Sisters

Picture this.

Saucepans bubbling over, sausages getting burned, Dora blaring on the TV, a baby’s grizzles getting more urgent as the seconds pass, and a toddler chattering away busily barely taking a breath.

Witching hour. Don’t you just love it?!

Amidst all of this commotion though, I witnessed a beautiful interaction between my two daughters.

Curly-locks knelt down in front of her very upset baby sister, cupped her chubby face wet with tears in her hands, and sang to her in a high pitched, nasally voice, ‘Where is pumpkin? Where is pumpkin? Here I am. Here I am’.

Smiley stopped grizzling, looked into Curly-locks’ eyes and smiled. She jigged her arms and legs around. She bounced up and down. The dimples appeared. All was well again.

They love each other these two. Their sisterly bond is already so strong.

We weren’t sure how Curly-locks would react to not being the centre of attention once Smiley came on the scene. We wondered if she really understood that the baby in mummy’s tummy was actually going to come out one day and that she would no longer be in the limelight.

When Curly-locks first laid eyes on Smiley in the hospital though it was love at first sight. Curly-locks placed her most prized possession, Teddy, on top of Smiley. You have to be pretty darn special to hold Teddy, so this gesture spoke a thousand words. It truly cemented her relationship with her baby sister. On this day, Curly-locks became a big sister and was proud to be one.

Love at first sight

Love at first sight

At the supermarket the other day, a stranger commented on the interaction between my two girls.

‘I’ve never seen two kids who love each other so much,’ she had said to me.

“I wish mine were like that.’

I beamed with pride and pushed that morning’s incident of Curly-locks clocking Smiley over the head with a toy hammer to the back of my mind.

Besides a few tousles and hair pulling incidents, they really do get on well.

Curly-locks would do absolutely anything for Smiley. If Smiley dropped her rattle from her high chair a million times, Curly-locks would pick it up a million times.

Smiley has been snotty and miserable this week and Curly-locks has been quick to take on the role of nurse. When Smiley has a runny nose, Curly-locks reaches for the wipes and wipes her nose for her. When Smiley is grizzling, Curly-locks sings to her or jumps up and down and dances around until Smiley laughs. It is beautiful to watch. She is such a caring and nurturing big sister. I call her my mini mummy.

Smiley is equally obsessed with Curly-locks. As soon as Curly-locks walks into the room Smiley’s face lights up, she squeals, and flaps her arms and legs around like a crazy woman. She follows Curly-locks around the room with her eyes and delights in everything she does.

Their interaction reminds me of my own relationship with my sister. There is four years difference between the two of us with me being the eldest.

Me and my little sister

When we were younger, I definitely was her protector and carer. We shared a room for many years and I would sing her lullabies to sleep if she was scared of the dark. If she was upset at school I would give her a cuddle and tell her all would be okay. I remember on my last day of year 12, she cried. She just didn’t want to see me go even though we lived together πŸ™‚

Just as Smiley is obsessed with Curly-locks now, my sister was obsessed with me when we were little. My sister would mimic me constantly. If I sat in a chair at the dinner table then she would want to sit in that same chair. I remember complaining to mum about this. ‘She just does it because she loves you,’ mum would say.

We have so many special memories together of playing Barbies and making up dances to perform for our family. We rarely fought, and if we did it would usually be due to me bossing her around.

It’s interesting that the interaction between me and my sister at a young age is so similar to Curly-locks and Smiley’s interaction now.

It got me to thinking about siblings and birth order. As the eldest, is it typical for Curly-locks to act as the responsible one, the carer, the nurturer and protector? Is Curly-locks’ mothering instinct toward Smiley, inherent in her because she’s the first born? Is Smiley’s sheer adoration of Curly-locks simply part of being the second child?

Whatever it is, I hope Curly-locks and Smiley continue to develop this loving relationship and grow to be the best of friends like me and my sister.

Do your kids get along well? Do you get along with your siblings? Do you think birth order has an effect on your personality? Discuss.

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27 comments on Sisters

  1. Claire
    June 21, 2013 at 8:01 am (4 years ago)

    I love nothing more than watching my girls interact. Although my eldest isn’t as nurturing as yours, she’s still a good big sister & the love between them is beautiful. I think it’s more about personality though. I was 3 years younger than my older sister but very much the ‘older’ one…still to this day. Whatever the balance of personality between the girls, I just hope they are friends.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 7:43 pm (4 years ago)

      I’m sure they will be, Claire. They are adorable. That’s interesting about you and your sister. Personality definitely plays a big part then!

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  2. Jodie@freshhomecook
    June 21, 2013 at 8:20 am (4 years ago)

    Awww that’s so lovely Renee – what a gorgeous relationship to have! My little ones are a bit all over the shop. The 3 year old is very caring & loving, until his little sister comes in & tries to take his toys or knocks over his sand castle – then he gets a bit cranky! Mostly they’re pretty good though. It does melt my heart when they give eachother cuddled & kisses! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 7:45 pm (4 years ago)

      Aww it’s just the sweetest thing isn’t it?! They definitely are alot of fun to watch and hey, I’d be upset if someone knocked over my sandcastle too πŸ™‚

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  3. Lisa
    June 21, 2013 at 10:13 am (4 years ago)

    My four kids all get on well, the only issue they ever have (with my two daughters) is exactly the same issue I had as a kid with my younger sister – “copying”! The constant cry of “She’s copying my picturre/myclothes/the way I dress” is a common refrain in our house, and I remember complaining to my mum about my sister doing the same. funny enough, it’s only my daughters that do this, my sons don’t seem to care! Maybe it’s just a girl thing??

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 7:48 pm (4 years ago)

      How lucky to have two of each, Lisa. Yeah maybe it is a girl thing?! How interesting.

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  4. Leanne Winter
    June 21, 2013 at 11:18 am (4 years ago)

    In answer to the questions: sometimes, sometimes and sometimes. That wasn’t very helpful was it?
    To flesh it out a bit my boys have a love-hate relationship but I think generally they are pretty glad the other is around. I have 2 sisters and I’m not particularly close to either of them, we get on well enough but certainly don’t spend hours on the phone chatting, not sure, to be honest, why it turned out like this. We’re all pretty different personalities would probably be my guess. And there’s lots of interesting research on the effects of birth order – I’ll have to go back and look it up. Great post Renee, your girls are wonderful.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 8:02 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Leanne. Yes, I’d love to read more about research into birth order. I find it so interesting.

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  5. Judy @Australian Inspirational Women
    June 21, 2013 at 4:37 pm (4 years ago)

    My kids love each other but egg each other on as well. I do think there is something with the first born for sure. I think they are more strong willed.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 8:04 pm (4 years ago)

      Mmm yes, Judy, I would say I’m definitely more strong willed πŸ™‚ I would love to do something with your sister theme. Thanks for suggesting it. Such a great theme. There’s so much you can write about. I have been thinking about your sister story a lot this week. Your honesty was compelling. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. Carla
    June 21, 2013 at 4:57 pm (4 years ago)

    You are so lucky!!! I have three children and numbers one and two do not get along at all. It is just an innate personality clash. I hope this changes as they grow older!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 8:05 pm (4 years ago)

      Wow, that’s so interesting isn’t it?! I hope it changes when they get older for your sake too. I know lots of other people who have the same problem in their families. I guess we really are lucky!

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  7. Simone
    June 21, 2013 at 6:25 pm (4 years ago)

    I was never as close to either of my sisters as they were to each toher. It was due to age difference I think, as they are only 1 year apart, and I was always just that much older than them. They have always been super close, but did have times of awful fighting too. I am friends with them and we have always got along even though we have such different personalities, but I wouldn’t say they have ever been my besties. Aparently I used to be very caring and helpful when they were little, but all I remember is getting so annoyed that they were always copying me and all I wanted was to be an individual. So funny when I think about it now! I do believe being the eldest does instill some sort of leadership and caring role though and I know that even to this day they both look up to me as their big sister,

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 8:09 pm (4 years ago)

      And you are such a wonderful big sister and role model to look up to, too, Simmy!!
      It’s interesting you mention the age gap. My sister and I were very close when we were younger, but when I started uni, my sister and brother (just two years apart) were as thick as thieves playing Donkey Kong all day and not letting me have a look in lol. As we got older, we became closer again.

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  8. Robyn (Mrs D)
    June 21, 2013 at 9:03 pm (4 years ago)

    The sibling bond NEVER ceases to amaze me. I live hundreds of thousand of miles away from my brother and sister but we still chat every week on Skype and I love it!! My three are also very close and I’m always doing everything I can to encourage it – it’s really so special xxx #FYBF

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 21, 2013 at 9:06 pm (4 years ago)

      I know, it’s just so fascinating isn’t it, Mrs D?! That is awesome you chat to your brother and sister every week on skype. It would be so easy to just not find the time. What a close bond you have. Thanks for dropping in.

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  9. Mystery Case
    June 21, 2013 at 11:19 pm (4 years ago)

    My three girls (3 under 3 now 12, 13 & 15) all still get on, I keep waiting for this to change but so far so good. Unlike my sisters who I rarely speak too. My middle sister actually went on to marry (and divorce) my first boyfriend. While I didn’t have a huge problem with this, the way I was treated and avoided during her marriage, by friends and family (she was the golden child) just made me want to run and never look back. Urgh.. here I go over sharing again.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 22, 2013 at 9:17 pm (4 years ago)

      Wow! That is full on!!! I would be running too!!

      I can’t believe you had three under three. How did you cope? That is awesome they all still get on. You’re so lucky πŸ™‚

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  10. Lisa Wood
    June 22, 2013 at 5:44 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh you are so very lucky! I have five boys and the middle one who is 14 is the one that doesn’t get on with his brothers…hormones!
    Our older two are only 17 months apart in age. They went through a great stage when they got along so well. And then they went through a stage where they couldn’t be in the same room as each other.
    Now that our older son has moved out of home he gets alone with his younger brother {s}
    Its so good when siblings are so nice to each other. Makes parenting worth while.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 22, 2013 at 9:19 pm (4 years ago)

      It sure does. I guess it’s just early days for me though. Who knows what they will be like when they’re teenagers with hormones running wild.

      I still don’t know how you do it with five boys. You must be wonder woman!

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  11. iSophie
    June 22, 2013 at 8:12 pm (4 years ago)

    I was the youngest, having 2 sisters, 4 and 5 years older. They picked on me! Now we are close but I was left out most of the time because they were close in age, and I was a ‘baby’.

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  12. mummywifeme
    mummywifeme
    June 22, 2013 at 9:20 pm (4 years ago)

    The age gap can definitely make a difference! It’s great that you all get along well now πŸ™‚

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  13. Grace
    June 22, 2013 at 9:51 pm (4 years ago)

    Gorgeous!
    It’s an interesting topic. I’m the youngest of 3, being the only girl. I remember talking to my brother on the phone one time while a friend was over. Having never met my brother he said to me after the conversation, “Gee, you’re a bossy older sister!”
    So, I’m not sure if personality completely corelates to birth order. Well, not in my case, anyway.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 23, 2013 at 8:37 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol Grace. Yes, I think personality definitely plays a big part. It will be interesting to see how/if the relationship between my girls changes as they get older and the youngest one starts talking πŸ™‚

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  14. Emily @ Have a laugh on me
    June 23, 2013 at 4:28 pm (4 years ago)

    I think birth order does play a part, my youngest of three thinks he’s 5! My oldest and him are very adorable and then my middle boy plays with his younger bro! But the oldest two also get on well, most of the tine. Great old pic of you πŸ™‚

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  15. mummywifeme
    mummywifeme
    June 23, 2013 at 8:39 pm (4 years ago)

    Lol. Thanks Emily! That’s lovely. It sounds like they all get along really well.

    Reply

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