The long way round

I got my ticket for the long way round
Two bottle whiskey for the way
And I sure would like some sweet company
And I’m leaving tomorrow, what do you say?

You know when you’re cruising along in life and everything seems to be going according to plan?

You have the dream man, precious kids, a lovely house, good health, great friends and family, and a well-paid and secure job. All your ducks have lined up in a row and you can’t help but high five yourself.

Everything seems to be too good to be true until a niggling feeling creeps in ever so slightly. Something isn’t right, but you can’t put your finger on it.

Each day rises, falls and rolls into one. You feel trapped in monotony and the constant juggle that is work and kids. You know it’s not kosher to talk about busyness or mother guilt, but hell you suffer terribly from them both. You run yourself into the ground to make everyone happy. Everyone, but you.

You realise the constant grind has gotten you down. There is nothing to look forward to and your life lacks challenge and inspiration. You’re in a rut. You fall deeper into sadness, until you decide you can’t take it anymore. You have to make a change.

I’ve got my ticket for the long way round
The one with the prettiest of views
It’s got mountains, it’s got rivers
It’s got sights that give you shivers
But it sure would be prettier with you

Six months ago, I made the change – or at least the first steps on my long way round to change.

I took six months’ long service leave to figure out where my heart and mind was at. I considered what makes me happy and whether I’m living life to the full.

It all sounds a bit deep and meaningful doesn’t it?

I filled my leave with plenty of quality time with my girls. I enjoyed not having the mad rush in the mornings and being able to help out in the classroom, attend special events, and take on the role of volunteer marketing coordinator at my daughter’s school. I was also able to spend precious time with my very brave, yet very ill 91-year-old grandmother, who lost her battle with ovarian cancer a few months ago.

On top of all that, I threw myself into freelance writing, social media management and communication consultancy. I loaded myself up with courses and training, all the while trying to work out what the right path was for me.

I don’t know whether it’s because I’m careening closer to 40 and feel like it’s now or never to make a change, or if it’s because as I get older I become clearer on what I want from life and have more guts to reach out and grab it.

Despite the great job, great boss and great mates, I knew it wasn’t fulfilling me. I had been there 10 years and it no longer ignited the fire within. My father told me on numerous occasions that I’d be flaming mad to give up my sweet job, but I felt I owed it to myself to take a chance on me. I knew I would regret it if I stayed in that job for the rest of my life because it was the ‘smart’ thing to do.

And while I believe I now know what the right path is for me, I also know that now is not exactly the right time to take the leap. The stakes are so much higher when you have a young family, who depend on your wage to make ends meet.

So, instead of taking a massive leap to achieve my dreams, I’ve taken a little one – trust me, it feels equally as terrifying.

The day I resigned from my well-paid and secure job, I felt physically ill. I was shaking like a leaf, and to be honest, I still feel in shock. I’m not the type of person to do this sort of thing. I play by the rules, I don’t take risks.

After I resigned, I saw this quote on the Plumbette’s Facebook account.

When it feels scary to jump,
That is exactly when you jump,
Otherwise you end up staying in the same place your whole life.

The timing couldn’t have been more perfect. I had been attempting to lead a more intuitive life and open my heart and mind to the universe. I felt this was telling me that it would all be okay.

And so here I am, moving in the opposite direction to what I should perhaps be moving in. I’m taking the long way round to realising my dreams.

Today, I start a new chapter. The first day of a new job. Wish me luck.

The inspiration for this post came from a very dear former colleague. She told me how much I will be missed at work and how great she thinks it is that I’m following my dreams even if I’m taking the long way round. She signed off the email with this song.

When is the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone and believed in yourself?

Linking up today with Kylie Purtell for IBOT.

53 comments on The long way round

  1. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    October 4, 2016 at 5:55 am (8 months ago)

    I think change is always a bit scary. I left my job of 8 years last year, and a friend sent me a message that said “jump and the net will appear.” The net ALWAYS appears, and I’m so pleased you had the courage to make the jump (size does not matter when it comes to jumps!) Here’s to you. Hope you have a great first day, I know you will ace the new place x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:27 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much for your ongoing support, Sammie xx

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  2. Bec Senyard
    October 4, 2016 at 6:22 am (8 months ago)

    I got teary reading this post Renee. I believe your best days are ahead of you and I feel so privileged to have been with you as you’ve travelled this road. You’re an amazing wife, mother and friend and while it may feel scary to have jumped, you can’t even contemplate the awesome things that will come your way because of it. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:28 am (8 months ago)

      Thank you so much, Bec. That is lovely xx

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  3. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    October 4, 2016 at 6:33 am (8 months ago)

    Every step is a step closer Renee. I must admit I was worried reading the first few lines of the post – you had me going there! But, I just know this decision will be right for you and your family. And I definitely know you will get where you are meant to be. Good luck in the new job xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:28 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks very much, Jodi xx

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  4. Deborah
    October 4, 2016 at 7:04 am (8 months ago)

    I attempted to make the leap into self employment but it didn’t really work out. But… what led me there was a similar realisation. I’d always been single, had been trying to get pregnant and not succeeding and my father passed away. I was in a fairly senior well-paying government job and in my early 40s. I realised THIS was to be my life forever and it wasn’t making me happy.

    I now work part-time and hope to only do so forever so I have more time to write and do the things I want to do.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:29 am (8 months ago)

      That sounds absolutely perfect, Deb. I’m glad you were able to come to that realisation and change your life for the better x

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  5. Deb @inner compass designs
    October 4, 2016 at 7:16 am (8 months ago)

    I wrote a post with the same song and theme a couple of years ago. The long way round is just fine- it allows for taking in the scenery, enjoying the journey and staying open to twists and turns that come up. Good luck with your new job (have you shared what type it is yet?) I am sure you will soar xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:44 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Deb. I’d love to read your post if you want to share the link here. The new job is in my same field of marketing and comms, but a big change nonetheless 🙂 xx

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  6. Jen Dev
    October 4, 2016 at 7:36 am (8 months ago)

    Good luck Renee! I’m sure you will have an amazing day. One step closer is one step further then yesterday ❤️

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:45 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Jen. That is very true. First day went well xx

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  7. Sare
    October 4, 2016 at 7:41 am (8 months ago)

    Good for you Renee.
    Best wishes for great success in your new career path.
    Change is scary but once you’ve made the decision to change and get settled into your new role, you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:45 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Sare. I have a feeling you might be right xx

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  8. Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    October 4, 2016 at 7:51 am (8 months ago)

    I think it’s brave and wonderful that you took some time out to focus on YOU. I hope you love the new job and I’m sure more exciting jumps are ahead for you! I love that song by the way! 🙂

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:46 am (8 months ago)

      It’s an awesome song, isn’t it?! Thanks for your support, Min x

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  9. Kerry
    October 4, 2016 at 7:51 am (8 months ago)

    Love you, will miss you, and good on you!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:46 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks lovely. Love and miss you too xx

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  10. Nicole @ The Builder's Wife
    October 4, 2016 at 7:58 am (8 months ago)

    I try to take at least a little leap each day. I am not one to enjoy the regularity of life,although I certainly love routine. I am in a season of stretching myself and expanding my horizons, not easy, but for me I feel it is necessary. Good luck with your new job! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:30 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Nicole! That sounds wonderful that you’re taking a little leap each day. Good on you! xx

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  11. Druimè
    October 4, 2016 at 8:13 am (8 months ago)

    So brave Renee, for following your instinct. It will all work out for you . I shall enjoy following your long way round journey. Have fun ! X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:31 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Druime x

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  12. Josefa
    October 4, 2016 at 8:32 am (8 months ago)

    HUGE and very scary step Renee, one most of us would shy away from making. Well done! Follow that intuition and keep sharing your story. You would be surprised how many of us lurk in the shadow of your words wishing we could do the same. There is something quite interesting about how we manage expectations and dreams in life, we encourage those we love, especially our children to spread their wings and fly no matter the cost. Yet we load ourselves up with limitations and rules that only apply to ourselves, because we are mothers, because we have a mortgage, because we are so lucky, because, because, because. I am in a very similar boat at the moment, took the leap into long-service leave and now I sit here facing what my heart wants and what my head says I should do….Good luck today Renee, can’t wait to hear more about your adventures. Hugs xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:32 am (8 months ago)

      Ahh Josefa. Congrats on the long service leave. That is an awesome decision and great move in the right direction. I placed too much pressure on myself while on leave to work it out then and there. I hope you can go a little easier on yourself and find the right next step for you. Good luck xx

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  13. Erika @ Ever-changing Life of a Mum
    October 4, 2016 at 8:50 am (8 months ago)

    Congratulations on your new job and taking a step in the right direction for you. I related to your post so much as more than two years ago I made a similar decision to leave behind my career to be with my family. It was a tough decision but the right one. If your follow your heart and your instincts it will always be the right one for you.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:33 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Erika. I’ve always enjoyed your posts about you leaving behind your career. It’s admirable and you’ve definitely been an influence in my decision making x

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  14. Alix
    October 4, 2016 at 9:35 am (8 months ago)

    Oh I love that song! And congratulations and good luck on your next chapter!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:34 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks very much, Alix 🙂

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  15. Emily
    October 4, 2016 at 10:36 am (8 months ago)

    LUUUUUUCK. I have faith in you and for you. x

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  16. Simone
    October 4, 2016 at 10:40 am (8 months ago)

    Good luck Renee!! You will be awesome! So proud of you for taking the leap and I know you won’t regret it for a second! Xo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:39 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks darling. I know your time is coming soon xx

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  17. Denyse
    October 4, 2016 at 12:22 pm (8 months ago)

    I am so pleased for you because this sounds just right! I honour your intuitive and brace decisions. I wish you well as always!! Big congrats for new job!! D xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:40 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks very much, Denyse xx

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  18. Denyse
    October 4, 2016 at 12:23 pm (8 months ago)

    *brave

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  19. Robyna | The Mummy & The Minx
    October 4, 2016 at 2:28 pm (8 months ago)

    Well done. If we don’t take risks, we never get to grow. I can imagine how terrifying making that decision was.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:40 am (8 months ago)

      Very true, Robyna. Thank you 🙂

      Reply
  20. Sarah @sarahdipity
    October 4, 2016 at 4:03 pm (8 months ago)

    Good on you! It can be really scary taking a leap, even a small one but it sounds like you’ve done the right thing! Here’s to an exciting future!

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  21. Zanni
    October 4, 2016 at 4:55 pm (8 months ago)

    So brave and exciting! Wow Renee. You will be amazing, you are so hard working inspired and focussed. Having been living the tenuous but certainly more fulfilling freelance life for a few years I highly recommend it! Xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:41 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Zanni. You’re an inspiration xx

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  22. Haidee@Maybe Baby Brothers
    October 4, 2016 at 5:59 pm (8 months ago)

    I’m so envious of you for taking the leap! I’m in the same job that I’ve been in for 15 years (yes, really!). I started when I was 19 and I’m still there … I guess the difference is that I really enjoy it and I can’t imagine another job I would enjoy so much and feel so relaxed and happy in but sometimes I do wonder if I’m just stuck in a comfort zone! Hope the first day went well!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 5, 2016 at 5:42 am (8 months ago)

      Haidee, that is amazing!!! I say stick with it if you love it. Good for you!!

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  23. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    October 4, 2016 at 6:16 pm (8 months ago)

    Good for you. You never know where it might lead xx

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  24. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    October 4, 2016 at 10:33 pm (8 months ago)

    Yay! Best of luck Renee – I just know you’ll do great things xx

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  25. Mandy @ Barbie Bieber and Beyond
    October 5, 2016 at 8:57 am (8 months ago)

    Good luck Renee. Sometimes we just have to take the leap and believe in ourselves. Listen to me! I need to take my own advice.

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  26. Ness
    October 5, 2016 at 9:21 am (8 months ago)

    Well done for making a change and going with your gut. Baby steps are better than no steps at all. I’m sure you’ll get to exactly where you want to be. Good luck!

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  27. Cat @ life through the haze
    October 5, 2016 at 10:18 am (8 months ago)

    Renee
    What a great post! How exciting for you (I always think change for other people is exciting just not little old me!)

    Long way, short way, doesn’t really matter which way you take if it is in the direction you want to go it is the right way. Sometimes the long way is better because we can see more, learn more and do more along the way.

    Congratulations on the new job and I know you will smash it out of the park. I hope it still leaves you time for blogging because I would miss you terribly if it didn’t!!

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  28. Janet
    October 5, 2016 at 8:54 pm (8 months ago)

    Nearly every day Renee – the joys of having my own business! I wish you all the best with your new role and finding what you love.

    Visiting from #teamIBOT x

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  29. Emily Toxward
    October 6, 2016 at 7:47 am (8 months ago)

    Sounds incredibly exciting Ren and you will not regret it for one minute. Sure it won’t always be smooth sailing and you will question your decision but it sounds like it’s the right one for you!!! YAY

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  30. Sam Stone
    October 15, 2016 at 5:10 pm (8 months ago)

    Wow Renee!! Congrats and good luck.
    It has been an she since I jumped, but I’m at a cross roads in my life and really need to!

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