Freckle face

‘Freckle face from out of space!’

I can still hear that little brat in my year two class taunting me. He was absolutely relentless with his teasing day in and day out.

Thanks to him, I spent much of my childhood detesting my face full of freckles. I would spend hours praying to Mary – she was a woman, so I figured she’d understand – for my freckles to disappear.

Unfortunately, there was no divine intervention freeing me of my freckles, so I decided to take the situation into my own hands. After watching an episode of The Brady Bunch, where Jan rubbed lemon juice all over her face in an attempt to scrub her freckles off, I did the same to no avail. My freckles seemed darker, if anything, and I smelt like an orchard.

I was stuck with my freckly face and there was nothing I could do about it.

Now, this is going to sound extremely superficial, but I prayed that when I had kids they wouldn’t be cursed with freckles like me.

In the last year, a smattering of freckles has appeared across darling Miss Five’s nose and her cheeks. They are the cutest darn things in the whole entire world. They seem so perfectly placed, it’s as if they’ve been drawn on.

Sadly though, she came home from day care crying recently. A couple of the kids had called her Anna from Frozen because of the freckles on her face.

‘I don’t want to be Anna!’ she cried.

‘I want to be Elsa!’

My heart broke a little for her. Elsa and Anna weren’t around in my day, but I remember being desperate to have blonde hair, blue eyes and freckle-free skin rather than my boring brown hair, brown eyes and freckle face. I could feel her pain.

I talked her through her feelings and she didn’t mention it again until last week, when I spied her looking at herself in the mirror.

‘I hate my freckles,’ the words spat out of her mouth as she looked at her reflection.

My heart may as well have broken into two then and there.

I made light of it straight away.

‘Hate your freckles?’ I said.

‘Mummy has freckles, look at them.

‘They are kisses from the sun. Your freckles make you special and different. They make you, you.’

Thankfully, she quite liked the idea of having kisses from the sun and something that makes her special.

I asked her again recently what she thought of her freckles and she is now not phased by them at all thank goodness.

I hope it stays that way.

I know as a mother of two girls, this is just the start of conversations that we’ll have about appearance and body image.

There is bound to be some tough times and real conversations to be had ahead, but all Dave and I can do is instill in our girls confidence in themselves and their bodies, encourage them to feel secure in themselves, listen to their problems and fears no matter how small they seem, and encourage them to talk about their feelings.

Have you or your kids ever been bullied? Have you or your kids battled with body image and appearance in the past?

Linking up today with Jess for IBOT.

73 comments on Freckle face

  1. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    August 18, 2015 at 6:45 am (2 years ago)

    Being a ranga I’ve always had more than a splatter of freckles. I haven’t always been fond of them particularly as a kid. I think I was teased too but now I’ve accepted them as just a part of me. The sun kisses line is a goodie for kids. Good come back! I worry I wont have answers or something wise to always say in such times. I hope I can be a bit of a band aid when the kids come to me in times of worry or upset but don’t we all?

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:38 pm (2 years ago)

      We sure do, Vicki. I’m sure when / if the time comes when they need us we’ll be able to muddle through and find the right answer and do the right thing to help them through it x

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    August 18, 2015 at 6:52 am (2 years ago)

    I love the stories like Charlize Theron and Uma Thurmon being teased for the thing that makes them so beautiful as adults…kids are jerks. (sometimes)

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:38 pm (2 years ago)

      I love that too, Lydia. Cindy Crawford with her beauty spot came to mind then πŸ™‚

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  3. Kathy
    August 18, 2015 at 6:56 am (2 years ago)

    I got freckle-faced taunts too. These days I have a couple of small ‘maturity’ spots that bother me. I think you did great with your ‘kisses from the sun’ line. Our Miss Yin has had taunts about her Asian eyes but I think she’s not worried anymore. It will be interesting to see how she approaches beauty as you gets into her teens – whether she tries for more Caucasian beauty or accepts her beautiful Chinese looks.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it will be interesting to see which way she goes. She really is a beautiful little thing. I have some age spots forming too. Argh!

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  4. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    August 18, 2015 at 7:25 am (2 years ago)

    Oh poor little cutie! I love that you told her they were kisses from the sun – that’s gorgeous.
    I had a few freckles growing up and also remember trying the old lemon juice trick! Actually, lemon juice has a lot to answer for – I remember trying to lighten my hair with it too!
    I was teased about my lumpy nose when I was a kid. I still hate my nose. πŸ™

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Your nose looks fine to me, Jodi. I tried to lighten my hair with lemon juice too πŸ™‚ x

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  5. Chon
    August 18, 2015 at 8:09 am (2 years ago)

    We dont have too much Sunshine in the UK …so no kisses from the sun!! Freakles are Fairies Footsteps x x

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    • Chon
      August 18, 2015 at 8:10 am (2 years ago)

      Freckles!!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:41 pm (2 years ago)

      Aww that’s cute, Chon. I love that x

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  6. Jayne
    August 18, 2015 at 8:20 am (2 years ago)

    Your little freckles are gorgeous Miss Five ?

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  7. Erin@TheMumsGroup
    August 18, 2015 at 8:25 am (2 years ago)

    What a beautiful role model you are for your daughters. I remember being teased for having frizzy hair or because I wore a bra before the other girls in my class. Kids can be cruel but a great sense of self can protect against even the meanest taunts xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:42 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s very true, Erin. We hope we can instill that confidence into our girls xx

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  8. Deb @inner compass designs
    August 18, 2015 at 8:43 am (2 years ago)

    You handled it so well. I was teased horribly for all 6 years of high school about my long neck. I was given a nickname and boys especially used it. My mother told me it was a models neck and I would be grateful for it as an adult. Did not help.

    I have two girls as well and have been working from day one to focus on being healthy, all bodies and people are different and none is perfect. Embrace who we are and ignore comments from other kids. Xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:43 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s good advice, Deb. I too have a long neck, and my brother used to call me turtle. Kids are mean πŸ™‚

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  9. Susan
    August 18, 2015 at 8:51 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee- Freckles are brown sugar sprinkled on our faces by angels from above- that is what I have always been told and I still believe!!! Just make sure there is plenty of sunscreen on your lovely face and that of your darling girls too!!! We will never tan but take it from the voice of experience- we can get skin cancer from sun damage in our youth….

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 19, 2015 at 9:46 pm (2 years ago)

      It’s scary how easily the sun can damage your skin and it’s something I worry about with the kids. I love those words about the brown sugar from angels above. The girls will love that!

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  10. Mumma McD
    August 18, 2015 at 8:56 am (2 years ago)

    I love freckles! My sister had the cutest little freckles when she was a kid, I was always so jealous. Sounds like you handled this perfectly πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:53 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Mumma McD πŸ™‚

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  11. Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers
    August 18, 2015 at 9:24 am (2 years ago)

    Kids are cruel aren’t they I love that your daughter has her special kisses from the sun. Somebody must have said something to my daughter about a mole on the back on her neck as she tries to cover it up all the time but has never seen it herself. It’s tiny and heart shaped so I tell her it’s a love spot, she hasn’t mentioned it for a while so hopefully has moved on from it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:54 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh I hope so too, Vicki. I love the idea of the love spot πŸ™‚

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  12. DruimΓ©@SnippetsandSpirits
    August 18, 2015 at 9:45 am (2 years ago)

    My 5 year old is also getting freckles. He is very proud of them as they are the same as Mummy. I’m not sure how long that will last. Australians seem to give red heads and freckled faces a very hard time. It’s very annoying and smallminded. Everywhere I go with my red headed boy somebody had something to say. Doesn’t you heart just ache when you see your kids becoming conscious of who they are. Life can be cruel. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:55 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it can be and I don’t know what the deal is with giving redheads a tough time. I love red heads.

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  13. Becky from BeckyandJames
    August 18, 2015 at 10:56 am (2 years ago)

    My now 6 year old was teased by a little boy at her day care about her hair when she was younger and one day I came out of my room to find she had chopped all her gorgeous, thick hair off! Right up to her scalp on one side (thank goodness she used kiddy scissors or it would have been a blood bath!). For a couple of years she had a lopsided haircut and it’s just started to look ‘normal’ now. She also has the most divine freckles over her nose and cheeks and I hope she doesn’t grow to hate them. It’s so tough when kids are mean. I hope your daughter is able to continue to appreciate her lovely freckles and not worry about other kids (as hard as that is).

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:57 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Becky. Oh my God. I bet you nearly died when you saw all of her hair chopped off. I hope she continues to like her freckles too. They sound very cute πŸ™‚

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  14. Haidee@Maybe Baby Brothers
    August 18, 2015 at 10:59 am (2 years ago)

    Oh what a beautiful response you had! That’s just gorgeous. I was bullied a little as a child for being so shy but I eventually came into my own.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:58 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I had a similar problem. It’s awful when shy people get teased because it just makes it even worse πŸ™

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  15. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    August 18, 2015 at 11:05 am (2 years ago)

    Oh your poor gorgeous, I just want to come and give her a big hug. My dad has always called them angel kisses and tells the kids the angels have been kissing them while they are asleep. One of our kids is bullied often, and the only thing I’ve really been able to do is give them a new perspective on the situation and make home a safe space. Please give her a hug from me xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 9:59 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh so sorry to hear one of your kids is bullied often. The poor thing. I hope it doesn’t last and you can get past this tough time as soon as possible. Kids are so mean.

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  16. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    August 18, 2015 at 11:22 am (2 years ago)

    Poor baby!
    I had freckles and they darkened with each pregnancy. So I snuck off after baby number 5 and had a couple of sessions of full-face laser. Freckles be-gone! Works brilliantly! Not that it helps you at this point in time…
    Freckles are horrid to have personally, but they always look great on someone else. The grass is always greener.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 10:00 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, that’s right. I’ve never heard of this full-face laser thing that you speak off. I’m going to have to look into that!

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  17. Kelly
    August 18, 2015 at 11:33 am (2 years ago)

    Awww, what a lovely thing to say to your daughter. I hope she keeps that positive attitude about her freckles from now on. I don’t have freckles, but I always wanted them – grass is always greener, you know. I think they are cute on peoples faces. Almost makes them look younger. See, I am complimenting you here :).

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 10:01 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks Kelly! You’re doing a great job πŸ™‚

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  18. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    August 18, 2015 at 11:39 am (2 years ago)

    Oh that’s so well played on your behalf, my heart was breaking for you there. Freckles are adorable! Kids can be so cruel, we’ve having a few issues in both of my kid’s classrooms, it’s hard being a kid but harder as a parent watching them get hurt. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 10:02 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it sure is, Em. I hope your kids don’t have too much more trouble. The poor things. It really is hard x

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  19. Vanessa
    August 18, 2015 at 11:45 am (2 years ago)

    I was bullied only earlier this year. Even as an adult, even knowing exactly what’s going on and busting my butt to remove myself from that situation, it sucked badly. It must be so hard on kids.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 10:03 pm (2 years ago)

      That sounds awful, Vanessa. I hope you don’t have to go through this again πŸ™

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  20. Hugzilla
    August 18, 2015 at 1:23 pm (2 years ago)

    This stuff scares me. My youngest was born with unilateral deafness and a prominent facial deformity which means that he has no ear on one side and has to wear a less-than-discrete hearing aid on a cloth headband. He’s going to have to be a resilient little man and I know I am going to have to teach him a thing or two about dealing with assholes.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 19, 2015 at 10:04 pm (2 years ago)

      If he’s anything like his mother, he will be fine. It is a scary thought though. The kids I know with disability simply amaze me with how resilient they are. There is just something in them that helps them get through.

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      • Hugzilla
        August 21, 2015 at 4:34 pm (2 years ago)

        He’s a lot like me in many ways, and I really hope he is like me in this respect as well. I think you have to sometimes fake it ’til you make it in terms of projecting an attitude that deflects unwanted attention : equal measures of sass, swagger and confidence combined with a bit of “I DGAF what you think” and a healthy sense of humour.

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  21. EssentiallyJess
    August 18, 2015 at 2:35 pm (2 years ago)

    I have a few freckles, but not enough to really notice. I do have a weird ear though, and kids used to mention that to me. Thankfully I don’t remember any real bullying, but I have had some nasty incidents happen to my own kids. They are worse in some ways.
    I hope she continues to love her freckles, and you to. They never held Nicole Kidman back.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:17 pm (2 years ago)

      Hey, that’s right, Jess! Thanks. Sorry to hear about the problems your kids have had. I hope they don’t have to face any more bullying πŸ™

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  22. Bec @ The Plumbette
    August 18, 2015 at 4:41 pm (2 years ago)

    I have freckles too. I’m not sure if my girls will get any because they got Jacobs skin. I’d prefer to be Anna over Elsa. She seems more adventurous than Elsa. I’m glad that curly hasn’t seemed to worry too much more about her freckles. I’ve always thought freckles were cute!

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  23. Melissa
    August 18, 2015 at 5:12 pm (2 years ago)

    So funny but so true I thought I was the only person who prayed for blonde hair and clear skin like my sisters. I had forgotten that my mum use to tell me that they were kisses from the sun and the good news they stop pimples being so obvious as a teenager (Always look at the positive) thank you for sharing your beautiful story

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:19 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much for reading! That’s a good point about the pimples. We’ll definitely be looking on the positive side πŸ™‚

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  24. Emma @ Life, kids and a glass of red
    August 18, 2015 at 7:28 pm (2 years ago)

    Ranga here too! I gave Pippi Longstocking a run for her money when I was younger. Freckles are part of who I am, and I love them now too. Good on you for making your daughter embrace and love her features and for them making her who she is. Kisses from the sun are special as not everyone has them!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:20 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s exactly right! And I was a huge Pippi longstocking fan too. Freckles are fun!

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  25. THE HUNGRY MUM
    August 18, 2015 at 7:42 pm (2 years ago)

    I remember that ep of the Brady Bunch πŸ™‚ Freckles are cute. That’s all there is to it.

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  26. Luisa @ Looking for mama me
    August 18, 2015 at 7:57 pm (2 years ago)

    freckles are gorgeous! It’s what comes with pale skin tones like mine, I always loved my freckles but hated other things about myself and still do sadly πŸ™ I hope I don’t pass my insecurities to my daughter. Ps I bet your girl is beautiful, freckles and all! and besides, Anna is better than Elsa – she’s kind and caring while Elsa is a tad selfish…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:21 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Luisa. Yes, I hope I don’t pass my insecurities onto my daughters either. I try to always be careful about what I say πŸ™‚

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  27. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    August 18, 2015 at 8:37 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh how heart breaking the poor little dear. I love that you found the positive, ‘kisses from the sun’ is just adorable.

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  28. Janet aka Middle Aged Mama
    August 18, 2015 at 9:41 pm (2 years ago)

    I wore horrible coke bottle bottom glasses as a young ‘un, and was teased mercilessly. My maiden name was “Moore” so I was “Four Eyes Moorey”, I hated it (and my glasses). How funny, we call freckles “sun kisses” too! To look at you now Renee I would never have known you had freckles, they must fade when we hit adulthood. x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:22 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh God! Kids are so mean aren’t they?!!

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  29. Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life
    August 18, 2015 at 9:56 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m always amazed at how differently people think. Growing up, I remember watching movies/TV shows and thinking freckles were the coolest thing ever and looked so attractive on some people but being dark-skinned, was never going to have any!

    With your daughter, as you said, the best you can do is instil her with confidence because at the end of the day, if it’s not her freckles there will be people out there trying to find something else to tease her about. The more resilient you guys make her, the better she’ll be able to brush these people off.

    I’m so sick of bullying and at the same time, find that I’m most helpless around that. Bullies need to be taught that it’s not ok to do what they are doing and ultimately, that message needs to come from their parents. It’s a struggle.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:25 pm (2 years ago)

      It is a struggle, Sanch, but I’m not sure what we can do to stop it. There will always be bullies and we just have to raise our children to be resilient to cope with it.

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  30. Shauna 'Round the Corner
    August 18, 2015 at 10:35 pm (2 years ago)

    I think freckles on a five year old are adorable! My daughter has a few sprinkled across her nose. They haven’t caused her any angst thus far. But if it’s not freckles it will be something else as bullies have a way of finding something to he nasty about if they are that way inclined. A healthy self esteem is the best armoury! Sounds like your little girl got through this pretty well. Good work Mum. I like the idea of being sun kissed too!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:26 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Shauna. Yes, there will always be something. Thankfully she is quite keen to talk about her feelings at the moment and let me help her through any angst.

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  31. Shannon@ my2morrows
    August 18, 2015 at 11:40 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh my heart broke reading this because I can so relate. I had and still have a face full of kisses from the sun. And shoulders and arms too. hated them as a kid and still hate them now. My 4 yr old is just starting to get that cute little sprinkle across his nose and cheeks. But his older sister has none, she hot daddy’s skin lucky thing. Xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:27 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh lucky thing. My husband and I both had freckles as kids, so our kids have no hope πŸ™‚

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  32. Bea
    August 19, 2015 at 10:38 am (2 years ago)

    Freckles are fine by me! Everyone is teased about something, even elsa. I think the trick is teaching the little people that it’s just another opinion, perhaps not a nice one, but it doesn’t need to mean anything to them. Redirect! Maybe she’s lucky to have freckles!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:28 pm (2 years ago)

      That is really great advice, Bea. Thank you!

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  33. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    August 19, 2015 at 3:46 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh you poor poppet! I bet that kid doesn’t even remember it now… and yet it obviously really affected you. I have freckles just on my nose which is annoying lol! Definitely love the term sun kisses instead!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:29 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I bet he doesn’t, Lucy! I never thought about that πŸ™‚

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  34. Dannielle
    August 19, 2015 at 11:06 pm (2 years ago)

    Blue eyes and blonde hair here and I still got blessed with freckles! In summer if I encounter a beautiful day at the beach my beautiful little kisses appear even more obviously all over my face, all three of our kidlets have them too.
    Oh Renee you gave me a tear with your beautiful words. Our Miss 8 has been coming home from school for the past month in tears at least twice a week as she’s got caught up with a certain group of girls that seem very to be causing her lots of emotional grief (just petty silly stuff). I have addressed it with the teacher and she’s been so lovely about it, keeping an eye on things and giving me updates via email. I remember being in a similar situation myself at the very same age, it wasn’t that I was majorly being bullied it’s just that I was always told what to do, some days I’d remove myself from the situation and become the shadow of the teacher on duty (I probably drove her nuts) I never dobbed just enjoyed chatting to her and being away from ‘that group of girls’! Why do girls have to be so bitchy!?!? I’m trying to tell Miss 8 to just leave a situation when it make her feel sad. Fingers crossed this phase ends soon.
    Have a great week lovely lady xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh poor Miss 8! Oh I feel so sorry for her. She’s such a doll. That’s great you have her teacher on side and she is doing everything she can to help. I really hope it all settles down soon. Yes, girls can be so bitchy. It’s such a tough age. Take care, lovely x

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  35. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    August 20, 2015 at 11:59 am (2 years ago)

    You’re doing such a beautiful job, instilling your girls with confidence, Renee. That’s the most important characteristic, in my mind.
    With a 12-year-old, we’re coming up against image expectations, and it can be tricky.
    Bell has inherited her straight, dark hair from John, but dreams of the day it will be honey-coloured and wavey. Not gonna happen πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 20, 2015 at 2:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol! I think we all want what we don’t have. The grass is always greener and all that. I hope she learns to love her long dark hair πŸ™‚

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  36. Grace
    August 25, 2015 at 6:03 pm (2 years ago)

    “Kisses from the sun” I love that so much! It’s great that you know exactly what your little one is going through.
    One of my boys is very sensitive so he gets very worked up when one of his friends say something that’s not very nice. I don’t want to teach him the whole, “Just ignore them. They’re just words” I want him to own his feelings and let him feel that they’re validated.

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