The afternoon I received a phone call congratulating me on winning a job I’d applied for, I felt giddy with excitement, pride and confidence.
This was the change I had been working toward for most of the year. I’d done it. I’d taken a big, bold step out of my comfort zone and I felt for the first time in a long time that I was winning at life.
The rush of adrenalin and thrill of the phone call lasted for all of five minutes before the punch in the stomach and the slap in the face came.
Fear and self-doubt weaseled their way into my mind, until I became so overwhelmed with negative thoughts I wanted to vomit.
‘What the hell do you think you’re doing, Renee?’
‘You can’t do this!’
‘You’re not smart enough.’
‘Why are you walking away from a great job, good pay and colleagues you love?’
‘Have you completely lost your mind?’
That bitch of an inner voice pummeled me blow after blow until I seriously considered declining the job offer. Fortunately, after a good night’s sleep and a pep talk from Dave and myself, I was able to dust myself off and re-frame those negative thoughts.
It wasn’t easy though. When you start down a negative path, it can be hard to turn back.
I’m often told what a positive person I am, and I am. I’m very positive. I’m good at cheering people on, raising them up and doing what I can to make people feel happy. Being positive about my own life and cheering myself on is something I constantly need to work at.
More often than not, especially at this busy time of year and while I’m adjusting to a new job and building a freelance business on the side, I can be overcome with negativity and self-doubt. It can be a full-blown battle some days to break myself out of the downward spiral.
When life-coach Carla Da Costa’s book A Confident Heart – a guide to living life with greater confidence & positivity landed in my lap, I may have squealed.
I love self-help books and this one looked like just the ticket to help me get my confidence back on track (if it ever was on track – oops there’s that negativity again). I was desperate to see if Carla had the key to cracking my confidence woes.
A Confident Heart is a 38-page pep talk encouraging you to live the life you want filled with positivity and confidence. If you’ve ever battled with confidence or have found yourself struggling through a negative period of your life, A Confident Heart can help you get back on track.
Carla suggests locking yourself away for a few hours to work through her book, but I wanted to take my time with it and sit with my thoughts. I read it over a few early mornings and I tell you what, it was the perfect way to start my day.
The book encouraged me to look at each area of my life, from relationships to health, money and career, and think about how I felt about each area. A Confident Heart helped me to work through my negativity and to think about what I wanted for myself. Carla challenged me to visualise what I could gain from making a positive change.
A Confident Heart felt like a good chat with an old friend. A friend who has been there before and knows what it’s like to live with low confidence.
A Confident Heart gave me the wake up call I needed to quit it with the negativity and self-doubt. Re-framing negative thoughts is something that I need to work on daily, but with Carla’s help I feel like I’m moving in the right direction.
2016 has been a big year of change for me. A year where I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone, changed my life focus and thrown myself into new challenges. I have spent very little time reflecting on where I’m going and how far I’ve come. In my usual way, I have been head down, bum up hardly coming up for air. A Confident Heart gave me the chance to reflect, refocus and find the light again.
With the end of the year rapidly approaching, now is the perfect time to reflect on the year that was and what you want from 2017 and beyond. If you need a gentle push in the right direction to live the life you want, make sure you put A Confident Heart on your Christmas wish list.
Do you battle with confidence issues? Is your inner voice a mean old cow or is she your best mate? How do you remain positive in life?
Mummy Wife Me received a copy of A Confident Heart in exchange for this review. As always, all opinions are my own.
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