Today, I turn 38.
A few years ago, I would have cringed at the mere thought of turning 38.
Two years off 40, edging scarily close to mid-life with the best years of my life behind me. My boobs sagging, my body flabby, stagnant in suburbia with a mortage, a 9 to 5, and deep in the trenches of parenthood.
Instead, I feel content.
I feel like I’m exactly where I should be and where I want to be at this point in my life. 38 feels pretty damn good to me.
I’ve been in a reflective mood lately what with my birthday coming up and being forced to rest thanks to an evil parasite, who I’ve named Joffrey, set up camp in my body making me quite unwell.
I’ve been fortunate enough to lead a very rich and blessed life. A life full of travel, adventure, family, friendship, happiness, heartache, sorrow, hard work and learning. A life full of experiences, good and bad, that have shaped me into the person I am today.
I’ve learnt so much in my 38 years. Some lessons I’ve had to learn many times over. Some lessons I’m only just working out the answers to now.
I feel that as I say goodbye to each year, I am becoming more comfortable in my own skin, respecting myself more and accepting myself for who I am.
My entire life I have been guilty of being a people pleaser worrying about what people think of me and whether or not I’m being a good enough daughter, wife, mother, worker and friend.
It’s only recently that I’ve realised that I need to switch my focus to me. By being true to myself, I will find genuine happiness and fulfillment. The people who matter in my life will be part of my life because they accept me for who I am, not someone I am trying to be.
Lately, I’ve been thinking about who I am, the person I want to become, and how I want to be remembered.
I’m doing more of what makes me happy. I’m surrounding myself with positive people and letting go of those who bring me down. I’m attempting to remind myself to not take things personally, to not hold grudges, and to not compare.
I’m a naturally sensitive soul and quite an over thinker. I spend way too much time psycho analysing people and situations and most of the time it’s just a massive head wrecker. Life is too short to get hung up on things that are quite possibly just in my head.
I’m learning to embrace my inner introvert. This is something that has weighed on me since I was a kid. As I witness my own daughter battle with shyness, I’ve realised that there’s nothing wrong with being introverted. So what if we take a little while to warm up to you and to emerge from our shells? Once we do, we’re definitely worth the wait.
These days I’m finding renewed courage to follow my dreams. I’m working hard to make them a reality, but at the same time I’m being kind to myself. There is no rush in achieving these dreams. I’m working hard, enjoying every day, and keeping my mind and heart open to possibility.
On my birthday 10 years ago, Dave and I were taking the long way home via the US and Canada from our two year stint in the UK. The two of us backpacked for two months with open minds and hearts. It was one of the happiest periods of my life. We were young and carefree lapping up everything the world had to offer. It was where we were meant to be at that time of our lives.
Ten years on, where I’m meant to be is in my happy little home with my baby girls and gorgeous husband. Life is not as exciting as it was 10 years ago, but it makes me just as happy.
38, I think we’re going to have fun.
Now, it wouldn’t be a birthday celebration without presents. I’ve had my fair share, so now it’s your turn.
As you know, I absolutely adore Pink Woods, a Facebook store which specialises in earrings, brooches, scarflettes, necklaces and cheeseboards.
Today, I’m giving away this gorgeous scarflette, which includes an elk brooch and dahlia earrings, to one lucky reader.
All you need to do is tell me in the comments about your favourite birthday, how old you were and why it was your favourite.
This competition is now closed. Congratulations to Louise Harvey. Thank you to all who entered.
Terms and conditions
– This giveaway is only open to Australian residents (excluding ACT).
– This giveaway closes at 8pm AEST on Monday 25 May.
– Winners will be contacted via email on Tuesday 26 May.
– This is a game of skill. The most interesting answer as judged by a panel will be deemed a winner.
Linking up today with Jess for IBOT.