Love actually

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Dave and I were just 23 when we met.

I was quick to fall for his crooked smile, gentle eyes and his ability to entertain me with his ‘shit talk’. Our relationship was intense for the first few months, as most relationships are in your early twenties.

Always the romantic, it didn’t take me long to believe that he was ‘the one’. You wouldn’t believe how shocked I was three months in when he told me he was moving overseas on a working holiday visa he’d arranged before we met. When he said goodbye to me with the words, ‘… ‘til next time,’ my friends were convinced the whirlwind romance was over and I’d never hear from him again.

I was left shattered, but hopeful that what I’d felt was real. If only I’d known Dave a little better at the time, I’d have known that there was no hidden meaning in those words. It was just Dave working things out in his own Dave time.

A move to the other side of the world didn’t stop our love for each other. Dave wooed me with poetry, sketches, and flowers on special occasions. We emailed almost every day and spent our money on ridiculously long phone calls.

A few months shy of a year across the world, Dave blindsided me again. He wanted to return to Australia to be with me. He came laden with gifts and a stronger love despite being apart from each other for the better part of a year.

Dave’s return to Australia before his visa expired and before he’d seen out the plans that led him overseas in the first place, was the greatest romantic gesture I’d ever experienced. Our love had grown while we were apart and he couldn’t bear to be away from me any longer. Be still my beating heart.

I pictured a life with Dave full of grand gestures, flowers, gifts and surprises. The move to Australia, however, was where the romantic gestures ended. Valentine’s Day went past with nary a card and more often than not he had to be reminded about birthdays. I used to worry that he just wasn’t that into me, but these days I’m older and wiser and much more realistic.

After experiencing 16 years together our love has shifted. It has deepened and strengthened as we’ve journeyed together through life’s ups and downs. I no longer pine for grand gestures (although the bike at Christmas completely blew me away). I see and feel the love on a daily basis and that’s all I could ever want or ask for.

I feel it when we wake in the morning with puffy eyes and morning breath and smile at each other.

I feel it when we lie in bed and cuddle close our bodies melding perfectly together.

I feel it when we stand united in raising our kids.

I feel it when he listens to my problems and is genuinely concerned.

I feel it when he tells me his problems and offloads what’s weighing on his mind.

I feel it when he wants to fix my or the girls’ problems.

I feel it when he walks through the door early after a day’s work, his eyes twinkling thrilled to have his three girls squealing with excitement, ‘Daddy’s home!’

I feel it when we laugh together.

I feel it when we cry together.

I feel it when we can’t stay mad at each other for more than five minutes.

I feel it when he makes light of my faults and even finds them endearing.

I feel it when we share our hopes and dreams for the future.

These are the things that matter. The cards and flowers and gifts are just icing on top. All I ask for this Valentine’s Day is a hug and a kiss and a cuddle on the couch, while we spend time simply enjoying each other.

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Are you a romantic at heart? Will you be spoilt this Valentine’s Day or will you be spoiling your loved one? Is Valentine’s Day just another day to you?

Linking up today with Kylie Purtell for IBOT.

34 comments on Love actually

  1. Natalie McNamara
    February 14, 2017 at 5:47 am (8 months ago)

    What a gorgeous story. I love to read a little romance and the fact that yours started off with a huge bump in the road but you managed to survive.. congrats for finding the perfect man for you. #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:03 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Natalie 🙂

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    February 14, 2017 at 5:51 am (8 months ago)

    That so lovely – thanks for sharing!

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  3. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    February 14, 2017 at 5:55 am (8 months ago)

    What a sweet love tale!
    Valentine’s Day comes and goes around here. Every day is a love day!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:04 am (8 months ago)

      Aww! I love that 🙂

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  4. Jodi Gibson
    February 14, 2017 at 6:06 am (8 months ago)

    Aw, this is such a beautiful story Renee. I agree, love isn’t grand gestures all the time, it’s the simple, everyday things you share. We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, but today we are spending it together – at a Guns N’ Roses concert – so romantic are we!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:07 am (8 months ago)

      Woohoo!! I hope you had fun 🙂

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:07 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Cate 🙂 I hope you had a nice evening too.

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  5. hugzilla
    February 14, 2017 at 6:33 am (8 months ago)

    OK, it’s official – you guys are the CUTEST THING EVER. This is like the exact total opposite of my courtship with the other half (and that for us is not a good thing LOL) but here we are a billion years later, in a very similar position to you guys. LOVE IS WEIRD.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:07 am (8 months ago)

      Lol!! It sure is 🙂

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  6. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    February 14, 2017 at 6:38 am (8 months ago)

    There’s a lot to love about this post! There will be no grand gestures here either but there will be big love just like every other day because we don’t believe to wait until Valentine’s Day to show and tell we love each other! Incidentally, this reminds me of my friend Sheila’s sage advice, that “everyone needs a good Dave.” Although she might have been biased, because she married a Dave too. Whatevs, it was the best advice she ever gave me! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:08 am (8 months ago)

      Lol. I love this! Everyone does need a good Dave 🙂 xx

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  7. Andrea
    February 14, 2017 at 7:36 am (8 months ago)

    Happy Valentines my lovelies, biggest love to you both xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:08 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks darling. Same to you guys xx

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  8. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    February 14, 2017 at 7:52 am (8 months ago)

    You guys!! Ugh, too adorable! We don’t do big presents and I’m working tonight but might leave the hubby a nice dinner yo reheat- true love, eh 😉

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:09 am (8 months ago)

      Lol. That is definitely true love in my husband’s eyes. Fortunately mum made his dinner last night 🙂

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  9. Deb @inner compass designs
    February 14, 2017 at 9:21 am (8 months ago)

    Love your love.

    Hubby is in sydney so we will exchange cards tonight. Usually that is our v day- he shows his love through writing lovely cards to me on all occasions. Grand gestures are not a thing for him and gifts only barely so… But I keep all my cards from the last 22 1/2 years

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:09 am (8 months ago)

      Awww that is so special!!!!

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  10. Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    February 14, 2017 at 9:47 am (8 months ago)

    Ahhhh such a lovely love story. Sounds like you got yourself a good one Renee! Happy Valentines Day – enjoy your cuddle on the couch! 🙂 xo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:09 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Min. I hope you got a cuddle too 🙂 x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:10 am (8 months ago)

      Thanks Nicole xx

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  11. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    February 14, 2017 at 12:41 pm (8 months ago)

    T is definitely not a romantic and almost always forgets about Valentine’s day until the night before. Today we will only see each other for about 2hrs before he goes to work so I’m not really expecting anything which is fine. The other day he did surprise me by buying me flowers after I had a huge hormonal meltdown {pregnancy joys} which was probably the most romantic thing he’s ever done!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:10 am (8 months ago)

      Aww that is really sweet and just when you needed it too!

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  12. Janet Camilleri aka Middle Aged Mama
    February 14, 2017 at 1:26 pm (8 months ago)

    Beautiful post Renee. I saw something on Facebook today that said every day is Valentine’s Day if you are in the right relationship. So true!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:11 am (8 months ago)

      It sure is!!! 🙂

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  13. Denyse Whelan Blogs
    February 14, 2017 at 3:55 pm (8 months ago)

    This was such a lovely and loving post. I hope Dave reads it! I love everything I read about you two and your family. Awesome people who are raising a family…much love to you! Denyse xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 15, 2017 at 6:11 am (8 months ago)

      Oh Denyse, you are so sweet. Thank you xxxx

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  14. Jacq
    February 14, 2017 at 5:13 pm (8 months ago)

    What a gorgeous story! I love happy endings. xx

    Jacq
    jacqwritesworld.com
    #ibot

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  15. Jo @ You had us at hello
    February 21, 2017 at 12:47 am (8 months ago)

    You guys are too cute!! Such a gorgeous love story 🙂 You must tell me more about not being mad at each other for more than 5 minutes – lol! It’s the rollercoaster of all best and crappy days that make being in love so awesome hey xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 22, 2017 at 5:44 am (8 months ago)

      That’s so true, Jo xx

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