High school reunion

It’s my 20 year high school reunion this year.

Let me just take a moment while I get over how old I am. Okay, I’m done.

Preparations are currently under way and it appears considerable effort has been put into tracking down ‘old girls’ and securing a venue that will make it a night to remember.

Sifting through comments on the class of 94’s Facebook page, everyone seems to be super keen to reunite. While I was initially a little uncertain whether I would go or not, when I read the comments I couldn’t help get caught up in the excitement too.

That was until this happened.

At my 16-month-old’s swimming class a few weeks ago, I caught the eye of a girl (should I be saying woman now that we’re old and everything?) from my year at school.

‘Hi. How’re you going?’ I asked her with a broad grin as I waded toward her.

‘I know you don’t I?’ she said with uncertainty.

‘Yes,’ I returned with glee that she remembered me.

And then it came.

‘Kelly from work?’

‘No, Renee from high school,’ I said as my grin turned into a grimace.

She didn’t remember me. Could it get anymore awkward than that?

I was instantly taken back to my high school years. I wasn’t exactly a nobody, but I was shy and reserved (apart from the school dances where I totally killed it on the dance floor).

I had a tight knit group of friends who I had a blast with, but outside of that I pretty much went under the radar. I was friendly with everyone and never had any enemies. I just wasn’t one to stand out. I wasn’t a brain, I wasn’t a cool kid, I wasn’t a trouble maker. I was Renee. Nice girl Renee.

Twenty years have passed though and I am no longer the excessively shy, sheltered little girl who becomes paralysed with fear when talking to someone outside her circle. While I would still classify myself as an introvert, I love meeting new people, listening to their life stories, and sharing mine. I have life experience now. I have forged an identity for myself, a voice, I know who I am.

While I would like to think I could confidently walk into my 20 year school reunion and strike up conversation with women I have not seen since I was 17, there is a part of me that wants to regress, that wants to sit on the couch Facestalking instead of be at the reunion talking.

Adding to my argument of staying home on the couch, is the fact that I would be rocking up to the reunion alone. Everyone in my tight knit group of friends is either living overseas or interstate or we’ve lost touch making this a solo mission for me. I repeat, solo mission. For an introvert like me, going to the reunion solo is huge. Huge.

There are a number of girls who I have connected with online thanks to Facebook and this blog, however it’s one thing to chat online and a completely other thing to meet in real life.

Will I go to the reunion alone and stand there like a nigel all night? Will I go to the reunion and have nobody remember me? Possibly. But it’s unlikely I would remember every girl in my year. There were over 200 girls after all.

Fortunately, I have five months to decide whether to take the leap or not. Until then, stay tuned to find out what I decide to do!

Just 13 years old in my first year of high school. (All of my other high school pics were lost in the floods.) Funnily enough I'm still sporting the same hairdo minus the bangs.

Just 13 years old in my first year of high school. (All of my other high school pics were lost in the floods.) Funnily enough I’m still sporting the same hairdo minus the bangs.

Have you been to your high school reunion? What was it like?

Joining Jess today because it’s Tuesday and I Blog On Tuesday πŸ™‚

 

65 comments on High school reunion

  1. Erin
    March 4, 2014 at 5:57 am (4 years ago)

    How interesting to hear you were ‘ I wasn’t exactly a nobody, but I was shy and reserved’ cause I would never have picked it, how far we have all traveled from out highschool selves, or have we? I wasn’t a popular kid, I wasn’t particularly sporty (probably had undeveloped potential), I was a bit nerdy, certainly awkward, I found my niche but for a long time that unconfident person traveled with me. Then I thought I was strong and confident. When it was time for my reunion I realised I wasn’t, I had no interest to remeet with anyone (I’d only spent one year at that school anyway) and anyhow let’s face it I’d be an oddity, I live a different lifestyle to most and wasn’t willing to set myself up for judgement and being an oddity. So I didn’t go, and no regrets.

    So that’s what you should ask yourself, how keen are you to see everybody again? and would you regret not going?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 8:52 pm (4 years ago)

      That is very good advice, Erin. Thank you. I think high school was an awkward time for all of us and a time when we were figuring out who we were. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    March 4, 2014 at 6:01 am (4 years ago)

    I don’t do reunions – more because I just aren’t interested in what any of the people I’ve lost touch with are doing, I don’t care if they have kids or where they live. I’m in touch with those I care about, so I figure I don’t need to bother. This also works for my intense shyness. We had a Uni reunion, and a friend in WA sent me the details – I said I’d go if she was going but otherwise wouldn’t bother – she wasn’t. What was amazing was that I kept getting asked to go by people I barely knew. I don’t get if we weren’t friends then, why do they want to see me now? What’s that about?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 8:54 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah I don’t know, Lydia. It’s a bit of a crazy one. Maybe they wanted to be friends with you then and it didn’t pan out, so were trying again this time?? I completely understand where you are coming from though and have thought that myself.

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  3. Mumabulous
    March 4, 2014 at 6:23 am (4 years ago)

    I went to my re-union (Five years ago now – cough, cough). I’d gone out and bought a Jayson Brunsdon dress for the event and promptly fell pregnant the same week. It made for an uncomfortable evening. I found that many people didn’t remember me but that was actually quite liberating. It meant that I could shake off the person that I was in High School (pseudo intellectual gothic ) and get reacquainted as the person I am now (Eastern beaches housewife). Hmmmmm.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 8:57 pm (4 years ago)

      I like the way you look at things. Not having people remember me is not necessarily a bad thing.

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  4. Bec | Mumma Tells
    March 4, 2014 at 6:40 am (4 years ago)

    There’s a reunion in the works for me this year too. I’m barely in contact with anyone from high school anymore, so how they tracked me down, I’m not really sure. I won’t be going. The fact that it is interstate provides a perfect cover for me not having the slightest inclination to attend.
    If you’re curious – go. If people don’t remember you, have fun with it and make up an awesome alter ego. Ha! X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 8:58 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol. Sounds like fun, Bec. Meanwhile, I love how you say ‘ha’ after everything πŸ™‚ xx

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  5. Katie (@mumabytes)
    March 4, 2014 at 7:06 am (4 years ago)

    Oooh, I think you should go! I love reunions, I find it fascinating to see how people have changed, what they are doing etc. Also, you never know who you might re-acquaint with and find you have sooo much more in common with now – people do change. If its shockingly horrid, you can always leave…cant wait to hear what you decide! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:02 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Katie. I think you’re right. I feel there are some women I definitely have things in common with now and I would be interested in catching up xx

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  6. Kathy
    March 4, 2014 at 7:52 am (4 years ago)

    I went to my 10 year and 20 year re-unions (skipped the 25th, or dear I’m getting old). I do remember feeling like needing to ‘prove myself’ somehow. At the 10 year reunion I was newly married, and a TV newsreader, so I felt I’d achieved something. At the 20 year reunion I was a Mum at last after our long IVF/adoption journey, and I was slim and fit, so I felt good about myself. I don’t know why this sense of needing to impress but I’m over it now.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:03 pm (4 years ago)

      I totally get that need to impress. I bet you totally would have knocked their socks off rocking up as a tv newsreader!!

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  7. Rhoda
    March 4, 2014 at 7:52 am (4 years ago)

    Haha I was thinking exactly the same thing. I’m still a fence sitter! I didn’t really get much of our 10 yr reunion although the posts for the 20 yr makes me want to go. If they organised a school tour it would be interesting to go and see – so much has changed since we left. I might ponder a little longer. A couple of friends in my group a thinking of going but I don’t know. I’ll go if you go πŸ˜‰ it’ll be nice to see you in person πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:05 pm (4 years ago)

      Glad to know I’m not the only fence sitter πŸ™‚ It would be so lovely to see you in person and hear all about your kids and how you manage it all. Let me know what you decide because I’d definitely like to see you πŸ™‚

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  8. Sharon Purvis
    March 4, 2014 at 9:31 am (4 years ago)

    I’ve been to a few reunions–and we’re in the middle of planning our 30th now! I’ve always enjoyed them, but our school was so small that unless you are just unrecognizable for some reason, it’s hard to imagine not remembering someone. Our 20th reunion was a lot of fun–just go and have a good time! Oh, and your high school picture you posted with the article is adorable.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:06 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Sharon πŸ™‚ That must have been nice to go to a really small school. I bet it had a great sense of community.

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  9. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    March 4, 2014 at 9:55 am (4 years ago)

    Renee, I’ve never been to any reunions, and I don’t regret it. As much as I love to talk and meet people, the appeal was never really there for me. I think because I’m a different person, and I guess everyone else is the same, but I just don’t think I could be bothered with all the trying to impress people you don’t really know any more.
    But, if you’re curious and feel like you’d enjoy catching up, it could be a fabulous night!
    Looking forward to your decision xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Lisa. Yes, it’s a tough one. Reunions are an odd thing now that I think of it! x

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  10. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    March 4, 2014 at 10:16 am (4 years ago)

    I have always shunned mine! Personally I think the past is in the past and I am glad I left it there! Good luck with your choice and thank god there’s lots of time to decide!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:14 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, that’s right, Jody!

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  11. Becc
    March 4, 2014 at 10:59 am (4 years ago)

    I got dragged to my reunion under protest. I couldn’t let my friends go alone, but also had no need to go either. I was of the opinion that the friends that I have continued to hold friendships with was all I needed.
    I went, I had a good time. I couldn’t care if I went to another one.
    Do what makes you more comfortable.
    Funny, I had a girl who didn’t remember me. She was laughing it off as if she is some big thing. She was not. She was one of the daggy, brainy bunch. Not even brainy enough to be Dux! Oddly, I did not think of her as having made it, rather laughed her off, she wasn’t so special to me πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:16 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks for sharing, Bec. I’m finding that a lot of people think the same way as you. That is funny about the girl who didn’t remember you. People are strange!

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  12. Beck
    March 4, 2014 at 12:30 pm (4 years ago)

    My 20 year reunion was last year, I didn’t attend for many reasons but mainly because I now live in another state. I look forward to reading more and finding out if you do go…..Stopping by to say for the first time to say from IBOT xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:16 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Beck! I will keep you posted πŸ™‚

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  13. Bec @ The Plumbette
    March 4, 2014 at 1:20 pm (4 years ago)

    You look too young to be going to your 20 year reunion! Take that as a compliment please. πŸ™‚
    Our grade couldn’t really get it’s act together in organizing something and then when something was organized no one really committed to it. I think you keep in contact with the people you want to. I would go to your reunion, but have a few friends to go with to make it worth your time and so you will enjoy it.
    I was in the awful situation of not recognizing a girl from my grade ( and we only had 60 in our grade so I knew everyone) and the reason I didn’t recognize her is because she had put on so much weight. Like from an 8 to a 20. I felt awful for not recognizing her, but when she told me her name I knew who she was. It’s interesting seeing where life takes each of us after high school.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:17 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah it really is Bec and I think that’s what I’m curious about. I’d love to see what some of these people are up to and what they look like now.

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  14. EssentiallyJess
    March 4, 2014 at 1:41 pm (4 years ago)

    I went to my ten year a few years ago and it was a bit weird. Very informal and not many of us there, and I was the only one who had kids, and I had a 2 week old with me at the time. It wasn’t the best night. But then I think I would give the 20 year one a go, because, like you say, you have all that life experience behind you. Tough not having any of your friends there though. But if you’ve connected with some online, just go meet them. It’s a bit like a blogging conference, and they are always awesome πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:18 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah I guess it is, Jess πŸ™‚ I might just have to take that leap πŸ™‚

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  15. Eleise @ A Very Blended Familye
    March 4, 2014 at 2:07 pm (4 years ago)

    I love that picture so cute! I would hook up before the reunion with someone so you are not alone, I am sure there are others in your situtation. I went to one, pretty much only the people who had made some sucess of their life turned up, it was interesting to see everyone. I did find out that all the girls from my primary school (very small) except me had stayed in touch and been friends ever since. I felt a bit left out.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:19 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh that’s no good at all, Eleise. I’m sorry to hear that. Yes, I think hooking up with some people beforehand is a good idea.

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  16. Simone
    March 4, 2014 at 2:15 pm (4 years ago)

    On purpose, I made myself get scheduled on an interstate work trip the weekend that my ten year reunion was being held. I couldn’t think of anything more hideous than seeing people who I didn’t like in high school or who didn’t like or know me, and then pretending to care about them and their lives. It sounds really harsh, but I am still friends with the girls from high school who I want to be friends with and I just don’t have time for the rest. I’m an extrovert and the whole high school reunion thing was scary to me, so I can’t imagine what it would be like as an introverted type!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:22 pm (4 years ago)

      Eeek, Simone. I was living o/s for my 10 year which was lucky as I really wasn’t ready to go back then. Now, I feel a little curious. I totally get what you’re saying about already being friends with the people you want to be friends with and not having time for the rest though. Ahh I’m so undecided πŸ™‚

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  17. Tegan
    March 4, 2014 at 5:19 pm (4 years ago)

    First off..I want your beauty secrets..no way you are 11 years older than me! Next year will be 10 years since I left highschool but I don’t think my class will have a reunion. We weren’t exactly known for our organisational skills at school. Our head of department told us that we were the laziest class she had ever come across and she’d been teaching for over 20 years! Good luck with your reunion and I hope you have a ball!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:24 pm (4 years ago)

      Haha ahhh that’s funny, Tegan. It will be interesting to see if any of you lazy lot get together for a reunion πŸ˜‰ Oh, and thanks for the compliments πŸ™‚

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  18. iSophie
    March 4, 2014 at 5:57 pm (4 years ago)

    I went to mine last sept and wish I hadn’t of bothered really. (Travelled from Tas to nsw) The turn out wasn’t great and hardly any of my ‘friends’ went. Like you, I was just the nice girl at school, not popular but not a nerd either. I hardly remembered the names of anyone and just wanted to leave.

    Take a friend with you so you don’t have you walk in alone.

    Good luck! #teamibot

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:25 pm (4 years ago)

      Ahh what a shame it was a disappointment especially considering you travelled so far. I think taking a friend is definitely a must! Without back up I don’t think I’ll be going.

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  19. Josefa @always Josefa
    March 4, 2014 at 6:55 pm (4 years ago)

    I have not gone to a single one! not one, with our without my friends – I keep in touch with the people that are important to me after high school and I am happy to leave the rest as memories – look forward to finding out what you do xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 4, 2014 at 9:27 pm (4 years ago)

      That seems to be a pretty popular belief, i.e, you’re already in touch with the people you want to be in touch with. I don’t know what I’ll decide. I’ll definitely keep you posted though x

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  20. Lara @ This Charming Mum
    March 4, 2014 at 11:06 pm (4 years ago)

    I went to mine a couple of years ago and it was definitely weird, but I’m glad I went. I actually ended up connecting with several girls who weren’t in my ‘group’ at school, but with whom I have lots in common nowadays – helped along by Facebook interaction. I dragged my husband along just so I wasn’t accidentally left alone, but he pretty much stood in the corner with other bewildered partners while I danced and chatted. Go!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 5, 2014 at 5:57 am (4 years ago)

      Lol. Sounds like you had a great time, Lara. Yes, this is one of the reasons I wouldn’t mind going. Thanks for the advice πŸ™‚

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  21. Stephanie
    March 5, 2014 at 12:33 pm (4 years ago)

    I went mind, mind you it was before facebook was as prominent as it is today. I was glad to go, allowed me to reconnect with people in person – very different to being online! Good luck with your decision.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 5, 2014 at 7:18 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Stephanie. I’m glad you went and enjoyed yours πŸ™‚

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  22. Sam Stone (@A Life on Venus)
    March 5, 2014 at 1:51 pm (4 years ago)

    This year is my 20 year’s since high school too. I don’t think anyone is organising a reunion though. I wouldn’t go anyway. High school was hard for me. I am still close to the people I want to be close too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 5, 2014 at 7:25 pm (4 years ago)

      That sounds like pretty good reasons not to go Sam. I think alot of people feel the same.

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  23. Toni
    March 5, 2014 at 6:55 pm (4 years ago)

    I totally didn’t go to my ten year reunion and I’m not particularly worried that I didn’t. All of the people I want to know about or talk to are on Facebook. Hardly anyone ended up going except the ‘popular’ people, which I was not. Everyone who went was married, had kids or lived overseas. I was recently divorced at the time so didn’t really feel the need to spend the night talking about the demise of my abusive marriage lol.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 5, 2014 at 7:27 pm (4 years ago)

      I can totally understand that, Toni! It’s been interesting hearing everyone’s responses. Many think similarly to you.

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  24. Friend abroad
    March 6, 2014 at 12:37 am (4 years ago)

    Hi Renee,
    You know if I where there we’d be going together however since that’s not possible I need someone to tell me what everyone looks like and is doing now. Besides it’s only fair. You left me to go to the 10yr reunion by myself and it wasn’t as bad as I thought.
    Cheers,

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 6, 2014 at 6:27 am (4 years ago)

      Lol. I suppose that is only fair. If I go I’ll be sure to give you a full report when I get back πŸ™‚

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  25. Carla from myyellowheart
    March 6, 2014 at 12:53 am (4 years ago)

    I’ve never been to a school reunion (we never had a 10 year school reunion). But I’m not sure that I’d want to go lol!!! The people who still interest me I still talk to, and I’m not sure that I need to know what everybody else got up to. It is funny, as you mentioned, how a person can change so much in 20 years, and be so different from who they were in high school.
    Yet running into a group of people who only knew you as you were can all bring it flooding back can’t it?!!! To the point of uncomfortableness, and possibly on the night (if I had to imagine for myself) regression. I had a good group of friends but I’m only really close with 1 or 2 of those now. And that cool group in school, that I only really skirted the edges of, would still probably make me feel uncool and awkward. Ridiculous isn’t it.
    Look forward to seeing what you decide!! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 6, 2014 at 6:28 am (4 years ago)

      Yes, it’s crazy! Glad you understand what I was talking about. I’ll be sure to keep you posted on what I do x

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  26. Maxabella
    March 6, 2014 at 1:50 pm (4 years ago)

    Go you! DO NOT REGRESS. Knock ’em dead, I say. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 6, 2014 at 7:58 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks for the boost of confidence, Bron x

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  27. Kazzie
    March 6, 2014 at 5:10 pm (4 years ago)

    My sister & I didn’t go because it’s like a ‘soap opera’ type of reunions and we cannot stand soapies! Everyone comparing with husbands, children and their lives. Bah humbug! No regrets at all! πŸ™‚ We have our own lives with family and close friends, and that all it matters.
    Good luck with your decision. πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 6, 2014 at 7:59 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol! Hmm I wonder what that says about me because I love soapies lol. Thanks for dropping in. I’ll keep you posted with what I decide πŸ™‚

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  28. Emma Fahy Davis
    March 6, 2014 at 8:29 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh you have to go! You will regret it afterwards if you don’t! And it will be nowhere near as awkward as you imagine!
    As a side note, this post made me realise how close I am to MY 20 year reunion – yikes!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 7, 2014 at 1:59 pm (4 years ago)

      It’s a scary thought isn’t it, Emma?! Thanks for the vote of confidence πŸ™‚

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  29. Jodi Gibson (JF Gibson Writer)
    March 7, 2014 at 9:45 am (4 years ago)

    We had our 20 year reunion last year and I was actually away for the weekend when it was scheduled, which made the decision easy. I don’t regret not going, but must admit I would love to have been a fly on the wall. I’m not a great fan of reunions as I think it brings back too many insecurities for people and noone is ever really themselves there so it’s all a bit pretentious. Or maybe that’s just me being jaded and cynical!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 7, 2014 at 2:01 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, it would be great to be a fly on the wall!!! You’re very lucky the decision was out of your hands πŸ™‚

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  30. Sonia Life Love Hiccups
    March 10, 2014 at 12:28 pm (4 years ago)

    Ohhhhh this brings back memories. i didnt go to mine for the same reasons in that I was worried that people wouldnt remember me and that I would be going alone as I no longer really see anyone from school anymore. And then afterwards I was contacted on Facebook by so many school friends asking why I wasnt there and then the regret came. i would definitely go to my next one now. Think about it chick – it could turn out to be one of the best things you ever do xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 10, 2014 at 8:17 pm (4 years ago)

      Aww that’s lovely people missed you, Sonia. I’m still fence sitting at the moment πŸ™‚ Will keep you all posted with what I do, I’m sure! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 11, 2014 at 5:48 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Sarah πŸ™‚

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  31. Living Serenely
    March 23, 2014 at 1:12 am (4 years ago)

    I was kind of like you too back at high school. Not one to rock the boat, not one to stand out, but just a regular ordinary girl. Most of us have drifted apart over the years, and I was never really in the core group at high school. It will be interesting to see what happens when talk of a reunion starts surfacing through the network. I hope by then, everyone will be mature enough to simply go for old time’s sake, with no nonsense of seeing who is winning at the game of life. It shouldn’t be a contest.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 23, 2014 at 6:44 am (4 years ago)

      That’s right. I can see that being an issue at some of the earlier reunions, but at 20 years hopefully everyone is mature enough now. Thanks for dropping in πŸ™‚

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