Our little old soul

‘She’s been here before, that one,’ remarked the stranger with a knowing smile as she watched my 10-month-old bouncing in the shopping trolley performing to her crowd.

This wasn’t the first time I’ve heard this remark and I’m sure it won’t be the last.

I don’t know what it is about baby Smiley. She seems to intrigue people.

DSCF0406Perhaps it’s in the way she surveys a person when she first meets them. She momentarily stops bouncing, squealing, or babbling to look into their eyes, seemingly assessing them. Once she decides she approves, which she always does, she returns to entertaining her adoring fans with a smile that just won’t quit.

Perhaps it’s because she’s a content bub, for the most part. She’s comfortable in her surroundings and in herself. She doesn’t demand attention. She’ll happily sit on the lounge room floor pulling toy after toy out of her toy box. If she discovers one of her favourites, Big Ted, Upsy Daisy, or a pink whale, she’ll give them a hug like she’s greeting a long lost friend. She’ll put her whole body into the hug. She’ll lean forward babbling softly with her head to one side as she squeezes the insides out of the toy. If she catches you watching, she’ll give you the cutest, wettest smile you ever will see.

Perhaps it’s in how alert she is. Always listening, observing, and mimicking what her older sister does. She follows people with her eyes. You can’t get away with anything with her.

Perhaps it’s her eagerness to engage with people. She loves to entertain, waving to herself, clapping, growling like a bear, trumpeting like an elephant, or simply getting her groove on to Justine Clarke waving her hands in the air like she just don’t care.

Perhaps it’s the handful of comments about Smiley being an old soul that now has us intrigued. Part of me dismisses the comments simply as something people sometimes say about babies, the other part of me finds myself watching her, wondering.

When I hold her in my arms at bedtime swaying from side to side singing a lullaby, she will more often than not reach up to touch my face with her short, clumsy fingers and look into my eyes. These flickering moments, these connections, the feeling of familiarity leaves me wondering.

smiley_oldsoulShe fits so well into our family. It’s as if she has always been here.

Maybe she is an old soul. Maybe she has been here many times before.

Whatever her story is, has been, or will be, we’re just glad she chose us as her family.

What’s the strangest thing someone has said to you about your baby?

42 comments on Our little old soul

  1. Zanni Louise
    August 20, 2013 at 6:44 am (4 years ago)

    Gorgeous. I know this one. I secretly felt both my girls were old souls. They seem so onto it! And sometimes my older daughter comes out with “knowingness” that blows your mind. Like, she told me, and a few other people, they were pregnant before they had any idea themselves!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:08 pm (4 years ago)

      Wow! That sort of stuff really does blow your mind!

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  2. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    August 20, 2013 at 6:48 am (4 years ago)

    What a beautiful post about your beautiful little girl! I have been told by a few people that my son is “an old soul” and more recently that my niece is, too. I babysit her one day a week and people can’t get enough of her. I love that the idea that our kids choose us. I also feel like Nick has always been with me, my whole life, not just 5 short (but quick!) years. x Aroha

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:09 pm (4 years ago)

      Wow. That’s so interesting you feel Nick has been with you your whole life. So spooky, but fascinating at the same time πŸ™‚

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  3. Lydia C. Lee
    August 20, 2013 at 7:07 am (4 years ago)

    My eldest was often referred to as a 30 year old man trapped in a 3 year olds body by people at his daycare. Hopefully it holds him well…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:10 pm (4 years ago)

      I’m sure it will, Lydia! πŸ™‚

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  4. Kathy
    August 20, 2013 at 7:34 am (4 years ago)

    I’m with Aroha in thinking that our kids choose us and also that they have a universal wisdom that shines through before life makes them smart, but less wise. Hold onto the soulfulness in your little contented bub as long as you can.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:10 pm (4 years ago)

      I sure will, Kathy πŸ™‚

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  5. Fiona
    August 20, 2013 at 9:05 am (4 years ago)

    From the moment she was born we we’re told this about our girl Imogen, her smile lightened the room and she then captured everyones attention. I still believe our little old soul knew that she didn’t have long here with us, her zest for life and her hurry to do everything early, quicker then everyone spoke volumes. Thank you for reminding me of my little old soul x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:11 pm (4 years ago)

      Aww bless. Thank you, Fiona. I’m glad this brought you happy memories of your little girl x

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  6. Author Bek Mugridge (@bekmugridge)
    August 20, 2013 at 10:30 am (4 years ago)

    This is just gorgeous.
    My oldest has always felt like a a very young soul to us, people always comment on how full of wonder she is, how much she marvels over every little thing around her to the point of being almost away with the fairies! And yet my youngest seems to look at the world with old, wise much quieter eyes, it makes for a lovely combination XX

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh, I bet it does!! How sweet that she seems to be away with the fairies. They both sound gorgeous x

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  7. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    August 20, 2013 at 10:49 am (4 years ago)

    Renee, your girls are so lucky to have your writing to look back on over the years.
    It sounds like Smiley is so content in her world, and living in every minute.
    Bell has often said things to us that make you think she’s been on this ride before, so glad she decided we were the perfect parents for her. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:13 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s lovely, Lisa. Yes, hopefully the girls will enjoy looking back on my writing and won’t say, ‘OMG mum, I can’t believe you wrote that about me!’ Lol πŸ™‚

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  8. Simone
    August 20, 2013 at 11:12 am (4 years ago)

    Love reading all this about Smiley. She certainly is adorable! I believe we all choose our families, for the lessons we will learn by being with them and for what they will teach us. Apparently people used to say I was an old soul when I was a baby, but perhaps we are all old souls living in these human bodies for this lifetime for whatever it is we need to glean and give.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:15 pm (4 years ago)

      Really interesting, Sim. I love thinking about all of this sort of stuff. Who we were in our past lives and how our past lives are affecting us now in this life.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:15 pm (4 years ago)

      Maybe, Jodi πŸ™‚ It’s fun thinking about it πŸ™‚

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  9. Bec | Mumma Tells
    August 20, 2013 at 12:42 pm (4 years ago)

    What a special Little Miss you have. I, too, believe that these little souls choose their families. And isn’t it funny that once they are here, you just can’t fathom life without them? A gorgeous post, Renee. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:16 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Bec. Yes, we sure are lucky to have this little one πŸ™‚ x

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  10. Sam Stone
    August 20, 2013 at 12:57 pm (4 years ago)

    So many people have said that our 7 month old little man has been here before. He sounds very similar to Smiley.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 1:16 pm (4 years ago)

      At first I thought it was an odd thing to say, but now I love it πŸ™‚

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  11. dad down under
    August 20, 2013 at 2:27 pm (4 years ago)

    its amazing isn’t it how early on you can spot the personality traits that seem to be so firmly embedded. She sounds like a little character Renee

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 2:39 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah it really is amazing. It’s especially amazing how siblings growing up in the same family with the same parents can be so different. Thanks for dropping by πŸ™‚

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  12. EssentiallyJess
    August 20, 2013 at 2:43 pm (4 years ago)

    I had two that were always spoken of like that. And the youngest, I remembered being surprised when she first looked at me, because her expression was ‘oh, there you are,’ like she had been looking for me, and I wasn’t new or strange at all.
    Never forget that moment, or all the first gazes of my babies

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 8:10 pm (4 years ago)

      What a lovely story! I’ll never forget those first gazes either πŸ™‚

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  13. Mamagoingsolo
    August 20, 2013 at 4:53 pm (4 years ago)

    This is lovely – I see the same things in my little one as well – who knows what the truth might be? Strangers tend to say of mine though, “she’s plotting mischief, that one!”

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 8:10 pm (4 years ago)

      Haha yes! I also get that with this one πŸ™‚

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  14. Josefa @always Josefa
    August 20, 2013 at 6:07 pm (4 years ago)

    So many things here I can relate to. So many people say that my eldest son is an old soul. I truly believe that we all have been here before, Souls over many different lifetimes. I also believe that little babies choose who they are born into, so I am forever grateful that my boys chose our family. Love the moment when you are swaying her to sleep in your arms. Treasure such precious moments x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 8:14 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Josefa, I will! I find the idea of us all having been here before so interesting. I could chat about this all day x

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  15. Emily @ Have a laugh on me
    August 20, 2013 at 7:17 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m sure our youngest has been here before, in saying that I felt my second born was born wise, intelligent and knowing, which is why I think he is so sensitive and feels more. Those baby years seem so far way but they really weren’t πŸ™ xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 8:15 pm (4 years ago)

      I’m feeling the baby years are slipping away fast for me too πŸ™ It’s amazing how they all have their own individuality and their personalities are evident from the get go x

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  16. Jodie@FreshHomeCook
    August 20, 2013 at 8:14 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh gorgeous bubba! It is an amazing thing to see them look into you & through you even when so young. I definitely think my kids are old souls. Lovely to hear a little about Smiley! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 9:51 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Jodie. Yes, it’s just amazing when you both connect. Beautiful! I want to bottle that feeling πŸ™‚

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  17. Grace
    August 20, 2013 at 8:21 pm (4 years ago)

    I definitely think that there are babies who are “old souls” Especially when they seem so content and chilled. She is a little cutie patootie.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 20, 2013 at 9:08 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks πŸ™‚

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  18. Emma @ Five Degrees of Chaos
    August 20, 2013 at 10:29 pm (4 years ago)

    Your Smiley sounds a lot like my youngest, she is another old soul I think. She’s such a chilled out, contented little person too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 21, 2013 at 9:17 am (4 years ago)

      Aww that’s lovely, Emma πŸ™‚

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  19. Pip
    August 20, 2013 at 10:33 pm (4 years ago)

    I like this saying. My little one often has this said about her by close friends. One mate has this theory that older parents produce little babies with older souls (correct in my case, not yours). I like this saying as well as I feel it hints at a soul coming through in a baby that carries a lot importance. I think it’s the intense look they sometimes have, or maybe the faraway glances. Whatever trait triggers the response. I love it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 21, 2013 at 9:19 am (4 years ago)

      That is a really interesting theory. Could be something to it. Yes, I love how intense she can be sometimes and then off she goes to being her lively self πŸ™‚

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  20. Chantel
    August 21, 2013 at 12:57 am (4 years ago)

    I haves 3 yr old with an old soul – he is wise beyond his years and his level of empathy surprises me – I really hope it survives teenage hormones πŸ™‚

    Hello from #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      August 21, 2013 at 8:16 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol! I hope it does too πŸ™‚

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