Just another day

There’s a bit of a running joke in our household around this time of year.

I strategically place Mother’s Day catalogues about the house and drop some not so subtle hints to Dave about a special day coming up, while he jokes around saying Mother’s Day is just another day.

Just another day.

He gives me his signature cheeky grin as he teases me, while I respond with an overly fake laugh and tell him it’s too soon.

Too soon after the Mother’s Day where I was forgotten.

*Cue dramatic music* Dum, dum, duuuummmmmmm!

It was a couple of years go when I was a newbie mum. I had woken up on Mother’s Day anticipating to be showered with love, but there wasn’t a single homemade card in sight. While Dave slept beside me, I got out of bed to tend to our toddler and started my day as per usual.

Half the day passed and no-one uttered a single Happy Mother’s Day to me. No special cuddles, no homemade cards. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zero.

After scrolling through Facebook and seeing all of my other mummy friends being spoilt, I couldn’t take it any longer. I had been stewing on it all morning and eventually the pot boiled over. It wasn’t pretty. There were some very ugly tears that day.

‘You’re not my mum,’ Dave had told me when I confronted him.

Ahh Dave. My poor sweet, Dave. He had no idea what he’d just gotten himself into uttering those words.

If I was rational at the time I would have explained that no, you doofus, I am not your mother, but I am the mother of your child. Your child that isn’t old enough to know when it is Mother’s Day.

Instead, as I do in all emotional situations, I cried some more and moaned about just wanting a card and a daggy pair of slippers.

And then he put salt in the wound when he told me that Mother’s Day was just another day.

Ahh Dave. Bless him. He clearly missed out on the Mother’s Day for Dummies course.

The thing is that I’m not a materialistic type of person. I don’t need to and don’t want to be showered with extravagant gifts. I just want some acknowledgement. I want a crappy homemade card and a cuddle. I want to put my feet up and be spoilt because it’s not just another day. It’s a celebration. It’s a day to honour mothers and all that we do. It’s a day to say thank you. It’s a day where I don’t want to be ironing, cooking dinner or refereeing squabbling kids. I just want the good stuff – cuddles and lots of love.

Am I being silly? Should I be this hung up on one day? Did I give Dave a hard time over nothing?

Last Sunday morning, Miss Four jumped into bed with me for a snuggle and a chat. Our conversation got me thinking. I am celebrated and honoured every day. Some days I just need to look for it a little harder.

Here’s a snippet of our conversation.

Me: What do you like doing with mummy the best?

Miss Four: I like it when you tuck me into bed, um, I like eating breakfast and dinner with you. I love you so much. You’re the best mum in the whole wide world. I like it when you dance with me. I like colouring in with you. You’re good at colouring in the lines. I’m good at colouring too. And because you work so hard.

Me: What do I do that’s hard work?

Miss Four: Working on your computer and cooking dinner.

Me: Do you want to be a mummy one day.

Miss Four: I want to be a fairy one day.

Me: A fairy? Really?

Miss Four: Yes. And Elsa, and a builder, and a mummy.

*All together now … awww*

Now, it seems I’ve promised you another giveaway. I want YOU to be spoilt this Mother’s Day because you deserve it, God damn it πŸ˜‰

Pink Woods and I have teamed up again for this gorgeous giveaway. (If you were reading last week, you’d know I absolutely adore Pink Woods. Please check out their Facebook page now and give them some love).

Today, I am giving away a red crochet necklace and matching dahlia earrings to one lucky reader.

red-necklace

All you need to do is tell me in the comments about your ideal Mother’s Day.

This giveaway is now closed. Congratulations to Allison Vainionpaa! I hope you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day.

Terms and conditions

– This giveaway is only open to Australian residents (excluding ACT).

– This giveaway closes at 8pm AEST on Saturday 9 May.

– Winners will be contacted via email on Sunday 10 May.

– This is a game of skill. The most interesting answer as judged by a panel will be deemed a winner.

Linking up today with Jess for IBOT.

68 comments on Just another day

  1. Josefa @always Josefa
    May 5, 2015 at 6:42 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, “you are not my mum” that has to win an award of some kind! Terrible, but oh so laughable at the same time! Gosh you just never know what to expect do you? I hope you are showered with hugs, kisses and lots of presents this Sunday lovely – even though you are not his mum. Bless xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:45 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks Josefa. I hope you have a lovely day too xx

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  2. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    May 5, 2015 at 6:51 am (2 years ago)

    The “you are not my mum” words have been bandied around here in the past …
    Only once.
    They will never be uttered again.
    Happy mothers day!!!
    L

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:45 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Sounds like what happened here πŸ™‚

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  3. Bec @ The Plumbette
    May 5, 2015 at 7:07 am (2 years ago)

    LOL, I think my dad learned early on not to say what Dave did to my mum on Mother’s Day. It must be a tradie/male thing to do? Or am I judging by stereotypes again? What a beautiful Mother’s Day gift. I hope you have a lovely Sunday too Renee. Give me Dave’s number so I can message him and remind him for you. xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:46 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol Bec. Unfortunately he’s working this Sunday. What a bummer! I hope you have a lovely day xx

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  4. Lydia C. Lee
    May 5, 2015 at 7:10 am (2 years ago)

    My family celebrates this way (Dave’s way) and my husbands family celebrates it as a universal celebration (it’s caused a few issues) – so I see both sides. To be honest, I’m with the woman who invented it, then lobbied to disband it when it got too commercial. It’s a big hoohar about nothing. (I’ll go and hide now)

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  5. Lydia C. Lee
    May 5, 2015 at 7:11 am (2 years ago)

    As for the comp – I’d love those earrings, so my ideal mothers day would be having lunch with my Mother and squeezing in a movie at some point. Oh, guess what! That’s what I’m doing!!

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  6. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    May 5, 2015 at 7:47 am (2 years ago)

    A crappy card and a cuddle – yep! That’s all I want too. Oh and maybe a box of chocolates. I mean I wouldn’t say no.

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  7. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    May 5, 2015 at 8:16 am (2 years ago)

    You were very right to be mad!! I have mixed feeling on Mother’s day, given that my mum died in 2008. But it’s nice to just be a little bit spoiled. A new book, a foot rub- I’m happy πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:49 pm (2 years ago)

      Sorry to hear about your mum, Amy. A foot rub sounds lovely. I hope you get one.

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  8. Natalie @ our parallel connection
    May 5, 2015 at 8:56 am (2 years ago)

    If God bless Dave… My hubby did the same thing but that was 15 years ago now… Never made the same mistake again…

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  9. Raychael aka Mystery Case
    May 5, 2015 at 9:41 am (2 years ago)

    I can really relate to this, not just for Mother’s day but birthdays as well. Hubby does acknowledge my birthday but has never made an effort to help the girls remember or source/make a gift.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:50 pm (2 years ago)

      I think your hubby and mine need a kick up the pants πŸ˜‰

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  10. Holly
    May 5, 2015 at 9:57 am (2 years ago)

    I get the you’re not my mum line too but he always comes through with some small token of Mother’s Day effort lol Although I even have to push my hubby to get something for his mum. This year we are away at a resort for the weekend. Not planned that way, just a happy accident for our spontaneous babymoon/toddler fun time weekend as I’m 36 weeks pregnant. Mostly I just want to feel appreciated on the day and not be expected to do all the parenting πŸ˜‰

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:51 pm (2 years ago)

      I hope you have a lovely time. The getaway sounds perfect:)

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  11. Tonia Zemek
    May 5, 2015 at 10:15 am (2 years ago)

    Aw, this is so lovely. Something tells me your hubby won’t be forgetting this year! P.S. how cute its that necklace – gorgeous!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:52 pm (2 years ago)

      I know! The colour is just gorgeous in real life.

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  12. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    May 5, 2015 at 10:55 am (2 years ago)

    Oh my heart breaks for you all those years ago, I had a similar thing happen. Thankfully times have changed in both our households. My perfect mother’s day is a lie in without being woken until 6.30! WOW, as if. Then I want cuddles for Africa, a coffee, a quick 30-min read of my book in peace then breakfast in bed. The rest of the day no washing, cleaning, dishes or fighting. Then lunch with my mum at the park! This is what we have planned for Sunday, here’s hoping it all pans out. x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:52 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh I really hope your Sunday turns out just as you have planned. Sounds perfect πŸ™‚

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  13. Emily
    May 5, 2015 at 11:36 am (2 years ago)

    That’s not an overreaction. I would have been livid! Imagine if we did nothing for Father’s Day?!
    My ideal Mother’s Day includes a sleep-in. Anything else can happen if I get that sleep-in! My Mother’s Day will actually see me chained to my computer trying to get some work done before the federal budget is announced next Tuesday, so a sleep-in, some cuddles, a yummy warm breakfast all together and then a productive day that means I can cuddle the kids during the bedtime routine without my mind somewhere else will be a win for me. x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:53 pm (2 years ago)

      That really does sound like a win, Em. I hope you get that sleep in πŸ™‚

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  14. Trish
    May 5, 2015 at 11:50 am (2 years ago)

    I’d have reacted the same as you but louder. You poor thing. All the way – Doghouse for Dave .
    My ideal mother’s day is one were I get to fluff around and be waited on. I don’t care about gifts though a massage voucher would be nice.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:54 pm (2 years ago)

      Sounds perfect, Trish. I hope you get waited on hand and foot πŸ™‚

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  15. Sam Stone
    May 5, 2015 at 12:32 pm (2 years ago)

    I normally tell my hubby, “I am not your mum” hahaha.
    My perfect mothers day would be getting covered in kisses and cuddles all day by my little ones and them not complaining once.

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  16. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side
    May 5, 2015 at 12:38 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh dear. My hubby has managed to get a free pass for every Mother’s Day because the boys make something for me at daycare. I got a framed picture with both their handprints in it last year. *Tears in eyes*. This year daycare has even arranged a ‘pamper evening’ for Mums – it starts at 6.30pm and the kids get to serve us biscuits and tea and tell us stories. I’m really looking forward to it:-) My ideal Mother’s Day is any year I get to have with my Mum. As the years go by I’m painfully aware of her mortality. (Just to clarify – she’s not sick, just not immortal!).

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:56 pm (2 years ago)

      That sounds like a wonderful evening put on by daycare. It’s clearly run by some very clever women. Have a great time.

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  17. Allison Vainionpaa
    May 5, 2015 at 1:34 pm (2 years ago)

    That gave me a real chuckle this morning Renee!
    This is a tricky one for me, I was born on mothers day, and this is the first mothers day since my beautiful mum passed away. I hope I am surrounded my gorgeous children and husband and their crappy home made cards and beautiful memories of my mum. xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:57 pm (2 years ago)

      Gosh Allison. Something tells me it will be an emotional day for you. I hope you have a wonderful b’day and Mother’s Day πŸ™‚

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  18. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    May 5, 2015 at 1:40 pm (2 years ago)

    Bahaha I can’t believe Dave got it so wrong! My mothers day this year is going to suck because its the day before I have a colonoscopy so I’ll be fasting and drinking that disgusting orange stuff – happy mothers day to me, not. I think I’m going to have to get Trent to cook something nice the night after though because I will bloody deserve it πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:58 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh that is not cool at all, Toni. Talk about bad timing. I hope it all goes well.

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  19. Neets
    May 5, 2015 at 2:05 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh Dave, sweet sweet Dave, can I slap him although your mothers day sounds a lot like mine last year. Oh yes there were no gifts, no happy mothers day wishes. Just a sheepish daddy that snuck out at 10am on Sunday morning, purchased flowers and a massage voucher and delivered it to me like he’d never forgotten.
    “My ideal mothers day would be in bed, snuggled up with the kids, whilst the husband slaves away in the kitchen cooking me a big brekkie of eggs, bacon, tomato, spinach, avo”. I may just put this on his FB status. πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 1:59 pm (2 years ago)

      Haha I think you should and I give you my permission to slap Dave too πŸ˜‰

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  20. EssentiallyJess
    May 5, 2015 at 2:47 pm (2 years ago)

    My ideal Mothers Day? I want sparkling wine, calorie free food, hours to write uninterrupted, and a foot rub at the end of it all.
    And some cuddles thrown in there too. Wouldn’t be Mothers Day without cuddles. πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:33 pm (2 years ago)

      Sounds like the ultimate, Jess. I want that too!

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  21. Dannielle
    May 5, 2015 at 2:52 pm (2 years ago)

    Ahhhhh Renee you poor thing! I could feel every single emotion you were describing, I had a similar emotional boil over with my husband before he was my husband, I’d been waiting and waiting for him to propose (like 8 years!!) and one day it just all got the better of me and I burst into tears saying he mustn’t love me and had one of those ugly crying moments you described, that’s when a little ring box got dropped next to my blubbering head buried in my pillow! Yep that was our romantic engagement in a nutshell!
    I have a question for Dave, how would he have felt if the same thing had of happened to him on Father’s Day? Is it just another day too?
    Wishing you a gorgeous Mother’s Day beautiful lady, filled with lots of warm giggly hugs and cute homemade cards. xxxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. I have threatened Dave that Father’s Day is just another day, but have never been able to follow through. Oh poor you and the engagement. I really feel for you there and can sympathise. Dave waited about seven or eight years I think and there were many times I questioned him whether he was ever going to ask me or not. Men eh πŸ˜‰ xx

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  22. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    May 5, 2015 at 8:28 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh. My. Goodness. He better make every mothers day fr the rest of your life the most awesome day of the year!

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  23. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    May 6, 2015 at 11:11 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Dave, what are we going to do with you! I love your morning conversation, you sure have an amazing little girl there. My ideal day will involve a quiet day at home with my two very special boys. Wishing you and all the other Mums out there a wonderful Mother’s Day xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Sounds lovely, Lauren. I hope you have a beautiful Mother’s Day x

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  24. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    May 6, 2015 at 8:24 pm (2 years ago)

    Very early on when my twins were babies my husband uttered the same “But you’re not my mum and the kids are too young yet!” line. Ohhh there were tears and fireworks and a strike in our household that day!!!! Funnily enough that line was never repeated again!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:39 pm (2 years ago)

      Glad to hear it, Ingrid. Honestly eh!!??

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  25. Carolyn @ Champagne Cartel
    May 6, 2015 at 8:58 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, Dave and my husband must have been separated at birth! I was told exactly the same thing many years ago.

    I have now whipped him into shape so well that I am being taken away to a ‘surprise destination’ this Sunday. I’m nervous but optimistic!

    Hope you have a beautiful Mothers Day! xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:41 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh you have him trained very well. Can’t wait to hear about the ‘surprise destination’. Sounds very intriguing πŸ™‚ x

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  26. karina lee
    May 6, 2015 at 9:54 pm (2 years ago)

    I would love to go to Europe for Mother’s Day, something simple and easy.

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  27. Alison F
    May 7, 2015 at 6:49 am (2 years ago)

    I would love a sleep in (even just half an hour extra!) and then a day of no whinging or fighting from my boys (a Mummy can dream right!!). My eldest started prep this year and I can’t wait to see what treasure he picked at the Mother’s Day Stall at school.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 7, 2015 at 7:42 pm (2 years ago)

      Aw sounds lovely Alison! Here’s to a whinge free day πŸ™‚

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  28. Grace
    May 7, 2015 at 9:14 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh, Dave! Dude! Dem be fighting words!
    At least Miss Four came to save the day!
    I want to go and watch Pitch Perfect 2 on my own with a big bucket of popcorn as my only company πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 8, 2015 at 7:31 pm (2 years ago)

      Sounds awesome!!! Can’t wait to see that movie πŸ™‚

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  29. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    May 8, 2015 at 12:26 am (2 years ago)

    Poor Dave. I’m sure he learnt his lesson that day! It’s not unreasonable at all to want something a little special on Mother’s Day, the same way dads want something for them on Father’s Day. I love the homemade cards and kids artwork the best. Handy Hubby usually buys a gift but I’ve told him all I want this year is a sleep in, some new bed socks and lots of cuddles with kids who aren’t wrestling and arguing with each other! Hope you have a lovely Mother’s Day Renee xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 8, 2015 at 7:32 pm (2 years ago)

      Sounds great to me, Tash. Have a fabulous day. I hope you get that sleep in!

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  30. Hugzilla
    May 8, 2015 at 7:08 pm (2 years ago)

    My hubby is very good with all of this but I also take it one step further and buy myself a special gift as well. I figure that we work our butts off all year putting everyone else first, so why not reward myself for all of that. I buy myself a new piece of wall art every year. I like pretty things. LOL.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 8, 2015 at 7:33 pm (2 years ago)

      Nice one, Zilla. I like the way you think. Can’t wait to see what you buy πŸ™‚

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  31. Tegan
    May 9, 2015 at 11:09 pm (2 years ago)

    Aww Renee that must have felt terrible. You’re right, it’s not about the presents, it’s about feeling acknowledged and treated special for a day. I hope you have a great day tomorrow xx

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  32. Zanni
    May 12, 2015 at 10:43 pm (2 years ago)

    What a gorgeous necklace! And what a gorgeous story… We have the same back and forth about Valentine’s Day. Every year, it’s a let down, but my husband is improving… I absolutely adored my mother’s day – full of sweet home made gifts, poems, songs, and sentiments. Very happy mummy xx

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  33. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    May 13, 2015 at 7:42 am (2 years ago)

    Oh dear, I have heard so many accounts like this where a husband has really fell short and ended up in the dog house on Mothers Day. I always say, Fathers Day follows Mothers day so the effort put in for MD is replicated for FD! Because I sure know they expect all the treatment! Hope Dave had it sorted this year πŸ˜‰ xx

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  34. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    May 13, 2015 at 1:38 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh that really is a major ‘awwww’ moment! A builder and a fairy. And Elsa!! Hahaha love it!! And love that you’re working hard on the computer and cooking dinner too!

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  35. pea
    May 15, 2015 at 1:53 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh Dave, Dave, Dave!!! NOOOOO! That’s not how mother’s day works. You honour your wife for being such a fantastic mummy to your kids!
    I made it easy on my Dave. I wanted a handbag. I won $50 from a handbag/nappybag website so I bought the handbag. And then told Dave that could be my mother’s day gift. DONE! But he still went out and got my bagels, flowers and LUSH and a card! HEY- other Dave – take notice. We work hard all year, we deserve love (and packages of things we love).

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  36. Erin@TheMumsGroup
    May 6, 2016 at 1:29 pm (1 year ago)

    Yes!! My first Mother’s Day my husband went all out! The second, nothing! Not a single thing!!!! There was tears and tantrums (all me) till he said “I didn’t think I had to do something ‘every’ year!!!! Wtf?!! I kindly (not kindly at all) informed him that that’s not how it works and we haven’t had a problem since!! Hope you have a fab day lovely, you deserve it xx

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    • Erin@TheMumsGroup
      May 6, 2016 at 1:30 pm (1 year ago)

      *were tears, not was! Obviously still emotionally scarred and it’s effecting my grammar!! X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 6, 2016 at 1:59 pm (1 year ago)

      Lol. They are clueless, aren’t they?!! Glad he’s on the case now. I hope you have a lovely day too xx

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