The pants wetters club

Disclaimer #1: This post is deeply personal. I have been deliberating over writing it or not, but decided that there are women who would benefit from hearing my story.

Disclaimer #2: If you’re male, or know me in real life, or ever want to look me in the eye again, you may not want to read this post.

I was on the way to work when it happened.

I wasn’t running, jumping, coughing or sneezing. I was simply walking, when all of a sudden I wet my pants.

It wasn’t a little trickle. It was … a lot. Prior to it happening, I didn’t even have the urge to go to the toilet. It came completely out of the blue.

Since having my two daughters, I’ve been no stranger to minor leakage. I’ve brushed it aside not wanting to deal with the issue which, let’s face it, is embarrassing.

When I was forced to buy a new pair of undies before work that morning, I decided it was time to stop ignoring things.

While it started off as a little problem, it has gradually become more, and without warning.

As I don’t want to be wearing adult nappies by the age of forty, I decided it was time to get serious and see a specialist.

My initial appointment involved a chat about the problems I was experiencing. I revealed to her that I had minor leakage when playing netball even before I had kids.

I told her that I had done pelvic floor exercises (halfheartedly) while pregnant, but now had no feeling down there and just stopped bothering.

Once I revealed all, the specialist gave me an in depth lesson about the pelvic floor and pelvic floor dysfunction.

After the ‘why I wet my pants’ 101 was out of the way, I had an internal exam.

The exam revealed to me what I’ve known deep down since giving birth to my first.

I have prolapse and nerve damage.

After my first was born four years ago, I had a weird falling out feeling, kind of like a tampon becoming dislodged.

I was so scared and embarrassed at the time that I only revealed it to a physio, who was treating me for a separation in my stomach, in the last two minutes of my appointment.

I was given some exercises and recommended pilates, but with a newborn baby I didn’t have time to go to pilates or think about pelvic floor exercises. I could barely remember my own name.

My new specialist and I have discussed surgery, but we’ve decided to hold off for now.

I’ve promised to be vigilant with my exercises and take it from there.

To be honest, I wasn’t hopeful when I left the specialist.

It’s scary to know that my insides are caving in and falling out and I’m only in my thirties.

Seeing a specialist is the best thing I could have done. It’s been a wake up call that things are serious.

Since my initial appointment, I have been doing the following:

Pelvic floor exercises … and then some

My specialist trained me how to do pelvic floor exercises properly. I found it difficult at first seeing I have limited feeling down there. The first hundred or so times I nearly went blue trying to engage the right muscles. I did about 90 exercises a day in various positions as prescribed. I did them even though I felt nothing. And then one day, I felt something. It was a very slight sensation, but it was something.

Bracing

Every time I lift one of my children, cough, sneeze or exercise, I brace. I engage my pelvic floor muscles to ensure as little pressure is placed on my pelvic floor as possible. Apparently this is meant to be an automatic thing, but I am having to retrain myself.

Bladder position

Did you know there’s a correct way to sit on the toilet? It’s all about leaning forward with your hands on your knees and relaxing your stomach to take pressure off the pelvic floor.

Exercise

Sadly, I have had to cut loose the high impact exercise videos I was having so much fun with. I cannot afford to have pressure on my pelvic floor. I need to stick to low impact exercise, no planks and no sit ups. Swimming and walking are best for me.

Six weeks after my initial appointment, I returned to the specialist.

I was told that I had an ‘amazing improvement’.

I couldn’t believe it. While my prolapse can’t be fixed without surgery, I can reduce the symptoms.

I was given a range of other ideas to help me and I now have a more positive attitude about things.

I urge you, if you have experienced any of the above, to see a specialist. You may think you’re beyond help, but trust me, these specialists can work magic.

If you need to chat to someone about it, I am more than happy to help. I’ve even thought of starting up a support group – the pants wetters club. What do you think?

I told Dave about the club and it highly amused him.

‘What would you do at each meeting?’ he joked.

‘Sit around and wet your pants?

‘What happens at the AGM?’

He went on and on with his stand up act until … you guessed it …

pee-pants-meme

Have you battled with pelvic floor issues? Have you sought professional help?

Linking up today with EssentiallyJess for IBOT.

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79 comments on The pants wetters club

  1. Susan Tyler
    October 14, 2014 at 5:40 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee- you did pay a price for such beautiful girls! And I really admire your dedication to the exercises- hope it all gets better! And of course Dave would make you laugh until the ole female parts start to leak!!!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 12:55 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Susan. Yes, he’s an absolute stirrer as you know! πŸ™‚

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    October 14, 2014 at 5:49 am (2 years ago)

    I love Disclaimer 2 by the way….I think it’s so unfair that we go thru all the childbirth stuff and this is what we end up with (oh, and the children, but the dad’s get those too and all they have to do is have a night of fun).
    Important issue and good for you for raising awareness…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 12:55 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol! Thanks Lydia. Yes, it doesn’t quite seem fair :/

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  3. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    October 14, 2014 at 6:16 am (2 years ago)

    I’m glad you have seen some improvement already Renee – let’s face it you always excel at everything you do so why would it be any different when it comes to your pelvic floor exercises πŸ˜‰ Thank you for being brave and bringing awareness to this issue, it’s one many women (including myself) struggle with and have no idea what’s normal/where to start looking for help. You are one inspiring (and lovely) lady xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 12:57 pm (2 years ago)

      Lauren, you are too kind. THANK YOU! I think that’s the thing that alot of women struggle with – what is normal? I had no idea there are pelvic floor specialists out there, but there is plenty of support if you know where to look xx

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  4. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    October 14, 2014 at 6:35 am (2 years ago)

    I could have written this – as you know I’m not shy about writing about my issues, which sound very similar to yours, 3 kids in 3.5 years pretty much broke me, in all ways. But yes with exercises, help things are on the upper. YAY for no surgery, when I did research about it I was FREAKED. Well done for spreading the word more… xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:15 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Em. I can imagine three kids in 3.5 years would definitely take its toll on your body. Keep doing those exercises xx

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  5. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side of Parenting
    October 14, 2014 at 6:36 am (2 years ago)

    I’m so glad you’ve had improvement. That must have been awful! And well done for writing about it. If bloggers don’t talk about it, who will?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:15 pm (2 years ago)

      That’s right, Bec. I thought I may as well throw it out there and hope that it helps at least a few.

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  6. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    October 14, 2014 at 7:11 am (2 years ago)

    You’ve so got this. You’re taking back control. Good on you for diligently taking the reins.

    I hate pelvic floor exercises but I do do them when I remember. This has been a good kick up the butt for me.

    Thanks for being so real. So many people experience this and so shyly keep it to themselves. It’s good to start this conversation xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:20 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Vicki. I hope it helps pregnant women and even women who don’t have kids understand the importance of pelvic floor exercises, plus reassure women with pelvic floor dysfunction that there are a lot of things you can do to improve your situation.

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  7. Rachel_OurTownBrisbane
    October 14, 2014 at 7:28 am (2 years ago)

    Renee I want to give you a hug and a standing ovation for what you’ve done here! There’s so much pressure for women to deny or down play the after effects of childbirth. We’re all just meant to spring back to our pre-pregnancy bodies like we haven’t just undergone the most radical experience a human body can undergo. I know your frank discussion if this subject will probably be a grat comfort to other women out there going through the same thing. Well done xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:21 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Rachel – I’ll take that hug thanks πŸ™‚ I truly hope it will be a comfort to other women. Thanks x

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  8. Bec @ The Plumbette
    October 14, 2014 at 7:48 am (2 years ago)

    What agreat post Renee! I’m cracking up over the way you ended this post! Our bodies go through so much after childbirth hey? I had three c-secs so I’m intact down there but I know it’s been pressured from my pregnancies. This has encouraged me to do more pelvic floor exercises. You’d be surprised how many women experience what you have shared and are shamed by it. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:22 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it is a very confronting and scary thing to have to deal with. It was interesting to hear that even women who’ve never had children deal with incontinence daily. So not fun. Keep up those exercises.

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  9. Jodi Gibson (JF Gibson Writer)
    October 14, 2014 at 7:52 am (2 years ago)

    Oh yes, you are not alone. Thankfully my pilates helps wonders with this and those proper pelvic floor exercises. Hey look, I’m doing them now. πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:26 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Good on you, Jodi. Yes, my specialist (a different one I’m seeing about my sacrum) mentioned starting pilates for me soon x

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  10. Deb @ Inner compass designs
    October 14, 2014 at 7:53 am (2 years ago)

    I am with you 100% and thank you for this post. I gave up on pelvic floor exercises as I too had no feeling whatsoever. I went to a specialist physio years ago and honestly even with something inserted measuring my effort I felt I was giving it 100 and barely registered on there. It was disheartening. Hearing that you persevered in spite of not feeling it is so interesting to me. Would love to chat via email if you are up for it lovely xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:29 pm (2 years ago)

      Hi Deb. I emailed you, so take a look when you get a chance. More than happy to have a chat. It really is hard to continue with exercise when you think your efforts are futile. I’d see a specialist again if I was you. Maybe get a second opinion? Talk soon x

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  11. Andrea Phillips
    October 14, 2014 at 7:53 am (2 years ago)

    Good work Naisy, the more we talk about these things the more we all accept these things as normal and hopefully seek help with rather than suffer in silence. I’ll say it again, if men went through what women go through to give birth and the afters, the world would be a different place… x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:30 pm (2 years ago)

      It sure would! That’s why I wanted to write the post – to let people know they’re not alone and you can get help to improve things xx

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  12. Josefa
    October 14, 2014 at 9:10 am (2 years ago)

    Such an important topic to talk about! I am so happy you are working on this and getting better πŸ˜‰ As for the club – I think it sounds like a great idea – who knows what it could lead to? So many women suffer from this in silence – it shouldn’t be that way. Sharing this post right now πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:32 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you so much for the share, Josefa xx

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  13. Kathy
    October 14, 2014 at 9:38 am (2 years ago)

    Good on you brave girl. I don’t know what the specialist says about yoga (obviously pilates is good) but maybe there are some postures that could help. Hope the exercises keep on improving things for you. And you are brave to laugh about it, even while peeing your pants. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:33 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Kathy. I saw a specialist about my sacrum yesterday and I’m going to do some simple cat cow exercises for that and then look at pilates. Would be great to work up to doing some yoga πŸ™‚ x

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  14. Dannielle @ zamamabakes
    October 14, 2014 at 10:11 am (2 years ago)

    Love this post Renee! Good on you for doing something about it and telling all of us about it. I have had 3 c-sections but I think pregnancy in general and carrying big babies (I’m talking 10lb 2ozs or 4.6 kgs) have taken a toll on my bladder, you’ve just prompted me to get back happening with the old pelvic floor excerises! Thanks

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:36 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh my goodness. They really are lovely big babies. Yes, keep doing those exercises. It’s not too late.

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  15. Elisha Ross
    October 14, 2014 at 10:43 am (2 years ago)

    Well said and good on you for bringing it to the forefront. Im in and guilty as charged here, but not as bad as you…Wearing pads to netball training is not my idea of gracious or is any fun at all. Its a goddam pain in the backside, but it seems is part and parcel of this child bearing game. Doing my pelvic floors STAT!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Good on you, Elisha and welcome to the club πŸ™‚

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  16. Tegan
    October 14, 2014 at 11:05 am (2 years ago)

    Good on you for speaking up about your issues and that’s fantastic news that your specialist has seen an improvement. I hope that you continue to see improvements and good luck with the surgery when it comes around x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Tegan, thank you. I was so nervous about writing this and I thought of you and how brave you are and I told myself to just go for it, so thanks!

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  17. Tara@GlutenFreeHart
    October 14, 2014 at 11:12 am (2 years ago)

    hahaha Renee. I’m so laughing with you not at you. When my specialist told me things were sitting a whole lot lower than they used to be after 3 kids.. I was gutted (for want of a different phrase) But hey, we have achieved greatness in the child bearing stakes. Let’s celebrate! (without too much laughing or sneezing of course

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol Tara. Yes, we definitely have achieved greatness πŸ™‚

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  18. Me
    October 14, 2014 at 11:25 am (2 years ago)

    Good on you for raising this issue and I am so happy to hear of the improvement you have achieved. I did pelvic floor exercises halfheartedly for a while – then about 4 yrs ago I realised I was having some leakage when I coughed or sneezed. At the time I was seeing a PT and he went through the pelvic floor exercises that I should be doing and told me to find something to trigger my memory to do them. For me, it’s driving – so I do them pretty much every morning and every afternoon on the way to and from work. For some reason, I’m not that diligent when I’m in the passenger seat !!!!!
    If I could get K to take one thing from me – it would be this – do your pelvic floor exercises and keep on doing them – even when you think you don’t need to because there will come a point in time when you will be so thankful that you continued with them !!!
    Good luck for your continued improvement and have the best day !
    Me xox

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Linda. Yes, I will definitely be educating my girls when the time is right on the importance of pelvic floor exercises and bracing xx

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  19. Peta
    October 14, 2014 at 12:15 pm (2 years ago)

    Good on you for being brave enough to share. I’ve been pretty lucky so far but like you, only half-heartedly attempted pelvic floor exercises before and after pregnancy. But when I read or hear something like this, it brings it back to attention, and as I type, I’m giving my good ol pelvic floor a workout!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Good on you, Peta. Keep at it πŸ™‚

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  20. Michelle@myslowlivingadventure
    October 14, 2014 at 12:24 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you for Renee, another issue out in the open thanks to you. I’ve been fortunate enough to have 2 kids in my 40’s and not have any problems. I have to admit I worked like a Trojan on my pelvic floor both times and it obviously paid off, but I know loads of women in your boat. I feel like all my veins gave way during my pregnancies. I had massive varicose veins, one particularly big one in my groin…ouch! I still have quite a few on my legs, but I also have 2 gorgeous bambinos. What can you do?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:42 pm (2 years ago)

      I know right, Michelle. I had those big veins downstairs too. Very, very painful. I’m glad you’re in good nick though. Good on you for being so diligent with your exercises.

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  21. iSophie
    October 14, 2014 at 12:44 pm (2 years ago)

    Well done for speaking about this! Great post. I have had 5 babies.. so I know all too well about a weak pelvic floor. I endeavour to do my exercises but as the weeks go on and find myself forgetting. I don’t have any leakage yet, so I do hope I have done enough, and must remember to keep doing it though!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:42 pm (2 years ago)

      Sophie, you are amazing. Five kids and no leakage! Well done to you, lady πŸ™‚

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  22. Lisa
    October 14, 2014 at 1:00 pm (2 years ago)

    So glad it worked out in the end-no surgery! yay! I am lucky that while my pelvic floor survived my 3 kids, I lost my sanity and boobs. hehe

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:43 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol Lisa. I’m not as lucky as you. I lost all three lol.

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  23. Danielle L
    October 14, 2014 at 1:08 pm (2 years ago)

    As a physio, I worked in Women’s health and worked with many women in your position – it has certainly made me more diligent in keeping up with my own pelvic floor exercises. Thanks for sharing well-informed advice, especially as many, many women do not have a full understanding of the issues around their pelvic floor.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:44 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you, Danielle. I’m glad you – as a physio- found it interesting and helpful to others. That’s great!

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  24. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    October 14, 2014 at 1:30 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m doing my exercises right now, thanks for the reminder! Very brave to hit publish Renee. Will be interested to see if anyone at work looks at you differently from now on! πŸ™‚ x o

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:45 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you! Hmm yes, I think I may have had a few looks haha xx

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  25. EssentiallyJess
    October 14, 2014 at 1:42 pm (2 years ago)

    You are so brave Renee, for sharing this. I can’t imagine it was easy, but good on you for doing it. Such a help to others.
    I used to wet my bed a LOT as a child. (Till I was 12/13). One thing I was told to do from about age eight was wok my pelvic floor muscles, so amazingly they are still pretty good. Maybe we need to start younger? Start teaching our girls now. That could be the mission of the Pants Wetters Club! πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:46 pm (2 years ago)

      I like it, Jess. I really do. I did ask my specialist when to start the girls and I can’t remember the answer. I will have to ask again. She did say there was a certain age and not too early …

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  26. Hugzilla
    October 14, 2014 at 3:18 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you for sharing this Renee xx Like most women who have carried a pregnancy or two, my body isn’t quite working as efficiently as it used to in some departments. So glad to hear that the less invasive options are working for you πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:46 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Hugzilla πŸ™‚

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  27. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    October 14, 2014 at 3:29 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh wow. Thanks so much for sharing! I am going through some “down there” issues right now which includes some weak pelvic floor and minor (but fairly regular) leakage. I have been to a few people. I have balked at going to the fanny physio though. I’m just not ready for that step yet. I am getting there though ..
    Your post shows I am not alone!
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 8:47 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh sorry to hear that Leanne. Might be time to go to the fanny physio (lol). It’s not as scary as you might think.

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  28. Jess - Peachy Keen Mumma
    October 14, 2014 at 3:33 pm (2 years ago)

    You wonderful woman!!! I love honesty and openness! GOOD for you! This is the big secret that women carry around, especially those who have had babies. I was doing kegels the whole time I read your blog. Which I should be doing more often. YIKES! BONUS: all that work you’re doing should help you have better orgasms. YAY!

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  29. Denise
    October 14, 2014 at 5:45 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m so glad to hear you’re on the mend! And I’m so glad you wrote this, there were a few things in there that I had no idea about. I found those pelvic floors really hard to do after I had a baby as well and I certainly didn’t have much motivation with a newborn. Gawd kids wreck your body don’t they?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:09 pm (2 years ago)

      Ugh they sure do, Denise. I want to get on top of things now while I can and make things easier for me later in life.

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  30. Ingrid
    October 14, 2014 at 6:26 pm (2 years ago)

    Thank you for this raising this issue. Having had twins plus another I need to get back into doing my pelvic floor exercises stat. The suggestion of doing them every time I’m in the car sounds like one I might try adopting.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:11 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, that is a really good idea. I also like to do mine when I’m cleaning my teeth or waiting for the kettle to boil.

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  31. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    October 14, 2014 at 7:05 pm (2 years ago)

    The only good part of having an emergency c-section I guess was that my pelvic floor was never ruined during labour. The psd and her being frank breech however stretched my stomach muscles and pelvis all out of whack so I pretty much have to follow the same rules as you to get my tummy to close back up properly and avoid further damage. I’m meant to be doing 30 pelvic floor exercises a day minimum but I’ve got lazy again. Having said that though this post made me feel guilty and I totally did them while reading this!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:12 pm (2 years ago)

      Haha. Good. I had the separation in my stomach for both births too and am happy to tell you it is all fixed now.

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  32. Kylie Purtell - A Study in Contradictions
    October 14, 2014 at 8:34 pm (2 years ago)

    Aside from the first few weeks after giving birth to Zee, I’ve been really lucky to not have any PF issues. With Mum having 5 kids and drumming in to me the importance of doing PF exercises, the old gal seems to be in pretty god nick. My MIL actually had prolapse surgery 6 weeks before Zee was born last year and I know she is still feeling some of the after effects of it. I’m so glad you got help when you did and that you’re seeing an improvement. I’m also really glad that you’ve blogged about because it’s such an important issue and one that needs to be shared so that women are encouraged to get help when there is a problem, but also that other women are reminded to continue doing what can sometimes feel pointless.

    In regards to the peeing correctly thing, I just realised that is the position I pee in and I didn’t even know it was a good thing! Maybe that has contributed to keeping everything the way it should be too! Also, have you considered going to some post-natal Yoga classes? I know you’re not post-natal anymore, but I don’t think that would really be a problem. I credit doing post-natal yoga as one of the contributors to getting my PF back in shape so quickly after having the girls. The one I went to had a real focus on strengthening and recovering the PF and even now I find myself doing the ‘breathe and brace’ before any heavy lifting, which I learned at yoga. It really helped me to become aware of the different parts of my pelvic floor and it might be good for you too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:15 pm (2 years ago)

      I would love to hear more about your MIL’s surgery. I’ll message you. That’s awesome you don’t have any PF issues. I wish I had been as diligent as you with mine. I did the pre-natal yoga and a little post after my first was born, but I have another issue – sacrum, cocyx, tailbone issue – which is making it difficult for me to do things like yoga. I’m thinking of trying pilates though. Thanks for the suggestion.

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  33. Chantel
    October 14, 2014 at 10:35 pm (2 years ago)

    urrggghh!!! Living this at the moment. I have urgency that when I see a toilet – I must go right now!!!!!! I started seeing the women’s health physio about it, then got pregnant again and its all gone to pot. Must get back on to those Kegels!!!!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:16 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh you poor thing. I learned some tips on how to deal with urgency. Let me know if you want me to tell you about them.

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  34. Lara @ This Charming Mum
    October 15, 2014 at 11:19 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, good on you for sharing this post! I’m sure there are many women out there who can relate. It’s about the only thing that I consider ‘lucky’ about having had caesareans for all my births – although it doesn’t mean I can ignore the whole region as I get older. Well done you for taking the initiative, getting it checked out and taking positive action in terms of exercise etc. I hope you continue to see improvement and no more moments of embarrassment or discomfort. Ah, who’d be a women eh??

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:17 pm (2 years ago)

      God, I tell you what, Lara. It’s tough sometimes πŸ˜‰ x

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  35. Grace
    October 15, 2014 at 5:32 pm (2 years ago)

    That photo is GOLD! And yes, how would that AGM actually go?
    I sneeze and wet myself all.The.Time! Pelvic floor exercises definitely make a difference!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 15, 2014 at 9:18 pm (2 years ago)

      Glad I’m not the only one, Grace! πŸ™‚

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  36. Pinky Poinker
    October 16, 2014 at 7:12 am (2 years ago)

    I thought I had problems for almost all of last year but I went to the specialist and it ended up being an unresolved UTI. I’ve never done pelvic floor exercises either! Women have definitely drawn the short straw with our anatomy.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 16, 2014 at 8:48 pm (2 years ago)

      I’ve heard UTIs can do that Pinky. I’m glad that’s all it was for you.

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  37. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    October 16, 2014 at 8:58 pm (2 years ago)

    Renee, your bravery for publishing this post will no doubt help many of us who suffer the same, or similar symptoms.
    Mine aren’t as serious as yours, but I still have to brace. So, I think I can definitely be a member of the PWC.
    I’m so glad that you’re having success without surgery, and have my fingers crossed for you that you may not even need it in the future. xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 17, 2014 at 6:27 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Lisa and welcome to the club πŸ˜‰ xxxx

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  38. sonia stackhouse
    October 16, 2014 at 9:27 pm (2 years ago)

    OMG hun – I so admire you for sharing your story. THANK YOU And I am totally going to focus on doing those exercises and building my strength BEFORE a little sneezing leakage becomes a much bigger issue. Thank you beautiful girl and kegal on! xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 17, 2014 at 6:28 am (2 years ago)

      Kegel on!!! Lol. Thanks for dropping by xx

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  39. Steph
    October 16, 2014 at 9:42 pm (2 years ago)

    I admire your openness Renee. A difficult topic written with such grace and dignity :). Where do I sign up ;)?

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      October 17, 2014 at 6:28 am (2 years ago)

      Thank you, Steph. Thanks for being my sounding board πŸ™‚ First meeting’s at my house πŸ˜‰

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  40. Janet aka Middle Aged Mama
    June 16, 2015 at 7:07 pm (2 years ago)

    Yes I have, and no I haven’t sought help … naughty I know. I hate sneezing; and that’s all I’ll say about that!

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