7 things I missed about my husband while he was away

Don’t worry, this isn’t going to be a mushy post about how much I missed my husband Dave when he was away in New Zealand for 10 days recently.

I won’t warble on about how I felt like part of me was missing and I often walked around the house like a lost puppy.

The truth is the girls and I did incredibly well while he was away. The girls behaved themselves (for the most part) and I had our household running like a well-oiled machine. There were however a number of things I REALLY missed about Dave – who knew this guy was so darn useful?

  1. Stacking the dishwasher

When it comes to stacking the dishwasher, Dave has mad skills. His unique ability to strategically place all plates, bowls and mugs in the dishwasher, ensuring each of them gets a thorough clean, never ceases to amaze me. Since Dave’s been gone, the dishwasher has been nothing short of a shit fight. Plates are coming out half washed and the kids are complaining about Weet Bix encrusted on their breakfast bowls. I’ve taken to washing certain items by hand. This is obviously not a great long-term solution.

  1. Watering the plants

It turns out you need to water plants to keep them alive. Crazy, huh?! Dave’s mum nearly keeled over when she saw one of our indoor plants the other day. The poor thing looked miserable with droopy, limp leaves and many of them burnt and dried out. Thank God we’ve had a few rain showers to keep Dave’s outdoor plants alive – I do vaguely remember him telling me to water them, or something …

  1. Helping me not go insane

I had the Octonauts theme song in my head for an entire day last week. With me not working in an office at the moment and Dave away, my adult interaction has been severely limited. My two best friends are six and three and our conversations centre around food, bodily functions and who would win a fight out of Super Elsa and Super Barbie. If it weren’t for the opportunity to have adult interaction with the lovely mums I chat to at school drop off and pick up, there’s a high chance Dave could come home to me singing, ‘Creature report! Creature report!’

  1. Protecting me from alien abduction

I can’t watch Stranger Things while Dave is away. Fact. I attempted it once, which only resulted in me taking several hours to fall asleep after checking a million times that all windows and doors were locked. I couldn’t even sleep with the light on for fear that I’d be abducted into the Upside Down via the light source.

  1. Fitting the bikes in the boot

Again with the spatial awareness. Squeezing the kids’ bikes into the boot of our tiny car is an art form. An art form Dave excels at, but one that I am yet to master. I’ve resorted to placing one bike in the boot and another in the passenger seat. Again, not an ideal solution.

  1. Helping with swimming lessons

The last two Saturdays I’ve been involved in public humiliation as I attempt to get Miss Three into the pool for her swimming lesson. Most of the lesson is filled with me standing on the pool’s edge bribing, begging and blackmailing her to get in. Once she gets in, she has the time of her life, it’s just a power play – the little ratbag ;). All Dave has to do is give her ‘the look’ and she hops straight in. I can’t wait to hand over the reins on this one next Saturday.

  1. Providing hilarious commentary on The Bachelor

Let’s face it, Richie is not the most interesting Bachelor we’ve seen. Watching it without Dave’s sarcastic comments and jibes is a total snooze fest. Rosie Waterland has nothing on Dave Wilson. Thank God, he’ll be here for the final rose ceremony.

Welcome back, Dave – we’re soooooo happy you’re home.

What do you miss about your partner when he/she is away? What do they miss about you?

Linking up today with Kylie Purtell for IBOT.

32 comments on 7 things I missed about my husband while he was away

  1. Lydia C. lee
    September 13, 2016 at 6:53 am (10 months ago)

    When my partner goes away I don’t tidy up – crap is left all over the place and I don’t make the beds at all (food and dishes are dealt with but that’s it – hygiene is covered, not tidiness) so it feels like I’m being very naughty – then the last night I tidy up and it’s all back to normal. But I don’t miss tidying up so I don’t know why I told you that story.,..

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:16 pm (10 months ago)

      Hahaha. I love it. I left a few more clothes lying around than I usually would too. I don’t know why. I just couldn’t be bothered 🙂

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  2. Seana Smith
    September 13, 2016 at 7:05 am (10 months ago)

    Hello, my hubby and I are spending a lot of time apart at the moment and I am really appreciating the times we are together… though I do like being messier when I’m on my own, I must admit. I miss having him to talk to about the kids, the thinking and working things out together… we are a good team, stronger together.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:17 pm (10 months ago)

      I missed those things too. It’s hard not having someone to talk to at the end of the day and to bounce things off. I missed that a lot.

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  3. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    September 13, 2016 at 7:06 am (10 months ago)

    I once tried to stupidly watch Wolf Creek whilst hubby was away. Good idea that was!
    I really just miss the company and familiarity of him being here. He doesn’t go away often, work or otherwise, maybe a night or two a few times a year. But I’m planning a whole 6 days away from the family next year and wondering how on earth I will cope!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:18 pm (10 months ago)

      Wow!! I bet you’ll miss everyone, but I’m sure you’ll have an amazing time whatever you’re doing 🙂

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  4. Courtney
    September 13, 2016 at 7:15 am (10 months ago)

    Everything! I miss our daily banter, his jokes, his smell (nice ones!! Think shaving cream, deodorant and skin), morning hugs, watching him play and laugh with our kids – just to name a few!!
    The house is quiet and empty without him.
    Two things I definitely don’t miss is his dirty clothes left lying on the bathroom floor and the mess he makes in the kitchen!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:19 pm (10 months ago)

      Awww!!! I don’t know how you cope, Courtney. It must be so hard for all of you guys xx

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  5. Tanya Cunningham
    September 13, 2016 at 11:29 am (10 months ago)

    When my husband is away, I miss my ‘back up’ for when my two boys are getting out of control and I have no idea what to do (I understand ‘the look’ that gets the kids to do what you need them to do!). Plus I can’t sleep.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:20 pm (10 months ago)

      The look is a game changer … and the deeper voice. I wish I could do it. I thought I would have trouble sleeping, but fortunately I nodded right off most nights 🙂

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  6. Rachel
    September 13, 2016 at 12:04 pm (10 months ago)

    My hubby is going away for a few weeks shortly and I’m dreading it. Although I do enjoy a bit of solitude every now and again, the thought of all those long lonely nights watching (definitely non-scary) telly on my own make me sad :(. And who is going to take the bins out???

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:21 pm (10 months ago)

      A few weeks?! Argh. It can be hard when you’re not used to it. Maybe he could train the kids to take the bins out before he goes away 🙂

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  7. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    September 13, 2016 at 1:35 pm (10 months ago)

    Luckily hubby doesn’t go away often but I leave him home alone on my annual trips back to the mother country. I think it’s “the void” that empty space, physical and emotional, that our partners leave when they not there, that makes it so hard. Hope the homecoming was happy and the dishwasher remains perfectly stacked!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:22 pm (10 months ago)

      The kitchen is harmonious again 🙂 Yes, you’re spot on. It’s a void that they leave and it’s just different and a bit hard to get used to at first.

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  8. Melinda @unitedstatesofmama
    September 13, 2016 at 1:48 pm (10 months ago)

    The plants! My husband is going away for a few weeks at the end of the school hols and I’m almost certain he’s organised our neighbour to water our plants since I’m so nonplussed about their welfare. I also can’t watch scary things on telly and I’ll probably throw the kids at him when he finally walks back through the door. Oh and the cuddles and impromptu adventures. Won’t miss the cleanup from the impromptu adventures though!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:24 pm (10 months ago)

      Ha! Yes, I know what you mean about that. Hubby has left his backpack full of dirty laundry in our living room. I’m pretending to not notice it. I wonder how long it will stay there until one of us caves!

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  9. Denyse Whelan Blogs
    September 13, 2016 at 1:56 pm (10 months ago)

    I loved the sign you made to welcome Daddy home! I bet he loved it too. Denyse xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:24 pm (10 months ago)

      He sure did, Denyse 🙂 x

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  10. Ness
    September 13, 2016 at 2:34 pm (10 months ago)

    We’d probably rarely have clean clothes if my husband was away a lot. He does most of the washing. And he’s excellent with directions when driving. I’m terrible! Those are the things I’d miss. Oh, and just his company of course!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 13, 2016 at 7:27 pm (10 months ago)

      Oh, yes!! The directions. I got terribly lost last weekend.

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  11. Vanessa
    September 13, 2016 at 2:39 pm (10 months ago)

    Our dog has been in a cone of shame for a week or two now and I think while I was away at Problogger my husband really missed me! She’s not easy to handle when she’s cone’d up and miserable.

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  12. Bec Senyard
    September 13, 2016 at 2:41 pm (10 months ago)

    Yay for Dave being home. I can’t imagine being away from Jacob that long. Jacob is an expert dishwasher stacker and he generally cleans the kitchen at night so I can get my writing work done. Dave sounds like a lot of fun to live with. x

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  13. Maxabella
    September 13, 2016 at 3:10 pm (10 months ago)

    “On and on it seems to go that you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone”. I think time apart is a wondrous thing. I am always, always amazed at how much Bart contributes to the household. x

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  14. Kathy
    September 13, 2016 at 3:42 pm (10 months ago)

    My hubby does heaps in our household – for one thing if he was away that long our dog’s craps would pile up in a giant pile of shit in our backyard and it wouldn’t be pretty. I’m used to Mr Yang being away for his two night shifts each week (and I secretly like that) but ten days is a pretty long stint – is it the longest you’ve been apart since marriage?

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  15. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    September 13, 2016 at 6:00 pm (10 months ago)

    Mine always cleans the kitty litter. I’d miss that LOL

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  16. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    September 13, 2016 at 6:17 pm (10 months ago)

    There’s no way I could watch stranger things even if T was home and it was daylight. I don’t think I’d ever sleep again and given he works night shift I’m never ever ever going to watch it. I already freak out about every noise. Funnily enough I haven’t watched The Bachelor either, is it just me or does Ritchie seem way more boring/fake than he was on Sam’s season? #teamIBOT

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  17. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    September 13, 2016 at 9:14 pm (10 months ago)

    Glad you managed to survive the time without Dave. My hubby does night shift every second week and I must admit I love it. The one thing I really miss is his cooking.

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  18. Sarah @sarahdipity
    September 14, 2016 at 11:37 am (10 months ago)

    My hubby often goes away overnight for work and I always miss him not being around to entertain our son while I’m trying to cook dinner!

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  19. Karin @ Calm to Conniption
    September 14, 2016 at 1:04 pm (10 months ago)

    I hear you on running the place like “a well-oiled machine” while the hubster is away. But the relaxed feeling when he is home, I wouldn’t give that up for anything!

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  20. Hugzilla
    September 14, 2016 at 4:36 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh god, I could have used Dave’s help around here for number 2 while I was at ProBlogger (OMG that sounds so gross LOL). In four days my husband managed to nearly kill all my indoor plants for lack of water. You and him would get along great.

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  21. Josefa
    September 15, 2016 at 2:09 pm (10 months ago)

    Life is not the same without them. My hubby works away from home often and the house is a very different place without him, it is almost like we slip into a different routine of how things flow. Always good to have him home again xx

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