m ready to ease myself back into normality again and start the week afresh.

If you find yourself going through any of the above or your own type of overwhelm, then promise me you’ll take some time out.

I don’t care whether you lock yourself in the walk-in pantry for five minutes while you gorge yourself on Easter eggs (probably not recommended) or take a walk in the fresh air.

Just do it. Just be kind to yourself and give yourself some time out. It’s good for the soul.

How do you react when you have too much on your plate? What are some of the things in your head at the moment? Do you ever take some time out just for you?

Linking up today with Essentially Jess, who I was lucky enough to meet IRL recently, for I Blog on Tuesday.

Some of the Team IBOT crew L to R: Colours of Sunset, Me, Have a laugh on me, Yinyang Mother, Middle-aged Mama and EssentiallyJess.

Some of the Team IBOT crew L to R: Colours of Sunset, Me, Have a laugh on me, Yinyang Mother, Middle-aged Mama and EssentiallyJess.

72 comments on All of the things in my head

  1. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    April 7, 2015 at 6:44 am (3 years ago)

    I am all of those people in one day sometimes! Talk about manic! I’m glad you got to swim it out. Self care can feel difficult to achieve but a real necessity.
    Love that pic of the IBOT team! What a great bunch of gals! X

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:10 am (3 years ago)

      It really is hard when you’re a busy mum with young children, but we just have to grab that time to ourselves when we can. Hope you’re enjoying your camping holiday xx

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  2. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    April 7, 2015 at 6:49 am (3 years ago)

    I am all of those people and often all in one day! My brain is always so busy and never knows when to turn itself off. I’m more mind full rather than mindful these days. But when I’m really in the midst of overwhelm, I try to make some time to go for a run or go to the gym. 30 minutes of setting endorphins free always sees me right.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:11 am (3 years ago)

      I’ve just read about your running escapades! Yes, it’s amazing what a little exercise can do. I’m glad you’re finding some time for you.

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  3. Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    April 7, 2015 at 7:09 am (3 years ago)

    Yep – I am all of those people you described and more! I was very happy that the first one you described came out over the Easter break – coz I really needed her to come out. She’s been missing for a while!! How awesome to have met Jess! Looks like a lovely get together you all had πŸ™‚ x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:12 am (3 years ago)

      The Energizer Bunny can be quite handy at times. I don’t mind seeing her every now and then πŸ™‚

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  4. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    April 7, 2015 at 7:21 am (3 years ago)

    I just tune out. Get vague. Go quiet. I agree- self care is so important. I should make more time for that- I’ve been putting it off and don’t even know why?!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:13 am (3 years ago)

      Yes, it’s hard to pinpoint why, isn’t it? Other things get in the way, but they shouldn’t. I hope you take some time out soon, Amy πŸ™‚

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  5. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    April 7, 2015 at 7:27 am (3 years ago)

    I do everything EXCEPT what I should be doing. I procrastinate. I play candy crush, read Facebook (10x), read blogs, watch TV…then when it’s crunch time I smash things out and then feel exhausted. It’s a vicious cycle! I just have to get to November, get my degree, then I’ll feel like the weight of the world will be off my shoulders.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:14 am (3 years ago)

      OMG Aroha! You will have one hell of a celebration once November is over. A well deserved celebration. I don’t know how you’re doing it x

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  6. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    April 7, 2015 at 8:07 am (3 years ago)

    I usually clean like a crazy person when I’m really stressed or really pissed off haha. But then I’m a perfectionist so as soon as I realise I can’t do it all perfectly I just sit on the couch and troll through the internet. Like this week lol. I’ll be fine by the end of the week though πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:15 am (3 years ago)

      Yes, it can take a couple of days. My mum is a bit like that. She will go into a crazy cleaning frenzy πŸ™‚

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  7. Vanessa
    April 7, 2015 at 8:08 am (3 years ago)

    I do a variety of those too! Yesterday I tried pre-cooking only to forget how to make rice and get it all stuck to the pan. So I went back to binge watching TV.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:16 am (3 years ago)

      Lol. Oh my God! That’s hilarious. That sounds like something I would do.

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  8. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    April 7, 2015 at 8:41 am (3 years ago)

    I can so relate to the above post. I too, like a lot of other women, am all of those people in one day, but not quite enough of the first one probably!

    I think I need to start swimming again! That used to relax both my body and my brain. At the moment my “me” time is going to the gym but whilst there my mind still goes a hundred miles an hour thinking of everything I need to do once I get home again and doesn’t seem to switch off like it did with swimming.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 6:27 am (3 years ago)

      Yes, I find the same thing, Ingrid. Swimming is the only thing at the moment that allows me to truly switch off and relax. You should definitely get back into it.

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  9. Raychael aka Mystery Case
    April 7, 2015 at 9:17 am (3 years ago)

    I tend to put my house in ABC order, starting with the cleaning products when I’m stressed. Especially if we have our inlaws visiting and driving me mad. They arrive for an extended visit soon and I’m already feeling anxious. I think this time round though, I will try and exercise my stress away.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:21 pm (3 years ago)

      I think that’s a good plan, Raychael. I hope they’re not staying too long :/

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  10. Kirsten McCulloch
    April 7, 2015 at 9:38 am (3 years ago)

    Oh yes, all of the above! But two vomiting bugs on top of everything else? That sux. I’m glad your swim was therapeutic. I do find taking a walk outside helps. Or a bath with some essential oils. Or just a foot bath after the kids are in bed. And a list. Organising all the overwhelm into lists helps me sleep, because I don’t have to remember it all in my head. Sometimes anyway πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:22 pm (3 years ago)

      A foot bath sounds like absolute bliss! You have it all worked out. I love lists too. I couldn’t do without them πŸ™‚

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  11. Denyse
    April 7, 2015 at 10:47 am (3 years ago)

    Oh how I feel for you and I do blame our short attention spans on so many different things which ‘attract’ us and ‘make us theirs’….from the internet to the phone and back again. Then on top of that, a household and kids! No wonder women burn out. Take that break before you break is my advice…I know. I’ve been there…long time ago now, but I remember. Good for you having that swim! Keep on swimming. Denyse

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:26 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Denyse. That is really great advice. I love that little saying. It will become my new mantra πŸ™‚

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  12. Natalie @ our parallel connection
    April 7, 2015 at 11:57 am (3 years ago)

    What a spunk!!! Live your pictures… They are funny. When I’m too busy my brain won’t switch off and I start to forget things to do with kids …. Like recently… Then I know I NEED to slow down

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:29 pm (3 years ago)

      Yep, that’s a sure fire sign, Natalie πŸ™‚

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  13. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side
    April 7, 2015 at 12:17 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee, I think I went through all four of these on Saturday! 1 > 2 > 4 > 3 by 5pm! I then spent most of Sunday and Monday trying to think of ways to ramp things down a bit. My mantra to myself this year is “You have no time.” It’s designed to stop me in my tracks when I start to say “Sure, I can help with that! I’ll fit it in somewhere.” I. have. no. time. There is no room for anything else!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:30 pm (3 years ago)

      That is a really good, motto, Bec!!! I think it’s great that you’ve recognised you can’t take on anymore. Good on you!

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  14. Kathy
    April 7, 2015 at 1:19 pm (3 years ago)

    Poor thing with busy and bugs together – not a great combo. Glad you got some Easter relaxing and some laps to get the brain thinking clearly. Yoga is always there for me – it saves my sanity at times.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:33 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh I bet, Kathy. I wish I lived closer so you could give me a lesson.

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  15. Dannielle @ Zamamabakes
    April 7, 2015 at 1:33 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee you bring me great comfort yet again!
    I can be everyone of your 4 descriptions above. So many thoughts running through my head and not enough time to out them all into action.
    I took a leaf from your book this morning (that’s when I read your post) and made some me/us time, the kidlets, 2 dogs and I went for a walk and played in the creek, it was really nice and helped me put some of that overwhelm in perspective.
    Keep making time for you and I’ll try too.
    PS – I love your pics, made me smile.
    Have a great week xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:35 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Dannielle! I’m so glad you took some time out. A walk along the creek sounds so peaceful. The fresh air can do wonders. Hope you’re having a great week x

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  16. Bec @ The Plumbette
    April 7, 2015 at 1:53 pm (3 years ago)

    I am totally all those descriptions. I love reading your blog and relating to exactly what you’re saying. I know the self care is important but sometimes I dont have time for self care! Right now I’m tired and have heaps of things I could be doing but I’m on the couch reading your blog and I’m going to work out when I can slot some time to get away from it all. Hope the girls are on the mend. Vomiting bugs are horrible. Xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:37 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Bec. It can be so hard to find some time to yourself when you have a young family and you’re working as well. It really feels like there’s not enough hours in the day. It’s exhausting. Make the most of your wonderful husband and mum and ask them to take the kids for a while so you can have some time out. Good luck xx

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  17. Tonia Zemek
    April 7, 2015 at 2:17 pm (3 years ago)

    Hope things slow down for you soon Renee. I’m with you on the swimming. It’s such a release and relief! Enjoy that pool every chance you get x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:39 pm (3 years ago)

      Ahh another swimming fan! I don’t know how I’d cope without it.

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  18. EssentiallyJess
    April 7, 2015 at 2:27 pm (3 years ago)

    I think you and I may be the same person! I too do all of those things!
    At the moment I’m a little lost. A week of holidays, and then coming home and everyone was sick and then having Easter… well I’m all confused over what day it is and what I’m supposed to be doing. I need some busy days to feel like life is normal again!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:40 pm (3 years ago)

      I hope the week is getting back to normality for you, Jess, and you’re starting to feel a little better. Getting sick just after your holiday is the worst πŸ™

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  19. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    April 7, 2015 at 4:16 pm (3 years ago)

    Yes, yes, yes and yes! Unfortunately my body slammed me this weekend with a severe head cold forcing me to stop and take a break. Not what I had planned, but probably needed. Happy Easter hun xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:41 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh you poor thing! Talk about bad timing. I hope you’re on the mend and was able to enjoy some of your break x

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  20. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    April 7, 2015 at 5:23 pm (3 years ago)

    You never fail to make me smile girl – love those facial expressions. We’re all a bit crazy at my place at the moment, we have a week with hubby so there’s no routines which kinda make me cranky but means more kid-free time! x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:42 pm (3 years ago)

      Woohoo!! Enjoy that time while you can. Oh and you always make me smile too! x

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  21. Mum Of Five Girls
    April 7, 2015 at 6:02 pm (3 years ago)

    love your post! I am very good at #2!! So often I don’t know if I am Arthur or Martha…what day is it, which kid has to go where, what time was that meeting being held…ugh!!!!!

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  22. Karin @ Calm to Conniption
    April 7, 2015 at 6:17 pm (3 years ago)

    I am rolling in Zombieland at the moment but how good is it when you do rock the bunny. Nice emoti-selfies!

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  23. Lauren @ The Thud
    April 7, 2015 at 7:32 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh god, I’m a mixture of all four at exactly the same time. I’m running around like a crazy person doing everything and nothing and completely forgetting all the things I’m supposed to be doing which makes me feel like crying but I’m a zombie so I end up just staring at all the stuff I’m supposed to be doing and get busy doing something totally unimportant….

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Yep, exactly what I do. It’s exhausting!!

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  24. Lisa
    April 7, 2015 at 9:19 pm (3 years ago)

    I am a mixture of all each and everyday! I am currently having the same situation about the supermarkets but instead of carrots i keep forgetting butter!
    Visiting from IBOT

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:45 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol!! Oh my God. We are out of butter too. What are we like?!

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  25. Tracy
    April 7, 2015 at 9:37 pm (3 years ago)

    I become an insomniac. I will spend about 3-4 hours just tossing and turning while thinking “I wish I could go back to sleep”. I’d rather be a productice energizer bunny!!

    The other thing that happens is that all the things I am trying to keep in my head fall out. Mostly I lose words and therefore the ability to speak. My children think this is funny. Until they have to decipher wild gestiulcations and gestures!!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:46 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes!!! I completely forgot about that. I have terrible trouble constructing sentences too. A sure sign it’s time for a break.

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  26. stephanie@stephsjoy
    April 7, 2015 at 10:21 pm (3 years ago)

    all 4 totally resonate with me. forgetting the very thing i went to the shops to buy is a commonly experienced. shall I send you a bag of carrots?

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:46 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol! That would be nice, Steph πŸ™‚

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  27. Belinda
    April 8, 2015 at 7:10 am (3 years ago)

    Wow Renee as usual a really pertinate blog and it’s like you’re inside my head! Although a lot of the time these days I just don’t have the energy to be so active to achieve your number 1. I hope you & your family had a great Easter!x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:48 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much for dropping in and commenting, Belinda!! I’m glad you can relate. I hope you get a chance for some time to yourself soon xx

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  28. jess
    April 8, 2015 at 11:20 am (3 years ago)

    I am currently experiencing Zombieland. I cancelled my pilates class this morning and am sitting outside, doing nothing on my to-do list. Its all just too haaaaaaaard sometimes (said in whiney 4yr old voice).

    I love your descriptions, who knows that I will be tomorrow?

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:48 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh it is all too haaaard! I hope you had a better day today πŸ™‚

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  29. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    April 8, 2015 at 11:23 am (3 years ago)

    I think we must be twins! I react in exactly the same way(s)!! There has been lots of It’s my party this week already, not coping with the lack of routine while the kids are home on holidays. Time for a few laps I think!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:49 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh I bet that’s hard. I’m not at that stage yet, but I can definitely see how it can take its toll. I hope you get a decent break soon x

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  30. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    April 8, 2015 at 6:02 pm (3 years ago)

    Hahahaha yes exactly!!! I’m the same as you and can be any one of these 4 people! I like energiser bunny the best… but the others rear their heads too!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      April 8, 2015 at 7:50 pm (3 years ago)

      I bet you’re a cooking machine when you’re in energizer bunny mode πŸ™‚

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  31. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    April 8, 2015 at 10:42 pm (3 years ago)

    ALL of the above sounds vaguely familiar! Love the expressions too, although I must admit that Zombie Renee freaks me out a bit – your eyes are following me around the room from the computer screen πŸ™‚ I find myself constantly “on” and get to the point when I feel so overwhelmed I usually have a mini- breakdown every few months. It’s a reminder that I need to slow down, not take on too much and sleep more. Hockey season is about to start and I treat the two games I play each week as some “me” time. It’s something I do just for me, gives me a good dose of exercise and let’s me hang with some fabulous girls. I hope you continue to give yourself some “me” time too Renee. Don’t forget the carrots…

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  32. Peachy Keen Mumma - Jess
    April 9, 2015 at 1:52 pm (3 years ago)

    Renee, your pics are adorable! I react to stress by going into turbo mode. I shut down emotionally. My back knots up. I get snarky. I get anxiety just thinking about shopping with my toddler in Aldi, and then when I’m there I’m stressed the whole time. haha! My fridge is pretty dirty too …

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  33. Neets
    April 10, 2015 at 7:11 am (3 years ago)

    The energizer bunny on speed would be the best way to describe me! For sure. But I create that myself. I feel that if I’m not crazy busy all of the time, then something’s not right. A bit of me time is important. I make sure I get that at least once or twice a week. Those faces you pulled are hilarious! xxx

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  34. Sarah @She Writes
    April 10, 2015 at 3:52 pm (3 years ago)

    Me time is always important, but unfortunately usually forgotten. After never being a runner for my whole life I have taken it up over the last 12 months and find it is a great way to clear space in my head, although the chocolate does sounds good! πŸ˜‰
    I hope you can get some more me time in and start to feel a small sense of calm soon x

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  35. Sonia Life Love Hiccups
    April 11, 2015 at 5:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I become every single one of those people you described chick.. depending on which week of the cycle I am on. As for all those gorgeous IBOT faces – what a fabulous bunch of spunks xx

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  36. Elena
    April 12, 2015 at 5:05 pm (3 years ago)

    That’s is so funny and so true. Have been all of those, sometimes even on one day πŸ™‚
    Absolutely love the photos!! Fabulous post, as usual!!

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  37. Sam Stone
    April 12, 2015 at 5:58 pm (3 years ago)

    These all sounds extremely familiar to me!

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  38. Emily
    April 17, 2015 at 3:51 pm (3 years ago)

    All of the above. And I LOVE your pictorial representations! I wish being the Energiser Bunny all the time was as simple as replacing my batteries. Must. Install. Battery. Panel.
    I sometimes combine them. Kicking goals everywhere EXCEPT still forgetting the carrots.

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