Work in progress

Prior to going on maternity leave, I felt like a total rock star at work.

I could do my job with my eyes closed and was voraciously devouring professional development and leadership courses to work my way up the ladder.

A few years down the track and a couple of kids later, I am feeling more roadie than rock star.

When I returned to work late last year, I couldn’t wait to get back into the swing of things. I was ready for a challenge, ready to sink my teeth into interesting projects, and ready to slide right back in where I left off.

What I wasn’t ready for was to hit a few bumps along the road.

I have been analysing and over analysing over the past months why things are so different. This is what I have put it down to:

The roller coaster of emotions

On any given day, I could be dragging myself into work like a zombie after a sleepless night, or sprinting into work breathless after a daycare drop off that ended in my screaming child being peeled off me. Despite my sky-rocketing blood pressure and the tears pricking my eyes, I plant a smile on my face to pretend life is just peachy because, trust me, work doesn’t want to hear about my screaming kids.

Often before 7am, my multi-tasking, negotiation, and deep breathing skills have already had a workout. Kids just don’t have a sense of urgency, and nor should they. They don’t understand that I need to start and finish work at certain times. They have a lovely habit of sleeping in when I need to get them to daycare and waking at the crack of dawn when I don’t.

Then there’s the worry of leaving the kids in the care of a stranger, leaving them at daycare for longer than my day at work, and purely and simply missing them. Missing. Them. So. Bad.

Returning to work after extended leave

I promised myself I would keep up-to-date with work while on leave, but really who was I kidding? When I walked out the door on that last day, my world became my beautiful children. Work was a distant memory. Now I am playing catch up. While I once had my finger on the pulse, I now feel like I’m scrambling to stay in touch.

Working part-time is an adjustment

Each week I battle my unhealthy need to fit five days’ worth of work into just three. It’s exhausting.

No matter how considerate my colleagues are arranging meetings on the days I work, there are inevitably meetings held when I’m not in the office. It is easy, no matter how hard people try to keep me in the loop, to feel behind the eight ball at times. Often when I think I’ve got it all covered, someone will ask me a question and the answer will disappear into thin air, poof, leaving me to stumble at the last hurdle blowing my confidence.

There is also the issue of flexibility. Pre-kids I would work late to meet a deadline, these days working back late is a military operation requiring much planning.

Pressure on myself

I am a shocker for placing unnecessary pressure on myself. I feel guilty for not putting in the hours I once did, for rushing the kids, not being as tolerant of tantrums as I should be at times, and being hard on myself for not miraculously knowing everything.

In saying all that, it is now more than five months since I’ve returned to work and it is becoming easier.

One of the biggest hurdles for me has been reminding myself of my priorities, knowing that things won’t be like this forever, and accepting that this is the path I have chosen for myself for now.

And while things are different, it’s not all bad. I have more work / life balance now than ever before, my production levels at work are through the roof, and I have the support of some inspirational people who encourage me to be strong and courageous and to find my inner rock star again.

How did you find your return to work? Did you take a while to settle back in?

 

79 comments on Work in progress

  1. Zanni Louise
    February 25, 2014 at 6:20 am (3 years ago)

    It’s a hard line to walk Renee. I am lucky that I don’t have to go out to go to work – I think it makes a difference, as I see the kids through the day. The hard bit is having my attention split between adult productivity and being present with my kids, as the adult part of me seems to win out, and I feel my children miss out. I hope you find your groove and balance. Sure you will xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:23 pm (3 years ago)

      I can imagine that really would be hard, Zanni. Quite the juggling act. I don’t know how you manage it. Thanks for your kind words. I’m sure things will balance out soon enough x

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  2. Bec | Mumma Tells
    February 25, 2014 at 6:25 am (3 years ago)

    You’re doing wonderfully, Renee. The fact that you make it to work – and you’re productive – gets a tip of the ol’ hat from me. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:24 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks Bec xx

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  3. Lydia C. Lee
    February 25, 2014 at 6:52 am (3 years ago)

    It takes a long while to settle back in, and I truly believe there is nothing harder. On you. You work harder than a full time person but it is less recognised, even in yourself. You turn into a dervish, keeping everything juggling…yet, get called home with a sick child, and that’s what everyone comments on….
    Good luck and cut yourself the slack you need….:)

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:27 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Lydia. You know all the right things to say as per usual and have a knack for making me feel normal. Thank you!

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  4. Kathy
    February 25, 2014 at 6:53 am (3 years ago)

    It is hard Renee. I find my attitude to work all over the place, but it is also because I don’t see the recognition I once had – our workplace culture can be dismissive of part-time Mums. Hang in there – if you like our work the balance will get better.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:27 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Kathy. I’ve just read a bit more about balance on your blog and am searching for my paddle πŸ™‚

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  5. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    February 25, 2014 at 6:54 am (3 years ago)

    It must be terribly difficult to juggle work, especially if you can’t just do your 3 days then leave. You sound like you’re getting on top of it, but remember you can’t do it all, especially missing out on 2 days, get some nice colleagues to make notes when new things are told, or needed and then hand them to you. As working mums we are expected to do more because we have the ‘privilege’ of being able to work part time, BULLSHIT, they are privileged to have us and YOU Ren xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:29 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol. Thanks Em! It can be quite the juggling act, but no more than a juggle than what you do working from home. I’m sure things will get easier when the kids are older xx

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  6. Emily
    February 25, 2014 at 7:09 am (3 years ago)

    I haven’t returned to work, but I feel like this even when I work from home. I work with one ear listening out for the kids (I tend to work when they sleep or when the eldest is at kinder and the youngest asleep), and I hear you on productivity. I had one weeny hour to myself on the weekend and banged out two articles and three blog posts, and redesigned a brochure.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:30 pm (3 years ago)

      Emily! You are totally killing it. Productivity at its best. I don’t know how you do it. It must be really hard working at home around the kids. My hat goes off to you!

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  7. Chrissie
    February 25, 2014 at 7:28 am (3 years ago)

    I can totally relate to this. I went back to work when my son was around 4 months old, but a year ago, when he was nearly 2 and a half I went back to full time work. The amount of time I have had to take off in that year is ridiculous. I’m surprised I still have a job. I can be late to work, I generally have to try and leave on time, it’s a nightmare. And oh the exhaustion! Keep up the good work, I’m sure you’re doing much better than you think!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:33 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Chrissie and keep up the good work to you too! Going back with your bub just four months old would have been tough. It sounds like you thankfully have a supportive employer.

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  8. Bec @ The Plumbette
    February 25, 2014 at 7:40 am (3 years ago)

    When I would work with my dad, I was the one booking the work so I knew generally what we were doing. .. but in your job I can totally understand how you feel behind the eight ball (missing meetings etc), but I also know you are probably being more hard on yourself because you’re not used to the changes. I bet you pack in a lot in those three days that you work. I hope you get into a good groove. It takes time for the kids to get into a new routine too. I have high respect for mums that work part time or full time. It’s a tough gig. x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 10:01 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Bec. Yes, it does take time for the kids to get into the routine too. Poor little darlings. I’m sure we will all get used to the change soon enough x

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  9. Fashionista
    February 25, 2014 at 7:40 am (3 years ago)

    Hello Renee. I have just discovered your blog via clicking something somewhere in someone else’s blog (the evil vortex of the the interwebs!). Great post. It resonated with me even though my children are now 18 (and left school) & 15 but it feels like just yesterday I was juggling full time work, breast feeding, daycare, a super active toddler, a husband who was travelling every week for business. I look back now and wonder how an earth I kept up the pace! Eventually I got to a point that I just couldn’t do it anymore, even though by that stage the children were 14 & 11, husband’s travel was down to sporadic and I had domestic support with a nanny and a housekeeper. I was very lucky to be in the blessed position to be able to step away from the corporate world, my earnings weren’t required to meet the mortgage or put food on the table. I had three months off before I was head hunted for consultancy work which allowed me to work on my own terms and now four years later I am back to full time but without the insane corporate hours (I really do only work a 40 hour week). I absolutely DO NOT miss being immersed in the corporate world, in my consulting roles I get to dip my toes in, wriggle them around, and then leave for the next gig.

    So after all that, I guess what I am saying is that it will get better, whichever road you take. And it is OK to do what suits you and your gorgeous babies the best. Regardless of all the commitments you feel you owe everyone else.

    Now I am off to read all your archives πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:58 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much for dropping in, Judy! It’s lovely to hear from you. I’m so glad you’ve been able to find the perfect fit for you work wise. I guess for some it really is a ‘work in progress’ πŸ™‚

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  10. Carolyn @ Champagne Cartel
    February 25, 2014 at 8:09 am (3 years ago)

    Ugh, it’s so hard, isn’t it Renee. And nobody tells you beforehand that working three days actually means fitting in five days worth of work into less time (and that you don’t miss any work, just the water cooler chats and birthday cake gatherings because you’re too damn busy to stop). For me, I try to enjoy that work time and don’t really think of my kids a whole lot – maybe that sounds a bit callous, but that’s what works for me. When I’m at work, I’m Career Barbie, and when I’m at home I play Barbies. πŸ™‚

    Well, that’s what it was like when I worked in an office. Today the kids are in daycare and I am working, but also putting on some loads of washing and mopping the floors while there is nobody to track grimy footprints all over the house. Working at home = living the dream! Sometimes I miss that clear delineation between work and home but I know I’m lucky to be able to do it.

    I’m sure you’re still great at your job and probably being very hard on yourself. It might take a while for you to feel that professional confidence again, but you have loads of great stuff going on in your life so try not to worry too much. It will return gradually all on its own.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Carolyn. I can imagine how difficult it would be to work from home getting distracted with everything that needs to be done around the house. I love your Barbie analogy, oh and you’re completely right … there was cake at work this week and I was too busy to eat it!

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  11. Neets
    February 25, 2014 at 10:29 am (3 years ago)

    Oh wow! This post just took me on a trip down memory lane. It really is a tough gig going back to work. I was a sucker for punishment and attempted 5 days when my kids were 1 & 3. What was I thinking? You are doing such an amazing job Supermum. You should be very proud xox

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:53 pm (3 years ago)

      Aww thanks Neets! You must have been crazy attempting five days with the kids 1 and 3! I hope you can manage to take a bigger chunk of time off with number three. You will have your hands full xx

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  12. Eleise @ A Very Blended Familye
    February 25, 2014 at 10:56 am (3 years ago)

    Eeek this will be my reality soon too and I do wonder how it will all work out. I think though I will have more balance and tend to be more productive, because you can’t stay back it just needs to be done. Thanks for an elightening post!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:52 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Eleise! All the best for your return to work. I hope to read about it on your blog!

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  13. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    February 25, 2014 at 11:19 am (3 years ago)

    I think you are doing an amazing job at managing. As you say, it is a work in progress. I worked from home for most of the time my girls were young but moving into running my own retail business outside the home two years ago was the biggest challenge. I still can’t say I 100% enjoy it. I did enjoy the adult conversation and feeling like a grown up and not just a Mum, but motherhood changes you and all I really want is to be working at home again and there for the kids after school. I have things in place to get to that spot soon. But yes, I don’t think things are ever the same after becoming a mum. For me anyway.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:51 pm (3 years ago)

      I’m glad you are working towards being able to work at home and be there for the kids. I think we will get there eventually. It will just take a while.

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  14. SarahD @SnippetsandSpirits
    February 25, 2014 at 12:59 pm (3 years ago)

    I needed to read this as I return to work next Tuesday aghhhh. I laughed when I read this as it is so true you feel like you have done a days work before you have even got to work and why oh why do they sleep in on a work day!!! When I am at work for my three days I am mostly so focused on the job and as you say almost fit in 5 days work into 3. On my days off I am like what job!! So I feel blessed I have the balance of part time. Love this post as always Renee!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:36 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Sarah. I really hope I didn’t put you off!! It sounds like you’ve got it all worked out though πŸ™‚

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  15. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    February 25, 2014 at 1:11 pm (3 years ago)

    I don’t know how you do it! I admire you though! It would be very tough.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:37 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh gosh thanks Jody. It’s nothing different to what a million other women out there are doing too. We are all wonder women πŸ™‚ Especially you with six kids!

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  16. Lauren
    February 25, 2014 at 1:47 pm (3 years ago)

    As always Renee, a brilliant post. I’m coming to the point where I need to make decision re: my return to work mid year. It’s been 2 1/2 years since I started leave, as I didn’t return between my boys births. It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job and I really admire you xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:39 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Lauren. It must be a tough decision for you to make after two and a half years off. I’m sure whatever you decide you will make the most of it xx

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  17. Denise
    February 25, 2014 at 1:56 pm (3 years ago)

    This is all ahead of me Renee so I read your post with interest. It sounds like you’re doing a brilliant job juggling everything. And like you said, it’s not going to be like this forever. I’m glad to hear it’s getting easier:-)

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:40 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Denise. Best of luck to you when you return to work πŸ™‚

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  18. Chantel
    February 25, 2014 at 2:31 pm (3 years ago)

    I returned to work when my son was 12 months and found that my priorities had really changed. I also was very conscious of work practices that I had previously not be fussed about; they now really grated on me as not ethical. I had a baby and suddenly my moral compass kicked in πŸ™‚ I definitely felt that I got a better work/life balance, as I began to say no to things that I would previously had been the ‘yes’ person for, as it was not in my sons best interests. its certainly a very different landscape. I have since left work and am studying and being a stay at home mum, and everything seems to be perfect for where my head and ambition is at πŸ™‚

    Hello from #teamIBOT

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:41 pm (3 years ago)

      That is brilliant, Chantel. It’s great to hear that you’ve found the perfect fit for you in this stage of your life.

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  19. Becc
    February 25, 2014 at 2:38 pm (3 years ago)

    We are all guilty of putting unnecessary pressure on ourselves. It is a shame because all this does is add another weight on those tiny shoulders. Be kind to yourself and keep your priorities in line.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:42 pm (3 years ago)

      I am trying my best, I promise, Bec πŸ˜‰ I don’t know why we do it to ourselves πŸ™‚

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  20. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    February 25, 2014 at 5:01 pm (3 years ago)

    I think you’re a total rock star for going back to work and keeping it together, Renee! Surely working, running a household and raising little ones is the ultimate juggling act.
    Good on you hun, you’re a great role model for your girls. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:43 pm (3 years ago)

      Oh thank you so much, Lisa. You say all of the right things xx

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  21. Josefa @always Josefa
    February 25, 2014 at 6:05 pm (3 years ago)

    The juggle is a hard one Renee, I think the key is to keep telling yourself you are doing an awesome job – because you are! Gosh those early years of juggling babies at work were tough, really tough, but we survived and the more I kept my perception and expectations in check along the way, the better it seemed to get x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Josefa. Glad to know it gets easier. Great advice. Thank you x

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  22. Rach
    February 25, 2014 at 6:19 pm (3 years ago)

    You are kicking ass girl…I feel like I can barely keep up and I don’t have any kids so you are superwoman never doubt it xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:44 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks for the pep talk Rach πŸ™‚ xx

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  23. Vanessa
    February 25, 2014 at 7:23 pm (3 years ago)

    I think I’m lucky – if I ever have kids & go on maternity leave I won’t feel that pressure to be present at work 24/7. As it is, I get restless if I stay in the office past 4pm πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:45 pm (3 years ago)

      Good for you, Vanessa! That is lucky πŸ™‚

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  24. Toni
    February 25, 2014 at 7:29 pm (3 years ago)

    I haven’t returned to work yet and this has reminded me I need to talk to my boss about extending my mat leave.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:45 pm (3 years ago)

      Yay for extensions of mat leave. Enjoy the time with your precious one while you can!

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  25. Emma Fahy Davis
    February 25, 2014 at 8:35 pm (3 years ago)

    I recall the juggling (and floundering) feelings well! And I remember spending most of my time at work thinking about all the things I needed to do at home, and most of my time at home thinking about all the things I needed to do at work! ‘Tis a delicate balance, and you sound like you have some sound strategies in place, my only advice is not to sweat the small stuff. We hired a cleaner when I went back to work after the gremlins, yes it took a chunk out of my pay packet but it lightened the load at home so much.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:48 pm (3 years ago)

      I think that is a great strategy. Doing what you can to lighten the load is essential. I’m lucky I have my mum, mum in law and aunt to help me out on the tough days.

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  26. Lara @ This Charming Mum
    February 25, 2014 at 9:17 pm (3 years ago)

    It is so very hard to get that balance right. I found the hardest thing when I went back into an office environment was my inability to be spontaneous – to stay late to finish a project, or take that one extra call, or go out for drinks on a Friday. It is very hard to make your way up the ladder if you’re unable to really get into the networking and go the extra mile with your workload. But, it sounds like you have a really supportive team which is fantastic, and you are taking it one day at a time, accepting the pros and cons. You’ll be a rockstar again before you know it.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 25, 2014 at 9:49 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lara. Yes, you seem to know exactly what it feels like. That loss of spontaneity is a big thing and really does take awhile to adjust to.

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  27. Stephie
    February 26, 2014 at 6:10 am (3 years ago)

    You are doing an amazing job Renee! Not to mention your second job, writing a blog as well!! I am holding my breath and enjoying these last few of months of relative quiet before I have to return to work. Madness ensuing, as you have illustrated so beautifully. I agree, it is frustrating having to put the career on the back burner, that reality only just hit me the other day when I was approached for an amazing job, but they wanted someone to start immediately, full time. Sigh. Oh, congratulations, they said, we’ll let you know if any part time opportunities come up. Like never! But! I love my wee boy, and this time is precious and temporary and I tell myself I have my whole life to work, enjoy it. Hope I can maintain that mantra when I go back to the office ;). Thanks so much for sharing x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 26, 2014 at 6:13 am (3 years ago)

      I’m sure you will be able to, Steph! I find it hard at times, but it’s a welcome change for others. What a bummer about that full time opportunity. I’m sure there will be many more on your horizon. As you say, we have our whole life to work the time to enjoy our kids is now. Thanks so much for visiting, Steph xx

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  28. Tegan
    February 26, 2014 at 11:07 pm (3 years ago)

    I take my hat off to people who work when they have kids. I struggle through most days as it is and I couldn’t imagine placing the extra strain of work on top of that. In saying that, I say cut yourself some slack, no one is perfect and we all do the best that we can with the circumstances we are given. You’re a pretty awesome chic!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 27, 2014 at 6:25 am (3 years ago)

      Aww thanks so much, Tegan. You are right though, we could all do with cutting ourselves some slack I think!

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  29. Carla from myyellowheart
    February 27, 2014 at 1:23 am (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee, what a juggle. You’re doing marvellous as far as I’m concerned.
    I haven’t returned back to work since having our girls. If we hadn’t had them quite so close together I definitely would have. I both look forward to, and dread a return to work, full or part time. Just from hearing others talk, and reading this post, I know what I’m in for. I don’t know if I could do it. So I think you’re amazing for doing so.
    Workplaces aren’t always accommodating to working Mum’s. But it sounds like this juggle is getting easier for you, and I hope it continues to. You do well to work, Mother and blog. Where do you find the time?!! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 27, 2014 at 6:27 am (3 years ago)

      I don’t sleep, Carla πŸ˜‰ The journey back to work is different for everyone and definitely easier for some than others. I hope that when you do return you find the right fit for you. Thanks for dropping in x

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  30. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    February 27, 2014 at 5:22 pm (3 years ago)

    Oh Renee you sound like you are doing an amazing job!! Don’t be hard on yourself! You sound like wonder woman! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 27, 2014 at 8:30 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lucy πŸ™‚ xx

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  31. Sam Stone (@ A Life on Venus)
    February 28, 2014 at 2:32 pm (3 years ago)

    I found it hard going back to work too Renee. I am still struggling. I am currently working four days, two at home and two in teh office and it is hard and exhausting. So you are not alone. xoxo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 28, 2014 at 2:54 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Sam. I keep telling myself it can only get easier. xx

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  32. Sam Stone
    February 28, 2014 at 2:36 pm (3 years ago)

    Hey lovely, this is my 2nd time trying to post a comment so I hope you don’t get two from me….anyway, I feel the same as you. It is hard and exhausting and you feel stretched so thin. You are not alone. xo

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      February 28, 2014 at 2:56 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Sam. I think my comment form is playing up today sorry. Thank you for persisting. I got your other comment too πŸ™‚ xx

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  33. Krystal
    February 28, 2014 at 8:38 pm (3 years ago)

    Thank you for the blog and all the comments. I am very nervous about heading back into the work force. I guess it is just one day at a time.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 1, 2014 at 6:21 am (3 years ago)

      It is just one day at a time, Krystal. It can be easy for some and not so easy for others. I guess it just depends on your situation.

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  34. Jane @ The Hesitant Housewife
    February 28, 2014 at 8:51 pm (3 years ago)

    I think working mums are AMAZING! Truthfully, I struggle to get through my day at home sometimes, with lack of sleep, tantrums, and breakfast that takes an hour to eat. I just don’t know how I would go being a functional, productive member of the workforce. Don’t be too hard on yourself, it sounds like you are doing your absolute best at juggling two jobs, and just quietly, I kind of think you are a rock-star! πŸ˜‰ xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 1, 2014 at 6:22 am (3 years ago)

      Lol! Thank you, Jane. Yep, it sure is being a functional, productive member of the workforce. In time I’m sure it will get easier. Thanks for dropping in x

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  35. Rhoda
    February 28, 2014 at 10:43 pm (3 years ago)

    Loving reading your posts. I can always relate! It’s not easy working & having a family. I’m working full time with a 6, 3 & 1 year old. What I find challenging is dropping my eldest to school, then driving to the next suburb to drop off the younger two at Childcare and get to work on time. And vise versa in the afternoon. Not easy but it’s the path I choose too. You just have to do what’s right for you & your family. You’re doing a great job!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 1, 2014 at 6:25 am (3 years ago)

      As are you, Rhoda! You amaze me. I don’t know how you cope working full time with three young kids. The different drops off would be really hard. You are amazing! Super mum!

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  36. Stephanie
    March 1, 2014 at 8:38 am (3 years ago)

    Sounds like you are finding the right work life balance for you Renee! I found it tough returning to work, like you wrote, becoming a mum meant that work was no longer the priority, work became a means to an end not the end in itself. I would much rather spend time with the little one than work on a presentation at home. It took time to get into the groove, and tiredness just became a regular part of our life. It was a very stressful time, running from a to b, pick ups, early or late conference calls. So glad that I am now out of it!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 1, 2014 at 10:21 pm (3 years ago)

      I’m glad you’ve found the write balance for you now, Steph. I’m hoping I will find my balance soon too πŸ™‚

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  37. Sonia Life Love Hiccups
    March 1, 2014 at 11:01 am (3 years ago)

    It is a tough one hun. I was the corporate poster girl before kids and I wanted to go sky high. The thing is I found that not only had my energy levels changed when I went back, my passions had too and things began to look very different through my ‘mother eyes’. In the end it was part of the reason I left the corporate world, we just werent in love anymore. Everyone is different and my only advice is to give yourself time, you are effectively running two jobs now at home and at work… more if you add in the pressure you put on yourself to over deliver (which by the way is something I totally get). You are a champion hun so be kind to yourself, you are seriously rocking it xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 1, 2014 at 10:24 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Sonia πŸ™‚ Yes, I think time is the only answer for now. We will wait and see what the future brings xx

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  38. Naomi @ (Not) Just A Mummy
    March 3, 2014 at 10:40 am (3 years ago)

    I returned to part time work when my son was around 10 months (I think.. eeek, how could i have forgotten that particular detail?!) and it was definitely an adjustment. For the first few weeks, maybe even months, I felt as if past of me was ‘missing’ in a way. I was happy to be back in the office but constantly aware and wondering what my son was doing/if he was missing me/what I could be doing if I was with him. I was lucky in that he stayed with my parents on the 2 days I was in the office so I managed to dodge the daycare bullet, at least in the beginning. I’m now freelance full time so don’t have the same office type pressures but find it presents a whole new set of challenges that I’m still kind of getting used to, almost 6 months down the track. Finding that elusive balance that actually works for you and your family is definitely a work in progress!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      March 3, 2014 at 8:03 pm (3 years ago)

      It sure is! I think just like anything it takes a while to find your balance, to settle in and work out what works for you. Thanks for sharing!

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  39. Robyna | The Mummy & The Minx
    April 30, 2015 at 9:32 pm (2 years ago)

    I did the three days (really five days) thing for a little while and I found that I just worked like a machine at work (seldom caught up with anyone, never took lunch and therefore did not get the adult conversation that I was craving, burned the midnight candle after the kids were down). Not surprisingly, I was always tired and cranky. That approach had much more to do with my expectations on myself, than anybody-elses. And I eventually realised that I had to change my behaviour or risk complete burn out. Work never stops. But people do.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 30, 2015 at 9:48 pm (2 years ago)

      I completely get this, Robyna. I really do. It is easy to fall into that trap and become burnt out. Hard to find that balance. Thanks for visiting.

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