Feeling good about me

My mum has given me plenty of advice over the years, but the one thing she’s been particularly firm on is that you’re never fully dressed without lipstick or a belt.

She first uttered these pearls of wisdom when I started clubbing around the age of 18 or 19.

I’d head out au naturel. I don’t think I even owned foundation back then.

I was only interested in perfecting my dance moves to every Spice Girl song on the charts and umm hello Thursday night $1 drinks. Lipstick and a belt were the last things on my mind.

Mum wouldn’t let the lipstick issue go lightly though as ‘… you never know who you’re going to meet’. She bought me a lipstick and insisted I wear it. It was a burgundy colour, a signature colour of the mid to late nineties. Mocha java was its name. Ahh yes, good old mocha java. Do you remember it, mum?

I took mum’s advice and her lipstick. She would know. She has such a great sense of style. She knows how to put an outfit together complete with makeup and accessories and looks amazing all of the time.

My sister is the same. She is a magician with a makeup brush and can make a pair of shorts and a t shirt look stunning.

Me on the other hand, I didn’t quite inherit the ability my mum and sister have to effortlessly throw an outfit together or have the patience to carefully choose something off the rack that I know is going to look perfect on me.

They’ve been training me over the years though and there was a time when I made a lot of effort with my appearance. I had a lot of fun with it too. I was brave in my clothing and makeup choices and considered myself a bit of a fashionista.

And then I became pregnant and had horrible morning sickness. Things began to slide.

I stopped wearing perfume first of all, then dropped all of the accessories because I couldn’t bear anything touching my skin, then I stopped doing my eye makeup and then lastly the lipstick went out the door. Bye bye mocha java.

I’d do the basics, a light covering of foundation and throw on my clothes. I could not muster the strength to do anymore.

Since then, I’ve been in a bit of a rut and I’ve not been feeling overly confident in how I look.

I have a bad track record of being overly critical of myself. I’m no stranger to staring at myself in the mirror and rolling off a list of things I hate about my appearance.

On a low day, I read Emily from You learn something new every day’s post about a style challenge she joins in with and how it’s made a difference to her.

For those of you not in the know, the style challenge is Styling You’s #everydaystyle. Emily’s explanation of why she joins in struck a chord with me and so just under a month ago, I joined in too.

If you follow me on Facebook, you’ll see that most days I post a picture of myself in my outfit for the day.

I’ve noticed a change in myself since I started doing #everydaystyle. I’m paying more attention to my appearance again and it’s making me feel good about myself.

Like Emily, I’m having a good look at what’s in my wardrobe and getting creative. I’ve discovered that I’ve been in a serious clothing rut. I’d circulate the same few outfits at work each week and wear my standard mummy uniforms at home. No wonder I was feeling blah about myself.

I’ve also been doing a 21 day health challenge run by my good mate Simone over at The Wellness Warung. I’ve spent the last three weeks focusing on how to make me feel good on the inside and out and I tell you what, it’s made a difference. My skin feels great and I’m less bloated.

As for the lippy, mum you’re right. I’ve started wearing it again and it’s making me feel like a new person.

Ps. Thanks for letting me raid your lipstick drawer.

lipstickWhat are your secrets to feeling good about yourself? Has your mum given you any pearls of wisdom? Do you participate in #everydaystyle? Are you enjoying my #everydaystyle? Do you have a favourite lipstick? Do you know all of the dance moves to Stop?

Linking up to today with the delightful Jess for I Blog On Tuesday.

74 comments on Feeling good about me

  1. Hugzilla
    October 28, 2014 at 5:48 am (3 years ago)

    Yes, I am dreadfully bad at this. I live in jeans and trainers and I have the most minimal make-up kit you’ll ever see. Concealer, mascara, (one!) lipstick, powder. Some five year olds have more cosmetics than I do. I go through periods where I try to jazz it up an bit but it’s just not me. I don’t feel comfortable in nice clothes. You look fantastic though – I’m glad you’ve got a bit of your mojo back.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:08 am (3 years ago)

      My makeup collection is pretty minimal too, but I do plan to grow the lipstick side of things. Go with what makes you feel comfortable in your own skin and good about yourself, I say.

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    October 28, 2014 at 5:57 am (3 years ago)

    I would replace the belt with heels – though I usually live in Birkenstocks. Or bare feet. But I do throw on lippy for a lift (deranged, I know). That dress is fab, by the way…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:10 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you! Yes, heels is a good one. My mum would approve πŸ™‚

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  3. Raychael aka Mystery Case
    October 28, 2014 at 6:02 am (3 years ago)

    You look fantastic. I attempted a week of #everydaystyle and ended up dreading the daily photos. I hate photos of me at the best of times and trying to get a five second photo in the morning wasn’t the best of times. I’ve also put on a bit of weight due to meds and really not feeling comfortable in my own skin. It’s going to take time to get back to my old self, if that is even possible, so I’m working on looking and feeling better rather than waiting for something that might not happen.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:11 am (3 years ago)

      Good on you, Raychael. I’m sorry to hear about the meds. I hope things start to improve for you soon πŸ™‚

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  4. Kathy
    October 28, 2014 at 7:16 am (3 years ago)

    I’ve been enjoying your #stylingyou posts on FB and glad they are helping you feel good about you. You always look great.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:11 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks Kathy. They are a bit of fun πŸ™‚

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  5. Jodi Gibson (JF Gibson Writer)
    October 28, 2014 at 7:18 am (3 years ago)

    Whoa Mumma! Looking good chic. I love that dress – where did you get it? And I always feel naked without some sort of lipgloss/lipstick. πŸ˜‰

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:12 am (3 years ago)

      Yes, I think I’ve realised I’m just too pale to go without. The dress is a Tokito dress from Myer. On sale last time I looked! Go! Run!

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  6. Tonia Zemek
    October 28, 2014 at 7:28 am (3 years ago)

    I love this post and have been really enjoying your FB pics too. You look gorgeous and truly are beautiful inside and out! Thanks for sharing this personal story x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:13 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Tonia. That is really sweet of you xx

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  7. Jodie@Fresh Home Cook
    October 28, 2014 at 8:00 am (3 years ago)

    I have been loving your #everydaystyle posts so much! You always look lovely!

    I have always struggled to wear make up – a case of super sensitive skin that reacts to some of the ingredients & makes me go all blotchy! Then while home with the kids I just let it slide all together – in came frumpy mum!

    Am caring a bit more these days & have finally found a make up I can wear & it feels nice to invest some time in how I look again. For me, it is mascara & some lip gloss that makes me feel, put together! Add a bright scarf & I am all set! πŸ™‚

    So glad you are feeling good about yourself – you should, you are amazing! xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:15 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks you, Jodie!! That’s fantastic you’ve found some makeup that you don’t react to. That must have been awful. It’s amazing what a little mascara, gloss and a bright scarf can do to lift your mood x

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  8. Min@Minsmash
    October 28, 2014 at 8:10 am (3 years ago)

    What a wise mum you have! My mum has always said “never leave the house without some lippy on”. I must admit that since I gave up the corporate life and have been blogging from home and studying photography at home, I’ve been no longer getting dressed up and makeup on every day like I did in my previous life. It can get you down looking daggy all the time. It’s nice to frock up and get the makeup on and feel a million bucks now and then πŸ˜‰ Love that photo of you! You look gorgeous and I love your frock πŸ™‚ x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:20 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks Min! Yes, for me personally a bit of foundation and lippy can make a world of difference to my mood. Strange I know!!

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  9. Jayne
    October 28, 2014 at 8:21 am (3 years ago)

    Thanks for the kind words Naisy. You wouldn’t want to know how many lipsticks I own! Love this dress on you xo

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:21 am (3 years ago)

      Lol! You will have to show me your collection on Thursday. Glad you like the post, darling xx

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  10. Me
    October 28, 2014 at 8:35 am (3 years ago)

    You look amazing !!!
    I don’t do clothes very well especially when I am carrying extra weight. I do do lipstick and generally don’t leave home (or the office) without it. I work in jeans – long in winter, 3/4 or knee length in summer with tops. And we very rarely go anywhere when I need to dress up. Consequently when we do go somewhere and I should dress up – I don’t have clothes to dress up in and I can’t be bothered getting any.
    Such is life sometimes !!!!
    Have the ebst day !
    Me xox

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:23 am (3 years ago)

      Mum would be happy to learn about your ‘don’t leave home without lippy’ policy. It’s amazing how it can lift your mood. Sounds like you need to head out shopping for some dressy clothes when you have the chance to get out and about and treat yourself x

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  11. Me
    October 28, 2014 at 8:35 am (3 years ago)

    *best

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  12. Jayne
    October 28, 2014 at 8:38 am (3 years ago)

    Thanks for the kind words Naisy πŸ™‚ You don’t want to know how many lipsticks I own! Love this dress on you x

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  13. Josefa
    October 28, 2014 at 8:41 am (3 years ago)

    I ADORE your #everydaystyle pics! I really do. I could never get into myself. But I completely understand how it does work, to uplift your spirit – even if it is just a little lipstick on in the morning. I always feel better with lipstick on, funny isn’t how how something so little can change our mood – almost for the whole day xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:01 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, I know it’s crazy, but I’m rolling with it for now πŸ™‚ x

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  14. Bec @ The Plumbette
    October 28, 2014 at 9:07 am (3 years ago)

    I think we can all get into a rut once we become mums because our focus is less on ourselves and more on the little people that need us. But we still need to squeeze in time for ourselves. That’s why I take part too in #everydaystyle, but also to show that you don’t need to buy a new outfit to get creative with fashion. Although I do enjoy the odd shopping spree. You look lovely Renee. I loved that dress on you at the Giftorium event. You’re stunning. x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:02 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Bec. Straight back at ya πŸ˜‰ I’m starting to learn how to be creative and mix and match a few things. It’s all a bit of fun πŸ™‚ x

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  15. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    October 28, 2014 at 9:43 am (3 years ago)

    I’ve actually been considering joining in on styling you for similar reasons and to force myself to care about the way I dress again. Working in fashion for years, putting together an outfit was what I did, but a similar thing happened when I got pregnant and slowly everything fell off the “to do” list each morning. Now I pretty much don’t even wear makeup (as you saw at Myer). I really need to get back into it.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:04 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, definitely give it a go or even do it, but not take the photos if that’s what you’re more comfortable with. I loved that dress you had on at Giftorium πŸ™‚

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  16. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    October 28, 2014 at 10:19 am (3 years ago)

    Oh I remember the mocha lipsticks from the late nineties, unfortunately there are a few photos of me wearing it before heading off to underage discos and school socials…. I have really enjoyed your everyday style pics, and although I haven’t been posting mine – I don’t have a photographer as good as yours πŸ˜‰ I have been making more of an effort in what I wear each day and have felt so much better for it. I can’t wait to see you this week and look forward to hearing more about the 21 day challenge. Have a great day lovely lady xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:05 pm (3 years ago)

      You are too sweet, Lauren. Thank you. I’m looking forward to catching up too. It’ll be fun πŸ™‚ x

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  17. Michelle@myslowlivingadventure
    October 28, 2014 at 11:44 am (3 years ago)

    It’s so true that if you feel as though you look good, you automatically feel good. You look great by the way. I go through phases of really trying and then not trying so much. I spend a bit too much time in sports gear…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:06 pm (3 years ago)

      Haha. I should be spending time in sports gear! That’s for sure πŸ™‚

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  18. EssentiallyJess
    October 28, 2014 at 1:31 pm (3 years ago)

    I love makeup! I wish I could justify wearing it every day, but it seems a bit excessive just to go to the school.
    I love the reasons people do Every day style. I still don’t think I could do it though. I’m just no where near confident enough to commit to it every day.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, I must admit that some days it can be a chore. I didn’t do it today for example because we were all in a rush and it was just another thing to do. It is a lot of fun though.

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  19. Elena
    October 28, 2014 at 1:40 pm (3 years ago)

    My mum told me to always put on make up in the morning, even if it is just a little. It makes you feel good about yourself and that is how other people will see you too. That is also the rule for the weekends, even if you don’t have plans to get out at all πŸ™‚ I think she is right.
    You look so lovely by the way!! Well done!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:08 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Elena πŸ™‚ Yes, I tend to always feel better with a bit of makeup on. I don’t know what that says about me, but I’m going with it lol.

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  20. Dellwyn McVean
    October 28, 2014 at 2:38 pm (3 years ago)

    Just remember Renee – you are such a BEAUTIFUL person on the inside and out that you really do NOT need any makeup – Love You

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 6:25 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Delly. You are too kind and a little biased I’m sure πŸ™‚ xxx

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  21. Dannielle
    October 28, 2014 at 2:39 pm (3 years ago)

    Renee you look gorgeous and I’m very much enjoying your #everydaystyle pics especially when they are snapped up by your 4-year-old photographer, I love that they are so natural, they make me smile. I love all your outfits!
    My Mum taught me you can never really be overdressed (within reason) but you can be under dressed so I always er on the side of over.
    Being the pale skinned person that I am I always feel much better after a splash of BB cream, a dust of blush and some mascara for colour oh and don’t forget concealer for those chronic dark circles of mine (I think I was born with them!).
    Looking forward to following more of your #everydaystyle pics!
    Have a great week xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Dannielle. Yes, I’m a tad on the pale side too and feel I just need that light dusting to pick me up πŸ™‚ Your mum sounds like a wise woman too πŸ™‚

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  22. Tegan
    October 28, 2014 at 3:05 pm (3 years ago)

    It’s so great that you are feeling better about yourself through Everyday Style!
    I always wear perfume. In fact I am sitting here in my round the house daggies and I still have perfume on. It just makes me feel nice.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Tegan, I love that you do that!! And why not, right!?

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  23. Pinky Poinker
    October 28, 2014 at 6:31 pm (3 years ago)

    I try not to leave the house without foundation, lippy and clean hair. When I was your age I didn’t worry because I still had an unblemished by spider veins face. My mother used to get up me for going out with wet hair. I used to dry the front and not worry about the back!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:11 pm (3 years ago)

      Haha classic. Yep, that’s not cool. You need to dry ALL of the hair lol!

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  24. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side of Parenting
    October 28, 2014 at 6:51 pm (3 years ago)

    What would we do without Mum’s and sisters?:) My Mum is constantly showing up with a new top or taking me shopping and my sister taught me everything I know about hairstyles. Without them I’d still be wearing maternity leggings and elastic sided tops!:)

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:12 pm (3 years ago)

      Haha! My mum is like that too. She’s a shopaholic πŸ™‚

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  25. Maxabella
    October 28, 2014 at 7:50 pm (3 years ago)

    You look so pretty! My mum was a lippy lady, but it didn’t rub off on me. I met a lipstick I liked very much recently – an “everyday” sort of colour – so you never know! x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:13 pm (3 years ago)

      Sounds awesome, Bron. I’m on a look out for an everyday colour at the moment too x

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  26. Simone Samuels
    October 28, 2014 at 8:55 pm (3 years ago)

    Thanks for the mention lovely! I must say I’ve been loving your #everydaystyle posts and reckon you have more style than you give yourself credit for! Glad you are feeling better too, lovely. I had a little chuckle about mocha java which I also remember πŸ™‚

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  27. DruimΓ©@SnippetsandSpirits
    October 28, 2014 at 10:29 pm (3 years ago)

    I have to say Renee you have definitely inspired me !! You look totally gorgeous and you have got me thinking how good it is to make yourself feel great every day. I have also been stuck in a rut and feeling pretty vile . I am watching you and your everyday style with great interest. Keep rocking it.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:16 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Druime! It’s amazing what a difference it can make when you actually LOOK inside your wardrobe and wear something other than the same old thing day in day out.

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  28. stephanie@stephsjoy
    October 29, 2014 at 6:42 am (3 years ago)

    Oh you are looking lovely Renee. I was watching Rachel Zoe-the fashion stylist to the stars in an interview the other day on the project. And she said take just take 5 mins and do something that makes you feel good, put lippy on or wear a bracelet or a necklace etc. You are proof that it does work!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:17 pm (3 years ago)

      I love that idea, Steph. Brilliant and very true! Thanks πŸ™‚

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  29. sonia stackhouse
    October 29, 2014 at 9:13 am (3 years ago)

    Oh you look gorgeous hun, you truly do. I need to make more of an effort with the lippy because I agree, you feel so much better in yourself when you take a little time with the outside xx

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  30. NΓ©e Say
    October 29, 2014 at 10:44 am (3 years ago)

    I was that clubber with no make up, jeans & a singlet. My fashionista friends were horrified! Still not much of a fashionista but I do like a bit of lippy πŸ˜‰ Love that frock, you look gorgeous x

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  31. Emma Fahy Davis
    October 29, 2014 at 11:34 am (3 years ago)

    You look fabulous! I don’t make much effort myself on a daily basis either (a far cry from my days in the media!), but the odd time I do get dressed up to go out somewhere I know it makes me feel a million bucks.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:43 pm (3 years ago)

      I can’t imagine you’d have a lot of time during the day to dress up, Emma with all of those little girls of yours πŸ™‚

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  32. Janet aka Middle Aged Mama
    October 29, 2014 at 12:08 pm (3 years ago)

    Love that pic of you! I find everyday style harder to do in Summer, I get bored with the same dresses over and over – because let’s face it, it’s too hot to be bothered accessorising or doing anything different with them …

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, that’s going to be tricky, Janet. I have been wondering about that …

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  33. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    October 29, 2014 at 5:28 pm (3 years ago)

    Ummmm, I have been seeing your pics on FB and WHATEVS RENEE! You can totally “Throw an outfit together”!!! I have serious wardrobe envy every time you post a pic! I might need to join in and see what I can dig out of the bottom of my closet because for someone who has a lot of clothes, “I don’t have anything to wear!” πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:45 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol!! That’s what I say to Dave ALL the time! xx

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  34. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    October 29, 2014 at 7:44 pm (3 years ago)

    You are just GLOWING. And I love that you’re doing the Everyday challenge. I bet you feel fab. I wear the same things every day, in rotation x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 29, 2014 at 8:46 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol. Yep, it’s easy to get stuck in that rotation rut. I’m determined to try on everything in my wardrobe and throw out what I don’t wear / need anymore x

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  35. Winnie @ Bubfriendly
    October 30, 2014 at 12:09 am (3 years ago)

    You look amazing hun!!! I must say I hardly have anything on since motherhood – just don’t have the time! Some days I realised half the days gone and I’m still in my PJs and haven’t even brush my teeth! Good on you though for joining the challenge!!! I’m thinking about doing the same!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 5, 2014 at 9:05 pm (3 years ago)

      You should, Winnie! It’s all a bit of fun πŸ™‚

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  36. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    October 30, 2014 at 6:05 am (3 years ago)

    Oh you’re so gorgeous Renee – I love your mums advice! Lippy does make everything so much better! You always look absolutely lovely… and I still need to get myself one of those Tokito dresses!!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 5, 2014 at 9:05 pm (3 years ago)

      They’re an absolute steal πŸ™‚ xx

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  37. Zanni Louise
    November 4, 2014 at 5:28 am (3 years ago)

    What a lovely thing to do! You look great every day. I have been personal styling every day for as long as I remember. I never have track suit day. So I agree that dressing up definitely affects how you feel about yourself x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 5, 2014 at 9:06 pm (3 years ago)

      Good on you, Zanni. Yep, it sure does. Crazy huh πŸ™‚ x

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  38. Lisa
    November 26, 2014 at 4:48 pm (3 years ago)

    You look lovely & yes I do feel better with a little makeup on. With 3 boys, I need to remember me!

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