Sometimes you just need to get a little drunk

‘What sort of beer do you want?’ asked my mate as I stood tipsily beside him at the bar of a local pub.

‘The biggest one I can get,’ I said emphatically with what I’m sure was a very stupid grin on my face.

There I was, drunk, in the middle of the day having the TIME. OF. MY. LIFE.

Three or four hours earlier, it’s hard to be precise because of, you know, the whole drunk thing, Dave peeled me off our girls and pushed me out the door with strict instructions to have a good time and to not rush home. I laughed as I reminded him who he was talking to and said I’d be home in a couple of hours tops.

I was heading out for a well overdue lunch with three of my closest friends. I should have felt excited, but as I rushed out the door with furrowed brows, all I could think about was the girls and all the things I should be doing.

Moments later, I was snapped out of my funk when my friend swung into the curb at high speed in front of me. As I hopped into her car, I was greeted with a massive smile, top 40 music blaring, and cool, crisp air conditioning that caressed my skin.

I could feel my tension swiftly being replaced with butterflies – millions of excited butterflies fluttering around in my stomach.

As we neared the restaurant to meet our other friends, I couldn’t wipe the smile off my face. I felt like I was hiding a huge secret.

‘I’m a mummy and have left the kids and hubby at home so I can have an indulgent boozy lunch!’ I felt like shouting from the rooftops.

If you haven’t already guessed, I don’t get out often.

As a busy mum of two young kids, I rarely socialise without them in tow.

I used to be quite the social butterfly back in the day, but since the kids came on the scene my social life has become depressing to say the least. I have virtually slipped off the social radar.

While other women I know socialise without their kids, I rarely do. I don’t know why. I am tired, I guess. After a long day, the only thing I want to do is curl up on the couch with Dave.

Earlier this year though, a friend of mine brought to my attention my lack of social interaction. It’s something that I haven’t stopped thinking about since and something that I have wanted to change.

This doesn’t mean I’m going to go out and drink two bottles of wine, a stein of beer, and pass out on the couch by 7pm every weekend, but it does mean I’m not going to let myself forget again how important it is, how therapeutic it is, how fun, and insanely good it is to spend time with my other loved ones – my friends. (This goes for Dave too of course, who got up to his own antics the weekend before. Hopefully sometime soon we’ll go out together!)

How often do you get out without the kids?

55 comments on Sometimes you just need to get a little drunk

  1. Megan
    October 17, 2013 at 11:17 pm (4 years ago)

    Eeek! I think I get out too often without the kids! I’m lucky to have lots of family close by who love minding them – but yes I think maybe I go out a little too often and not often enough with my husband! I always feel so refreshed when I’ve been out and had a laugh so I’m sure it makes my a better mum! I mainly to book launches and children’s book council meetings (does that count?!) but I do also love catching up with friends. I’m taking both my girls to two book launches that are on in Brisbane this weekend as I feel a bit bad I never take them along to book launches – and one has a lolly bar so I’m pretty sure it will be a winner!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 6:26 am (4 years ago)

      Lol, Megan. Yes, I definitely felt more refreshed after I had my time out. It really is important for us to do. Just need to include the hubby sometimes too πŸ™‚ The book launches sound great. I’d love to be doing that all the time.

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  2. Susan
    October 18, 2013 at 1:29 am (4 years ago)

    Good for you! always remember- girlfriends stay with us forever- and it is only right that you should party with them when you can. keep nthem close always.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 6:23 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Susan. I sure will. I don’t know what I’d do without my friends.

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  3. Lydia C. Lee
    October 18, 2013 at 7:12 am (4 years ago)

    I think it’s really important to get out, just to be human again. And I love the occasional boozy lunch. We went to a Vodka High Tea, and it felt so naughty! While we weren’t rip roaring drunk, and home by 4, there was that euphoria of a leisure afternoon with a few cocktails!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 7:35 am (4 years ago)

      So true, Lydia. Vodka high tea sounds amazing. I’ve never even heard of that! Glad you had a great time.

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  4. Neets
    October 18, 2013 at 7:57 am (4 years ago)

    Good for you Renee! Sounds like you had a ball. I must admit, I’m a little guilty of “not getting out much” anymore either. It’s sad isn’t it. After reading this, I think I’m going to book in a lunch with the girls πŸ™‚ x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:52 pm (4 years ago)

      Yay! You so should. You’ll thank me for it πŸ™‚ x

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  5. Katie (@mumabytes)
    October 18, 2013 at 7:59 am (4 years ago)

    Good on you, Renee! We need our good times – not that family time isn’t good, but we need “different” fun! “Friends Fun” – i really miss that. How did you go getting through the day after those drinks?!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:53 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah that’s right. I totally get what you’re saying. Well, I tell you what, that night was a real battle. I’m not used to drinking much at all and I had to use all of my will to not throw up :/

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  6. Kim@spiritedmama
    October 18, 2013 at 8:10 am (4 years ago)

    Renee I feel exactly the same when I do get out, which has been more of late. My daughter’s dad is back from Europe and so I’ve actually been going on real dates with my beautiful man (we’ve been dating about 6 months but most of the time my poppet is with us). As for the girls night, I’ve got one next thurs woohoo, and another planned with lovely blogger Zanni. I love my poppet like the moon and stars but sometimes it’s nice to be free- just for a moment x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:54 pm (4 years ago)

      It sure is, Kim. Enjoy that time with your lovely man and your girls night out. Wish I was in Sydney to catch up with Zanni and the gang. Don’t forget to take pics x

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  7. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    October 18, 2013 at 8:15 am (4 years ago)

    I rarely go out with my mates for an alcohol session. Mainly because my besties live hundreds of KMs a way from me. Once a year we try to have a “reunion” though. They are good times …

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:54 pm (4 years ago)

      I bet, Leanne. There’s nothing better than reuniting with old mates and chatting as if you’ve never been apart.

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  8. Me
    October 18, 2013 at 8:52 am (4 years ago)

    So glad to hear that you went out with your girl friends and had such a great time !!! I think it’s great when you can let your hair down with friends and just have a good time. Especially when it happens so seldom.
    Have a great weekend and take care !
    Me

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:57 pm (4 years ago)

      It was much needed, Linda. Next time I’ll be sure to not get as over excited with the alcohol πŸ˜‰ Have a great weekend too.

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  9. Kathy
    October 18, 2013 at 8:54 am (4 years ago)

    There is something special about a boozy lunch with great friends. Glad you let your hair down. I think I’m due one of those lunches.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:58 pm (4 years ago)

      You should seriously do it, Kathy. It’s so important to keep those connections with our friends alive.

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  10. Pip
    October 18, 2013 at 9:00 am (4 years ago)

    hahaha – go you – love the title of your post πŸ™‚ thank goodness for mates like those who remind you how important it is to have a laugh and kick your heels up – yay! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:59 pm (4 years ago)

      If only we were in the same city and could do it together, Pip πŸ™‚ Make sure you kick your heels up in the near future xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 1:59 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol, Aleney. Like the way you think πŸ˜‰

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  11. Becc
    October 18, 2013 at 11:11 am (4 years ago)

    We are similar creatures, with the exception that you don’t have to peel me away, I would leap out the door!
    Great to hear you had a good time. What a fabulous way to be reminded that you need to give yourself a bit of self love now and then.
    The copious amounts of alcohol was just an added bonus πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 2:00 pm (4 years ago)

      A bonus and a bit of an accident, Becc. You’re right though, self love is so important.

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  12. Leanne Winter
    October 18, 2013 at 12:37 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m a bit the same, Renee. Too tired most evenings to even think about going out. You’re right though, it’s important to make an effort occasionally, have some fun (without kids) and let your hair down. Did you go straight to bed when you got home?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 2:02 pm (4 years ago)

      After I read my eldest a story, that would have been interesting, I had a quick bite and headed off to bed. I’m still catching up on sleep though. I’m not a seasoned drinker πŸ™‚

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  13. Nat @ Natalia Familia
    October 18, 2013 at 2:04 pm (4 years ago)

    Good on you. I feel the same when I’m about to leave the house in the capable hands of my husband, but time flies when I’m our with friends, and I always think about how much fun it is and that I should do it more often, but life gets busy, doesn’t it? And I get the guilts, so I stay in. πŸ™‚ xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 2:34 pm (4 years ago)

      You sound exactly like me, Natalia. I’m glad I’m not alone πŸ™‚

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  14. Grace
    October 18, 2013 at 2:29 pm (4 years ago)

    We definitely need our nights out. For no other reason than to remind us that we’re social creatures. Not just mums! So great to hear you’re getting out there and enjoying your time with the girls! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 2:35 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Grace. I always admire you for throwing yourself into all different activities and events x

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  15. Tegan
    October 18, 2013 at 3:02 pm (4 years ago)

    There’s nothing quite like a boozy time with good friends!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 9:11 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s for sure, Tegan. I hope you get to enjoy one soon!

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  16. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    October 18, 2013 at 3:25 pm (4 years ago)

    Needless to say I am SO JEALOUS! If you’re out my way, let’s do champers! πŸ˜€

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 9:11 pm (4 years ago)

      Would love to, Jody πŸ™‚

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  17. Ness
    October 18, 2013 at 5:11 pm (4 years ago)

    The last time I did this was in January so I am definitely overdue for a girls day out. Thanks for the reminder!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 9:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Anytime, Ness. Maybe a pre-xmas catch up with the girls!

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  18. Lani
    October 18, 2013 at 6:57 pm (4 years ago)

    These days, I confess I don’t get out as much as I should – and the kids consume my thoughts when I do – but then I am still breastfeeding my youngest who won’t take a full feed in a bottle so I don’t think I have too much choice until she is weaned… or at least has dropped the night feeds.

    Then I hope to have a bit more freedom! Of course, I can’t forget the preschooler who wakes me up at 6am…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 9:13 pm (4 years ago)

      It can be so tricky can’t it, Lani? I’ve only recently stopped feeding so I have more freedom. I found a day outing was better for me, so I didn’t have to worry about not being home during the night when kids are waking up and upset. Hope you get to take some time out soon!

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  19. Zanni Louise
    October 18, 2013 at 7:50 pm (4 years ago)

    About three times in the last three years, and all in the last couple of months! There were two birthday lunches and a day spa. All three were good, but I didn’t drink at any – maybe I should have! Glad you had fun πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 18, 2013 at 9:14 pm (4 years ago)

      Sounds a bit like me, Zanni. Maybe now it’s because our kids are at an age where we feel it’s slightly easy to skip out for a few hours. Enjoy your bloggy drinks coming up πŸ™‚

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  20. Emma Fahy Davis
    October 19, 2013 at 8:48 pm (4 years ago)

    Go you, sounds like you really enjoyed your afternoon out! I’m not a drinker but I relish the chance to get out of an occasional evening for coffee (and chocolate) with friends. It really does recharge the batteries.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 19, 2013 at 9:42 pm (4 years ago)

      It sure does, Emma. Glad you get a chance to get out every now and then.

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  21. Lauren
    October 19, 2013 at 9:22 pm (4 years ago)

    Good on you! I try to get out for a ‘girls night’ once a month, the time goes so fast as between us we hardly draw a breath! I’m still breastfeeding at the moment, once my little man is older I will certainly be planning a night out with a few wines!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 19, 2013 at 9:43 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s fantastic you catch up once a month! Good for you!

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  22. Kylez @ A Study in Contradictions
    October 20, 2013 at 3:45 pm (4 years ago)

    I have been really missing being able to go out to dinner with my girlfriends or just pop out for a few hours since Zee came along. Don’t get me wrong, I love having a new baby and I have been trying to enjoy her littleness as much as possible but there comes a point where I really just need a time-out. I attempted to go out to dinner with a girlfriend a week ago and while I got a whole 2 hours out of the house I spent the whole time worrying about Zee and whether or not she had taken the bottle for Dave. Turns out she didn’t and I cam home to a house with a screaming baby so that kinda tainted the enjoyment I’d had with my girlfriend.

    I just keep reminding myself though that it won’t be long and I will be able to go out with the girls again and not have to worry about a starving baby not taking a bottle. I made the most of the last few months before Zee came along and spent lots of evenings going to friends places and out to dinner once Punky was tucked up in bed and I do look forward to being able to do that again. I think I would go insane if I didn’t get one totally kid-free and guilt-free outing by myself, just for myself at least once a month.

    So glad to hear you had a fabulous time, you should definitely do it more often!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 20, 2013 at 8:58 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh I know it can be so hard when they’re as young as Zee. Neither of mine were keen to take the bottle until about 10 months or so. It makes it very hard for you. I hope you get to have a decent timeout soon!

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  23. Sam Stone @ A Life on Venus
    October 20, 2013 at 3:51 pm (4 years ago)

    I am like you Renee. I rarely go out without the kids. I think it is important though. And also important to spend time with just your partner too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 20, 2013 at 8:59 pm (4 years ago)

      True Sam. I definitely need to do more of that.

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  24. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    October 20, 2013 at 8:56 pm (4 years ago)

    It’s so important to just let loose every now and then! I’m lucky that I have a great hubby is also lets me go out and about – but usually we bring kids with us and have family bbq catch ups! But every now and then, like last night’s red carpet do – we were out just us with NO kids – it was great. Do it more often if you can Ren xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 21, 2013 at 1:11 pm (4 years ago)

      Sounds like you had a fab time and you looked amazing aswell! I think if you can find the right balance with socialising with and without kids you’re onto a winner πŸ™‚ x

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  25. Maxabella
    October 22, 2013 at 10:31 am (4 years ago)

    Sometimes you really do just need to throw all the responsibilities of life out the window and get out and enjoy yourself. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 22, 2013 at 8:19 pm (4 years ago)

      You sure do! I can’t wait for my next chance to get out πŸ™‚ I hope you’re getting some time out too x

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  26. Bec @ Wholly Listening
    October 22, 2013 at 1:15 pm (4 years ago)

    A bit of time out with friends does make a HUGE difference! I’m heading away for a (kid-free) overnight stay with some girlfriends in early November, and am so ridiculously excited! I hope you get a few more opportunities to get out soon πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 22, 2013 at 8:19 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh Bec! That sounds awesome! I bet you are counting down the days. Enjoy!!!

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