Highway to the danger zone

I wouldn’t consider myself daring.

I’m more introverted than extroverted. I’m a planner rather than a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants kind of girl. I like to play it safe instead of taking risks. I’m stubborn and a little resistant to change.

Yet, my whole life I’ve had this nagging feeling. An urge to push myself, to strive harder, to stretch myself, to better myself, to get out of my comfort zone.

It can be a vicious internal battle at times. Part of me questions, why rock the boat when things are going so great? You are happy, calm, safe. The other part, the devil on my shoulder, seduces me with the exciting possibilities of mixing life up a little and taking a leap into the unknown.

I’ve listened to this devil on many occasions as he sings Highway to the danger zone in my ear.

Sometimes I have ventured out of my comfort zone with a short sharp breath in and stifled smile excited about the unknown. These times have been life changing and given me memories I will treasure forever, like moving to the other side of the world away from my family, friends and job.

Other times, I’ve been dragged out of my comfort zone kicking and screaming. I will never forget Dave and me battling it out over a tour of Mesa Verde in Colorado. Mesa Verde is home to ancient cliff dwellings millions of miles (okay maybe not that high) off the ground perched precariously on the side of cliffs. A tour involved trekking through these villages almost touching the sky, climbing rickety ladders and crawling through tiny tunnels. Adrenalin junkie Dave couldn’t understand how terrifying it was for me, scared of heights, to even contemplate it. I did a basic tour and then sat in our hot car, sweltering and sulking as Dave had an adventure of a lifetime doing the hike which I’m sure was only recommended for crazy Kiwis πŸ˜‰

Umm ... no thanks.

Umm … no thanks.

By the time we drove to Utah though, I was ready to step out of my comfort zone. Together we hiked to the Delicate Arch in Arches National Park. I may have been standing as far away from the edge as I could, but I did it!

Keeping a safe distance from the edge

Keeping a safe distance from the edge

Almost there.

Almost there.

arches_cropped

Boom!

Sometimes these adventures out of my comfort zone have been exhilarating, other times they have not worked out so well. Let’s not even think about the time I cried during a sales workshop!

It doesn’t matter whether the outcome has been good or bad. At the end of the day, I’ve felt proud of myself for what I achieved on a personal level. I pushed myself. I helped myself grow.

I’m not sure what gives me the urge to step out of my comfort zone. Maybe it’s a lifetime of being shy. Maybe I want to show people what I really am capable of. Maybe it’s because I know life is not a dress rehearsal.

Tonight, I’ve been invited out to dinner with some gorgeous girls I’ve met in blog land. It will be the first time we meet IRL. When invited, I instantly said yes, and then the doubt quickly followed. Christ, what have you agreed to? You’re a scaredy cat driver to start off with. You will be a ball of sweat by the time you make the drive from Brissie to the Coast. And have you forgotten how shy you are?

I’ve pushed this negative self talk out of my head though, as I know this step out of my comfort zone will be more than worth it. I honestly can not wait to meet the inspirational and generous Josefa from always Josefa and the ever hilarious and talented Emily from Have a laugh on me. Who knows who else I will be lucky enough to meet? I’m sure this step out of my comfort zone will be another amazing memory to add to my list.

For me, stepping out of my comfort zone doesn’t mean jumping out of a plane or climbing to the highest peak. It’s the little things that are big things for me. I know that I’ve won whenever I have done even the tiniest thing that stretches me. It is then that I know I’ve entered the danger zone πŸ˜‰

When Dave read this post (he reads every post before I publish) he quoted mountaineer Jim Whittaker – If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space.

How true?!

Dave living on the edge at the Grand Canyon

Dave living on the edge at the Grand Canyon

Do you find it hard to venture out of your comfort zone?

59 comments on Highway to the danger zone

  1. Josefa @always Josefa
    September 3, 2013 at 6:54 am (4 years ago)

    We are all stepping out of our comfort zones tonight! Don’t worry, I would hazard a guess almost everyone feels the same way (even a little) about tonight! I cannot wait to meet you and all the others, and I cannot thank you enough for agreeing to come! Driving so far is such a HUGE thing to agree to, I will always remember that x See you tonight xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:28 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Josefa πŸ™‚ I am so looking forward to it and meeting everyone xx

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    September 3, 2013 at 7:00 am (4 years ago)

    I soooooo hear you on this. I think it’s good to get out of your comfort zone – but I often build in escape plans too.
    To borrow and twist up a little, from Margaret Wise Brown ‘the important thing, with all these things. is that you are THERE’. This has become my mantra of late…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:28 am (4 years ago)

      Great mantra, Lydia. It’s making the effort that counts πŸ™‚

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  3. Deb @ home life simplified
    September 3, 2013 at 7:05 am (4 years ago)

    You will have a great time with those girls. I wanted to come to that dinner so badly but without hubby here it was impossible. Can’t wait to hear all about it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:29 am (4 years ago)

      What a shame, Deb! We’ll have to catch up some other time πŸ™‚

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  4. Robomum
    September 3, 2013 at 9:22 am (4 years ago)

    Your post reminded me of something silly.
    I took school kids on a excursion and there was this huge cliff that they were all jumping off and landing in water below. After a thousand requests all day, I finally did it. I almost shat my pants in the process but it was fun. So for some things, yep, I step out of my comfort zone…
    Great pics. I’d love to see those amazing places.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:30 am (4 years ago)

      Lol. Great story, Robomum. I can just hear the kids screaming with excitement as you made the jump πŸ™‚

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  5. Sam Stone
    September 3, 2013 at 9:24 am (4 years ago)

    Yeah I find it very hard to step out of my comfort zone. Hopefully as I get older I get better at it. I hope you enjoy your dinner with Josefa and Em. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:30 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Sam. Yes, I definitely think it becomes easier with age. I see a lot of me in my daughter and want to tell her that it won’t be so hard forever. x

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  6. kay
    September 3, 2013 at 9:30 am (4 years ago)

    Loved this Renee. Like father like son Dave’s wonderful Dad had me stepping way out of my comfort zone many times. I will never forget the experience of driving over the Gateway Bridge for the first time. I was in another planet. I did it. I wanted to shout back to everyone in Timaru “Look at me”. Its exhilhilarating, it makes you grow and before long something what once seemed impossible is now very possible and even every day kind of possible. Grab it with both hands and go girl go. Always remember girls can do anything.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:27 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Kay!! Very wise words. I love ‘before long something what once seemed impossible is now very possible’. Brilliant. Lovely memories too πŸ™‚

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  7. Eleise
    September 3, 2013 at 9:48 am (4 years ago)

    I love the feeling when I step outside my boundries, that when miracles occur. I am with your husband, if you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space. PS My husband also reads all blog posts before I publish.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:31 am (4 years ago)

      Glad I’m not the only one, Eleise πŸ™‚ Yep, it sure is a magic feeling when you take a risk.

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  8. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    September 3, 2013 at 10:04 am (4 years ago)

    You will get to meet MEEEEE!!!! πŸ™‚ You’re SO lucky! πŸ˜‰ I have to admit, if I didn’t already know Emily and Linda, I’d be crapping my pants. I am stepping HUGELY out of my comfort zone photographing Josefa and her family this afternoon. I’m sure we’ll all have a great time and tomorrow we’ll all know a few more people “IRL” from the bloggy world. We’ll hold your hand if you need us to πŸ™‚ xo Aroha

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 10:32 am (4 years ago)

      Yayyyy Aroha! So excited to meet you. And you’ll totally rock at the photo shoot today. I hope the weather holds out for you xo

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  9. Lizzy Allan
    September 3, 2013 at 11:27 am (4 years ago)

    Hi Renee! I’m so glad I’ve found your blog πŸ™‚ The Arhces National Park looks amazing … and I think you’re very brave! How wonderful that you’re about to meet some blogging friends IRL! I would be nervous too, but I think you’ll have an amazing time and afterwards you’ll be so glad you did it. Look forward to reading a post about your meet up!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 1:37 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Lizzie πŸ™‚ Yes, it was an adventure of a lifetime. We were so lucky to be able to go there. I’ll be sure to check out your blog as soon as I can πŸ™‚

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  10. Becc
    September 3, 2013 at 11:27 am (4 years ago)

    I understand your pain. I am just like you.
    I think sometimes getting out of our comfort zone may require things a little less death defying. Small steps such as meeting up with the bloggers is a much better approach. I’ve been to a few meet ups and they always end up lots of fun and wishing you didn’t have to leave.
    Have a great time πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 1:37 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Becc. I totally agree. Yes, I’m sure it will be awesome πŸ™‚

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  11. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    September 3, 2013 at 11:39 am (4 years ago)

    I’m shy too and takes a lot to push me out of my comfort zone, I wish thought, I was there with you to catch up with such lovely gals! I’d be nervous and self conscious but I know I’d have a ball – so will you. Enjoy x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 1:38 pm (4 years ago)

      I never imagined you as shy, Jodi. Wish you could be here too πŸ™‚

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  12. Miss Cinders
    September 3, 2013 at 12:03 pm (4 years ago)

    Wow! What awesome adventures you’ve had! Although I would be like you and totally chicken… but I would try to force myself to climb them ladders. The whole once in a lifetime thing!

    I’m an introverted extrovert. If you know me well enough I’m a little crazy, if I don’t know you I am very shy and it takes everything in me to open up and have a conversation!

    Have fun with the gorgeous peeps you’re meeting up with. They’re pretty awesome πŸ™‚

    MC x
    #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 3, 2013 at 1:39 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Miss Cinders. An introverted extrovert sounds interesting. I’ve actually had someone call me that before. Will have to do some googling and find out more πŸ™‚ x

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  13. Grace
    September 3, 2013 at 1:45 pm (4 years ago)

    What a truly amazing part of the world!!! And good on you for getting out of your comfort zone. It’s so exhilarating and there’s that great sense of achievement. Good on you! x

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  14. Annaleis from Teapots and Tractors
    September 3, 2013 at 2:56 pm (4 years ago)

    Thanks for sharing your amazing pictures – glad you stepped out of your comfort zone to share with us. I really want to head over there one day….in the future!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:48 am (4 years ago)

      It is an amazing part of the world. I love the diversity of America. The natural parks are amazing.

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  15. EssentiallyJess
    September 3, 2013 at 3:02 pm (4 years ago)

    I think most of us, who aren’t crazy daredevils, can understand this! I get it. Sometimes you want to live crazy, other times, safe is good. I think you always know your own limitations though.
    For what it’s worth, bloggers are some of the nicest, most lovely people you will ever meet, so don’t be scared. You will feel comfortable in no time xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:48 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Jess. I sure was comfortable in no time. They felt like old friends x

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  16. Emily @ Have a laugh on me
    September 3, 2013 at 3:11 pm (4 years ago)

    I adore Dave’s saying and I totally agree – and don’t worry, you will knock our socks off tonight – I promise you will slot in like a natural – Looking forward to it – it’s at 5pm right (that’s what I’m telling hubby anyhow so I can leave early) x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:49 am (4 years ago)

      I left at 3.30pm to escape from mine πŸ™‚ It was so great to meet you IRL last night. Shame we were at opposite ends of the table, but I’m sure there will be other catch ups x

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      • Emily @ Have a laugh on me
        September 4, 2013 at 9:15 pm (4 years ago)

        I have to say I was kinda hoping we could’ve sat together – but next time!!!! Thanks so much for coming down, it was SO nice to meet you IRL πŸ™‚ xxx

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        • mummywifeme
          mummywifeme
          September 5, 2013 at 6:29 am (4 years ago)

          You too, Em πŸ™‚ In summer I’ll be down the coast all the time at my parent’s unit, so we should do another catch up xx

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  17. Pip
    September 3, 2013 at 4:26 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh sensational photos! Can’t believe you’re all meeting up in a different state – so many cool souls in one place – wish I could be a fly on the wall – or better yet sharing a drink with you all. Very impressive you did that trek when you were afraid of heights – I think a partner who can’t truly relate to that fear sometimes doesn’t realise how much courage it takes – but OH the views. Have fun tonight – feel free to tweet, instagram, facebook so I can be a little SM fly πŸ™‚ xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:50 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Pip πŸ™‚ It was a great time last night and such a shame you weren’t there. If I’m ever in Melbourne I’ll be sure to catch up with you x

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  18. Lynda - all about mama
    September 3, 2013 at 5:20 pm (4 years ago)

    It’s funny how you get an image of someone in your head from the blogging world and a lot of the time it’s probably not right. I would never have thought of you as an introvert :-). I love the term ‘introverted extrovert’ that Miss Cinders describes herself as – I think that’s me too! I did some drama classes a while back where we did performances and I can definitely recommend that for breaking out of your comfort zone. Have a great time tonight with all the lovely gals πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:51 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Lynda πŸ™‚ Yes, I think the more you break out of your comfort zone, the easier it gets. I think I’d be much more relaxed on my next bloggy meet up πŸ™‚

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  19. Emma @ Five Degrees of Chaos
    September 3, 2013 at 8:24 pm (4 years ago)

    Wow, amazing photos! I hope you’re enjoying both dinner and good company πŸ™‚
    Popping in via #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:52 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Emma. Yes, we had a great dinner thanks. As for the photos, it seems like a lifetime ago. Can’t wait to get back over there!

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  20. Tegan
    September 3, 2013 at 9:13 pm (4 years ago)

    I hope you had fun tonight! I find it hard to step out of my comfort zone too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:52 am (4 years ago)

      I think most people do to a certain degree, Tegan. Had a great time last night. It’s a shame you’re that little bit further away in the opposite direction.

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  21. Kathy
    September 3, 2013 at 9:37 pm (4 years ago)

    Renee – it was really lovely to meet you tonight – I’m glad you stepped out of your comfort zone. As you write about your adventures it’s clear that you’ve stepped out ‘one the edge’ more than you give yourself credit for. I still feel like a blogging newbie but in our group tonight it was all about sharing and caring, so I felt comfortable ‘out on the edge’ too. Looking forward to catching up again – we’ll come to Brissie next time. Good luck stepping out bravely again with your return to work.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:54 am (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Kathy. It was lovely to meet you too and see your gorgeous smile. You really have a relaxed, centred feel about you. You’re so easy to talk to πŸ™‚ A catch up in Brissie next time would be great πŸ™‚

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  22. Rachael
    September 3, 2013 at 9:54 pm (4 years ago)

    You guys are going to be on the GC? I’m just south of the border. I need to get to know a few of you local bloggers a bit better I think! I’m love a bit of edge living but am tempted to indulge less now I’m a mummy.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 6:55 am (4 years ago)

      Yes, what a shame you couldn’t catch up with us. I’m often down the coast in summer, so we’ll have to hook up another time. Otherwise we may do a catch up in Brissie later in the year if you want to make the trip πŸ™‚

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  23. Martine@themodernparent
    September 4, 2013 at 10:08 am (4 years ago)

    I actually got wobbly legs just looking at some of those photos! I wasn’t always scared of heights but the thought of standing anywhere near the edge of a cliff now completely freaks me out so I am with you there! I cant believe I once bungee jumped….must have had something to do with being a fearless 18 year ld with no responsibilities!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 12:45 pm (4 years ago)

      OMG, Martine! Good for you, especially if you’re scared of heights like me. I don’t know what it is with heights, but I just imagine myself gravitating toward the edge and falling off. Scary stuff!

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  24. Me
    September 4, 2013 at 10:27 am (4 years ago)

    It was so lovely to meet you last night – I had such a good time !!!
    The past two years I have started to push myslef out of my comfort zone – done The Stampede and Warrior Dash, run a couple of 10km events – but I don’t do heights very well – and have quite a few (now) hilarious stories about what has happened although at the time it was no laughing matter !!
    I think it is great when we challenge ourselves to be more than we already are – and allow ourselves to grow as a person !
    Will be thinking of you on Monday as you go back to work and sending heaps of positive energy your way – I am sure it won’t take you too long to find your feet.
    Have the best day and I hope that baby I is feeling OK today.
    Love, hugs and positive energy !
    Me

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 12:48 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much! I’m feeling your positive energy and taking it in. Bub was feeling not too bad today, so I’ve shipped her off today and have just been pigging out and watching a DVD πŸ™‚ It was so lovely to meet you last night too. I am still laughing about your Aussie accent πŸ™‚ Good for you for doing those events. That takes courage. As you say, I’m all for doing anything that will help me grow. I just need a little push sometimes xo

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  25. Bec | Mumma Tells
    September 4, 2013 at 2:13 pm (4 years ago)

    I love that quote, it’s so perfectly true. Your photos are to die for! Amazing! I’m glad you stepped out of your comfort zone and headed out to a bloggy catch up. They are one of the very best kinds of ‘me’ time, I reckon! X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 7:47 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, definitely, Bec πŸ™‚ I’m glad I stepped out too x

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  26. Rhonda / Mktg Storytelling
    September 4, 2013 at 6:04 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh wow, I totally envy this. Beautiful.

    I recently went to listen to Aron Ralston talk about his passion for exploration. He moved me! A lot. Hopefully as my son grows up we can start getting out there and discovering amazing landscapes and crevices.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 7:48 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Rhonda πŸ™‚ Yes, I’m looking forward to showing my girls the big world they live in too πŸ™‚

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  27. Kim@spiritedmama
    September 4, 2013 at 6:44 pm (4 years ago)

    Love dave’s quote Renee. He sounds like a good bloke but wow, those villages looked treacherous. As for stepping out of yr comfort meeting that wild Emily and gorgeous josefa I’m sure they lead u out of yr comfort zone in the most lovliest of ways x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 4, 2013 at 7:50 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol, Kim. Yeah, it was a great time πŸ™‚ Great girls. Those villages were crazy. So cool though. I feel very privileged to be able to have seen them x

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  28. Maxabella
    September 4, 2013 at 8:13 pm (4 years ago)

    That’s a GREAT quote and so very true. I’m very much like you, Renee. I don’t like to push, but somehow push I must. I hope you are having a wonderful time out on the town with the bloggy brigade!! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2013 at 1:22 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Maxabella. We had an awesome time x

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  29. Francesca
    September 5, 2013 at 1:36 pm (4 years ago)

    I find it quite difficult to step out of my comfort zone too. I hope you had a great time at dinner πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2013 at 1:41 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Francesca. Yes, I think everyone finds it a bit of a struggle at differing degrees.

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