Menopause at 38

‘Yep, those ovaries look like they’ve shut up shop,’ my gyno said to me matter-of-factly as she popped her head up from between my legs and snapped off her rubber glove.

I laughed.

It was a weird laugh – a kind of deranged, maniacal laugh that didn’t sound like me.

My gyno was attempting to lighten the mood and I tried to go with the flow and act nonchalant, but in reality I was freaking out in a big way.

Fifteen minutes earlier, I had entered her office for the first time armed with a referral and blood results. I’d had only one period in more than 12 months and my doctor suggested it was time we figured out what was going on.

Whispers of premature menopause had been thrown around over the past months and I did have a number of symptoms, but my doctor kept reassuring me that I was too young for menopause.

As I entered the gyno’s office yesterday though, I knew deep down what was wrong with me, I just hadn’t been ready to admit it until now.

Within seconds of me sitting down, she analysed my results and confidently, if not abruptly, declared that I was going through premature menopause and was almost, if not already, post menopausal.

Her words punched me square in the stomach. Premature menopause? Almost post menopausal? What, why, how?

There was no breaking it to me gently. These were the facts and she was delivering them to me.

I am 38 years old and I am going through menopause.

The next 45 minutes were a blur. I tried to take in as much information as I could, all the while I was digging my fingernails into my arm to keep my mind off the tears in my eyes that were threatening to spill over and drown me.

I returned to work after my appointment, but couldn’t face it or anyone. I was desperate to get home and digest the information I’d just been told and deal with it in the best way I could.

For me, this meant eating my weight in Nutella, while I cried over Ellen Degeneres giving some poor people gifts.

After my cry, I read the info the gyno gave me from front to back and back again – and highlighted it.

I have experienced nearly all of the symptoms I read about and I realised that there have been clues along the way for years, even back to when we did IVF more than five years ago.

I’ve been trying to wrap my head around why I’ve been so emotional in finding out that I’m going through menopause at 38. I think it’s largely because I hadn’t completely convinced myself that I didn’t want any more kids and because I now feel old before my time.

‘Poor old, Naisy. She was a looker in her day. Look at her now, the poor old bat, her little body is shriveling up before our eyes.’

Dramatic, yes. But hey, I’m going through menopause. I’m allowed to be, right?

I joked to my friend yesterday that perhaps when I start my hormone replacement therapy I will be less of a cranky bitch. One can only hope.

Seriously though, now that I’ve taken in the information, I must admit there is some relief.

Relief that I wasn’t imagining hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, irritability and many more delightful things. They were real and now we’re going to fix them.

The next step for me is to go on hormone replacement therapy. As I’m going through menopause 12 or more years earlier than the average woman, I am at greater risk of bone damage and heart disease.

Anyway, as Dave says in the only way he can – it is what it is.

I’ve had my cry and now it’s time to move on. I’m ready to tackle this head on and hopefully start to feel more like me very soon.

One thing I did do last night was hug my girls a little tighter. I’m so blessed to have those little darlings. Many women are not as fortunate as me.

Did you know that premature menopause is a lot more common than you think with about 1 in 100 women being affected? I’ve found a great resource on premature menopause if you’d like to have read.

Do you know anyone who has gone through premature menopause? Have you been through menopause? How did you cope? Are you feeling like a cranky bitch at the moment too?

Linking up today with Essentially Jess.

112 comments on Menopause at 38

  1. Zanni Louise
    August 25, 2015 at 6:45 am (2 years ago)

    Oh sweetie. That’s full on! but as always you tell the story so well. You are an amazing mumma with two amazing kids, and nothing will change that – xx

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  2. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    August 25, 2015 at 6:45 am (2 years ago)

    My mum went through it early due to needing a hysterectomy. Not fun. I hope it’s not too hard on you physically when you’re already having a hard time with the idea. I can understand why you’d feel upset- sending hugs xx

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    • Natalie @ our parallel connection
      August 25, 2015 at 11:09 am (2 years ago)

      This was the same with mum… I don’t recall her ever bring too cranky but I was a teenager and probably didn’t care ..

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:16 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Amy. I feel for your mum. It must have been hard to cope with at the time x

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  3. Caitlin
    August 25, 2015 at 6:54 am (2 years ago)

    Wow, Renee, what enormous need to accept, even if you had an inkling. Thank goodness you have two gorgeous girls, but I understand the little ache when accepting that your beautiful family is now complete.

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  4. Caitlin
    August 25, 2015 at 6:55 am (2 years ago)

    I ant news not need. I wish I proofread before pressing any buttons!

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  5. Susan
    August 25, 2015 at 6:58 am (2 years ago)

    Dear Renee- take it from an old bat- HRT is wonderful! it keeps your skin young, your heart and bones strong and who in their right mind will miss having a period???? That said, you will always be lovely and your two daughters are a blessing for you and your family. I promise it is a new dawn- no more night sweats- what a sweet thing!!!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:20 pm (2 years ago)

      Susan, thank you! You’ve made it sound really promising. Fingers crossed it does the trick for me!! x

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  6. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    August 25, 2015 at 7:01 am (2 years ago)

    My BFF went through an early menopause several years ago due to gynae problems followed by a hysterectomy.

    You’ve made me think , if being a “cranky bitch” is the main symptom I might be heading into menopause too! Possibly not premature however as I’m in my middish forties.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:23 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Well you never know, Ingrid. I hope you’re not for your sake.

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  7. Lydia C. Lee
    August 25, 2015 at 7:06 am (2 years ago)

    I got all teary over some really dumb things on the internet (like videos of the pinapple seller teaching her daughter to sell pineapples) so I went to the dr as clearly I was crazy hormonal but apparently I’m just old and hormonal….so I get that it must be depressing/distressing/confusing and whole lot of other stuff…My Journey are we there yet wrote a lot on the mood swings etc of menopause – maybe you could read some of that? (No helpful advice but thinking of you)

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:24 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Lydia, and I’ll definitely be in touch with Me My Journey. Thank you!

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  8. Bec @ Styled by Bec
    August 25, 2015 at 7:19 am (2 years ago)

    Aww Renee, darling, I just want to give you a big hug. That’s a big thing to find out. At least you know why you’ve been feeling weird for a while. I have no advice. Just hugs. xx

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  9. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    August 25, 2015 at 7:20 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, what a whole load to take in. I often laugh and say I’d love an early menopause – minus all the symptoms and side-effects of course. But in reality I don’t think it’s all that fun. Stay strong hun, you have two beautiful daughters and so much, sooo much, ahead of you. This is merely a bump in the road. x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:28 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Jodi. They say that sometimes if you go through premature or early menopause that the symptoms are less severe. I hate to imagine what severe would be like because what I’ve had so far isn’t great. Anyway, I do hear that some women get it a lot worse. Thanks for your kind words x

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  10. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    August 25, 2015 at 7:32 am (2 years ago)

    I just want to give you a big hug. What big news to have to deal with and I’m so proud of you for sharing what you are going through as I know it will help so many people xx

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  11. Me
    August 25, 2015 at 7:38 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee – please feel free to mail me if you want to chat about it. While I didn’t go through premature menopause, I am in menopause now so I know exactly what you are talking about. HRT – if you get the correct one – is the answer. Lots of hugs to you because it is a difficult time – my ear is always here for you !
    xox

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 26, 2015 at 10:31 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you so much! You are so kind. I will definitely be heading to your site to do some research as soon as I get a chance. Thank you xx

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  12. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    August 25, 2015 at 8:12 am (2 years ago)

    What a shock for you! Hugs. xx
    I have a bestie who is only 42 and feeling the signs already. I come from a family of late menopausers. My mother didn’t have hers until 60 and I may follow. The late bloomers have other risks such as cancers. I guess there’s no ideal time.
    Anyway, nature will take its course eventually for all of us. You’re not old at all by the way so don’t feel that for a minute okay! xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 6:57 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks Jody x Yes, it’s not pleasant whatever time you go through it x

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  13. Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    August 25, 2015 at 8:40 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee – what a shock for you! That is a lot to take on board at 38! It doesn’t mean you are old though! You will be AOK! I have heard of women as young as you (and some younger) going through premature menopause. I’m sitting here at 51 – with ALL the peri and/or menopausal symptoms (I don’t sleep well & yep I can be a cranky bitch!) still getting a period every 4 weeks on the dot. I want my periods to end because I’ve had enough. They suck the life out of me (in other words they have become so bad they are like an illness every month). Big hugs to you Renee – if I could take your menopause from you I would coz I’m ready for it! xo

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 6:59 am (2 years ago)

      Oh Min, you poor thing! I hope it hurries up for you, so you can get it over and done with. I think one of the good things of going through it early is the symptoms aren’t as bad. I feel for you. I hope it’s all over soon for you x

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  14. Kerry Thorburn
    August 25, 2015 at 8:56 am (2 years ago)

    Oh sweetheart I wish I was back at work to be there for you, that is such a tough emotional thing to deal with. I am glad you at least now know what you are dealing with, and that Dave is there to help support you through this. You are strong and will deal with this in the best way that you can, and when it gets tough give your gorgeous girls an extra big cuddle …and call me whenever you need to xxxxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 7:01 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much, darling. I suspected it a while ago, didn’t I?! It’s so good to know that I wasn’t imagining it. Now I can hopefully manage the symptoms a little better xx

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  15. Druimé@SnippetsandSpirits
    August 25, 2015 at 9:02 am (2 years ago)

    Us women must endure so much Renee. I can totally understand why you have been so upset. That’s huge news for you. I hope it’s not long until you find your groove again and return to feeling fabulous. Lots of love to you. Xxx

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  16. Zita
    August 25, 2015 at 9:21 am (2 years ago)

    I haven’t yet but I will… I was told at 33 that is go through menopause before I’m 40. With no boyfriend/potential husband in sight I decided to freeze some eggs just in case.. Now at 36 time is a ticking…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:47 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh Zita. You poor thing. I think that’s a great idea you froze some eggs. I really and truly wish the best for you x

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      • Zita
        August 31, 2015 at 10:25 am (2 years ago)

        Thanks Renee! Take care xo

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  17. Jen
    August 25, 2015 at 9:24 am (2 years ago)

    You have such a beautiful & brave spirit Renee – thank you for sharing. Sending love xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:47 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much for your support, Jen xx

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  18. Née Say
    August 25, 2015 at 9:26 am (2 years ago)

    Wow that is full on! It must be a relief to have some answers though & have an action plan. Feeling in control of the situation, and of your body, is a powerful thing. All the best x

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  19. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    August 25, 2015 at 10:13 am (2 years ago)

    First up massive big squishy hugs and a block of chocolate or two. Let’s just wallow in this for a bit. Because it sucks, it honestly does. But, yes there is a but, you are still awesome, you are a mum, you are a woman, you are strong and you no longer have to deal with periods! Woo hoo! I hope you start to feel better about it all soon. #TeamIBOT

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:50 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much for the pep talk, Malinda xx

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  20. Hugzilla
    August 25, 2015 at 11:06 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, I’m sorry to hear that. I’m the same age as you and can only imagine the shock of receiving that news. Big hugs to you x

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  21. Deborah
    August 25, 2015 at 11:06 am (2 years ago)

    Thanks so much for sharing this and sorry this has happened to you. I’m nearly a decade older and have been having symptoms for a few years now. My doctor is not even vaguely interested in alleviating any of them at the moment so I keep plodding along.

    I’m glad you’ve found a good resource however.

    xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:51 pm (2 years ago)

      Does not sound like fun at all, Deb. Maybe you should try a different doctor? Best of luck with it all.

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  22. Kelly
    August 25, 2015 at 11:07 am (2 years ago)

    Sorry to hear lovely. You probably don’t want sympathy, but it would be a hard to hear. Especially because you are so young. I have a friend that went through early menopause at the age of 33. She was lucky to have one child, but it’s nearly impossible for her to have another. I feel for you, but like you said, you are blessed to have two children. That’s the main thing :). xo

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:52 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s right, Kelly. And I’m so glad your friend was able to have one child.

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  23. Emily
    August 25, 2015 at 11:16 am (2 years ago)

    Thanks for your honesty. And humour! Hugs, Renee. I’m glad that you know. Good luck with HRT. x

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  24. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    August 25, 2015 at 11:31 am (2 years ago)

    Oh my goodness what a shock this must be. Your honesty is inspiring, thank you for sharing. Sending big hugs your way xxx

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  25. Kathy
    August 25, 2015 at 12:13 pm (2 years ago)

    Thinking of you Renee – this is such a big thing to deal with and you need more than nutella and hugs. Let yourself cry and feel that is is unfair, because it is. I hope you get all the best advice and info on HRT and other natural treatments that help you get through and stay happy and healthy. I so want to reach through this screen and give you the biggest hug. X

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:54 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh Kathy. You are such a good friend. Thank you. Hope to see you in the next couple of months for a real life hug xo

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  26. Simone
    August 25, 2015 at 1:17 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh my goodness Renee! So relieved you have found answers, and so sorry that you have to go through this at the same time! Well, one bright side…no more periods? When you are ready, be sure to have a look at natural HRT treaments and also how diet can help you with some of your symptoms. This news def does not make you any less of a woman and how good will it be to feel yourself again once you have started treatments!! Sending you massive hugs my darling xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoox

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:55 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks darling heart. I will definitely be in touch when things settle down for advice on natural treatments. Feeling a little overwhelmed with all of the info at the moment. Hope you and bub are well xo

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  27. Sarah @She Writes
    August 25, 2015 at 2:06 pm (2 years ago)

    That must have been a shock to actually hear those words from the gyno. You have a right to grieve that part of your life. It is hard to close a door and move on. At least now you know what you are dealing with you can deal with it in the appropriate way and hopefully be more comfortable and eleviate those symptoms!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 8:56 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Sarah. Yes, here’s hoping!

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  28. EssentiallyJess
    August 25, 2015 at 2:39 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh, Renee, I had no idea you were going through this. I’m so sorry.
    But yes, how blessed you are to have those girls.
    Also you’re not old, you don’t look old, and quite honestly, you could be on an ad for how good menopause can look. If there was an ad for that…

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  29. Vanessa
    August 25, 2015 at 2:50 pm (2 years ago)

    I sometimes wonder about GPs – they’re not very good at dealing with anything out of the ordinary – “you’re too young” but then the specialist knows right away…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:03 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I know. I was feeling the same way. Argh. Frustrating, isn’t it?!

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  30. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    August 25, 2015 at 3:20 pm (2 years ago)

    I know it runs in my friends family but so far she’s ok but we’re only 31 this year. I’ve been paranoid of this happening to me with all our fertility issues and the fact that my pcos already makes my periods all over the shop. I actually had the blood test done that counts the level of your eggs and apparently mine were ok but that was almost 3 years ago. Might get it done again soon {we’re probably headed down the fertility path again}. Cheer up mate, I know it sucks, but look at the silver lining – no periods!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:04 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Toni. Yes, definitely keep getting it checked to keep on top of it. I will keep my fingers crossed you don’t have to go down that path again.

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  31. Natalie Bartley
    August 25, 2015 at 5:03 pm (2 years ago)

    Sorry to hear that Renee. I’m discovering how complex our hormones can be. Your piece moved me to tears — beautifully written, thoughtfully expressed, bravely shared. I love how you said you’ve had your cry and now you’re moving on to solutions … how we think is very powerful in our health, so good on you. Lots of love to you. XX

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:06 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh Natalie. What a lovely comment! Thank you. Yes, us women have to deal with so much – it can be exhausting. Thanks again and I really hope all is well with you xo

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  32. Janet aka Middle Aged Mama
    August 25, 2015 at 5:06 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh wow … what a shock. I’m 48 and experiencing menopause symptoms, I was warned when I had my hysterectomy (but kept my ovaries) 3 years ago that it might trigger the change of life. The night sweats are horrible but if that’s all I have to deal with I’m pretty lucky really. I haven’t noticed the moodiness or anything else (yet!) though the hubster might say something different. It does feel weird to know that the child bearing part of your life is over … xxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:07 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it is a little weird. Night sweats are totally not cool at all. I hope your symptoms don’t hang around for too long and you can get off pretty lightly x

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  33. Mumma McD
    August 25, 2015 at 5:42 pm (2 years ago)

    Thanks for sharing your story Renee, I can only imagine what it was like for you in that Dr’s office. I had no idea premature menopause was as common as 1/100. I hope the HRT helps xx

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  34. Fiona
    August 25, 2015 at 5:51 pm (2 years ago)

    Firstly, THANK YOU! How difficult is it to find information on early menopause yet a support system despite the high numbers?! Having started menopause at 28, and therefore stopping any chance of having children, I went through the same reactions as you…cried for a good 24 hours and then contemplated being in a body that’s essentially 20 years older. After shitty advice from an old male overcharging physician, I have now found a doctor (still male) specialising in bio identical hormone replacement and it has been such a relief. Happy to chat further x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:10 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh my goodness, Fiona. I’m so glad you were able to find someone who could help. I can’t believe you were so young when all of this started. My heart goes out to you. I agree – the support system, at least what I’ve found so far, is near non-existent. Perhaps you and I should do something about that 🙂

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  35. Deb @inner compass designs
    August 25, 2015 at 6:00 pm (2 years ago)

    Big hugs lovely. My hormones are all over the place thanks to my thyroid. My mom had a hysterectomy so early menopause for her. I believe things have come a long way in 20-30 years thankfully. And lots of good info from your doc right? Yay for Nutella and Ellen to help us let out the emotions xxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:11 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Deb and sorry to hear about your hormones being all over the place. Not fun at all. I hope you’re managing it okay xx

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  36. Lara at This Charming Mum
    August 25, 2015 at 7:30 pm (2 years ago)

    Wow, Renee, well done for sharing your story here. Best wishes for the journey ahead and I really hope you find you’re less of a ‘cranky bitch’ now that you know exactly what’s going on and can seek some treatment. I’m just a cranky bitch with no excuse, lol! You sound as though you’ve had quite a roller coaster reaching this point. I’m glad your beautiful family is supporting you xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:12 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Lara and thanks for the laugh. Hopefully it’s the hormones causing me to be a cranky bitch and hopefully it’s not just my personality lol x

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  37. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side
    August 25, 2015 at 8:01 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh hon:( It’s hard to have that decision taken away from you, even if you would have made the same decision in the end. I hope the HRT helps xx

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  38. Neets
    August 25, 2015 at 9:39 pm (2 years ago)

    You beautiful soul you. Thank you for sharing this story. Early menopause has gone through all the girls in my family before 40 and this post has prompted me to be mindful of it. You hit the nail on the head when you said that you are so blessed to have your little darlings and you know what? They are equally as blessed to have an incredible mama in you. Big hugs xxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:16 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh Neets. Thank you. You’re always such a sweetheart. Yes, mine is a result of family history which I only found out about recently. If it runs in the family then definitely keep an eye on things and look for the signs xx

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  39. Lauren - Gold Coast Mum
    August 25, 2015 at 9:46 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh hon, I can’t imagine the emotions you’re experiencing.
    Thank you for sharing your story – it’s not something I’ve heard much about. And 38! – dayum you look good – I honestly thought you were around 30! 🙂 xx

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  40. Mandy, Barbie Bieber and Beyond
    August 25, 2015 at 10:20 pm (2 years ago)

    i have been flushing like made lately, so I feel your pain.. I’m 43 and my uterus shut up shop 7 years ago, so going through menopause doesn’t really worry me, I just wish it would hurry up!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:17 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, let’s get this show on the road and get it over with already!! 🙂

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  41. Mandy, Barbie Bieber and Beyond
    August 25, 2015 at 10:58 pm (2 years ago)

    wow,Renee!! What an awesome read! At 43 I’m starting to get some hot flushes and night sweats. With my child bearing years over I kind of wish it would hurry up! Although I think it will be a long ride. I wish you all the best xx

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  42. Sally@Toddlers on Tour
    August 25, 2015 at 11:07 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m 46 and have been having night sweats for the at least a year. For once I breezed through winter 🙂
    I certainly get my cranky pants days, and my cycle that was once like clock work is hit and miss.

    Try to look on the bright side Renne, you have your girls and with a year or so NO MORE PERIODS!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:19 pm (2 years ago)

      Woohoo! That is worth celebrating – if not a little weird though 🙂

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  43. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    August 26, 2015 at 12:54 am (2 years ago)

    Thanks so much for sharing this Renee in such an honest way but with your usual lovely warmth and humour (you’ll never be an old bat!). What huge news for you to take in. Sending you big hugs xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:20 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Tash. I really appreciate it x

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  44. Natasha Sones
    August 26, 2015 at 7:24 am (2 years ago)

    Thinking of you Renee. Great post xxx

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  45. KezUnprepared
    August 26, 2015 at 10:38 am (2 years ago)

    Wow, that would be a huge realisation to take in. I love how you’ve handled it, though. What a great attitude xo

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  46. Robyn
    August 26, 2015 at 11:11 am (2 years ago)

    Big hugs to you my lovely. That must have been such a huge thing to take on, and a bit shock too. I have a friend who found out that she had it when she couldn’t fall pregnant with number 2. I was a massive blow for her too and it took her a while to get her head around it. You are very lucky to have your two beautiful girls and I’m sure once the meds kick in you will be just fine too. xxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:21 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks for your lovely words, Robyn xx

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  47. Therese
    August 26, 2015 at 12:42 pm (2 years ago)

    Beautifully written, a friend once told me, you only have 2 hands, one beautiful girl for each hand, that’s all you need!! Thank you for sharing and enlightening us all. It was beautifully written. Good luck with the treatment. X

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:22 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh Therese! That is an absolutely lovely thing to say. Thank you xx

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  48. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    August 26, 2015 at 1:28 pm (2 years ago)

    Wow I didn’t realise that it was so common. I think Dave’s definitely got the right attitude. Life is what it is! And thankfully you’ve got the most gorgeous family and so many amazing wonderful things going on. xxxx

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  49. Dannielle
    August 26, 2015 at 11:45 pm (2 years ago)

    Renee you poor poppet, sending big fat happy hugs your way!
    I’m kind of at the opposite end of the spectrum (I think or maybe it’s my body starting to pre menopause malfunction?) I am getting that precious visiter ‘flow’ (that’s what we refer to that time of the month as in this house) every bloody 3 weeks!!! It’s driving me crazy, I feel like I blink and she’s back again! I did start to investigate things with GP but haven’t properly followed through. You’ve given me the kick in the bum I need to get back on it!
    I hope the meds start to get life more balanced for you again lovely, thinking of you xxxx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      August 27, 2015 at 9:24 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, probably a good idea to check it out. Mine were quite frequent like that a couple of years ago. We’re all so different though. It really is hard to tell. Sending love and hugs your way too x

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  50. Ellen @ Potential Psychology Blog
    August 29, 2015 at 2:09 pm (2 years ago)

    Hi Renee, thanks so much for writing about this. I’ve done a bit of research myself into perimenopause and menopause due to an array of peculiar symptoms and I’ve discovered just how little good research and understanding there is out there. Bizarre given that it’s something that every woman goes through. Best of luck with the HRT. I can understand your shock but I reckon you might now be done with the hard part. 🙂

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 3, 2015 at 6:57 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks Ellen. I sure hope so 🙂

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  51. Sonia Life Love Hiccups
    August 30, 2015 at 7:05 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh hun, that must have been such a shock for you, but regardless you are simply fabulous pre menopausal or post menopausal so dont you ever forget that OK xx

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  52. Maxabella
    September 1, 2015 at 1:35 pm (2 years ago)

    My heart goes out to you, Renee as I can imagine it’s a huge shock and adjustment – just… confronting I imagine. I have a good few friends who went into menopause early too. They do not look shrivelled in any way shape or form, I can assure you! You will be okay and just remember that this happens to the best of us. Look on the bright side – good bye cruel periods, you do not miss them!!! x

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 3, 2015 at 6:58 am (2 years ago)

      Yes, that is definitely a positive! Thanks Bron xx

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  53. patricia
    February 20, 2016 at 2:56 pm (1 year ago)

    I just turned 31 and found out a year ago that I was the same! Just posted my experience today actually. I have one little boy and it turns out that he was my blessing. I !myself am full blown. Best of luck

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