And what I should have said …

Take two: How I wish I reacted to Dave's news

Take two: How I wish I reacted to Dave’s news

When Dave came home last night he announced he is going away on a work trip for four days to one of Queensland’s most beautiful islands. Any normal, supportive wife would say, ‘Wow love, that’s wicked. What a great opportunity for you.’ Instead, I shrieked with fear in my voice, ‘Daaave, WTF?!’

I know, I know. As soon as I said it and saw his reaction I knew I had behaved badly. My evil alter ego Naughty Naisy appeared and took over me.

The thought of being left alone with a toddler and baby for three nights and four days, you see, terrifies me. I’m. Not. Kidding. The trip is not until the end of the month, but I can already feel my throat tightening and blood pressure building as I picture the total anarchy that could prevail. I can see it now, Smiley won’t sleep a wink and Curly-locks will be relentless with tantrums or incessant chatter and hyperactivity leaving me with no choice but to lock myself in the pantry to eat spoonful after spoonful of Milo straight from the tin. Okay, that may be an exaggeration, but I must admit I am a little nervous.

On an average day, I can spend up to 14 hours straight with the kids. Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with the girls, but by the time Dave gets home I’m well and truly ready for some time out and some adult conversation. It’s also nice to know that if things go pear-shaped during the night, which they often do with a teething baby, that I have him there to share the load.

Anyway, ashamed of my initial reaction to Dave’s news, I decided I needed to take a step back and think about the good that can come from this experience.

  1. I will feel a great sense of achievement surviving these four days.
  2. I will get extra night-time cuddles and story-time with Curly-locks who Dave usually tucks into bed.
  3. I won’t have to cook three meals every night. (Every night I usually cook one special toddler meal for Curly-locks, a meaty meal for Dave, and a vegetarian meal for me).
  4. I won’t be subjected to watching any of the following: Mega structures, Mounted in Alaska or Gator Boys.
  5. With no husband around, there will be no need to even brush my hair or get out of my pjs :).

Well, I’m off to don my wonder woman outfit and get myself organised. I’ll be sure to report back after Dave’s trip to let you know how I went and hopefully share some tips on how to cope while the hubby is away.

Does your other half go away often? How do you cope?

12 comments on And what I should have said …

  1. Tina
    May 7, 2013 at 12:26 pm (4 years ago)

    Love it, Renee! Very entertaining and oh, so true! Good luck while Dave’s away. I was thinking though when I started reading about the work trip to a tropical island that you were going to crash his trip and go along too….

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 7, 2013 at 12:42 pm (4 years ago)

      Ahh Tina! Now that’s an idea! Love the way you think πŸ™‚

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  2. Claire
    May 7, 2013 at 12:31 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh Renee! You say exactly what I feel! I hear your pain! Ben doesn’t go away but he does night shift & even though he’s working, and it’s not really fun or glamorous, that week every month nearly kills me. Dealing with the kids by myself at night & then on my own with them during the day as well while he sleeps! Argh!! Plan ahead to have activities to get through the days – it helps. But you never know, the girls might just be good for you! Good luck!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 7, 2013 at 12:45 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh Claire, I don’t know how you cope doing this on a regular basis. You really must be Wonder Woman! Thanks for the tip on planning activities. Am going to hit the shops tomorrow and stock up on stickers and colouring in books πŸ™‚

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  3. stephieg
    May 8, 2013 at 1:57 am (4 years ago)

    How exciting for Dave! Shame he can’t take you all with him. You will have to plan a ‘me’ trip away when he’s back ;). If you want visitors and some adult conversation, let us know-we’ll scoot around and say gidday x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 8, 2013 at 3:45 am (4 years ago)

      Sounds great, Steph πŸ™‚ x

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  4. Michelle
    May 8, 2013 at 5:25 am (4 years ago)

    I have every confidence you will do fine…in fact more than fine…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 8, 2013 at 9:45 am (4 years ago)

      Yikes! Hope so! Thanks Michelle πŸ™‚

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  5. Carly
    May 8, 2013 at 10:49 am (4 years ago)

    Not an unusual reaction at all Renee. My Dave goes away most weeks for at least 2 nights (sometimes the whole week) and when Neve was tiny I would either ring my parents to come and stay with me, or bail out to their place. I’m used to it now & we cope ok. But then again, only one baby to deal with not two…..
    If it all goes pear shaped I just tell myself ‘tomorrow is a new day’ & we wake up & start all over again (ha ha assuming there has been sleep!)

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 8, 2013 at 11:34 am (4 years ago)

      Good advice, Carly. I often tell myself that tomorrow is a new day πŸ™‚ Good on you for coping so well without your Dave. I think I’ll be calling in the troops for help (read: mum and mum-in-law) πŸ™‚

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  6. Tashen
    May 12, 2013 at 5:02 am (4 years ago)

    Very funny, that is just the reaction I’m having to Brent’s 8 night china trip, particularly when he decided to stay an extra 2 nights to meet a friend and do some sightseeing! I feel bad for not being happy for him and exhausted just thinking about how fullon it will be with my boys. Thank goodness I can get some help from my mum!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 12, 2013 at 11:13 am (4 years ago)

      I know! It’s just so hard, isn’t it?! You want to be happy for them, but you can’t help but think DON’T LEAVE ME! πŸ™‚ We will have to get through it together, Tashen πŸ™‚

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