The difference between four and two

‘Well, that’s the difference between four and two,’ said the woman to me in the middle of the supermarket.

I laughed halfheartedly before turning my attention back to the situation that was cranking up a notch beside me.

The situation being my two-year-old going absolutely loco in the middle of Coles.

Ahh, my darling two-year-old, bless her. She does this. She can be perfectly happy one minute and miserable the next. Dark clouds close in on us and the whinging starts.

‘My legs don’t work,’ she whined to me as I attempted to remain calm keen to avoid yet another scene in Coles.

‘My legs are broken.

‘I not feeling welllllll.’

She asked to be put in the trolley. I put her in the trolley. She asked to walk. I took her out of the trolley. She asked to be put in the trolley. I put her in the trolley … you get the picture.

I attempted to appease her with the closest thing I could find, a packet of pikelets. Alas, this didn’t work as the the pikelets were allegedly dirty even though I had only just pulled them out of the packet.

As I attempted to catch in my hand the chewed up pikelet Miss Two was regurgitating and wrestle her back into the trolley before she fell out, I caught a woman watching me.

She ventured closer and asked me how old my eldest daughter was.

Our eldest had been fairly quiet during the shopping trip. She had her eyes on a prize – a Doc McStuffins Colouring in book. She’s no dummy. She knew that if she was a good girl, that book was hers.

‘She’s four-and-a-half,’ I said to the woman.

‘And how old is this one?’ she asked nodding her head toward my snot covered screaming bundle of love.

‘She’s two-and-a-half,’ I replied.

‘Well, that’s the difference between four and two, isn’t it?’ she said.

Ain’t that the truth?!

I feel like life is cruising along nicely with Miss Four. She has her moments, but for the most part she’s happy, well-behaved, a good sister and a great helper. I nearly died the other day when she made her bed and tidied her room without me even asking.

Miss Two on the other hand is still at that high maintenance stage. She is in a clingy phase at the moment and on any given day she can take us on an emotional roller coaster ride leaving us all screaming to get off.

While I think she’s more … spirited than her older sister was at this age, I know that most of her behaviour is simply down to being two and being two can really suck sometimes.

After chatting to this woman, I got to thinking about some of the differences in behaviour I’ve noticed between my two.

1. A four-year-old can and wants to dress herself. A two-year-old wants to dress herself, but can’t. Attempting to help your two-year-old dress herself will only end in heartache for all involved as she tells you she can do it, then she can’t do it, then she can do it, then she can’t do it …

2. A four-year-old will sit at the table to eat her dinner, while the two-year-old will:

  • sit at the table for 30 seconds before running off
  • lie on the floor while you feed her
  • ride around on her toy car while you chase after her with a fork.

3. A four-year-old has more control over her temper with meltdowns few and far between, while a two-year-old is like a ticking time bomb.

4. A four-year-old understands the concept of sharing, while the word ‘share’ doesn’t even enter a two-year-old’s vocabulary. The word ‘mine’ features heavily, however.

5. A four-year-old’s vocabulary is growing at a rapid rate and she will amaze you with new words every day. Your two-year-old will also amaze you with her ability to use the words ‘poo’ and ‘wee’ and the phrase ‘flush you down the toilet’ in almost every conversation.

Isn’t it amazing what a difference two years can make?

(Don’t get me wrong, Miss Two is an absolute darling and brings us endless happiness, but some days, well some days are just full on. She’s just your typical two-year-old and we’re hanging in there for the ride.)

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Can you relate? Does any of this sound familiar? What age did you find the hardest?

Linking up today with one of my all time favourite bloggers Essentially Jess for IBOT.

63 comments on The difference between four and two

  1. Dannielle @ zamamabakes
    May 26, 2015 at 6:34 am (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee this all sounds very familiar and comforting if that makes sense.
    I found 3 a terrible age just when I thought I was on top of the 2’s we got the there’s and boy oh boy I would take 2 over 3 any day! And it happened with all 3 of ours. I’m now glad we’ve just entered the 4’s for the third and sadly last time but so far so good. You’ve just got to embrace all that preciousness! And yes 2 years makes a huge difference!
    Have a gorgeous day xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:08 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, three is definitely a scary age too! I find at four you can finally breathe πŸ™‚ x

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  2. Zanni Louise
    May 26, 2015 at 6:43 am (2 years ago)

    Hi Lovely… Yes, I relate to a lot of this, as my girls are a similar age. But both my girls are so ‘spirited’ we get some of those behaviours from my oldest rather than my youngest. The youngest was able to dress herself before the oldest – she’s more practical in many ways. And seems to be more levelled emotionally. But she hasn’t hit three yet! That’s when my oldest discovered the tanty. πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:09 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh yes! Three was a tough year for us with your first too. She definitely had her moments. We just to hang in there and enjoy the ride πŸ™‚ x

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  3. Raychael aka Mystery Case
    May 26, 2015 at 6:51 am (2 years ago)

    I’m pretty sure what ever stage you are currently in is the hardest for parenting. For me, it’s the teenage years and while I think I have it fairly easy with my three girls, I’m still finding my parenting feet.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:10 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, that’s true, Raychael. The teenage years do scare me πŸ™‚

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  4. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    May 26, 2015 at 6:56 am (2 years ago)

    Are you sitting over my shoulder? This is just like my household, though I must say Miss 2 is good at sharing, for now. But the I can dress myself, help me routine is an exhausting daily repeat.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:10 pm (2 years ago)

      It sure is! I’m glad you can relate, Malinda πŸ™‚

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  5. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    May 26, 2015 at 6:58 am (2 years ago)

    Oh that was so long ago.
    I honestly can’t remember …
    But yes, there is that big difference between four and two …
    I remember really liking four quite a bit more …

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:11 pm (2 years ago)

      The twos and threes are such emotional stages for them, but there is so much fun also to be fair πŸ™‚

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  6. Lydia C. Lee
    May 26, 2015 at 7:00 am (2 years ago)

    Heh heh. I want to do that in the Supermarket all the time…but that’s the difference between 2 and 107….

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  7. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    May 26, 2015 at 7:02 am (2 years ago)

    I laughed out loud at your description of number 2 and 4 only because they are so familiar! Aiden turns two tomorrow (just writing that freaks me out) and he is certainly turning into our spirited child. He is starting to move out of his high chair and sit on a stool at the bench for breakfast, however his new trick is to climb onto the bench when my back is turned and either steal his brothers food or sit in the sink.. awesome.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:23 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. He’s a real character that one. I hope he had a lovely birthday x

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  8. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    May 26, 2015 at 7:21 am (2 years ago)

    Oh yes, this is my life too. They really do develop so quickly in the space of two years don’t they? It’s quite amazing. At least your 2 year old can communicate what is wrong. Baby Vick currently isn’t talking much so he will chuck a full blown spazzy and we not the foggiest what it’s all for!?! I personally thought dealing with a 3 year old was harder. They’re just that slightly more manipulative and cluey. Scary little gremlins!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:26 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, it sure is hard when they can’t communicate. You’re right about three year olds. They are a whole other ball game! x

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  9. Michelle@myslowlivingadventure.wordpress.com
    May 26, 2015 at 9:33 am (2 years ago)

    I think there’s a major difference between firstborn and second. Everyone I know has very ‘good’ first children and wild second ones! Just an observation.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:27 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I have noticed that too, Michelle.

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  10. Michaela Fox
    May 26, 2015 at 9:38 am (2 years ago)

    Oh yes, this sounds very familiar. But I reckon my girls hit the “terrible twos” well before their second birthday. It definitely gets easier as they can more independence. My youngest just turned three and I can see a bit difference. She’s still got plenty of spunk (read: “spirit’) but her tantrums don’t last nearly as long now! Thankfully…. πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:27 pm (2 years ago)

      Thank God! Yep, a lot of people say even before two the terrible twos can come in. Fun and games!! πŸ˜‰

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  11. Bec @ The Plumbette
    May 26, 2015 at 9:42 am (2 years ago)

    its very similar here too with the two year old antics! Although the last night Magdalene climbed into her high chair last night and pointed to her table and said I want dinner here. I thought it was cute but then I couldn’t believe the attitude! Our girls definitely have their moments! It’s a freaking ride that’s for sure! X

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:28 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol!!! She knows what she wants, that’s for sure!! πŸ™‚ x

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  12. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    May 26, 2015 at 10:27 am (2 years ago)

    Oh yes, much memories. Two and three were tough years, four is when you start to see what wonderful little people are in there!

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  13. Laney@thelaneyfiles
    May 26, 2015 at 10:38 am (2 years ago)

    Yes I can relate! My three year old girl has always been the noisiest, high maintenance child in the house. She actually got harder once she turned three. I can see she is turning a corner now, part of me is glad that she’s growing up, the other part of me wants to keep her young, they’re so cute at three, despite the difficult bits!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:30 pm (2 years ago)

      I’m starting to remember the threes now after all of these comments and I’m scared. Very scared πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 3, 2016 at 6:20 am (1 year ago)

      They really are, Laney πŸ™‚

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  14. Tonia Zemek
    May 26, 2015 at 11:28 am (2 years ago)

    Really enjoyed this post Renee, great insights I’m sure will resonate with lots of Mums of 2 and 4 year olds. As for that photo, how adorable are your little ones? Beautiful.

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  15. Natalie @ our parallel connection
    May 26, 2015 at 12:47 pm (2 years ago)

    So true… I remember feeling a constant embarrassment when my kids were little ( 4 kids in 5yrs) and there was always one of them having a wolly… The good thing Renee is as they get older, you can say if u don’t stop, I will get you back .. Most times they stop ..lol

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:33 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Wow I didn’t realise you had four in five years. You really are super mum!

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  16. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    May 26, 2015 at 12:47 pm (2 years ago)

    I was not fortunate enough to witness this myself when my children were young, I have a 6 year gap between my two, but now as a Step Mummy, I get to see the vast differences between my teen and preteen kids. 14, 13, 12, and 11. I simply cannot believe how different their maturity is. What a gift parenting is, though so challenging as well. xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:33 pm (2 years ago)

      It really is a gift, Nicole. I am grateful every single day πŸ™‚ x

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  17. Karin @ Calm to Conniption
    May 26, 2015 at 1:48 pm (2 years ago)

    My son is just 3 and my little girl is just a bub so we are just starting all this fun. The moment my son turned 3 it was like he flicked the switch to just a little more crazy. I can completely relate to the “dirty” food thing. Garrr! It hurts my brain!!

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  18. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    May 26, 2015 at 4:47 pm (2 years ago)

    This sounds all to familiar Renee! I’m living it with Miss T (5.5) and Mr TT (nearly 3). Both my tornadoes are “spirited” and I’ve found between 2.5 an 3.5 years the toughest age. So much spirit. So much stubbornness. So much noise. I’ve taken to grocery shopping on Sundays by myself for a bit of “me” time. There’s not enough cheesymite scrolls in the world to make grocery shopping with Mr TT enjoyable (for now anyway). Hang in there. I feel your pain xx

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:35 pm (2 years ago)

      True that, Tash! I am a big fan of online shopping now πŸ™‚ x

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  19. Luisa @ Looking for mama me
    May 26, 2015 at 7:03 pm (2 years ago)

    haha, I have a feeling we will have a 2 and 4 year old, pending mother nature. I haven’t yet had the joys of toddlerhood (my bub is 8 months) but its going to be a challenge!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:36 pm (2 years ago)

      It’s a lot of fun too! But yes, it’s an interesting ride πŸ™‚

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  20. Haidee
    May 26, 2015 at 7:15 pm (2 years ago)

    Haha, yes I can totally relate! I have a 2 and 3 year old. What a terrible idea that was! In the supermarket the other day we had the 2 year old wanting to sit in the actual trolley (not the seat) while he ended up surrounded by groceries and trying to open every item while the 3 year old lay on the floor trying to see himself in the mirror above the meat section and cried every time we walked away from him ‘Don’t leeeeave me! Mummy is GONE!’. So much fun!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Sorry, God that’s funny. I’m laughing because it’s so familiar. I recommend online shopping πŸ™‚

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  21. Hugzilla
    May 26, 2015 at 7:43 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh boy, how I can relate. I have a 5 year old and a just-turned-three year old. My friends are sick of hearing my parenting mantra by now: “0-3 sucks”.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:37 pm (2 years ago)

      It’s definitely been interesting, Zilla. That’s for sure!

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  22. EssentiallyJess
    May 26, 2015 at 8:19 pm (2 years ago)

    I was trying to remember two. Only two and a bit years ago, and yet it seems so far!
    I like four. Five is not too bad either. Look out for 6. It all becomes hard again at 6 πŸ™

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh no, really?! I wonder why. Hormones, school? I hate to think!

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  23. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    May 26, 2015 at 8:50 pm (2 years ago)

    Yes my friend they are wee monkeys aren’t they? You don’t want to know about 3 then! Or maybe boys just take longer to be like this…. I’m not afraid to say I do enjoy having kids I can negotiate with xx

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  24. Shauna 'Round the Corner
    May 26, 2015 at 9:56 pm (2 years ago)

    My 6 year old sounds awfully like your 2 year old and no offence but this concerns me lol! We also have a 9 year old son and the difference between the two is like night and day. Our daughter is delightful but oh so emotional and indecisive! BTW as a daycare Mum I had a parent this morning drop her 2 year old off and (exasperated) she said “E refused to wear a nappy and insisted on dressing herself so she is wearing underpants and her jeans are back to front”. As she left she shouted “Good luck!” Ha! I thought you might relate πŸ™‚

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:39 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol! Oh my goodness. You must have experienced it all being a daycare mum. I bet you have a few stories to tell!

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  25. Lauren - Gold Coast Mum
    May 27, 2015 at 1:35 am (2 years ago)

    Oh, I hear you! I think every age (and gap) has its challenges.
    My eldest two are similar ages and spend a lot of the time pushing each other’s buttons (as well as mine!)
    My twincesses are 18 months and, while mostly sweet, angels now, are starting to show signs of the ‘terrific twos’ πŸ˜‰

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  26. Vanessa
    May 27, 2015 at 7:32 am (2 years ago)

    I don’t think I would last a day as a parent haha.

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:41 pm (2 years ago)

      Haha!! It’s lots of fun and games πŸ™‚

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  27. Erika @ Ever-changing Life of a Mum
    May 27, 2015 at 10:57 am (2 years ago)

    He he, my 5-year-old sounds a lot like your 2-year-old so I think you are doing pretty well! I think every child has their own personality and every age group brings a new set of challenges – that’s the joy of parenting! Right now I’m dealing with a tween, 5-year-old and a newborn so we have a lot going on!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:42 pm (2 years ago)

      Whoa! You sure do!!! Good luck πŸ™‚

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  28. Twitchy Sharon
    May 27, 2015 at 2:08 pm (2 years ago)

    Bless em!

    Somehow my daughter was undeniably delicious right up to her 3rd birthday. It was then she turned and has been my whiplash-extremes child ever since! #teamIBOT

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:42 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh God! You must have thought you were home and hosed until the threes came around!

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  29. Sam Stone
    May 27, 2015 at 4:29 pm (2 years ago)

    I can totally relate. My kidlets are 2 and 6!

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:43 pm (2 years ago)

      I bet they keep you on your toes, Sam!

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  30. Jessie Reid
    May 27, 2015 at 4:38 pm (2 years ago)

    I am now on my third two year old and have a sort of resigned humour about it, even when she looks at a lovely roast potato, pokes it with her finger and yells “What the Hell is this?”. Sometimes the tantrums are a bit much when everyone is tired but I know they will pass…

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    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      May 28, 2015 at 1:43 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh my goodness! That is hilarious .. and a little bit scary. I bet she keeps you busy πŸ™‚

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  31. Tegan
    June 2, 2015 at 2:31 pm (2 years ago)

    Your two year old sounds like my almost 6 year old lol! He has endless amounts of energy, could talk under water with a mouth full of marbles and throws tantrums like they are going out of fashion. He’s lucky he’s cute lol.

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