Mine – a lesson in sharing

trolley

See the sweet little princess shopping trolley above?

It is HOT property in our household at the moment.

For months it was left neglected and unloved gathering dust at the foot of the stairs, until out of the blue Miss Four decided she wanted to play with it again.

Watching Miss Four having a delightful game of going to the shops and buying groceries, Miss Almost Two decided she wanted in.

She wanted in so badly, she could taste it.

Not quite au fait with the rules of sharing, Miss Almost Two swooped in to hijack the trolley from her older sister, who was merrily caught up in her land of make believe.

Miss Almost Two’s hijacking was not a silent one. She went in with her voice escalating like that of an ambulance.

‘Mineeeeeee!’ she screeched.

You can imagine the outcome of said hijacking.

Caught off guard, Miss Four stood momentarily speechless as her little sister hightailed it with the goods.

Within seconds of Miss Four realising she’d been robbed, a hot pursuit ensued resulting in an upturned trolley and groceries strewn across the floor.

The girls moved faster than WWF fighters ready for a smack down as they got up into each other’s grills screaming, ‘MINE!’ and then ‘MUMMMMMMYYY!!!!’ while I attempted to break up the barney shouting, ‘Sharing, sharing, Jesus wept, will you just share?!’

As if trying to steal her own sister’s trolley wasn’t enough, Miss Almost Two added insult to injury in the heat of the moment and pinched her sister.

The trolley was confiscated and the girls had a time out.

On probation, I offered Miss Almost two a pram, which kind of looks like a trolley. Miss Almost Two met this offering with a look of great distaste.

After several repeat incidents, the girls are now content with taking turns playing shopper and shopkeeper.

I toyed with the idea of buying Miss Almost Two a shopping trolley of her own for her upcoming birthday, but I decided one’s enough. We can’t have two of everything in this house just so the other one doesn’t get upset.

They need to learn to share just like everyone else.

As I’m sure you’re all aware, it is one hard lesson for little kids to learn.

While Miss Four understands the concept of sharing and only needs to be reminded sometimes, Miss Almost Two has a long way to go.

I will never understand how a toy can be left unused for weeks and then as soon as someone starts playing with it the other child believes they can’t live without it and must play with it right that second. Right that second or their world will fall apart.

We are dealing with this on a daily basis, several times a day in this house at the moment.

I know it’s a developmental thing and Miss Almost Two will come to terms with it before long.

In the meantime, Miss Four and I are leading by example encouraging sharing and taking turns, praising each other for good sharing and explaining why we should share.

Funnily enough once they get past the initial struggle, they actually enjoy taking turns and making each other happy.

And while I can’t say we’re not going to have any more showdowns over the trolley, we’re making progress.

Do your kids fight over toys in your house? When did you kids learn the act of sharing? What’s hot property in your house at the moment?

Linking up today with My little sunshine house for Sunshine Sunday writing to the theme – Share.

11 comments on Mine – a lesson in sharing

  1. Lydia C. Lee
    October 12, 2014 at 6:13 am (3 years ago)

    The weird thing, sometimes they just want it cos the other kid has it. My youngest will want whatever her brother starts playing with, even though it’s sat ignored for years before that day…drives me nuts.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 12, 2014 at 8:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Yep, it’s pretty tiring isn’t it. I’m sure I was just the same when I was a kid 🙂

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  2. Tegan
    October 12, 2014 at 10:25 am (3 years ago)

    Mr 5 is an only child so he doesn’t have too many opportunities to share, at least not on a daily basis. When he has friends over he tends to be ok with sharing with his friend, but not so much if they have a younger brother or sister. I do wonder if it’s because he is a little bit older and he doesn’t want the younger child to break his toy. He is getting better at it though.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 12, 2014 at 8:08 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, possibly. I can completely understand him being cautious with his toys around younger kids.

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  3. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    October 12, 2014 at 3:49 pm (3 years ago)

    I actually remember scenes like this as my sister and I were growing up, Renee. They usually ended in happily playing together too x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 12, 2014 at 8:08 pm (3 years ago)

      I remember my sister used to always want to sit in the same seat as me at the dinner table. When I swapped seats, then she would want that one too lol! x

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  4. Dannielle
    October 12, 2014 at 4:32 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh yes we have fighting in this household too! This morning there was a little nip involved from one threenager to one 7 year old over the swings outside, we have 3 children and only 2 swings. We had tears from both sides as one 7 year old had taken it upon herself to smack (not very hard, no mark evident) her younger sister because she wouldn’t let her have a turn and little sister retaliated with fangs, which did leave a welt (a big, big no no in my books). When one of my children has ever bitten another child I have quickly given them a soft bite back just enough to catch them by surprise (I don’t do it to hurt them or leave a mark), it has worked each time so hopefully this household has now seen it’s last round of biting but I doubt it will be our last round of fighting!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 12, 2014 at 8:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh I hope so, Dannielle. I have heard of parents biting back to teach a lesson, but I’ve not tried it myself. The poor things. They can get so worked up over such little things – big things to them, I guess.

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  5. Zanni Louise
    October 12, 2014 at 7:53 pm (3 years ago)

    It’s exhausting, isn’t it? My two are pretty good at sharing most days…Elka only recently cottoned on to the fact that she had this one first rada rada. But I try to insist on them being generous with each other. Mostly turns out fairly well, but there are definitely some trying incidents! We had a low moment when a plastic doll arrived at our house, and suddenly became the focus of attention. Greg and I went to Big W and bought two identical plastic dolls to diffuse the situation. They were in vogue for about 5 min but apparently it’s a supply and demand thing, and all three plastic dolls were promptly forgotten. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 12, 2014 at 8:11 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol. Yes, I know what that’s like. Hot property one minute and long forgotten the next 🙂 x

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  6. Tonia Zemek
    June 19, 2015 at 6:02 pm (2 years ago)

    This is very sweet Renee, I love that you and your eldest are leading by example and teaching your youngest. On a side note, I’m intrigued by the fact the trolley suddenly became appealing after someone else showed an interest. I’m a grown up and I’m exactly the same. I never take an interest in reading the newspaper until I see someone else reading it!

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