All the small things

‘Mummy, you are my best mummy. I really like you and love you all day long.’

When I hear my three-year-old’s declaration of love, I drop what I’m doing, race over to her with a ridiculously love drunk look on my face, and envelop her in my arms.

As I feel her tiny arms tighten around me, the last few unsettled nights are instantly forgotten. Her moodiness of late, a distant memory. Those words were just what I needed to hear to snap me out of my own mood and stop me from rushing around like a lunatic before work and daycare.

Her words spoken with heart came as a gentle reminder for me to slow down and take in the beauty around me.

It’s been just two weeks since we’ve returned to work / daycare after the Christmas break and I am already beginning to feel like life is spiraling out of control.

Miss Three has been having night terrors causing everyone’s sleep to be a little broken, while Smiley, our 15-month-old, is going through a strong willed phase.

It is so easy to become caught up in the stress and monotony of life if you don’t give yourself time to step back and appreciate all that you have and the everyday beauty that surrounds you, the simple things in life – the small things.

And so, this weekend I’ve been focusing on appreciating the small things in my life which really aren’t small at all.

My two golden haired girls their curls untamed, a dimpled smile, a chubby hand in mind, a cuddle and kiss between sisters, dancing in pyjamas, high-pitched squealing, raspberries on tummies, giggling, lots of giggling, endless questions, an obsession with the moon, made up stories and songs, Smiley finding her feet, a hand on mine at story time, kisses for no reason, declarations of love, a meal eaten without tears, Smiley calling her sister’s name, an email from Dave when I’m feeling blue, a hug without words, mutual understanding, endless and unquestionable love and support, family.

These small things scattered through our day leave impressions on our heart if we let them. They are the makings of memories and what life is all about.

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Are you taking the time to appreciate the small things in your life?

Linking up today with Zanni Louise for Sunshine Sunday writing to her prompt – Something small

56 comments on All the small things

  1. Kate
    January 19, 2014 at 7:08 am (3 years ago)

    Hi Renee. Listing the small things like that which you notice and are grateful for is really lovely. And yes, some really not so small at all! A meal without tears is bliss!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:31 pm (3 years ago)

      It sure is bliss, Kate. Thanks very much for your kind words and for dropping in πŸ™‚

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  2. Bec | Mumma Tells
    January 19, 2014 at 7:10 am (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee, I had hoped the return to work/care this year would be more settled for you all. I’m loving your attitude though. Keep revelling in the small things and soaking up those toddler declarations of love. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:32 pm (3 years ago)

      I sure will, Bec. It’s not so bad. I think the kids have just been exhausted with daycare. They do a lot more running around there then they would here at home. Thanks for dropping in x

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  3. Zanni
    January 19, 2014 at 7:14 am (3 years ago)

    So beautiful Renee. Appreciating the small things is probably the best thing you can do for your mental health. It’s grounding. Sounds the perfect thing to do before you start feeling overwhelmed. Thanks so much for linking up this excellent piece. Xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:33 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much, Zanni. Yes, I think it’s the only way to get by – making sure you focus on the positives and let the negatives pass you by if you can xo

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  4. Claire
    January 19, 2014 at 7:17 am (3 years ago)

    Such a good reminder! It’s my New Years resolution this year & it’s so nice to savor those little moments. My favourite are an unsolicited kiss and ‘cuggle’ from my 19 month old or when my 4.5 year old shares her day with me after stories in bed (even though I know it’s a decoy from going to sleep). You are absutely right when you say that what life us all about

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:35 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks so much! Those cuggles are just the best aren’t they?! Miss Three does the same with me. It is lovely to hear about their day in their own words. Precious moments. Such a great resolution to make too, Claire!

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  5. Katie (@mumabytes)
    January 19, 2014 at 7:19 am (3 years ago)

    You say it all, Renee. The biggest parts of life are the small things. Life seems to have a way of making it so damn hard to slow down and notice the small things, but we really need to. Your fam is just beautiful. Have a great rest of the weekend xoxoxo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:39 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Katie. I hope you have a great rest of the weekend too and have a chance to slow down with your fam xoxo

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  6. Erin@TheMumsGroup
    January 19, 2014 at 7:21 am (3 years ago)

    So true Renee. Our children are the same ages, and seem to be going through the same things at the same time, so I totally understand. The other day Gus came running up to me and wrapped his arms around my neck whispering “mummy I’m so happy!” It’s all I want for them and the words I needed to hear more than anything. I hope your peaceful loved filled weekend trickles into your busy week. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:40 pm (3 years ago)

      Aww bless, Erin. That’s lovely. They say the sweetest things don’t they?! I hope you’re feeling well and are having a lovely weekend too xox

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  7. Sam Stone (@A Life on Venus)
    January 19, 2014 at 7:48 am (3 years ago)

    I certainly am trying Renee. Life can so easily spiral out of control! My little man has just started daycare and little miss is about to start school – times they are a changing.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:41 pm (3 years ago)

      Wow, Sam. Those are big changes. I’m looking forward to hearing how little Miss goes at school and hope little man is doing well too. I hope you’re having a lovely weekend x

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  8. Therese whybird
    January 19, 2014 at 8:29 am (3 years ago)

    Beautifully written Renee. A lovely read, and so so true…..it’s the little things we take for granted….

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:42 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Therese and thanks so much for dropping in. Yes, we really can take those little things for granted. I hope you’re having a lovely weekend with your three gorgeous men πŸ™‚

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  9. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    January 19, 2014 at 10:01 am (3 years ago)

    These small things will always be the most important, Renee. Beautiful words from your heart xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:43 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Lisa. They sure are xx

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  10. SarahD @SnippetsandSpirits
    January 19, 2014 at 11:08 am (3 years ago)

    I love your last sentence Renee. I guess that is why we blog to ensure we take note of the small things. Beautifully written as always. I love how you describe your little girls. Keep enjoying those moments xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 2:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Sarah and you too! Blogging is a great way of remembering those special moments in our lives. Just another form of journalling I guess πŸ™‚

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  11. Toni
    January 19, 2014 at 3:34 pm (3 years ago)

    Pretty sure you would already know I do πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 19, 2014 at 9:41 pm (3 years ago)

      Sure do, Toni πŸ™‚

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  12. Nicole
    January 20, 2014 at 5:42 am (3 years ago)

    What a beautiful reflection! Life does too quickly feel out of control, especially as a Mum, so wonderful that you were able to take the time to stop, breathe and remember what there is to be grateful for. Thank you for sharing.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 20, 2014 at 6:24 am (3 years ago)

      And thank you for dropping in, Nicole. I hope you have a wonderful week taking in all of the small things πŸ™‚

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  13. Tegan
    January 20, 2014 at 4:47 pm (3 years ago)

    This is a gorgeous post. I definitely don’t take time to appreciate the small things but I am making more of an effort as Mr 4 will be off to school next year and the time will fly before I know it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 21, 2014 at 5:58 am (3 years ago)

      Gosh, yes you are so right. They will be at school before we know it. We need to treasure these moments now πŸ™‚

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  14. Susan
    January 21, 2014 at 12:00 am (3 years ago)

    Renee- as always , your writings are a joy for me to read. We all need to remember to cherish those moments. I would write down the wonderful things Emma would say as a toddler- we called them Emmaisms- we still get a chuckle when we read them again. Your daughters are very blessed to have such a loving mom!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 21, 2014 at 5:59 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you SO much, Susan!!!! Your words mean so much to me. I love the idea of Emmaisms πŸ™‚ They really do come up with some corkers. Thanks again for dropping in.

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  15. Josefa @always Josefa
    January 21, 2014 at 5:13 pm (3 years ago)

    The small things really are the glue that keep the rest of everything together. Without the small things everything would fall apart. Two weeks in and it feels like it is spiraling out of control? Taking it easy Renee, slow down a little, the year has a long way to go xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 21, 2014 at 6:16 pm (3 years ago)

      I am definitely trying my best πŸ™‚ xx

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  16. Kirsty @ My Home Truths
    January 21, 2014 at 9:38 pm (3 years ago)

    Lovely post Renee – and a great reminder to cherish every moment with our beautiful cherubs!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 21, 2014 at 9:41 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Kirsty πŸ™‚

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  17. Desire Empire
    January 24, 2014 at 6:38 am (3 years ago)

    Yes it sure is the little things. Your girls look so sweet and I get what you mean about forgetting all the tough stuff when they tell you they love you so much. Those are the moments to be savoured.
    Carolyn

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 2:19 pm (3 years ago)

      That’s right, Carolyn. Those little words and those small things make it all worthwhile πŸ™‚

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  18. Lauren
    January 24, 2014 at 6:38 am (3 years ago)

    This is beautiful Renee and so true. It can be too easy to get so caught up with our busy lives that we forget to appreciate and enjoy the simple everyday moments. I just melt when my big boy says I love you xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 2:19 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s just the best isn’t it, Lauren?! I hope you have a lovely long weekend with your boys x

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  19. Lydia C. Lee
    January 24, 2014 at 6:41 am (3 years ago)

    You’ll get back into the rhythm. But in the meantime, enjoy the long weekend!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 2:20 pm (3 years ago)

      Woohoo! Can’t wait, Lydia. Enjoy yours too πŸ™‚

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  20. Caroline Raj
    January 24, 2014 at 12:21 pm (3 years ago)

    A great reminder when life seems totally chaotic. As they say we should always take time to smell the roses (just not sure when there is time for that!!!) Have a great weekend

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 28, 2014 at 7:30 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Caroline. You too and thanks for dropping in!

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  21. Min@MinsMash
    January 24, 2014 at 2:08 pm (3 years ago)

    Good for you for taking the time to focus on the beautiful, special every day things that you have to be grateful for. It seems like only yesterday my kids were little like yours and I remember the exhaustion well and not having much time for myself. My youngest is now 18. In the blink of an eye … my gorgeous little cherubs have all grown up …. and I miss them. Without wanting to sound preachy – and knowing how tired you are – try and keep on grabbing onto all those precious moments and also – don’t forget to look after you. Take some time out just for yourself now and then πŸ˜‰ Min xo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 2:21 pm (3 years ago)

      That is brilliant advice, Min. Thank you so much. I’m already wishing my three year old will stop growing. It just goes too fast xo

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  22. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    January 24, 2014 at 2:08 pm (3 years ago)

    My three and I just got out of the pool after a swim in the rain, and we laughed and laughed, it was so memorable. We also laughed at the raindrops racing on the car window this morning. So yes getting the small stuff enjoying down pact here. I’m dreading next week, back to school, three drop offs, more work – but I’m just trying to spend weekend getting organised ahead of time x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 2:22 pm (3 years ago)

      Sounds like an absolutely awesome morning, Em. Laughing with the kids, there’s nothing better. Three drop offs sounds hectic, but if anyone can do it, you can. I’m picturing you all on your scooters now πŸ™‚ xx

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  23. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    January 24, 2014 at 2:31 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m trying to appreciate the little things in life… it’s hard though when you get so caught up in everything thats going on! What a beautiful thing for your gorgeous little girl to say to you. That would certainly put a smile on anyones face! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 10:13 pm (3 years ago)

      It sure is hard, Lucy. We just need to keep reminding ourselves to focus on what is really important πŸ™‚

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  24. Grace
    January 24, 2014 at 2:57 pm (3 years ago)

    Love it when the twinions tell me that they love me.
    At the moment, my favourite time with them is story time. They’re reading the books verbatim and yell out the lines in unison…gorgeous!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 10:14 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh I love it when they do that! It is such a great age πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 10:14 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Deb. And thanks for dropping in x

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  25. Kylez @ A Study in Contradictions
    January 24, 2014 at 6:01 pm (3 years ago)

    Sometimes the small things are the only things that get me through the day! On a particularly tough day I like to lie in bed and scroll the pictures on my phone, it never fails to cheer me up and remind me why I love my family so much.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 10:15 pm (3 years ago)

      I do the exact same thing, Kylie πŸ™‚

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  26. Neets
    January 24, 2014 at 7:50 pm (3 years ago)

    So true Renee. We started 4 jars at the start of the year to capture the beautiful moments that happen in our family. All the lol moments, cute comments – the small things that we often forget about. We will read them together at the end of the year. You have a beautiful family xox

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 24, 2014 at 10:16 pm (3 years ago)

      That is such a gorgeous idea, Neets. I might just have to steal that xx

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  27. Becc
    January 31, 2014 at 1:27 pm (3 years ago)

    I am trying really hard to do this. Getting caught up in feeling like crap, the stresses of life, my stupid anxiety issues is overwhelming. Taking the time to appreciate the good, no matter how small, is the best remedy.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      January 31, 2014 at 1:38 pm (3 years ago)

      Damn those anxiety issues. It’s really hard going. I’m glad you’re taking time to appreciate the small things.

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