Where have my boobs gone?

I have always loved my boobs.

I would definitely consider them my best asset. Not too big, not too small. Just right. Dave always says that the first time he laid eyes on them he thought they were … ‘the best rack he’s ever seen’. πŸ™‚

We were at the pool yesterday, soaking up the gorgeous Spring sunshine and splashing around with the girls when I felt a gentle breeze tickle my nipples. I looked down in shock. Had my strap come undone? No. My once snugly fitting bikini top was gaping open. Instead of seeing my beautiful boozies, I was peering down at two half deflated balloons.

Where, oh where have my boobs gone? Have they gone forever? Will they ever come back? Will I look like I have the chest of a 12-year-old boy forever? How can Miranda Kerr still have knockout knockers when mine resemble pan fried eggs?

I have to admit the changes to my body post-kids have come as a bit of a shock. During both pregnancies, I did plenty of reading on the changes my body was going through week to week and how my baby was developing. Nothing I read, though, prepared me for how my body would change after birth and breastfeeding.

I’m embarrassed to admit that I thought after giving birth I’d be back to my pre-pregnancy weight in a few weeks. I blame this craziness on my mother. There is a gorgeous photo of her in a string bikini looking model thin with me in her arms not even six weeks old. I was under the illusion that I too would bounce back like mum.

And as for the media, it has done nothing to portray realistic images of new mums. Its insane infatuation with post-baby bodies and how this, that, and the other super celeb is looking hotter than ever weeks after giving birth is enough to drive a new mum crazy.

I read a great post recently over at The Mums Group. The inspirational Erin set the record straight about what a post-baby tummy really looks like. It was so refreshing to read this story and its encouragement for us mums to make peace with our new bodies.

Just like that meme that does the rounds of social media every so often, we are tigers and we’ve earned our stripes.

We certainly do go through battle, so to speak, and our bodies change as a result. I have a mummy tummy, my tailbone aches 24 7, I can’t run without wetting my pants, and now it appears that my boobs have gone AWOL.

I may not have the body I used to, but I’m cool with that. I’m making peace. This body has given me two of the most precious gifts I could ask for. My perky boobs and flat tummy is the least I could sacrifice for my beautiful girls.

Have you made peace with your changed body? Were you as clueless as me when it came to knowing how your body would change?

49 comments on Where have my boobs gone?

  1. Erin@TheMumsGroup
    September 22, 2013 at 11:53 am (4 years ago)

    So true Renee! I too was not prepared for the changes in my body post-pregnancy. My boobs have inflated to a DD and back go an A when I’m not breastfeeding. My tummy ain’t what it used to be, but like you say it’s totally worth it when I look at my beautiful boys. Thanks for being real! Xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 2:20 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank YOU, Erin! Yep, I think I have a bra in nearly every size. Crazy isn’t it?! xx

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  2. Toni
    September 22, 2013 at 1:06 pm (4 years ago)

    My problem was I thought I wouldnt get any stretch marks. This was my mothers fault too because all she kept saying was “I never got any stretch marks”. I managed to go until 35 weeks with none and then the little buggers started to appears. Unfortunately right at the end of my pregnancy I got PUPP rash which started in my stretch marks. It turned them into huge itchy welts and they spread across most of my stomach (I also had other welts all over my body from the rash). As a result I now have HEAPS of stretch marks all conveniently located smack bang in the middle of my belly from my belly button down. Ive made peace with it tough because it just proves to the world that my body was capable of having a baby which I never thought I would be able to do. Oh and my boobs are technically bigger than before but appear a lot more deflated (dont know how thats even possible?)

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 2:22 pm (4 years ago)

      God, I don’t know either, Toni! That rash sounds horrible. I have heard how itchy it can be, you poor thing. I’m glad you have made peace with it too. Anything is worth it for our beautiful babes πŸ™‚ I hope all is going well with bub πŸ™‚

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  3. Stevie
    September 22, 2013 at 2:20 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m totally accepting of my post-baby body. I would like to lose a couple of kilos but not enough to give up my weekend wine or ice-cream right now. But I exercise regularly and feel fitter and stronger than before I had kids. I do struggle with what to wear sometimes since the styles I used to wear don’t really look good on me anymore.

    I didn’t realise how much my body would change between the first and second child. My first wasn’t kind to me, but the second has destroyed me! Boobs, tummy, the lot. Also I don’t think I knew about abdominal separation the first time around, but I had about a 4 finger gap with my second which was a bit freaky.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 2:42 pm (4 years ago)

      Yeah that is freaky, Stevie. I had the separation with both. It takes a long time to repair aswell. That is awesome you are feeling fitter and stronger than ever. I think having kids makes you really want to be the healthiest and fittest you can be so you can be around to enjoy life with them! I struggle with styles too. A good excuse to do more shopping πŸ™‚

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  4. Pip
    September 22, 2013 at 3:03 pm (4 years ago)

    It’s challenging isn’t it (thanks for the honest conversation) – the whole new identity mentally when you become a mum and coupled with all the physical permanent transformations. I was okay with it as I always knew I was no Elle Macpherson – so a bit of sag didn’t really get me down (so to speak ;). I know heaps of people who miss their pre-bub body though so can see how it’s a mental shift of acceptance in a way too. Boy do men have a GREAT deal out of the whole affair πŸ˜‰

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 9:34 pm (4 years ago)

      They sure do! Yeah it really was a mental shift of acceptance for me. I think it takes a little while for some of us to get used to, but at the end of the day it is so worth it!

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  5. Mumabulous
    September 22, 2013 at 3:33 pm (4 years ago)

    The way we see ourselves is very different from the way the rest of the world sees us. Here you are bemoaning a little “sag” when everybody else thinks you look fantastic. Meanwhile for a bit of added confidence – shape wear is amazing.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 9:36 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks for the tip, Mumabulous. I definitely need to get some shape wear πŸ™‚ Yes, we all are our own worst critics. I’m sure nobody notices what we spend half our lives worrying about!

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  6. Katyberry
    September 22, 2013 at 6:01 pm (4 years ago)

    I remember naively taking my per-pregnancy jeans to the hospital to wear home with my first baby. Dumb, much? I don’t think I ever quite got back into them!
    My body changes due to children are now very much behind me – what I’ve got now is due to my life and style. It’s not all bad. Plus I never had much boobs to start with so at least they are still perky :p
    But my shoe size increased by a half and never went back. Now that is annoying

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 9:37 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh mine has too, Katrina! I have loads of shoes I can’t squeeze my hooves into now πŸ˜‰ I’m glad I’m not the only one thinking I could wear my skinny clothes home from hospital πŸ™‚

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  7. Claire Bassingthwaighte
    September 22, 2013 at 7:00 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh god – how true! I never had a great body before kids, so my expectations were low. But after putting on 24kg with my first, losing it all over 18 months, and then putting on 35kg with my second, what vague elements of a respectable body I ever had has well & truly gone. I used to have a flat tummy – now I still feel 6 months pregnant & I’m not! I too blame my Mum. In lower high school grew out of the dress she wore after having me & she took great pleasure reminding me that she wore her usual jeans home from the hospital! Of course I was her heaviest baby at 5lb 8oz. My youngest was 10lb 3 oz.
    I have come to terms with my new shape, although I still have 15kg to lose. I still mourn the loss of my flat tummy though!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 22, 2013 at 9:39 pm (4 years ago)

      Uh I know, Claire! How did our mums do it? What’s their secret? Well, I think you look amazing anyway. I can’t believe you still have 15kg to lose!

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  8. Tara @Gluten Free Hart
    September 23, 2013 at 12:05 am (4 years ago)

    I used to have a lovely flat stomach and I’d be totally lying if I said I didn’t miss it – instead I feel like Skippy the kangaroo with my joey pouch πŸ™
    Hang on.. Skippy is a boy. Do male kangaroo’s even have a pouch?? Oh whatever.. You get my drift..

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 23, 2013 at 6:16 am (4 years ago)

      Lol, Tara. I love the analogy. Now, I’m going to have to go google kangaroos πŸ˜‰

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  9. Me
    September 23, 2013 at 8:11 am (4 years ago)

    K is 21 and I am still battling to come to terms with my body !!!! My boobs changed drastically after having her but the rest of my body issues are really of my own making. Some days I am more accepting that others but it’s something I’m working on.
    Have the best week !
    Me

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 23, 2013 at 9:28 pm (4 years ago)

      Good for you, Linda! You have done amazingly well on your journey so far!!!

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  10. Sam Stone @ A Life on Venus
    September 23, 2013 at 8:18 am (4 years ago)

    My boobs were always small anyway so no real change there. The big thing for me was after having my first baby my ribs expanded and never went back to their original place! But I think I am slowly coming to terms with my post two babies tummy. It is hard though. I realised recently that I have a bad body image and I am working on that.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 23, 2013 at 9:30 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, I remember reading your post on that, Sam. I hope you are slowly feeling better about things. Having your ribs expand is crazy. Actually, I think mine may have too. I just had a flashback of me trying to squeeze into a dress recently that I couldn’t do up at the top and it wasn’t because of my big chest! πŸ™‚

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  11. mummyflyingsolo
    September 23, 2013 at 9:04 pm (4 years ago)

    I can so relate! I always felt my boobs were my best asset and they have been so disappointing post baby. My mum says they bounce back (although she has always had a smaller chest than mine) and I do see some evidence of regained perkiness 2 years on. Of course I’ll just go and have another baby at some point and they’ll go again and I think the second time must have a more damaging effect. It’s the double stretch right! lol We can live in hope!!!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 23, 2013 at 9:31 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh we sure can!!! Your regained perkiness has definitely given me hope πŸ™‚

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  12. Josefa @always Josefa
    September 24, 2013 at 7:16 pm (4 years ago)

    The boobs have gone, the sanity is gone, the sleep is gone…..oh dear this list isn’t very nice to write πŸ˜‰
    Motherhood brings with it some much of the unexpected that the real challenge is to embrace it and feel empowered. Look at all the things we have from it and not even acknowledge the lack xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 24, 2013 at 9:09 pm (4 years ago)

      Very true, Josefa. You just reminded me of a lovely little post that Maxabella loves wrote this week. You’ve probably read it. We often focus on negatives, but what about what we’ve gained πŸ™‚ xx

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  13. Bec | Mumma Tells
    September 26, 2013 at 12:00 pm (4 years ago)

    What a great post! With all of the transformations during pregnancy, I did not bat an eyelid, yet it took me a while to embrace the post-baby changes. Hopefully this next time I’m more aware of what to expect – it will never be the same again! The female body is such an amazing, amazing thing. X

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 26, 2013 at 1:48 pm (4 years ago)

      It sure is! Yes, second time around I made sure I packed some roomy clothes for the hospital πŸ™‚ x

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  14. Leanne Winter
    September 27, 2013 at 7:04 am (4 years ago)

    Yes, it’s a shame they don’t tell you in antenatal classes about what happens to boobs that have breastfed. It really isn’t fair, is it? Do a good thing and breastfeed and get punished with saggy boobs. NOT FAIR AT ALL. x BTW – love the new look of your blog x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 1:13 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol, Leanne! Thanks for your kind words about the blog. I’m glad you like it. I felt like giving it a bit of a freshen up πŸ™‚

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  15. Susan - One Woman Circus
    September 27, 2013 at 7:06 am (4 years ago)

    Love it – I was exactly the same and wrote something similar about it here: http://www.onewomancircus.com.au/2013/08/8-things-ive-learned-since-becoming-mum.html

    I really don’t know why small chested women aren’t warned more about the loss of boob factor that comes with having chlidren! My mum always told me she went from flat to much bigger boobs, but I’ve since figured out that wasn’t actually until menopause. So great… I have to wait until I’m 50 or 60 to get the rack I want, and will also get a nicely rounded out body to match?

    And don’t get me started on Miranda Kerr. That my friends, is the greatest mystery of the world. Implants? I’m highly suspect. Otherwise she has the world’s best push up tape I’ve ever seen. Or she’s an alien – pure and simple.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 1:15 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol, Susan. Great comment. Bring on 50 then hey?! Hmmm. I’m highly suspect of Miranda too. Something fishy going on there πŸ˜‰

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  16. Mrs Holsby
    September 27, 2013 at 7:29 am (4 years ago)

    My three year old looked at me, topless, the other day and asked – Mummy, what happened to your boobs?
    I had to agree with him. They’re droopy shadows of their former selves!
    I’m ok with my post baby body. My body is an amazing machine that did a sterling job…. and let’s face it, no one really sees me with my gear off these days any way!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 1:22 pm (4 years ago)

      True, Mrs Holby. What’s with kids commenting on our little boobs though? Not cool guys.

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  17. Neets
    September 27, 2013 at 8:52 am (4 years ago)

    Love this post Renee. I loved my double dd’s during both pregnancies (so did hubby for that matter). They have now gone back to a conservative “B cup” but of the flat pancake variety. I, look you, am cool with that. I am the fittest and healthiest I have been in years and that’s all that matters to me. Even better, is seeing the kids keeping fit and healthy as well. Body image is no longer an issue like it was for me in my 20’s. xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 1:23 pm (4 years ago)

      That is awesome, Neets! Go you! xx

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  18. Dani
    September 27, 2013 at 2:34 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m still breastfeeding my 15 month old, and wish that my boobs would reduce somewhat in size!
    I was a b cup in 2005 when I got together with my husband, and over time they grew to a d cup, though I was only size 10. I grew to call them respectively, the boobs of my 20’s and the boobs of my 30’s. now I am 39 and was an e cup last I checked. They’re bloody enormous bazookas!
    Not sure that I have quite made peace with the post baby bod yet, but I am not unhappy about it πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 8:55 pm (4 years ago)

      Hahaha Dani! Thanks for sharing. I love looking back at photos when I had those beautiful breastfeeding bazookas πŸ™‚ Isn’t it funny how we can change so much. I think I have a bra in almost every size πŸ™‚

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  19. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    September 27, 2013 at 2:50 pm (4 years ago)

    My shape has changed, mainly around my hips and thigh, as for boobs I’ve always been very well endowed, just DD and I’m still an F at moment, going up to MASSIVE MASSIVE when I was BF’ing, the only downside is now that I’ve lost weight, my boobs are slowly deflating also. That’s what great push up bra is for and underwire bras. I have to say though, I am WAY more accepting of my body now, I just wish I knew how great my ‘rack’ was back in my teens/20s! Typical Kiwi bloke to say “rack” LOVE IT! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 8:57 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh, I know! I am seriously missing my rack from my 20s πŸ˜‰ I can’t believe you’re an F! Go you, you need to send some my way πŸ˜‰ x

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  20. Grace
    September 27, 2013 at 3:33 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh, I have NO idea what my personalities are doing at the moment. They used to be so well rounded and perky once…now? Not so much. But after all, they did feed two little boys – simultaneously.
    And I have a permanent scar across my tummy from my c-section but I’m actually quite proud of that too.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 9:03 pm (4 years ago)

      I would be proud of the scar too! Glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t know what their boobs are doing πŸ™‚

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  21. Kate @MummyMorph
    September 27, 2013 at 4:02 pm (4 years ago)

    I have just stopped breastfeeding and im still coming to terms with the way my body has changed, but im trying very hard to love the body ive been blessed with and that all the changes are reminders of the beautiful and wonderful changes that my son has bought to my life!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 9:04 pm (4 years ago)

      Very well said, Kate. You are so right!

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  22. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    September 27, 2013 at 9:40 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m just starting to shift my baby weight now Renee, and my baby is 10!!
    My boobs look great when they’re folded up and tucked into a bra. It’s when they’re free that I get a bit sad. But seriously, we’ve done such an awesome job creating little people, I don’t think the trade-off is too bad πŸ™‚
    xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 27, 2013 at 9:45 pm (4 years ago)

      Haha, Lisa. I know what you mean about folding them up and putting them in a bra πŸ™‚ You’re right though, the trade off is not too bad at all! πŸ™‚ xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      October 1, 2013 at 8:34 pm (4 years ago)

      Hi Elizabeth πŸ™‚ Thank you so much. That is really kind of you. I will go check the magazine out now. Thanks again πŸ™‚

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  23. Bec Senyard
    September 20, 2016 at 4:35 pm (10 months ago)

    Yes, my boobs aren’t the same after breastfeeding three babies. I call mine hush puppy ears because they droop and have no shape. Last week I had to buy a new strapless bra with a little lift to push my hush puppy ears up because my top looked dreadful without it!

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  24. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    September 21, 2016 at 2:04 pm (10 months ago)

    I can’t even use motherhood as an excuse, my boobs have just deflated with age! your boobs may not be as perky, your tummy might not be as flat, but you have got two gorgeous girls. That’s what I call a fair trade! x

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