If there was a problem, yo I’ll solve it

In the early days of my blogging career, I somehow convinced myself that I must solve a problem in every single post I published. Crazy, right?!

When I leapt into the blogosphere a few short years ago, all I wanted from this blog was a creative outlet and something to keep my brain ticking over while on maternity leave. If I could write something that women navigating motherhood could relate to then that would be the icing on the cake.

It wasn’t long though before I veered away from the original purpose of this blog.

I became caught up in wanting to drive more and more readers to my site. I became competitive. I looked at my stats daily and read up on anything and everything that could possibly give me the golden formula on how to be a total kick-arse blogger that would rule the world, or something.

I fell into a pattern in which I would uncover an issue I was experiencing, and one that I thought other women may be experiencing also, and attempt to solve it. I was determined to be useful and valuable to my readers – exactly what the blogging experts told me I should be if I was to make it in the blogging world.

It wasn’t until late one night, when I was totally wigging out that I had nothing to write about and couldn’t think of a problem to solve or issue to discuss, that Dave told me it was seriously time for me to calm the farm. He said something that seems blatantly obvious to me now.

I don’t have to solve a problem in every post. I don’t have to waste time getting mega stressed out about being useful to my readers.

‘This is your hobby,’ he told me.

‘This is your passion. Your love. Remember why you started blogging in the first place.’

So what if I can’t bake, I can’t craft, I’m not a travel guru, life coach, parenting expert or interior designer? So what if I’m not a freaking expert in anything at all?

I can tell you what I am. I’m real, I’m honest and I’m open. I’m funny in a silly, little girl kind of way. If I can make you laugh or relate to my craziness then that means way more to me than a metric.

There is definitely a place and a need in the blogging world for all of those experts I’ve mentioned above and more, but there’s also space for those of us who are story tellers who want to share snippets of our life. Those of us who simply want to reach out to others to connect, to learn and to grow.

Some of the most memorable posts I’ve read have been those from bloggers who have opened up a window into their world and invited us to be a fly on the wall. I’ll never forget this beautiful post from Zanni Louise or this one from always Josefa.

If you ever feel like you’ve lost your blogging mojo or you have nothing to offer, then think again. We all have a story to tell, a rant, or a ramble. So get writing and tell me yours.

This post was inspired by a post written by Maxabella loves who was inspired by this post from Veggie Mama.

Have you lost your blogging mojo lately? Do you aim to be ‘useful’ in every single post or do you throw a good yarn in there every now and then? So … tell me, what is it that you like about this here blog?

58 comments on If there was a problem, yo I’ll solve it

  1. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    April 6, 2016 at 7:29 am (2 years ago)

    I’d like to be useful in every blog post but that’s pretty tricky as I spend most of my life being useless! I think that’s a funny notion that every blog post we read/write should be useful because for me blogging (reading and writing) is about connecting, it’s like having a chat with a friend or a sneak peek into other people’s lives. I wouldn’t have coffee with a friend and expect it to be “useful,” I’d expect it to be enjoyable and for me, and it’s the same for blogging.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:32 am (2 years ago)

      Spot on, Sammie. Connecting with people is absolutely number one for me in the blogging game.

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  2. Bec Senyard
    April 6, 2016 at 7:36 am (2 years ago)

    Yes, I’ve struggled more this year than ever and producing useful posts has been exhausting! The posts like this one and Maxabella’s and Veggie Mama’s have bee very liberating.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:42 pm (2 years ago)

      They have indeed. It’s comforting to hear that these bigger bloggers struggle with the same issues that we do.

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  3. Josefa Pete
    April 6, 2016 at 7:39 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee, what a beautiful post to wake up to this morning. I have just left a little comment on Bron’s post and I’ll say something similar here.

    Being useful or useless for that matter, is merely a matter of perspective.

    Write from the heart, be uplifting, share your stories – the rest is out of your hands and always has been.

    I don’t read anything simply because it is useful (unless they are instructions on the back of my boys Nerf gun and I’m trying to get it to work)

    I read because I seek the connection, sometimes that might be someone’s amazing recipe, but more often than not between the lines of that recipe is something I seek more.

    And as I realized sharing my story yesterday, I thought I was simply sharing my story of not being able to start, but by day’s end so many people reached out, touched and connected by my story in a way that lifted the guilt and burden they were feeling and in other ways kick started some to get moving! I had no intention to be useful when I sat down to write my post, I simply wanted to be honest and connect – perhaps that turned out to be more useful than I thought 🙂

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:43 pm (2 years ago)

      You’re exactly right. It is a matter of perspective. I don’t think I’ve really thought about that much before. What I might think is completely useless, another will find it quite useful, or entertaining, or relatable etc xx

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  4. Janet
    April 6, 2016 at 8:00 am (2 years ago)

    Hubbies can be surprisingly helpful at times 😉 . Great post x

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:47 pm (2 years ago)

      They have their moments 🙂 x

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  5. Erika @ Ever-changing Life of a Mum
    April 6, 2016 at 8:02 am (2 years ago)

    Thank you Renee. This has hit the mark perfectly for me. Often I have struggled or put off writing posts because I wondered just how ‘useful’ they might be to others … but often those personal ramblings have proved to be the most popular of all. I love it when I read and connect with a personal post by another blogger that truly comes from the heart, just like this one. It helps me to realise that there are others out there going through things in life just like me. The world becomes a little smaller through those connections. Love your blog Renee xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:49 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you, Erika. I love your blog also. I’m a huge fan of personal posts and ramblings. Maybe it’s the nosy parker in me 😉 It really is difficult to continue to churn out ‘valuable’ content all of the time. I think it’s so important to ‘mix up’ what we provide our readers. Thanks for your kind comments xx

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  6. Hugzilla
    April 6, 2016 at 8:02 am (2 years ago)

    Love! Yes. More of this please.

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  7. Elisha
    April 6, 2016 at 8:44 am (2 years ago)

    I love it all….Vag muscle squeezing…the whole lot!!! ha ha ha….It has been so refreshing and nice to hear you and Stacey and Bron all share the same sentiments on what can be a very competitive, stat driven market. I think i may need to share a few more stories here on my page. A toast to ‘more of just being us’. Now that is the stuff I can’t wait to read….and write!! Like fashion, I think the blogosphere is doing a full circle and going back to basics….I love it! Though I wont be getting my hair permed any time soon. Hope you are enjoying your break so far…xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:53 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I love that!!! Let’s get back to basics. I think some ‘just being us’ posts are definitely in need. Thanks for your support as always xx

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  8. JF Gibson
    April 6, 2016 at 8:56 am (2 years ago)

    I think sometimes we take the living with intent and purpose thing a little too far. There doesn’t have to be purpose or usefulness to everything we do or write. Sometimes, we need to just be, sometimes we need to just write. That’s what I love about blogging and writing. Just seeing what comes out. And I’ve learned that I can’t be the judge of whether or not I’m useful or adding value anyway, the reader does that. And if it is a by-product of what I do, well, that’s the icing on the cake.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:55 pm (2 years ago)

      It sure is. You always make things seem so clear to me, Jodi. It’s important to take that step back every now and then and simply write from the heart and see where it leads us x

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  9. Kathy
    April 6, 2016 at 9:21 am (2 years ago)

    Loving all this #uselessblogger inspiration. I do put pressure on myself to be a bit D&M in every post, but some of my best posts have when I’ve simply starting reflecting on something happening in my life at the time and in a roundabout way come to a message that might resonate. I think everyone connects to people being real and present in their lives.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:58 pm (2 years ago)

      I think they do too, Kathy. It’s human nature. We’re all interested in those human interest stories and to be a fly on the wall 🙂

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  10. Raychael aka Mystery
    April 6, 2016 at 10:20 am (2 years ago)

    There are so many others out their solving problems, I would rather do something different. I turned my stats off completely last year following my second hack attack. I’d only just hit the 400k page view per month mark and was feeling too much pressure to continually perform.

    I also had too much going on elsewhere and the blog needed to be my last priority. I haven’t turned the stats back on. Yes, I’ve lost a couple of great offers due to this but it really has been the best way forward for me as I get ready to launch my new business, a blog agency.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:59 pm (2 years ago)

      Wow! That’s really exciting, Raychael. And a brave move to turn off those stats. You’re my idol 🙂

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  11. Karin @ Calm to Conniption
    April 6, 2016 at 12:27 pm (2 years ago)

    Yes! I love all this #uselessblogger chatter. I have been off my game lately because it felt like a few of the communities I like to hang out in were getting so serious. Argh! It hurt my head and I was quietly tip-toeing out of the room. This talk has reminded me of the days when I was a spectator and not “in the game”. There was a reason I loved blogging and bloggers and it wasn’t because they were showing my how to solve all my life woes or how to pack my kids lunch box, it was simply like reading about a friend’s (well they didn’t know me) day with a glass of wine. It was why I started blogging, I have to remember that.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:02 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes! Definitely Karin. Veggie Mama was actually the first blogger I followed and I dug her because she was a cool chick that seemed smart and real. I’ve always been drawn to personal bloggers who can tell a story.

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  12. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    April 6, 2016 at 2:25 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m never useful but that’s not really my aim as a blogger… I hope you’re enjoying your time off so far!! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:03 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks Em. I was at Currumbin today and it was perfect!!! x

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  13. Lisa | The Notorious MUM
    April 6, 2016 at 4:57 pm (2 years ago)

    You had me at the Vanilla Ice reference. More of the same, please!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:04 pm (2 years ago)

      Ha! I wondered if anyone would realise that. Top marks to you!

      Reply
  14. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    April 6, 2016 at 5:18 pm (2 years ago)

    I think your posts are more important to to others than you think they are, and not because they solve a problem, but because your readers are here for your voice. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:05 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you, darling xxx

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  15. Veggie Mama
    April 6, 2016 at 5:34 pm (2 years ago)

    10 POINTS FOR THIS POST TITLE!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:06 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks! I wasn’t sure if anyone would get it 🙂

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      • Emily
        April 6, 2016 at 8:53 pm (2 years ago)

        Check out my hook while my DJ revolve it …

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  16. Annette
    April 6, 2016 at 7:51 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this!! “Useless” is the new black I tell ya!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:08 pm (2 years ago)

      Love it, Annette. Bring back the chat!

      Reply
  17. Emily
    April 6, 2016 at 8:54 pm (2 years ago)

    Love this. Totally jumping on the bandwagon. Feels about to be felt, baby. Ice, ice baby, that is. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 9:06 pm (2 years ago)

      Hahaha! Stop. Collaborate and listen 😉 x

      Reply
  18. Maxabella
    April 6, 2016 at 10:18 pm (2 years ago)

    There is really only this to say: “Take heed, ’cause I’m a lyrical poet
    Renee’s on the scene just in case you didn’t know it…” xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 7, 2016 at 9:15 am (2 years ago)

      Hahaha! That’s epic xx

      Reply
  19. Kit@lifethroughthehaze
    April 7, 2016 at 4:34 pm (2 years ago)

    Renee

    Writing is so hard. I have this thing in my head that if no-one reads what I write then it was a complete waste of time. Since my breakdown or in the before I was really driven I think this was to cover just how scared, worthless, useless and huge failure that I feel inside. Even now I really struggle hitting post. Of course I would love to be uber successful but the truth is that if that was the case it would be even harder to hit send because I would carry an even bigger burden to make sure it was all perfect.

    It is a little bit like baking cakes or knitting/crocheting for me as well. I prolifically make cakes sometimes they are elaborately decorated and sometimes not, and so many people say to me that I should sell them. The truth is I do it because I love it not because I want to make money from it and if I did it for money I would become to hate it with the pressure. Same with my wool craft when I make things I just give them away as gifts when other people say I should sell them. The truth is that anything I sold them for would really be a very nominal amount because people won’t pay what things especially hand made things are really worth regardless of the quality. So I do it because I love it and like my cakesI give them to people as gifts from my heart.

    My writing is even harder because it is from my heart and about whats going on in my head. Partly I write that as a way to get those thoughts out of my head but there is a part of me that hopes on some level they will make a connection with someone and they will know they aren’t alone.

    I am so glad that I joined some link ups and have discovered all these fantastic new writers (well I get that you aren’t new but you are new in my world!)

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    • mummywifeme
      April 8, 2016 at 3:35 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank you so much for sharing, Kit. That’s what I love about blogging and the link ups also. I’ve formed so many online friendships through blogging and some of those have turned into real life friendships. I love being able to meet like minded people and talk about things that only other bloggers ‘get’. I love that you make cakes for others and give away your crafts. That’s very kind hearted.

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  20. Robyna | The Mummy & The Minx
    April 7, 2016 at 8:51 pm (2 years ago)

    I’m big on story telling. It’s an ancient tradition and blogs are just a modern incarnation. It’s how we have learned for generations — much more-so than perfectly curated lists on how to do things. I think story telling allows the reader to solve their own problems, rather than someone attempting to do that for them. And I think that’s a much more powerful thing.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 8, 2016 at 3:36 pm (2 years ago)

      I like the way you think, Robyna. Story telling gives people something to connect with, relate to and interpret in their own way.

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  21. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    April 8, 2016 at 2:21 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this because my hubby has said the same thing to me a few times. If you are not enjoying it, STOP. It is a hobby – don’t forget that.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 8, 2016 at 3:37 pm (2 years ago)

      It’s so important to go back to your roots and remember why 🙂

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  22. Elisa {With Grace & Eve}
    April 11, 2016 at 11:05 am (2 years ago)

    Love this Renee. Real is most important to me. I blog because I love writing, and want to connect, create and share. Elisa X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:19 am (2 years ago)

      Thanks Elisa. I’m glad you can relate. I think there’s plenty of people out there who are in it for the same reasons x

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  23. Lisa Barton-Collins
    April 11, 2016 at 12:52 pm (2 years ago)

    Great post. How exhausting is the constant need to be useful? It feels good to shrug off that burden! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:19 am (2 years ago)

      I know right! Such a great movement 🙂 x

      Reply
  24. Shari from GoodFoodWeek
    April 11, 2016 at 2:34 pm (2 years ago)

    Loved this post – I can’t craft at all. I even lost my kitchen mojo with the morning sickness that I have been suffering with my third – and then I thought, why don’t I just let my readers know that I am pregnant…I am 14 weeks.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:20 am (2 years ago)

      Oh congratulations! That’s wonderful news. Ugh. Morning sickness. It’s the worst, isn’t it?! I hope you feel better soon x

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  25. Ingrid
    April 13, 2016 at 12:32 pm (2 years ago)

    I love this post. Useful can be defined in many different ways. Me, I find blogs posts written in conversational style, that allow a small peek into the life of another blogger useful. I don’t always want to be instructed what to do and how to do it! When I’m feeling stressed I love nothing more than heading over to my favourite handful of blogs for a read and a cuppa. It’s very therapeutic, and I always feel better afterwards.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:21 am (2 years ago)

      I’m exactly the same, Ingrid. I love personal and human interest stories. I can’t get enough 🙂

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  26. Vicki @ Knocked Up & Abroad
    April 16, 2016 at 8:35 pm (2 years ago)

    I love open and honest Renee. The best kind. I would come here every time to find her and not something about craft or cooking. It is good to be reminded about the hobby part. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in trying to be a pro. I’ve been there. I always have to have little pep talks with myself and remind me why I did this, and continue to do so. And that is SO okay! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:21 am (2 years ago)

      It’s more than okay. I love that we have our little blogs as a form of expression and a creative outlet. You can’t put a price on that x

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  27. Sam Stone
    April 18, 2016 at 10:10 pm (2 years ago)

    I seem to have lost time to blog and therefore a serious account of mojo!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:22 am (2 years ago)

      Time is the real killer, Sam!

      Reply
  28. Zanni Hacska
    April 29, 2016 at 7:10 am (2 years ago)

    Beautiful and true post Renee. The catch phrase of that blogging conference I went to with you was “Be useful” or Useful is King. I kind of got turned off the whole thing at that point. I am with you. Share your feelings. Experiences. Make people feel. Or giggle. Or connect. Or whatever. Don’t worry the heck about usefulness. I have two useful posts: How to make macrame and How to make kokedama. They get hits every day, but not a single hit turns into a subscriber or regular reader, because I am not a DIY craft blog. Really the most useful posts I have ever written are like the ones you mentioned (thanks by the way! That means a lot!). Something that stuck with a person for a long time, or shaped their life in some way. I love that. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      May 3, 2016 at 9:40 pm (2 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Zanni. Your words mean a lot x

      Reply

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