Balance, business and bloody good cake

‘So … the secret is that there is no secret,’ Dave summarised for me when I finally paused for air.

I had just arrived home from my first ever blogging event and to say I was on a high was an understatement. I think I chewed Dave’s ear off for 20 minutes, while being accosted by two little cuties who missed their Mummy, before I took a break.

The event, the Creative Business Women’s High Tea, organised by blogger and children’s book author Zanni Louise and cake designer Janine Emerson from Love in a cake, promised to provide insight into a number of areas I was interested in, particularly finding the balance between running a business and family life.

Finding the right balance between work, family life and my passion, has often been a mystery to me.

As soon as I feel like I’ve found the right balance, my life goes up a notch of crazy and I watch with despair as the balance I once had slips through my fingers.

I was curious to hear how three successful businesswomen and mothers make it work.

As I sipped tea and gorged myself on the most delicious and beautifully presented sweet treats, I listened to Christie of Fig & Cherry, Chantelle from Fat Mum Slim and Sarah from Castle Design and Rafiki Mwema as they opened their hearts and minds to share how they built their successful businesses from scratch while raising a family.

When asked how they do it all, the response was unanimous.

They work hard, they don’t sleep, and they have supportive husbands.

After some initial laughter, Zanni probed the ladies about self-care.

Christie divulged that she meditates daily finding the shower her favourite place to switch off. She also goes out to dinner regularly with her girlfriends.

Chantelle has just recently learned to let go of the reins a little and ask for help. She is in the process of hiring an intern to ease her workload.

Sarah has also learned to ask for help. She started her business from home to spend time with her family, so she ensures she does just that and switches her computer off when her daughter is around.

On the drive home from the event, I pondered over how these women are really no different to me. They are mums just like you and me, who had a dream and chased it.

There is no denying that we all work hard, we all want to achieve our own definition of success, and our families mean the world to us.

There is no secret formula that these women have that I’m not applying. It’s what I’ve known all along.

Chase your dreams, work hard for what you want, be present with your family, and don’t ever forget to take care of you!

This is just a snippet of the learnings I walked away with from the event. Stay tuned for insight into how Fat Mum Slim’s advice on being your authentic self and Ellie Beck’s moving presentation on heart affected me.

Plus, it just wouldn’t be right if I didn’t tell you more about Sarah from Rafiki Mwema, for hers is the story I have not stopped thinking about since Sunday.

Thanks again for a lovely day Zanni and Janine.

What are your thoughts on balancing a business, hobbies and family life? How do you practice self-care?

Linking up today with the gorgeous Jess from EssentiallyJess.

65 comments on Balance, business and bloody good cake

  1. Marnie
    July 1, 2014 at 5:14 am (3 years ago)

    It took me a long time to realise but self-care is the secret and underpins all we do as mothers, wives and women. I have my manifesto printed all over my house to remind me and it keeps me going and stops the guilt when I feel I’m being self-indulgent.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Having a manifesto printed out is a great idea, Marnie! I will have to do that myself. Thanks!

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  2. Josefa @always Josefa
    July 1, 2014 at 7:03 am (3 years ago)

    Oh I so wish I could have come, despite seeming impossible! (funnily enough I was in Sydney over the weekend!) It is so important to attend events like this one. For the sense of connection, to gain an insight into the hearts and mind of others who are so like-minded (oh and to eat cake!!) Look forward to more posts about this Renee. As for balance, let it go – balance is overrated. Be in the moment, find gratitude, only do what is important and surrender to all possibility xx Josefa #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:08 pm (3 years ago)

      Great advice, Josefa. I especially like the sound of surrendering to all possibility. Hope you had a great time in Sydney πŸ™‚ x

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  3. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    July 1, 2014 at 7:04 am (3 years ago)

    Self care? What is self care? LOL.
    As a blogger I guess the best way to practice it is to write about it. Then you become accountable to your own words. That’s why I write so much about super foods and beauty stuff. Exercise (although sporadic). It MAKES me actually do it.
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:08 pm (3 years ago)

      I like to do that too, Leanne. Especially with the whole quitting sugar thing. If I declare it to the world then I have to follow through.

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  4. Bec | Mumma Tells
    July 1, 2014 at 7:43 am (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee! I can her the excitement in your voice while reading this. What an event! I too would have loved to have been there, but am happy to live vicariously though you.
    As for balance? I find the balls are constantly in motion. Moving, changing direction and weight. I don’t have a formula for making the juggle work, but being flexible and surrendering to the moment certainly helps. I can’t do it all and be it all, but I can do and be the vest that I can. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:10 pm (3 years ago)

      You hit the nail on the head, Bec. We can only do our best and should not be so hard on ourselves x

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  5. Erin
    July 1, 2014 at 8:01 am (3 years ago)

    Well I see my hobbies/creativity (ie blogging) as part of my self-care. Eating well is also part of self-care which fortunately also ties in with caring for my family. More and more I’m becoming aware of the need for exercise for my self-care and the message we send to our daughters regards importance, not in a groove yet though.
    I nodded totally re supporting husband, I couldn’t balance it all without him.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:12 pm (3 years ago)

      I’m lucky enough to have a very supportive husband too. I’m glad to hear you’re aware of looking after yourself and practicing self-care daily. Blogging is definitely my special me time.

      Reply
  6. Neets
    July 1, 2014 at 8:08 am (3 years ago)

    What an amazing experience! Such inspiring bloggers. Some great learnings there too Renee. Glad you managed to get some YOU time xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:12 pm (3 years ago)

      It was great thanks, Neets. Wish you could have been there x

      Reply
  7. Erin
    July 1, 2014 at 8:09 am (3 years ago)

    Renee
    Just realised if you went to this event (just googled it to find out where it was) you are local to me!! Well just down the road, smiling here:):) I’m in Grafton.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:12 pm (3 years ago)

      Ahh! If only we figured this out earlier πŸ™‚

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  8. Hope @NannyShecando
    July 1, 2014 at 9:12 am (3 years ago)

    I think you’ve really hit the nail on the head with this. In a time where everything on pinterest and instagram looks beautiful and rosy, we’re very quick to think everyone else has the secret key and their lives are better or easier than our own. But behind the facade we’re all just working to chase our dreams, each and every day!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:13 pm (3 years ago)

      That’s right, Hope. It was really comforting to hear the speakers’ stories and learn that we are all in the same boat πŸ™‚

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  9. Zanni Louise
    July 1, 2014 at 10:20 am (3 years ago)

    I loved reading this Renee. It is so nice to hear about your take-homes. So glad you could be with us for the event. That was really special. Let’s do it more! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:25 pm (3 years ago)

      We definitely should do it more! Thanks again xx

      Reply
  10. Rhianna
    July 1, 2014 at 10:23 am (3 years ago)

    Sounds like such an awesome time, can’t wait to hear more about it. I have to agree that self care is the one thing that us mothers seem to underrate the most. After 13 years of mothering I am only just realising now how it is a must.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:26 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, we really need to make sure we take care of ourselves in order to take care of our family. Thanks for dropping in πŸ™‚

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  11. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    July 1, 2014 at 10:40 am (3 years ago)

    Exactly that I got from it to – there is no magic answer, just lots of hard work and juggling, but it’s all so worth it. Lovely write up. x

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  12. Kathy
    July 1, 2014 at 12:14 pm (3 years ago)

    Lovely and we are on the same page Renee with the learnings from Sunday. You know how I bang on about balance but it is always a yin-yang, ever-changing thing, not some all-things-equal, scale of justice sort of balance. The passion came through for me – perhaps you can achieve anything if you are passionate enough (and look after yourself in the process).

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:14 pm (3 years ago)

      I agree, Kathy. I think if you’re passionate enough then magic can happen.

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  13. Mystery Case
    July 1, 2014 at 2:14 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m so very envious of the blogger catch ups over East. There just doesn’t seem to be as much on offer here in Perth. Most of the events I’ve been to are fashion blogger related and I’m left feeling 20 years too old, in a room full of young girls that have all the spare time in the world and can’t appreciate the whole work, life, motherhood struggles.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:17 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh that’s no good at all! Are you going to Problogger at all? I guess it would be a very expensive event for you considering you have to travel from Perth aswell. You should create your own event in Perth!

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  14. Sarah Rosborg
    July 1, 2014 at 2:32 pm (3 years ago)

    Such a lovely post, Renee! It’s Sarah here.. I look forward to following your blog and reading your other posts. Thanks for coming and supporting Rafiki.. I was thrilled to be a part of it all πŸ™‚ xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:18 pm (3 years ago)

      Sarah, thank you so much for visiting my blog and taking the time to comment. Your words and story moved me beyond belief. Thank you for being so open. xx

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      • Sarah Rosborg
        July 3, 2014 at 3:14 pm (3 years ago)

        My pleasure Renee πŸ™‚ I find it strange when people say I inspire them. I really do.. but i appreciate your nice words and sorry for blubbering! i dont often talk about myself and my story! xxx

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  15. Lisa
    July 1, 2014 at 2:58 pm (3 years ago)

    Sounds like a wonderful event! Wish I could have been there-Perth needs to pull its socks up and get something similar going.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:18 pm (3 years ago)

      That’s the second person from Perth today! You need to get together with Mystery Case and organise an event! πŸ™‚

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  16. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    July 1, 2014 at 3:08 pm (3 years ago)

    How I would have loved to be there and hear about this in person from such rad, inspiring woman.

    Just as I feared, it’s the old hard work factor. The get in and slog away. There really is no way of doing it in any career or dream situation is there? You get out what you put in.

    As for balance, I’m not sure I know the answer there. I am terrible at it! Although I’ve recently had an intervention in my life to sure I implement self care regularly. I now go to yoga or pilates at least once a week. Not only is it exercise but it’s also my meditation because I breathe out all the yuck stuff as I go. Other than that I grab little moment when I can. Jumping online, having a shower, nicking off to the shops on my own, sneaking an arvo snooze… hardly glamorous stuff but it’s the little things that count sometimes.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:20 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s amazing how good nicking off to the shops alone can be for a mum!!!! I’m so glad to hear you’ve built regular me time into your week. It is so important for us mums x

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  17. EssentiallyJess
    July 1, 2014 at 3:38 pm (3 years ago)

    I find the balance thing really tricky, because I want to do everything well. It’s something that I’m constantly working on readjusting.
    Sounds like it was such a good afternoon. Glad you got to go. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:21 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Jess. Yep, balance seems to be one of those work in progress things xx

      Reply
  18. Toni
    July 1, 2014 at 6:02 pm (3 years ago)

    I fail miserably at self care, the most I do lately is having a shower. I really need to work harder on that.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:21 pm (3 years ago)

      You sure do, Toni. Don’t forget to take care of you!!

      Reply
  19. Eva @ The Multitasking Mummy
    July 1, 2014 at 6:53 pm (3 years ago)

    The balancing act has been difficult for me but I think it’s slowly starting to work…i just have to make sure I prioritize and remember that everything doesn’t have to be perfect even though that’s what I’m used to. I also have to try to stop getting side tracked. I very much need to start my own advice because there are so many things happening because for the first time in my life I am following my heart!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:22 pm (3 years ago)

      Yay for following your heart, Eva. That makes me so happy to hear. The balancing act sure is tricky, but at least we’re all working on it πŸ™‚

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  20. Denise
    July 1, 2014 at 7:34 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh that event sounds fantastic Renee, thanks for sharing the take-aways. I’m really interested in this too. The one I fall down on most is self-care. Which is ridiculous, because I can’t achieve anything or take care of anyone if I don’t look after number one. I find the balance shifts all the time, you just have to focus on your priorities. xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:23 pm (3 years ago)

      True that, Denise. And you’re right, you need to take care of you to be able to take care of others xx

      Reply
  21. Danielle L
    July 1, 2014 at 9:44 pm (3 years ago)

    It sounds like a great event. I love that post-conference buzz when you are full of new ideas and possibilities!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:44 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s great isn’t it, Danielle πŸ™‚

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  22. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    July 1, 2014 at 9:46 pm (3 years ago)

    Sounds like it was a fantastic day. I love reading how others make it work. It’s different for everyone isn’t it? Yet, we can relate so much. Look forward to reading more.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:45 pm (3 years ago)

      It sure is, Jodie πŸ™‚

      Reply
  23. Tegan
    July 1, 2014 at 10:00 pm (3 years ago)

    For me self care is one of the most important things to keep my life on an even keel. I try to stay in tune with my limits and let others know when those have been reached. I’m lucky that I have a pretty awesome support system, who understands when I need to take a step back and just be.
    I saw some of the pictures from the high tea on Instagram over the weekend and I was so jealous!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:46 pm (3 years ago)

      That is great you have such an amazing support network, Tegan. Leaning on others and taking time out is so important.

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  24. Amber at Adventures of a Rainbow Mama
    July 1, 2014 at 11:05 pm (3 years ago)

    What a beautiful morning it was! I was enthused by Christie’s 1-minute meditation – thats going to be my new attempt at self care πŸ˜‰

    Amber. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:46 pm (3 years ago)

      Me too, Amber. Thanks for dropping in x

      Reply
  25. Druime @SnippetsandSpirits
    July 1, 2014 at 11:34 pm (3 years ago)

    Jealous I could not have tea with you. Sounds fab and thanks for sharing your thoughts I look forward to reading more lessons you have learned. Imagine no secret formula!! Its funny how we think there is we want it to be easy. But its hard work. Keep Blogging Mamma!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:47 pm (3 years ago)

      You too, Mamma πŸ™‚

      Reply
  26. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    July 2, 2014 at 6:24 am (3 years ago)

    I think our husbands would get along, mine said pretty much the same thing πŸ™‚ That was the message I took away from it too. There is no magic way to juggle it all. We each need to learn what works best for ourselves and also look after ourselves along the way. My new ‘self care’ technique is to put the heating on when I wake up early, it’s allowing both of my boys to sleep in for almost an extra hour!! I hope you have a lovely day x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:47 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh my goodness!! What a brilliant idea. I’m so glad you’re getting that extra time to yourself in the morning x

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  27. Grace
    July 2, 2014 at 10:58 am (3 years ago)

    Sounds like it was an awesome day, Renee! I love Chantelle! I just wish I had known her personally when she lived in my neighbourhood!
    I love Christie’s meditating in the shower. I do that…a lot!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:48 pm (3 years ago)

      I’ll definitely be trying it, that’s for sure!

      Reply
  28. Sam
    July 2, 2014 at 2:01 pm (3 years ago)

    Sorry we didn’t get to chat more Renee – I think I had fleeting 30 second conversations with a few people. Next time.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 7:47 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes it’s a real shame, Sam. Thanks for officially introducing yourself to me πŸ˜‰ You’re such a laugh. See you again soon hopefully πŸ™‚

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  29. Carla from myyellowheart
    July 2, 2014 at 10:50 pm (3 years ago)

    Glad to hear I’m not the only one not getting enough sleep!!! The day sounded wonderful, would have loved to go. But I’ll see you at problogger and I’m looking forward to that!! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 3, 2014 at 11:22 am (3 years ago)

      That will be so much fun, Carla. I can’t wait πŸ™‚ x

      Reply
  30. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    July 2, 2014 at 11:14 pm (3 years ago)

    It sounds like such a beautiful event, Renee!
    Looking after ourselves is so important, isn’t it? I meditate in the shower each morning, and find this starts my day with some clarity. I just have SO many things that I want to work on, and get a bit overwhelmed with fitting them all in. But if that’s my biggest complaint, I consider myself very fortunate.
    I’m hoping to get to the next “local” event, and can’t wait to have a good chat with you when we do eventually catch up xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 3, 2014 at 11:23 am (3 years ago)

      That would be lovely, Lisa. I look forward to it. Yes, I get a bit overwhelmed with all that I want to fit in too. More hours in the day would be heaven xx

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  31. Sam Stone (@A Life on Venus)
    July 6, 2014 at 12:51 pm (3 years ago)

    At the moment I am trying to walk for at least 20-30 minutes a day for my own self-care.
    Thanks for sharing this with us. I wish I cuold have been there.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 7, 2014 at 9:38 pm (3 years ago)

      I wish you could have too, Sam. Are you going to Problogger?

      Reply

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