Conversations with the wedding dress

If I could rely on anyone to give me the honest to God truth no matter how painful it might be to hear, I knew it was my brother.

I stood in front of him in my wedding dress just a few days out from my wedding. I think it’s suffice to say that I was borderline hysterical.

I had just picked up my dress from the dressmaker only to find she had appliqued a section of lace to the hip area.

This was not in the brief.

What THE HELL was this daggy applique doing on my beautifully elegant wedding dress? It reminded me of the appliqued t-shirts my Granny made us when we were kids, you know, in the EIGHTIES!

Mum assured me it looked beautiful and no one would even see the applique, but I didn’t believe a word she said. I knew that only one person could deliver the cold, hard truth to me.

So there I stood in front of my brother acting like a complete raving lunatic. I made him swear to give it to me straight – that I didn’t care if it looked awful. I would just buy a new dress.

I can’t remember his exact words, but it was most likely something along the lines of … ‘Mate. It looks good. Seriously, don’t worry about it’.

His words, whether they were true or not, were enough to calm me.

I took off the dress resigning myself to the fact that this was the dress I was going to wear and I just had to push that unexpected applique out of my mind.

And you know what, my friends? On the day of the wedding, the applique was the least of my worries. Moments before our photographer arrived I popped on my sexy lingerie – white lace with a silver thread – and slid into my dress only to discover YOU COULD SEE STRAIGHT THROUGH THE DRESS TO MY SILVER UNDIES.

Again another desperate time that called for a desperate measure. Mum saved the day with a pair of her beige undies. Yes, folks – I wore my mother’s underpants to my wedding.

What’s a wedding without a bit of drama and a good story to tell, am I right?

While the dress wasn’t exactly what I had hoped for, it was pretty darn close. Casually elegant, I think it suited me to a tee.

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Did you love or loathe your wedding dress? Do you have a wedding dress story to tell? Share in the comments.

Linking up today with Kylie Purtell for IBOT and always Josefa for Conversations over Coffee. Conversations is a monthly link up where you’re given a theme to write to. This month’s theme was – Conversations with the wedding dress.

58 comments on Conversations with the wedding dress

  1. Susan Tyler
    August 30, 2016 at 5:33 am (1 year ago)

    You were stunning in that gorgeous dress!!! Never saw the applique- just saw a beautuful bride.

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    • mummywifeme
      August 30, 2016 at 6:36 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks so much, Susan 🙂

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  2. Lydia C. lee
    August 30, 2016 at 6:36 am (1 year ago)

    That’s gorgeous!! I believe I wore no undies to avoid VPL…now when I wear my dress I just go with the VPL. Too old to care! (PS My friend got a wedding dress from a very famous Australian Fashion designer and the dress arrived with the beading incomplete and there was no time to get it finished so she had to get the dress maker in her small country town to do it and a very stressed lady saw the fashion designers name and said ‘You know I just hem school uniforms for people right?” However, she gave it a go, did a perfect job and all was right in the end….

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 2:26 pm (1 year ago)

      Lol. What a story!! That would have been the highlight of that dressmaker’s career 😉 As for the no undies – very raunchy 😉

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  3. Seana Smith
    August 30, 2016 at 6:37 am (1 year ago)

    My goodness, that is a stunner of a dress and you looked radiant. No wedding dress story here, sorry to say… still haven’t quite got round to getting married… but 20 years and four kids later, we’re pretty committed. I always say that if I hadn’t got pregnant very quickly and accidentally I’d have wanted to marry Paul, but … life rushed us away. As I like to tell the kids, I’ll marry my next boyfriend, I promise… They don’t really appreciate the humour. NB Thank goodness for honesty from brothers!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 2:27 pm (1 year ago)

      Lol. Very committed indeed, Seana 🙂 Marriage isn’t for everyone and think of all the money you’ve saved!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 2:28 pm (1 year ago)

      Would love to see a pic one day, Leanne 🙂

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  4. Bec Senyard
    August 30, 2016 at 7:29 am (1 year ago)

    Absolutely beautiful Renee. I love your dress. And yes I have a wedding dress tale. The bodice didn’t sit nicely on me and we had to take it back a few days before the wedding to get fixed. As the seamstress pinned the bodice to make the alterations, she pricked her finger and a drop of blood spurted on the back of my dress. By this stage I was over the dress and just wanted to marry Jacob. I loved my dress and would probably choose a similar style now. I would have definitely changed my hair though…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 2:29 pm (1 year ago)

      My goodness! Talk about drama. Blood on the dress, oh no!!! I’m glad you didn’t let it phase you though.

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  5. Josefa
    August 30, 2016 at 7:38 am (1 year ago)

    You look simply stunning in your dress Renee! more so that smile on both your faces as you walk out of the church – that speaks volumes, more so than any dress or applique ever could 🙂 I do have to say, that beige undies story is a keeper! that is too funny – thank you for sharing that little snippet about your wedding day and thank you for linking up to #convocoffee xx

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  6. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    August 30, 2016 at 7:59 am (1 year ago)

    Naww that’s so sweet. I hope my boys have the same relationship with their sister. You looked divine and the dress is lovely. Love that you wore your mums knickers! CUTE xx

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  7. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    August 30, 2016 at 8:22 am (1 year ago)

    What a stunning bride. I adored my dress. Red satin, crystals on the bodice, cathedral length train, corset closure… but the tulle/net stuff underneath! It scratched the crap out of my legs!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 2:30 pm (1 year ago)

      I can just imagine you in red satin, Amy 🙂 Pity about the tulle!

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  8. Melinda @unitedstatesofmama
    August 30, 2016 at 9:34 am (1 year ago)

    Bah ha- had a good lol over your mum’s undies. Despite that- your dress and you looked lovely. Given my time over I would have chosen something completely different for my wedding dress, but it doesn’t seem to matter now. I had a great day and felt awesome which is the main thing I think.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:46 pm (1 year ago)

      It definitely is the main thing 🙂

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  9. Denyse Whelan Blogs
    August 30, 2016 at 10:13 am (1 year ago)

    Stunning and happy bride! Your radiance shows and you have definitely married the love of your life. I am so glad I got married in the era I did…well for me I was glad to choose a simple Aline frock from the bridesmaid section of the bridal shop. I have never been a fussy or fancy dresser. Finding a wedding dress with my daughter was a NIGHTmare as she is someone who finds it hard to make up her mind. Anyway, it’s not about the dress, its about the marriage and we are still together, whereas she divorced her bloke (3 kids later) after 10 years…. Denyse #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:47 pm (1 year ago)

      You’re spot on, Denyse. It’s definitely about the marriage and not the dress 🙂

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  10. Nicole @ The Builder's Wife
    August 30, 2016 at 10:27 am (1 year ago)

    You looked absolutely stunning!! I love your dress, and you are correct it suited you perfectly. At the time of my first wedding I loved my dress, but only a few years later I didn’t anymore. My second wedding dress now 5 years old, is still my favourite dress of all time! A tea length garden style dress, I wish I could wear it every day. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:48 pm (1 year ago)

      It sounds beautiful, Nicole. I’d love to see a photo sometime xx

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  11. Cat
    August 30, 2016 at 11:05 am (1 year ago)

    You look stunning!
    I am torn with my wedding dress. Mainly because my mum made it. She made it beautifully but it wasn’t quiet what I had wanted. Well it partly was and partly wasn’t. Would I wear it again today probably not I would probably wear something less and more vintage.
    My most favourite part of my wedding outfit was my veil, it was the veil my mum and her sister had work and it was also the veil my cousin (who was also my photographer because she is a wedding photographer) also wore. Funnily mum and her sister had one daughter each and Bec & I have had two daughters! I just hope my twins don’t decided to get married on the same day. I would love to think that all our daughters will wear the veil too xoxo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:49 pm (1 year ago)

      Would that mean you could get a two for one on the cost of the wedding? 😉 The veil sounds like a lovely tradition. I hope both your girls get to wear it xx

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  12. Kez @ Awesomely Unprepared
    August 30, 2016 at 11:55 am (1 year ago)

    You looked beautiful! I have a story!
    My dress was a strapless, sweetheart neckline number. It had a beautifully beaded bodice, with a gorgeous skirt section that shimmered and floated. It just needed a bit of shortening as we’d bought it off the rack. We sent it to an alterations person who supposedly had a lot of experience with ball gowns and bridal stuff. My mum went to pick it up a couple of weeks before the wedding. What she got was a hacked up 80s prom dress. Like if you put fake blood on it, it would make an awesome Halloween costume. There were actual jagged scissor lines and one side of the dress was much higher than the other. So short that it couldn’t be recovered or evened out!!! My mum was amazing. She carefully unpicked the whole skirt from the bodice, bought new fabric and created a whole new skirt – under immense pressure. I have never been more grateful that at least one of us knows how to sew!!! I was a little disappointed to not have the same floaty skirt I had dreamed of, but my mum’s was just as beautiful and now holds sentimental value. I was going to sell my dress after a couple of anniversaries, before. Now I have decided to keep it for the foreseeable future – i.e. if I have a daughter or someone in my family who would love a piece of it for whatever reason.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:51 pm (1 year ago)

      Oh my goodness!!! Good on your mum for saving the day. Talk about a high stress situation. I’m glad it all worked out in the end.

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  13. Emily
    August 30, 2016 at 12:59 pm (1 year ago)

    I love your dress! And yes, I have a wedding dress story to tell.
    I picked up my dress a week before the wedding, took it home, then vowed not to look at it. My mum visited and wanted a look. I told her no. A few hours later, she sheepishly told me she’d sneaked a look. Before I could get mad, she said, “And good think I did, because there’s grease on it.”
    We opened it up and yep, somehow the dressmaker had smeared grease across the bust.
    I called, they vowed to clean it and get it back to me. I took it back. The next day they called to say they’d dry-cleaned the hem and removed the dirt. Um, okay. What about the bust?
    Silence. Then… “Oh, I see it now. You want that gone?”
    UM?! YES PLEASE!
    I got married in Bendigo and the dress wasn’t ready until the day before. A friend picked it up, checked it, then brought it up to Bendigo and delivered it to my house two hours before the wedding.
    I actually didn’t go too hysterical about that. But three days before the wedding, I went and got my eyebrows waxed. “Stick to the line. Just a tidy.” NOPE. She went SO THIN. I bawled. I still look at my wedding photos and hate my eyebrows, but hey. At least the dress was clean!
    (Sorry for the essay. Just wanted to reassure you that even those of us who think they’re super calm about their wedding day lose their shit!) x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:52 pm (1 year ago)

      Oh my God!!! The eyebrows would have got me too. Argh. I can just imagine the distress. I’m sure they were fine though and people would have been too busy looking at your dazzling smile than your eyebrows x

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  14. Andrea
    August 30, 2016 at 1:53 pm (1 year ago)

    You were a proper stunner in your dress! But the smile on your face was mainly what I saw that day 😘.
    I skipped off work for a couple of hours and nipped to John Lewis on Oxford St to peruse their ready made offerings, bought the first one I tried on (it was the second wedding dress I ever tried, first one was at an actual bridal store and made me so revolted I vowed to just go and buy off the rack). I really liked my dress, but it is rolled up in a ball in our storage unit somewhere, it did its job!) and I did wear it again for our UK wedding party 2 months after our Australian wedding. Got value per wear on that one!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:53 pm (1 year ago)

      Your dress was absolutely stunning and so you! You couldn’t have picked a more perfect dress xx

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  15. Ness
    August 30, 2016 at 2:44 pm (1 year ago)

    You look absolutely STUNNING in that dress. I could never pull off a dress like that even it when I was young and slim, but it just looks made for you. Amazing.

    My dress was quite prim and old-fashioned, but I love it because my mum made it for me. I didn’t have any wedding dress dramas, but for some reason as soon as my cars arrived we got into a mad panic and ended up arriving at the church too early. We had to circle around the block for a bit. The bride is supposed to be late!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:53 pm (1 year ago)

      Lol!!! I was early too, but then decided to go to the toilet at the last minute. Thanks for your kind words. I thought you looked stunning in your dress too 🙂

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  16. Kerry
    August 30, 2016 at 4:01 pm (1 year ago)

    You looked absolutely gorgeous as usual hun! I had to get my wedding dress taken in about a month before our wedding as I had lost weight without realising. Then the weekend before our wedding I got a decent bout of gastro so my wedding dress still didn’t fit me on the day. But I loved it, super simple and floor length so I could wear ballet flats underneath (no heels for me, or mummies undies either lol!). Love love love your story, such a fab memory! I did manage to lock myself in the loo at our wedding venue for a while, the door had a hinky latch and I couldn’t unlock it. Lucky my mum came to my rescue too, she managed to get it open, I was in full bridal get up too by this stage, and very relieved to get out of there, haha. Still love my dress, and it’s a lot tighter on me these days too, oops!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:55 pm (1 year ago)

      Ahh I miss you and your word ‘hinky’ 🙂 I would have been freaking out stuck in the loo. What would we do without our mums?!! I can so see you in ballet flats. I switched into bridal flip flops a friend of the family made. So comfy on the dance floor xx

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  17. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    August 30, 2016 at 4:12 pm (1 year ago)

    You look like a princess! What a beautiful bride! My mum was living in France when we got married so I asked my office manager to come and help me choose the dress. The thing was I had already been to one shop with a girlfriend and found when I liked. After a whole day dress shopping with my friend, we returned to the original shop to show her the dress but they’d sold the sample. I was devastated and got quite teary at the counter. The lady said she’d never seen anyone get so upset about a dress before, so she gave me a discount (woot) and when we looked up the dress in the catalogue, the model was wearing it in pink! I didn’t know it came in pink as the dress I tried was white. And the best bit was that the catalogue picture was of the model sitting in front of the harbour bridge (the designer was Aussie.) So I got a pink dress after all, and after hubby fell in love with Australia on honeymoon, we moved here right after! I think that harbour bridge picture was a good sign!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:56 pm (1 year ago)

      Oh it was definitely a sign!!! That is such a lovely story. I’m glad it all worked out pink dress and all x

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  18. Terese
    August 30, 2016 at 4:36 pm (1 year ago)

    That dress is so you Renee – appliqué and all! I bought my dress from Katies! Simple off-White chiffon over satin gathered at the waist & chiffon sleeves. My indulgence was the veil and the handmade satin ‘crown’ from which it flowed. Whilst not a flowing veil along the lines of Princess Di there was just a slight drape on the ground … And that was my undoing! Swanning around during my veil pre-departure one of my precious little flower girls trod on the hand embroidered edging and it promptly pulled the lot off my head but not before tearing a goodly amount of the netting. No time for repairs or even for hysteria (the flower girl was screaming enough for both of us!) I simply gave her a cuddle, picked it all up and proceeded as if nothing had happened. No one noticed & I didn’t give it another thought all day. I still have the veil – it remains I repaired… That is part of the story of the day and evidence that perfection is in the eye of the beholder. We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary so ‘all’s well that ends well’. 😊

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 8:58 pm (1 year ago)

      I can just imagine you being supremely calm even under the most distressing of situations!!! I would love to see photos one day, Terese. Happy 37th anniversary xx

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  19. Simone
    August 30, 2016 at 5:09 pm (1 year ago)

    I didn’t even see my wedding dress until days before my wedding when I had the viewing and fitting all at once. I’d given a brief to the designer and just had to trust him! I was soooo worried! I didn’t actually have a vision of what to expect so that I couldn’t get disappointed but I ended up being pleased with the result and it suited me and thr setting. But, the panic really set in when I had no bra to wear that wouldn’t show and the strapless corset i’d ordered never arrived! I think I used tape in the end and was so paranoid all day and night about flashing everyone!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:08 pm (1 year ago)

      I remember the stress leading up to the wedding, Simone. Your dress suited you so well and looked absolutely stunning on you. The perfect dress for the occasion. That’s for sure x

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  20. Kylie Purtell
    August 30, 2016 at 6:56 pm (1 year ago)

    Oh I have to admit I laughed about wearing your mother’s undies to your wedding. I wear a pair of my old Bonds black undies because despite how hard I looked, I just could not find the nice ones I’d bought for the day! I loved my wedding dress which is something I am so glad I can say coz I know many people who look at their dresses now and cringe. I thin your’s suited you perfectly!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:07 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks Kylie. I’ve seen pics of yours and you look stunning in yours also. Definitely suited you to a tee.

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  21. Robyna | The Mummy & The Minx
    August 30, 2016 at 7:59 pm (1 year ago)

    Your dress is gorgeous! As are you (moreso than the dress of course). I loved my dress but it was a very simple, off-the-rack, could-take-on-the-plane Lisa Ho number. We eloped. 10 years later, I don’t think we have really been forgiven.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:07 pm (1 year ago)

      Oooh! I can imagine a few people would have been upset about that, but seriously how exciting and romantic! Good on you 🙂

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  22. Karin @ Calm to Conniption
    August 30, 2016 at 8:43 pm (1 year ago)

    You looked absolutely beautiful! I didn’t love my wedding dress but I liked it. I wanted to give it to charity but my husband wouldn’t let me and I would like to see my daughter playing in it one day.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:06 pm (1 year ago)

      I secretly want that too, Karin 🙂

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  23. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    August 30, 2016 at 8:51 pm (1 year ago)

    You looked gorgeous on the day. What a feeling when you realise your dress is see through. argh. My dress was fitted and in the last few days lost weight on my shoulders and it struggled to stay up.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:06 pm (1 year ago)

      I think that’s a problem a lot of brides experience as we try to look ‘our best’ for the big day x

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  24. Steph
    September 1, 2016 at 8:48 am (1 year ago)

    Hi sorry I haven’t said hi in while! Oh Renee your dress was gorgeous, very elegant. I think this sort of thing happens to every bride. It brings back all kinds of memories of our wedding- I was passionately opposed to having a wedding at all but David twisted my arm. I finally agreed to a small gathering. No fuss. No fluff. I found a knee length dress – lovely and simple- which I thought would do nicely, until David announced he wanted a bridal party. Not just a best man, but three. Once again after protests, I succumbed to David’s requests, it was his big day afterall, lol! I decided to have my sister as a bridal companion to help balance it out and thought my simple little short dress now wouldn’t cut it. I found a dressmaker who seemed professional. A well dressed, well versed middle age woman. She met me for a few coffee/design dates in the city to begin with. Her studio was in Paddington. After I’d paid her the deposit and agreed on a design, I arranged to meet her at her ‘studio’ for measurements etc. only her ‘studio’ address had changed. It turned out she worked from home. She lived in some dingy flat in a dingy part of town. There were cats. She had one ancient looking sewing machine next to her bed and that was her ‘studio’. I walked out in feeling sick, she was a nice lady who sounded like she knew what she was doing, but massive alarm bells right?! I told my mum over the phone I wanted to find someone else, but mum, convinced I was being a neurotic bridezilla told me my expectations were too high, and she sounded fine. So I sucked it up, told myself I didn’t want fuss or fluff and she would be fine. She wasn’t. She started to muck me around I stopped hearing from her, she was busy. With a fortnight to go I gave her an ultimatum and told her I was coming round for the final pick up. The dress was ill fitting, the sleeves were completely mismatched, she had spilt tea of it, and did I mention cat hair. Her response to it all- looks fine to me, maybe eat more pizza and it will fit better. What a toad! I had to hurriedly find another dress maker to do an emergency fix. In order to be salvaged, the dress design had to be changed. I was was so over it, I didn’t look at it again until the morning of the wedding. So much for no fuss or fluff (lots of cat hair, lots)!! Oh my, that turned into an essay, oops!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:05 pm (1 year ago)

      Oh my God, Steph!!! No!!!!! She spilt tea on it??? That is so dodgy. What an awful crazy cat lady disguised as a wedding dress maker. I bet you were so upset about it all. Thank God for plan b. You looked beautiful in the photos, I only wish I was there on the day x

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  25. Hugzilla
    September 1, 2016 at 12:17 pm (1 year ago)

    BAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHA! I loved the surprise twist at the end about wearing your mum’s undies… Did NOT see that coming!! You looked amazing, for the record x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:02 pm (1 year ago)

      Lol! Thanks Hugzy x

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  26. Vicki @ Knocked Up & Abroad
    September 1, 2016 at 1:51 pm (1 year ago)

    Ha ha! Thanks for the chuckle about you mums undies! There is always a bit of drama right? I got mine home and was showing my sister in law when I realised there was blood on my perfectly white dress! BLOOD!?!!? Where?? Turns out I had some freak cut appear on my fingers – how I will never know – and the blood got soaked up by my dress. Thank goodness I was with my sister in law who knew to dab it straight away before ‘the protein sets’ – her words. It was all good but it was HORRID for five minutes or so.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:01 pm (1 year ago)

      Oh my God!! Thank God your SIL knew what to do!

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  27. Tegan
    September 1, 2016 at 4:12 pm (1 year ago)

    The beige undies definitely puts a new spin on ‘something borrowed’! Your dress looked gorgeous though. I find the more simple ones to be so much more elegant.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:01 pm (1 year ago)

      Ha! You’re right, Tegan. I never even thought of something borrowed!

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  28. Janet
    September 2, 2016 at 4:52 pm (1 year ago)

    You looked stunning. I loved my dress, no regrets, though I could never fit it now and it is totally out of fashion. My challenge was that it had so much sheer in the neckline and back that I couldn’t wear a bra. Which was fine, I didn’t have anything to write home about back then anyway. BUT I have heard an unconfirmed report since then that when I bent over to talk to people seated at the reception, they copped a bit of an eyeful. Still not sure if I believe them or not …

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2016 at 9:00 pm (1 year ago)

      Ahh Janet. That made me laugh. Sounds like a very sexy wedding dress 🙂

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