Being three

Being three
This little one is challenging me at the moment.

From dawn to dusk, everything seems to be an issue for her.

There’s not enough milk in her cup. There’s too much milk in her cup. I don’t want the Snow White plate. I want the Jake plate. ‘I will do up my shoes! Mum-mmmmyyyy! I. Said. I. Can. Do. Itttt!’

I don’t.

I can’t.

I want.

No.

I’ll do it.

Ad nauseam.

The stubbornness, the resistance, the whinging.

What’s wrong with her?

She’s three – a threenager to be precise. It says it all, doesn’t it? Quite frankly, it’s exhausting and has been to blame for me eating more than my fair share of chocolate lately.

And then there’s moments like this.

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Moments when she gets completely lost in her own little world.

When she drops everything to pick a flower, blow a dandelion, chase a butterfly, or to search for that lizard hiding under the back deck. Her wide-eyed innocence and wonder makes my heart melt.

Like a love-drunk fool I dreamily watch her play, savouring the precious moment. I take in her silky, golden hair loosely tied back in a plait, her pixie face and dimpled cheeks. The way the sun shines on her hair, she almost looks angelic. I pat myself on the back for creating the most gosh-darn gorgeous creature in the entire world.

And then she spots me watching her.

I freeze knowing this could go one of two ways as most things with a three-year-old can. She’ll flash me a smile and return to her game or she’ll give me a death stare to end all death stares. Hell hath no fury like a three-year-old whose mum has just interrupted her game!

All jokes aside, while having a three-year-old is no walk in the park, it ain’t all that bad. I’ve put together a list of things I love about three-year-olds (perhaps more for my own benefit than anyone else’s 😉 )

They dance like no-one is watching
You know when you’re listening to a song and the music drops? The beat kicks in, and you get totally lost in it. This reaction is instantaneous for three-year-olds. As soon as a tune starts, they hear the drop and they become lost in crazy kiddie dancing heaven. Their dancing is big, bold and highly-animated. They could teach Kris-Kross a thing or two about jumping.

They sing
Everything sounds better in song for three-year-olds. Whether it’s a whimsical tune as they skip around the house, a dramatic rendition of Let it go, or a scintillating self-composed ditty about poo, bums and wee, three-year-olds can’t help but sing it all out.

They’re hungry to learn
They’re inquisitive creatures, these three year olds. They’ll amaze you with how they can all of a sudden start to recognise letters and are desperate to learn how to write their own name. They want to know how to do everything for themselves, from buckling up their own shoes to getting themselves dressed.

They have big imaginations
This is the age of imaginary friends, tall tales and play-acting. They believe. They believe that anything is possible – that fairies are real, fire-breathing dragons do exist, and if you don’t behave yourself the Easter bunny won’t bring you any eggs.

They’re affectionate
While they can be curious, confident and fiercely independent, they still want a cuddle from their mumma. Thankfully, there is still nothing better than nestling into mummy’s lap with a good book or just because. If you’re lucky, they may even tell you they like you.

It’s these things, these little snippets of pure joy that help me get through.

They won’t be three forever, until then there’s wine and chocolate.

Do you have a threenager at the moment? How’s that going for you? Do you look back on the threenage years fondly or thank sweet Jesus it’s over?

Linking up today with Essentially Jess for IBOT.

48 comments on Being three

  1. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    April 5, 2016 at 6:54 am (2 years ago)

    Such a sweet post.
    Yes, I too have a three year old. She has her moments but somehow, she’s not as bad as the five before her! I have always loathed raising a child through threes, but the youngest is not too bad at all.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:25 pm (2 years ago)

      Maybe she’s not as bad or you’re just a pro at handling them after the five before 😉

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:25 pm (2 years ago)

      Loved this story, Amy. We have to stick together 😉

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  2. Bec Senyard
    April 5, 2016 at 7:54 am (2 years ago)

    Yes!! My Maggie is a threenager. It’s exhausting, but she has a lot of spunk too and I’m constantly asking for kisses and cuddles because she is so damn cute! We need to organize a time for our girls to be together again. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:26 pm (2 years ago)

      She sure is a cutie. Yes, we definitely need a play date some time soon x

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  3. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    April 5, 2016 at 7:54 am (2 years ago)

    I always found 2 year old were a lot harder than the terrible 2’s. But this is where they begin to really find who they are and it can be very frustrating.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:27 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, I think you’re right. They are really coming into their own and pushing the boundaries. It’s a learning curve for child and parent alike.

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  4. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    April 5, 2016 at 8:19 am (2 years ago)

    I loved that age in my kids, of complete innocence and the developing of independence and personality! Time may have made me forget the negatives!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:28 pm (2 years ago)

      Ha! Yes, I’m sure I’ll be exactly the same 🙂

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  5. Vanessa
    April 5, 2016 at 8:54 am (2 years ago)

    I think adults could learn from threenagers – especially dancing like no one is watching!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:28 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, we sure could learn a thing or two 🙂

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  6. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    April 5, 2016 at 9:17 am (2 years ago)

    I love that list of things you love about three year olds, I think we adults could take a leaf out of the three year olds’ book, but let’s leave the tanties to the professionals, ‘kay?!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:29 pm (2 years ago)

      Yep, they definitely know what they’re doing tantrum wise lol.

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  7. Nicole@ The Builders Wife
    April 5, 2016 at 9:24 am (2 years ago)

    Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could continue with the lovely 3 year old traits forever? Such a shame the world hardens us up! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:31 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, that innocence and wonder. Long may it last x

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  8. Hugzilla
    April 5, 2016 at 9:35 am (2 years ago)

    OMG it’s like you’re reading my mind!! My threenager is about to turn four in one month’s time and – tantrums aside – I am going to miss just how magical this age is. They are so full of love and curiosity and joy. So unpredictable and funny. As much as I whinge, I LOVE this age. It makes me sad to think I won’t get the opportunity to experience another three year old again…

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:32 pm (2 years ago)

      Ahh yes. I know. I’ve been feeling that way lately too. She’s so cute at the moment. Funny and unpredictable, that’s for sure 🙂

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  9. Emily M Morgan
    April 5, 2016 at 10:28 am (2 years ago)

    My threenager has just turned four but is showing no signs of change! It’s all, ‘don’t even think about looking at me, mummy!’ ‘I’m not interested in you saying that, mummy!’ Ouch. And she glares for Australia. Lord help me when she’s a real teenager! But you’re so right. They’re so adorable! Fortunately for them, or they’d never survive to adulthood!

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:33 pm (2 years ago)

      That is what I feared, Emily. That we’ll get to four and they’ll be no improvement. It can only last for so long, right?!

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  10. Min@WriteoftheMiddle
    April 5, 2016 at 10:40 am (2 years ago)

    She is so beautiful Renee! You know what – the age of THREEE (3) was my very favourite age for all my kids. Treasure it and keep soaking up those moments coz before you know it they’re big people! 🙂 xo

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:34 pm (2 years ago)

      So true, Min. I’m hanging in there x

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  11. EssentiallyJess
    April 5, 2016 at 3:04 pm (2 years ago)

    The singing thing is the best isn’t it? I just love it! Two of mine still sing a lot and one’s almost 10. I hope she does it forever. 🙂

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:35 pm (2 years ago)

      Oh that’s so lovely. There’s nothing sweeter than having a little voice singing. I love whistlers too. Reminds me of my grandfather 🙂

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  12. Janet Aka Middle Aged Mama
    April 5, 2016 at 3:21 pm (2 years ago)

    Fondly … Miss 19 was a delight when she was 3. Yes, she was the Queen of Tantrums, but such a lovely little person. And Mr 21 was adorable at that age, being a new big brother was a responsibility he took very seriously.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:35 pm (2 years ago)

      Aww bless, Janet. You’re such a lovely mum.

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  13. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    April 5, 2016 at 5:14 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh Renee I could have written this!! Aiden isn’t three until next month but has certainly been practising his threenager behaviour. As much as it’s been driving me insane (which it really truly has) those fleeting moments where he gives me a cuddle instead of whacking me with a toy plane or his drill make it all worth it.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:37 pm (2 years ago)

      Lol. Yes, you have to really grab hold of those special little moments x

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  14. Jo @ You had us at hello
    April 5, 2016 at 7:22 pm (2 years ago)

    We don’t have a threenager anymore but maybe my 4 year old never grew out of it! Trying times indeed. I think Kindy has made them both calmer kids. Learning to listen and follow instructions has rubbed off at home so that’s a good thing. I was only thinking the other day all their cuteness, and funny ways of saying things will soon disappear as they grow into big lads. I shall have to capture them on camera when they’re not looking 😉 xx Love the cute pic

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Yes, kindy and daycare has been great for my girls too. They want a stamp every time they tidy up 🙂 x

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  15. Kathy
    April 5, 2016 at 8:38 pm (2 years ago)

    What a sweetheart – who also must drive you crazy. I think 3 is an age of such conflict between everything you love about them and everything you can’t stand. And they just stop being babies and start being little companions, even when they are not companionable. You have the right recipe Renee – savouring the sweet moments, sighing through the challenging ones, and adding wine and chocolate – most necessary ingredients.

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:38 pm (2 years ago)

      Yep, I’m just riding it out and enjoying what I can 🙂

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  16. JF Gibson
    April 5, 2016 at 8:59 pm (2 years ago)

    Yes, I remember the threenager stage all too well, mostly for the tantrums! But yes, you do need to savour up those special, albeit sometimes fleeting, moments of preciousness. x

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    • mummywifeme
      April 5, 2016 at 9:39 pm (2 years ago)

      Today was a good day, Jodi. I think everyone is benefiting from me taking some time off work. Let’s hope it continues to improve x

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  17. Emily
    April 5, 2016 at 9:19 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh, this is my little man. What a beautiful post. He is so, SO infuriating sometimes. But those little flashes of beauty and of seeing who he’s becoming? All worth it. Totally worth it. Thank you. #teamIBOT

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  18. Caroline Raj
    April 5, 2016 at 9:44 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh just reading this has made me feel better. We have s threeanger and it’s driving me mad! Today she would not leave the house unless everything she was wearing was pink – the problem was most were in the wash! Ugggh! Great post – loved it

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:33 am (2 years ago)

      Oh, don’t you hate it when the favourite outfit is in the wash. It’s a state of emergency!!!

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  19. Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers
    April 5, 2016 at 9:51 pm (2 years ago)

    I do remember finding 3/4 particularly tough going but also very sweet. Each age is a little revelation in their personalities. I’ve got a 9 year old who is displaying some scarily teenage like behaviour too!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 7:32 am (2 years ago)

      Oooh. Nine and displaying teenage behaviour. I feel scared 😉

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  20. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    April 6, 2016 at 2:04 pm (2 years ago)

    So I won’t tell you that it sometimes carries on until they are 4 and 6 even! My 8yo is also giving me some serious 3yo behaviour!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:11 pm (2 years ago)

      Nooooo!!!! I want her to transform into a well-mannered little darling at midnight on her fourth birthday 🙂

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  21. Kit@lifethroughthehaze
    April 6, 2016 at 2:31 pm (2 years ago)

    Renee
    as a mum to a nearly 15 yo boy and twin nearly 11yo girls I look back on the threenager years as a piece of piss and wish I could go back there. Partly, because I know my babies are growing up so quickly and partly because honestly life was so much simpler then!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 6, 2016 at 8:12 pm (2 years ago)

      Ah yes, I imagine with a teenager and pre-teen, life is a whole different kind of complicated. Each age has their challenges.

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  22. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    April 7, 2016 at 6:12 pm (2 years ago)

    I swear mine is practising to be a threenager already even though we still have 4 months of terrible two’s left. I am loving her imagination though, it makes for lots of weird and wonderful games. I also can’t wait for the day her attention span gets longer so we can play those weird and wonderful games for longer than 5-10 minutes before the tantrum ensues.

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  23. Kylie Purtell
    April 8, 2016 at 1:07 pm (2 years ago)

    This is my life right now. A bitter-sweet struggle between the crazy emotional mood swings and frustrations of parenting a threenager, and the horrible realisation that these moments are so fleeting and are going to be gone before I know it! great post, Renee x

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  24. Heart
    April 10, 2016 at 9:30 pm (2 years ago)

    Oh! What a sweet angel you have! Although they are difficult to handle at times but still, they are angels for me. Thier innocent faces, sweet hugs and kisses explain it all.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      April 20, 2016 at 6:18 am (1 year ago)

      Yes, they really are easy to forgive. Lucky they’re so cute 🙂

      Reply

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