In a name

Right up until the moment our obstetrician handed our newborn baby girl to me, I felt certain she was going to be a boy.

A boy named Finn.

A couple of years before we even thought about having kids, I’d heard the name and started crushing on it in a big way. I began to day dream about having a little boy named Finn. I’d think about holding him for the first time, what he would look like, and what sort of person he would become.

When we eventually fell pregnant, we decided not to find out the sex. For some reason though, everyone seemed to think I was having a boy. Having two psychics predict I was having a boy only fuelled the fire and people even started buying blue clothes.

I definitely had moments throughout my first pregnancy when I thought I may be having a girl. (The obstetrician calling it a little chick during a routine exam should have been a dead giveaway). These moments were often short lived though as I couldn’t shake Finn from my mind. The name seemed familiar and meant to be.

Unlike me, Dave didn’t seem to have any attachment to the name at all. In fact, he was far from keen on it. I had to work incredibly hard to sell the name to him finally wearing him down just days before our first was born.

On that warm Winter’s night when my waters broke, I couldn’t contain my excitement. It was time to meet Finn. You can imagine the look of surprise on my face when I was handed our precious darling of a little girl.

We were overjoyed. We hugged and kissed and cried together. A girl! A girl! She was the apple of our eye and for a while Finn was forgotten.

Pregnant the second time around, I was sure that now it was Finn’s turn. He was now ready to come into our lives.

On that sunshiny morning when we walked into the hospital to be induced we couldn’t wait to meet our little boy … or girl.

When we were handed our second precious darling of a daughter we once again shared tears of joy. Another girl. We were truly blessed. And again for awhile, Finn was forgotten.

When Smiley turned one late last year, I began to yearn for another baby, for Finn.

We have since decided that our life is next to perfect with our two beautiful daughters and we will not have any more kids.

This doesn’t stop me thinking about Finn though. The name appears in my head at the most random of times. Will someone named Finn enter my life at some stage and have some kind of major impact on me? Have we been connected in a past life?

It is difficult to explain this unusual feeling I have about Finn. I feel such a strong connection to that name that it leaves me wondering, can you miss someone you’ve never met?

Have you ever had this feeling, or am I sounding like a total nut job?

Linking up today with the very sunny Zanni from My little sunshine house writing to the prompt – In a name.

40 comments on In a name

  1. Erin
    February 2, 2014 at 5:41 am (3 years ago)

    Doesn’t sound like a nut job to me! Two possibles, you may yet change your mind on having another darling, has been known to happen;) or maybe you may get a son in law Finn in many years to come. My mum always loved the name David, wanted it for her sons, my Dad never agreed, one day I married a David;)

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 6:37 am (3 years ago)

      What a lovely story, Erin! Thank you for sharing. I love the name David too πŸ˜‰

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  2. Zanni Louise
    February 2, 2014 at 6:48 am (3 years ago)

    Isn’t that funny? I totally get this. I had such a strong connection to names like Lily and Evie…but when babies were born, the names had become so common, I didn’t want to use them any more. I love the name Finn….it’s so gorgeous.

    Funnily enough, I had every psychic in the area tell me I was having a boy too. Turns out they were all wrong! Thanks for linking up for Sunshine Sundays! xxxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 7:09 am (3 years ago)

      And thanks for another great theme! Oooh we liked Lily too, but with my husband’s kiwi accent it didn’t sound quite right πŸ˜‰

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  3. Kate
    February 2, 2014 at 6:49 am (3 years ago)

    I loved reading this. I thought I knew you had two girls as I went along, but this kept me wondering, on the edge of my seat thinking ‘when does Finn come into this?’ … certainly not a nut job. It must have been such a surprise each time. Hope to one day read about ‘Finn’, whoever he may be…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 7:10 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Kate! I can’t help be a little excited πŸ™‚

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  4. Erin@TheMumsGroup
    February 2, 2014 at 6:53 am (3 years ago)

    It’s not crazy at all! I was convinced my second born would be a girl, and we had one very strong contender for a name, but when he was born I was still just as overjoyed that he was in fact another boy. Now pregnant with number 3, my girl’s name remains in my mind, only to find out my brother in law and his girlfriend have put ‘dibs’ on it. It’s a whole other can of worms, but I can’t let go of my sentimental attachment to it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 7:11 am (3 years ago)

      Oh buggar! That is a can of worms. You have to just go with it. If that name is in your heart, you will regret it if you don’t use it. Good luck πŸ™‚

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      • Erin
        February 2, 2014 at 10:26 am (3 years ago)

        Suggesting you could still use it. My brother is Dominic and so is our son, and there is only 7 yrs between them. Afterall I suggested to my mum she called my brother Dominic, but still loved it so much I used it again for my son:)

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        • mummywifeme
          mummywifeme
          February 2, 2014 at 2:27 pm (3 years ago)

          That is really lovely, Erin. That name may end up becoming a bit of a tradition in your family down the line πŸ™‚

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  5. Bec | Mumma Tells
    February 2, 2014 at 6:55 am (3 years ago)

    I’ve had a boys name since before Big was in my belly… amd I too have thought I would use it – especially second time around because I “knew” Tiny was a boy. Ha! You’re definitely not alone in this. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 7:12 am (3 years ago)

      Lol. Good to know, Bec. Isn’t it funny how you get an inkling, like some sort of mother’s intuition and then you’re completely off the mark?! x

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  6. Samantha Turnbull
    February 2, 2014 at 7:06 am (3 years ago)

    Not crazy. I have met so many Fins this year though! The longer versions have ranged from Finnigan to Finnian to Finlay. Fins and Archies seem to surround us!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 7:13 am (3 years ago)

      Oh my goodness, Samantha! I have met not one. Maybe I need to head to your end of town πŸ™‚

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  7. Shelley @ Money Mummy
    February 2, 2014 at 7:09 am (3 years ago)

    Yes it is funny how you get convinced of certain things only for the universe to give your something completely different. I was convinced my girl was a boy there for a while – picked out a stack of boys names and 1 girl one which turned out to be her name….

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 2:26 pm (3 years ago)

      Aw lovely, Shelley. Yep, the mind is a powerful thing. That’s for sure!

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  8. Pip
    February 2, 2014 at 8:04 am (3 years ago)

    Names conjure up such emotion don’t they! Finn is absolutely one of my all time faves, though I do know so many who chose it, for a good reason…there’s always puppy dogs who need naming πŸ™‚ I used my fave Charlie name up on a memorable Jack Russel ! Great story x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 2:23 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Pip! Oh yeah. I didn’t think of that. Finn would make a cool name for a puppy πŸ™‚ x

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  9. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    February 2, 2014 at 10:46 am (3 years ago)

    That’s a pretty strong connection you have to the name, Renee! I hope I’m around when you do find out exactly how you and Finn are connected. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lisa πŸ™‚ xx

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  10. Alicia - One Mother Hen
    February 2, 2014 at 12:05 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow that is really weird, I am so intrigued at how Finn figures in your life. I have a Finn in my first mothers group πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, it is a little strange isn’t it?! Lol. We’ll see what the future holds πŸ™‚

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  11. Toni
    February 2, 2014 at 2:45 pm (3 years ago)

    I love the name Finn. I always felt a connection to Ariana for some reason and even though we had a girl, Trent was adamant on what her name would be, so I’m still waiting on little Ariana to come into my life.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 9:18 pm (3 years ago)

      Maybe your next one, Toni. It is such a lovely name. I haven’t heard of it before.

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  12. Emma Fahy Davis
    February 2, 2014 at 8:42 pm (3 years ago)

    I think Finn will come to you some time in the future, maybe not as a child but as someone whose path you cross and you suddenly realise what it meant all these years. But then I’m a bit crazy like that too πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 9:19 pm (3 years ago)

      Glad I’m not the only one, Emma. Yes, I think it will something some time way into the future πŸ™‚

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  13. Bec @ The Plumbette
    February 2, 2014 at 8:48 pm (3 years ago)

    Have a surprise like me by having number three…. πŸ™‚
    I had friends that called their daughter Finn. I was told it is a unisex name.
    It’s not a name that I would use myself but it certainly is growing in popularity. I don’t have any connections to any names. I will need help naming my third. I have to admit, being a mum to two girls is pretty awesome. I love it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 2, 2014 at 9:20 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s the best isn’t it?! And I have to say I do love the names you chose for your girls. I love those elegant old fashioned names. It’s interesting to have a girl named Finn. I’d never even thought of that!!

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  14. SarahD @SnippetsandSpirits
    February 2, 2014 at 10:23 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow Finn is a pretty special name Renee. Finn MacCoul, Finn meaning “Blond” was a warrior in Ireland he became the leader of the Fianna a band or warriors who protected the people. Maybe the warrior will come into your life in some way shape or form. I love that you have a connection to this name perhaps you were Finn’s mum in a past life in Ireland ! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 3, 2014 at 6:09 am (3 years ago)

      Yes maybe. I would LOVE to know! Thanks for the great history of the name. I remember using this to sell it to my husband πŸ˜‰

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  15. Tegan
    February 3, 2014 at 12:45 am (3 years ago)

    Definitely not a nut job! I have heard before of people feeling a connection to a name before, but I haven’t personally felt it. I found out the sex when I was pregnant with Mr 4 but a lot of people were convinced that I was having a girl. It’s funny hearing all of the wives tales that people have about how to tell the sex of a baby.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 3, 2014 at 6:10 am (3 years ago)

      Yes I know πŸ™‚ We tried them all including the ring on the end of a piece of string πŸ™‚

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  16. Me
    February 3, 2014 at 12:30 pm (3 years ago)

    I know you a little bit and I definitely don’t think you are a nut job – no matter what importance you place on a name !!! I think you will find someone will come into your life called Finn and you will see why you had such an attraction to the name.
    Have the best week !
    Me

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 3, 2014 at 8:33 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks Linda πŸ™‚ I will definitely keep you posted if anything happens πŸ™‚ Have a great week too!

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  17. Rachael @ mummyflyingsolo
    February 4, 2014 at 2:21 pm (3 years ago)

    Not long after these stories I usually hear about a whoopsie! If Finn feels the need to be here he will come to you πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 4, 2014 at 9:32 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol Rachael! Well you never know I guess πŸ™‚

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  18. Grace
    February 4, 2014 at 7:27 pm (3 years ago)

    Finn is a great name. I don’t think you’re being a nut job. It’s about the future dreams you have for your family. And that’s beautiful x

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  19. Lara @ This Charming Mum
    February 5, 2014 at 2:03 pm (3 years ago)

    Gosh, how interesting. Have you ever looked into your family tree to see if there’s any connection with the name? I was always convinced I would have two girls. I even saw a psychic once who confirmed it (so it must have been true…). When I actually had my two girls, all those ‘gut feelings’ were validated. Everything felt finished. And then, BAM, along came our son! A wonderful but completely unplanned surprise and I simply can’t imagine our family any other way now. Not that I’m saying you should have another child of course! But I just mean that it’s funny how our heads can convince us of something when the universe has other plans.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 5, 2014 at 8:39 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, it’s really interesting isn’t it!! I haven’t actually checked the family tree. That’s a brilliant idea. Thank you!

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