The simple things

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These words flashed before me as I scrolled through my Facebook news feed over the weekend. They lingered in my mind as I went through the motions of my day. They were the wake up call I needed to slow down.

I am an absolute shocker for racing through life at the speed of light always trying to fit a million and one things into a measly 24 hours. It seems that more often than not lately, I have been biting off more than I can chew and its effects are taking their toll.

Truth be told, I have been feeling a little overwhelmed recently. I am juggling being an awesome mummy, loving wife, superstar housekeeper and not so superstar chef, a good friend, and newbie blogger. Throw in a baptism, third birthday, and the start of daycare for my bub, and I find myself struggling to keep all of these balls in the air. At the end of each day, I am finding it harder to catch my breath and notice it is taking me longer to bring my shoulders down from up around my ears and chill out of an evening.

In just under two months’ time, I will be heading back to work part-time.

My job situation changed while on maternity leave, so I will be returning to a new role, new team, and new boss. The transition back to work after 12 months off will be interesting enough, let alone with an extra serving of change added in there to spice up the mix.

More than ever, now is the time for me to slow down. I need to put those brakes on and take in what is happening around me. Rushing around like a lunatic all the time, I forget to observe the simple things in life. The beautiful things that are happening around me every single day. Special, magical, awe-inspiring things that fill my heart and soul with happiness.

After receiving my wake up call loud and clear, I spent the remainder of the weekend being aware of my surroundings.

At a birthday party on the weekend, Curly-locks, my almost-three-year-old climbed to the top of a climbing frame and then slid down a slide. I was filled with pride. I grinned like an idiot scouting out Dave in the crowd to see if he witnessed what I just had. This would be no big deal for other parents as they watch their children hurl themselves down slides, jump off ledges, and run full pelt across the wobbly bridges. Doing what she did was totally out of her comfort zone. She’s growing and changing.

Later that same day, Curly-locks saw a dog roaming around in the park. She walked straight toward him eager to say hello. Again, she showed us she is growing and changing. If we blink we will miss it. These simple things that aren’t so simple make life so worthwhile.

DSCF0289While Curly-locks and I were playing, I caught a glimpse of Dave and Smiley sitting together on the grass. They looked angelic as the warm Winter sun peaked through the trees behind them forming halos over their heads. Dave nestled into Smiley’s neck and blew raspberries as she squirmed and squealed. The simple things.

Later that evening, we popped the girls in the bath together. Once they were in safely and Dave was watching them I told him I would just run and do one or two of the things on my to-do list.

‘Don’t go,’ said Dave.

‘Stay. This is nice.’

I stayed and we watched the girls splash each other in the bath. The four of us in the bathroom together laughing, playing, and discussing the day’s events. The simple things.

This morning as I dressed the girls, I played some Justine Clarke. The three of us sang and danced our hearts out. Smiley head banged to the beat, while Curly-locks stuck her bum out, wiggled her hips, and gave it all she’s got. As I watched our reflections in the mirror, I was filled with happiness. The simple things.

In the next couple of months before my life goes up a notch of crazy, I aim to simplify as much as I can. This is definitely going to be hard for me and goes against my nature.

I have set myself some simple πŸ™‚ intentions to see me through the next couple of months as I prepare for the next stage of my life.

  1. Be present.
  2. Be wary of my limits.
  3. Look after me.
  4. Breathe.
  5. Simplify.

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Are you making the time to enjoy the simple things in your life?

DailyPositiveQuotes.com is the Facebook group I I found these motivational words in. Check them out if you are looking for a bit of inspiration in your day.

46 comments on The simple things

  1. Lydia C. Lee
    July 16, 2013 at 6:56 am (4 years ago)

    “β€˜Don’t go,’ said Dave.

    β€˜Stay. This is nice.’”
    That’s so sweet. You know what, that’s the big one. I think we often make an effort to be present for our children, but our partner gets left behind – we rush off to do things while he is ‘on duty’. That’s a really good reminder.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 9:56 am (4 years ago)

      It sure is, Lydia. The focus is nearly always on the kids, in my life at any rate, and poor old hubby can get left on the sidelines sometimes. Being present when we are with ALL our loved ones is so important.

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  2. Pip
    July 16, 2013 at 7:31 am (4 years ago)

    Oh what an important list you’ve written there. It’s so hard as women I feel. We future plan every second of the day. What a whole lot of love you’ve spoken about there. For me the transition was tough – even after just over a year’s break – but you’ll get through it, and the level of self awareness and gratitude that you have will mean even if it’s hard – you’ve got all that love waiting for you on your days home and when you get home from work. I’ll be thinking of you on your return. (blogging can always ebb and flow) xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 9:58 am (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Pip. That’s so sweet. That future planning can really get you and it’s hard to just switch that off if you’ve been doing it your whole life. Practice makes perfect I guess πŸ™‚

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  3. Andrea
    July 16, 2013 at 7:41 am (4 years ago)

    Amen to that my dear. I really have to stop myself sometimes, trying to fit in everything that I think I should be doing, but thankfully I have realised if I don’t calm the hell down I’ll run myself into the ground and will be no good to anyone – no body wants that. So if the house is not 100% tidy, I let it go. If dinner is beans on toast, you know what? I like beans on toast! Having little ones DEFINITELY helps prioritise, the time with them is so fleeting in the scheme of things, but it is so so precious. Give yourself a break. You are such a kind person Renee, be kind to yourself too. xxxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 9:59 am (4 years ago)

      Aww bless, Andrea. Thank you x And you know what? I LOVE beans on toast too xxoo

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  4. Kim@spiritedmama
    July 16, 2013 at 8:54 am (4 years ago)

    That is such a great list – I have a similar list. I stick to it for a while, then life goes AWOL, then I come back to the list and start all over again.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 10:00 am (4 years ago)

      As long as we can keep bringing ourselves back on track then that’s the main thing, Kim. Good luck with keeping on track with yours πŸ™‚

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  5. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    July 16, 2013 at 9:54 am (4 years ago)

    This is something I need to remind myself of regularly to keep it in the forefront of my mind. The simple things are the little memories that last a lifetime. I also like to try and see the world through my daughters’ eyes, sometimes we adults miss so much. Take care. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 10:01 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Jodi. Yes, seeing the world through your children’s eyes can be amazing. I don’t do it enough x

      Reply
  6. Lisa@Circle of Toast
    July 16, 2013 at 11:48 am (4 years ago)

    So true – I am often guilty of letting my husband take over while I shoot off to do stuff, instead of staying and enjoying the moment together. Lovely post!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 1:46 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Lisa. Yes, it can be so hard to just sit πŸ™‚

      Reply
  7. Toni
    July 16, 2013 at 12:45 pm (4 years ago)

    I have always been a multi-tasker and instead of sitting still I will be doing four or five things at once. I made it a point when I started my blog (and its included in my slogan) to take time to appreciate the little things. Im so grateful for my second chance at life (since my divorce a few years ago) that I try not to get too busy and miss out on things. I have found though that its been a lot easier to stop and appreciate things since going on maternity leave. Now I actually have the time to focus on me and being present more and doing everything at a slower pace.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 1:50 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s wonderful, Toni. I’m so glad things are going well for you and you’re at ease with going a little bit slower. Mustn’t be long for you now!

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  8. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    July 16, 2013 at 1:45 pm (4 years ago)

    Renee, it feels like we’re always juggling, doesn’t it? Sometimes we just have to let some of the “stuff” go, and even though it may feel wrong, be a bit more relaxed.
    You are certainly an awesome mummy, Dave and your girls know that, you’ve got to believe it too.
    Be kind to yourself as your life kicks into overdrive, you deserve it xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 1:51 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Lisa. You are so sweet!! x

      Reply
  9. Emily @ Have a laugh on me
    July 16, 2013 at 2:41 pm (4 years ago)

    I know what you mean, I need to spend less time on the computer when the kids are around, watch them, laugh with them, enjoy them. But it’s hard because I work from home and so I’m torn. I think some people are great at juggling. I like the idea of a to-do list and I LOVE that your wee girl is becoming super brave πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 2:54 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks πŸ™‚ I bet it’s hard working from home. There are so many distractions and you’d have to be so disciplined.

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  10. Becc
    July 16, 2013 at 3:42 pm (4 years ago)

    Sometimes I don’t get a choice as my body has a way of telling me.
    I do like that you have realised this before it is all too late. It is funny how you can live with a few things undone that seemed so important previously. Re-prioritising in line with you values will make quite a big improvement to your life.
    I hope you enjoy it πŸ™‚
    Becc @ Take Charge Now

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 8:21 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Becc. Prioritising is definitely going to be key for me now more than ever πŸ™‚

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  11. Simone
    July 16, 2013 at 4:59 pm (4 years ago)

    My new mantra, which I made last week, is to go with the flow and to stop pushing so much to make things happen. Like you Renee, this is easier said than done to live by, but it is amazing what allowing myself space and ease has done for my overall mindset. Taking one thing at a time rather than racing around feeling overwhelmed is pointless. And it is amazing all the little things I am noticeing and appreciating too πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 8:23 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s awesome, Sim. That’s a really great mantra too. I might have to adopt it πŸ™‚ I’m hoping I will notice a major change in my life just as you have.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 8:24 pm (4 years ago)

      That is for sure, Nikki! I think it’s going to be tricky finding the balance, but for the sake of everyone in this family I have got to give it a go πŸ™‚

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  12. Sam Stone
    July 16, 2013 at 6:10 pm (4 years ago)

    I need to constantly tell myself to calm down and not miss the small things in life, especially now we have children.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 8:25 pm (4 years ago)

      Glad I’m not the only one, Sam. It can be so hard to take a step back and observe when you’re not really used to it. Good luck finding your balance.

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  13. Josefa @always Josefa
    July 16, 2013 at 6:16 pm (4 years ago)

    Love this post. There is so much that you are learning about you, the role of being Mum and so much we can all gain from this. Love the images! Even the written ones ~ all being together for bath time is something we overlook in the joy it can bring. Good luck when crazy goes up a notch. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 8:26 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Josefa πŸ™‚ I think I’ll need it x

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  14. Angie
    July 16, 2013 at 9:04 pm (4 years ago)

    Aaaah Renee, you are so right. I tell myself this all the time but gee it’s a hard thing to stick to! I think I am totally insane right now! Working f/t, trying to manage new house and rental and applying for a promotion. Life is hectic now, surely it can’t get any worse right? Right? hehehe But I do always take time out for Marshall. I don’t get much time with him so the time I get is sacred. I am always wishing I had more. They grow up so quickly don’t they? I really admire women who can either put their career on hold, be a fully sahm mum or return part-time. You are beautiful amazing women. Rememebr also to not beat up on yourself too much πŸ˜‰ You do a wonderful job and should be proud of yourself and your beautiful family xox (P.S. but you wouldn’t be a mum if you didn’t beat up on yourself sometimes right πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 9:25 pm (4 years ago)

      That is so true, Angie. Your schedule sounds insane at the moment. I don’t know how you do it. You must really be wonder woman! I’m glad you’re managing to give yourself some down time though and enjoying your gorgeous little boy.

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  15. Twitchy
    July 16, 2013 at 9:37 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh, that description of the bath story… stay and watch. Such an awwww moment. I am lucky I have the time still out of the workforce to do things like this. I know I shouldn’t too often, but I like to take snaps as often as possible, because I am afraid that while I won’t forget to take those moments, I will forget the little details. #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 16, 2013 at 9:44 pm (4 years ago)

      I am a big fan of taking snaps too, but sometimes think hey just enjoy it, you’ll miss it snapping away πŸ™‚ Thanks for dropping in πŸ™‚

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  16. Danya Banya
    July 16, 2013 at 11:12 pm (4 years ago)

    Awww! “Stay. This is nice.” This is what it’s all about isn’t it. These little moments of calm. I love your intentions. Might see if I can adopt them myself. πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 17, 2013 at 10:17 am (4 years ago)

      Thanks Danya πŸ™‚ I’m glad you liked it!

      Reply
  17. Janet @ Redland City Living
    July 17, 2013 at 11:56 am (4 years ago)

    When I came home in tears the day I was made redundant last year, the first thing Miss 16 said was “does this mean you will be a fulltime mum now?!” – she was thrilled to think I would be around more! Even at her age, they want your love and your time.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 17, 2013 at 2:31 pm (4 years ago)

      That is a lovely story, Janet!!

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  18. Naturally Carol
    July 17, 2013 at 2:48 pm (4 years ago)

    Nothing can return those special moments to you so enjoy every one of them while they happen..they are tomorrow’s great memories.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 17, 2013 at 3:15 pm (4 years ago)

      So true, Carol. Thank you πŸ™‚

      Reply
  19. Rina
    July 18, 2013 at 5:17 am (4 years ago)

    When we are too caught up with routines and hectic life we often forget that simple things can be beautiful and they are there for us to enjoy and celebrate. Nice post. Love it! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 18, 2013 at 1:23 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Rina. Yes, we could all do with slowing down a little πŸ™‚

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  20. Emily
    July 18, 2013 at 9:39 pm (4 years ago)

    Awesome post and so true, it’s amazing how fast things change. I have recently been where you are, going back to work after (well it was supposed to be 12 months, but ended up being 9 months) off, to a new department, new boss, and braving the childcare options, etc. Good luck with it all, and remember where your priorities are.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 18, 2013 at 11:48 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you, Emily. I will really try to do that. I hope all is going well with you and your new department and boss πŸ™‚

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  21. Maxabella
    July 19, 2013 at 9:16 pm (4 years ago)

    “Stay. This is nice.” Moments, huh? x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 19, 2013 at 9:27 pm (4 years ago)

      Yep. We are so lucky to have moments like these and be loved like we are πŸ™‚

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  22. Amy
    July 19, 2013 at 9:51 pm (4 years ago)

    I set myself some similar intentions earlier in the year, but I let them slip recently. Thanks for the reminder x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 19, 2013 at 10:21 pm (4 years ago)

      You’re welcome πŸ™‚ I set myself some intentions at the beginning of the year too. It never hurts to refresh them though or add to them!

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