Mission Me

A week ago, I gave myself a mission.

Mission Me, as I chose to accept it, involved doing something for me every single day for one week.

I’ve been feeling a little rundown lately and a little broken down by a demanding toddler and teething baby. I’ve noticed myself raising my voice to Curly-locks, and being whiney to Dave.

Whenever I feel like this, I know a little me time is all I need to get me back on track.

Me time is such an elusive thing when you’re a mum though. It’s so easy to charge through life letting your needs and wants fall to the wayside. Just like all of the other mums out there, I rarely have a minute to myself. Even my showers are in front of an audience – a baby looking for mischief, and a three-year-old heckling me about my little boobies and wobbly tummy.

It would be easy to forget about me and continue down the path I was going, but I wouldn’t be much fun to be around. Plus, I’ve recently had a nagging voice taunting me, ‘If you think you’re busy now, just wait until you go back to work’.

Ahh, returning to work. That old chestnut. Yet another reason last week’s mission was so important for me.

To help ease myself into this next stage of my life, I want to ensure I’m in the best emotional, mental and physical state as possible. (I know it sounds like I’m prepping for an ascent of Mt Everest … it feels like that some days πŸ˜‰ ) That’s why looking after me now is more important than ever.

Mission Me was a great experiment.

It gave me the time I needed to recharge and allowed me to get back on track to being the happy, healthy, and strong me I want to be.

Here are some of my highlights from last week:

I accepted help

If you’re anything like me, you want to do everything by yourself and to perfection. I have come to realise this isn’t a healthy way to live. So, when mum offered to take the girls for a day, I jumped at the chance. Instead of staying home to get on top of the housework, which was very tempting, I hit the shops enjoying my freedom and the chance to look at clothes that don’t have Dora or Peppa Pig on them.

I listened to my body

For a long time, my body has been saying, ‘Damn girl, you are tight’.

Not tight like the hot allegedly 34 plus women in skimpy bikinis doing head stands on the Facebook ads flooding my page recently, tight like my shoulders are up around my ears, my neck and back are full of knots, and I walk like an old lady.

Last week, I booked myself in for a remedial massage to address my aches and pains, particularly a nagging tail bone problem.

While there’s no easy fix to my injury, I’m content with the fact that I’m finally doing something about it.

I listened to my body some more

I spoke with a friend last week about ways to centre and calm myself in stressful situations. I have a slightly anxious personality and I thought arming myself with a few techniques to help keep me cool as a cucumber in times of stress definitely couldn’t hurt.

I rejoiced in the simple things

Of course the girls chose last week to get sick and have the cranks big time. I realised on days like these, I have to be content with the few minutes here and there that I can grab for myself. I realised that sometimes a few minutes is all I need. A little time for a cuppa, to sit in the sunshine, or to read a few pages of a book. The key, I’ve realised, is to take this time no matter how small it is and use it to recoup and recharge. Housework can wait. Trust me. My ironing is waiting for me right now.

I didn’t go out

Keeping it local last week took some pressure off. The girls and I enjoyed not having to rush off anywhere. We didn’t even go to our regular mummy and me dance class. The simple things entertained us – watering the veggie patch, chasing butterflies, teaching Smiley to crawl. Simple stuff. Easy stuff. The best kind of stuff.

I made time for Dave

Since becoming a mum, I’ve found I tend to focus nearly all of my energy on the girls. Second comes the housework, then comes Dave. Most evenings I’m exhausted, as is Dave after a long day at work. It’s nothing out of the ordinary for us to sit side by side on the couch, Dave watching a doco and me next to him with headphones on writing. We make a point of having at least one night a week where we switch off our distractions and focus on each other. Last Saturday night, it was as simple as having some takeout and wine and cuddling up watching a DVD.

I did limited housework

Doing a little less around the house gave me the extra time I needed for me. I found this particularly beneficial on the days the girls were out of sorts. While I would usually race around getting things done while they’re asleep, last week I used the time to recharge my batteries.

Last week was a great experiment for me.

It has taught me that my definition of me time has changed significantly since becoming a mum and that I’m cool with that. While I wouldn’t say no to a day of pampering at a day spa, these days I’m content with much less.

I also learned that me time doesn’t necessarily have to be alone time. Spending quality time with my girls and Dave makes me just as happy, if not more, as being on my own.

I learned that backing off a little on the housework and the things that have to be done won’t cause me to implode. Rather, it will give me the time I need to breathe and clear my head making it easier for me to be present with my loved ones and cherish what I have now in this moment of time.

How often do you take time out for yourself? Has me time changed for you over the years?

36 comments on Mission Me

  1. Andrea
    August 13, 2013 at 5:19 am (4 years ago)

    Me? Who’s that??

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 6:12 am (4 years ago)

      Lol. Hmmm this is not a good sign, Andrea πŸ˜‰

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  2. Andrea
    August 13, 2013 at 5:21 am (4 years ago)

    I like this edition very much. Inspires me to give it a go. xxxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 6:12 am (4 years ago)

      Yes, do it darling! We have to look after ourselves so we can look after our loved ones. Get your main man to look after the cute one and treat yourself to a few hours off xx

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  3. Lydia C. Lee
    August 13, 2013 at 6:46 am (4 years ago)

    I’m pretty good at it – but of course it tends to be once a week rather than every day – but I still aim to fit it in along the tracks – today is me day! Bookclub, then concert at the Opera House for the little miss (but really me) and then we might see if we can buy our lunch there – the I’m off to Blue Man Group! Fabbo-o dumplings at Din Tai Fung and messina lychee & coconut gelato for dessert (I love the casino food court – sensational!) So wasn’t meant to be day of me, just worked out that way!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:31 pm (4 years ago)

      Sounds sensational, Lydia. Enjoy!!

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  4. Deb @ home life simplified
    August 13, 2013 at 7:09 am (4 years ago)

    I take time daily, but know that when the girls were smaller it was less often or shorter blocks. I love this post and the lessons shared, will be sharing it later renee. What a week!!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:32 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Deb. I’m glad you enjoyed it πŸ™‚ I’m looking forward to when the girls are a little older and can play a little more independently. Then again I suppose when they’re older I’ll be missing these days πŸ™‚

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  5. hayley - happyhousewiifey
    August 13, 2013 at 7:24 am (4 years ago)

    What a great post. I’ve been trying to find some “me time” of late as well – can relate with so much of what you’ve said. It’s so difficult with young kids, yet so important to even just slow down the pace a bit for a while. The watering the veggie patch and chasing butterflies sounds lovely.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:33 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Hayley. I just read your post and you sure have your hands full πŸ˜‰ I hope you get a chance for some me time before the week is out πŸ™‚

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  6. Lynda - all about mama
    August 13, 2013 at 8:50 am (4 years ago)

    Great post Renee, can totally relate. I don’t get much me time but the occasional time I do I feel that I come back a much calmer, more patient, more loving mum. I think it’s really important.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:34 pm (4 years ago)

      So true, Lynda. We need to be a little selfish sometimes to be better wives and mums. Thanks for dropping in.

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  7. Bec | Mumma Tells
    August 13, 2013 at 11:29 am (4 years ago)

    Yes! Exactly this! “Me-time” comes in waves for me. I need to get better at recognising when it’s needed earlier… because I’m usually almost at the end of my tether before I organise some time for myself. Good on you for looking after you! X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:35 pm (4 years ago)

      So true, Bec. It’s often when I’m already at breaking point that I realise I need that time out. I hope you are getting some me time for you x

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  8. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    August 13, 2013 at 12:00 pm (4 years ago)

    Good on you! Me time is so important yet so hard to get for us Mums. I always try and get at least five minutes here and there and get some exercise in. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:36 pm (4 years ago)

      A good exercise sesh sure does wonders. I’m glad you’re looking after you especially considering how busy you are πŸ™‚

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  9. Kathy
    August 13, 2013 at 12:30 pm (4 years ago)

    Good on you Renee – sounds like an experiment worth repeating. I am doing hot yoga at the moment and that is really my main ME time, which is great. But I think you are right, it is the snatches in the sunshine, the extra book read to the kids and enjoyed rather than read as routine..these things make a difference.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 1:37 pm (4 years ago)

      They sure do, Kathy. I’ve always been interested in doing hot yoga. I might have to try it πŸ™‚

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  10. Tegan
    August 13, 2013 at 2:29 pm (4 years ago)

    Mr 4 is in daycare twice a week. I take these days to do whatever I want. I don’t place restraints on myself and do most things because I want to no because I have to. Somedays that is as simple as laying in bed reading a book and other times I go out to lunch with a friend.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 13, 2013 at 2:45 pm (4 years ago)

      Good on you, Tegan!! You’ve got it all worked out πŸ™‚

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  11. Emily @ Have a laugh on me
    August 13, 2013 at 3:22 pm (4 years ago)

    Good on you Renee, you’ll be a happier mumma for it I know! I had lunch out with the hubby today – it was bliss. Housework, Meh, just do it when it drives me mental. And I NEVER refuse help now, wish I realised this 2 children ago! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 6:34 am (4 years ago)

      Sounds like an awesome day, Em πŸ™‚

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  12. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    August 13, 2013 at 4:43 pm (4 years ago)

    Perfect Renee, so good to hear you’re looking after YOU! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 6:35 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Lisa πŸ™‚

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  13. Josefa @always Josefa
    August 13, 2013 at 5:38 pm (4 years ago)

    Doing less, sometimes means doing more. Your week sounds like ti went really well. Good on you. I love the going shopping one. I shop online, but gee it would be nice to wander aimlessly through some stores one day, all on my own x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 6:36 am (4 years ago)

      I never thought of it that way, Josefa. I’m a huge online shopper too, but it is nice to try before you buy sometimes πŸ™‚ x

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  14. Twitchy
    August 13, 2013 at 10:01 pm (4 years ago)

    I can manage almost anything after a decent night’s sleep. Sad thing is, it often doesn’t happen!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 6:36 am (4 years ago)

      Yes, that’s the problem isn’t it?! πŸ™‚

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  15. Zanni Louise
    August 14, 2013 at 6:54 am (4 years ago)

    Love this list Renee. Actually most of my life is like this list @especially housework) and I think it’s why I am thriving in motherhood so much. I don’t often have any official me time – actually never, but I spend every evening doing something creative or relaxing so I think that helps. πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 2:30 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s awesome, Zanni! I find having the creative outlet in the evenings really helps too. Hope the little one went well at daycare today πŸ™‚

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  16. iSophie
    August 14, 2013 at 5:20 pm (4 years ago)

    It is so easy to skip the me time isnt it! It is so important, even if (for me) it is just chilling and watching a trashy tv show at night. I -must- schedule some out and about me time too though. #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 14, 2013 at 9:01 pm (4 years ago)

      I love a good veg out sesh in front of the TV too Soph, but I think I enjoy a little more putting something on other than tracky dacks, brushing my hair, putting my face on and getting out in the world. Freedom πŸ˜‰

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  17. Elisa {With Grace & Eve}
    August 17, 2013 at 12:39 am (4 years ago)

    Fantastic post Renee. Me time has certainly changed since having kids for me! I took the abundance of me time prior for granted. Today I needed and was not going to get some time out to clear my head so we all heading to the beach – one of my fave places in winter and just as nourishing to be there with my girls. Thanks for your tips. I know this post will be on my mind for the next week xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 17, 2013 at 10:04 am (4 years ago)

      That’s great, Elisa! I’m glad you enjoyed it. I absolutely love the beach year round too. Enjoy your day and the chance to clear your mind x

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  18. Becky from BeckyandJames.com
    August 17, 2013 at 10:36 pm (4 years ago)

    Sometime ago I promised myself I would take more time for me but it all fell by the wayside not long after. I know I need it but I just can’t seem to get it together to have some. Love this post. Thanks for sharing.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 18, 2013 at 1:28 pm (4 years ago)

      And thanks for visiting πŸ™‚ I know it is so hard to find that balance. I hope you have a chance to get some this weekend πŸ™‚

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