A broken bone, birthday, and brave little girl

First came the thud and then the screams.

‘My neck, my neck,’ Miss Three cried out, her eyes wild with panic before she burst into tears.

I raced to her and cradled her in my arms attempting to calm her down and survey the damage.

The last thing you want to hear when your child has a fall, no matter from what height, is that they’ve hurt their neck.

The tears went on longer than they normally do and I could feel the anxiety in me rising. I attempted to peel her off me as I asked her, ‘Where does it hurt? Show mummy where it hurts’.

As soon as she stood up and looked at me, her big, brown eyes wide and scared, I could see it. Her collarbone was protruding under her skin and her shoulder drooped lifelessly.

As I picked her up under the arms, she yelped in pain. I knew it wasn’t good. I put her in the car and sped off to the doctor. Despite being bleedingly obvious that she’d broken a bone, I convinced myself it was jump a bump, like an egg on your head after a fall.

As we stepped into the doctor’s surgery, a short five minute drive from our house, the shock was starting to kick in for me. I could barely speak. I was shaking from head to toe. We were told to take a seat and a doctor would be with us shortly. The doctor took one look at Miss Three and told us to go straight to the hospital.

I cursed myself for not taking her there in the first place. ‘Stupid, stupid,’ I scolded myself as I sped all the way. Miss Three was inconsolable in the back seat. ‘No, not the hospital. It doesn’t hurt. It feels better,’ she begged before all of a sudden falling asleep.

My panic rose further as I watched her in the rear view mirror. ‘Why was she asleep? Is she in shock? Is it okay that she’s asleep?’

We made it to the Lady Cilento Children’s Hospital only to find the car park full. Onto the next car park we went as I searched desperately for a park. I found a spot and gently tried to get Miss Three out of the car. She had no t-shirt or shoes on. With just her rainbow skirt around her tiny waist, she looked smaller and more vulnerable than ever.

I picked her up and ran with her as she moaned in my ear. We flew down two flights of stairs, down the hill and across the road to the children’s hospital. Down another escalator to the emergency room we went, where we burst through the doors. A nurse saw us straight away.

‘She was lying on the back of the couch and she rolled off,’ I said.

‘Onto carpet.

‘No, I didn’t see it.

‘I think it might just be a bump. It’s her birthday on Saturday and we have ordered a jumping castle.’

The nurse was gentle and kind and made us both feel a little better. We were directed into the waiting room to wait for pain relief and an x-ray.

As Miss Three straddled me her face wet with tears burying into my chest, it took everything in me not to cry.

‘I must be strong,’ I told myself.

‘I can’t cry. She can’t see me cry.’

Deep breaths in and out, we cuddled each other while I messaged my support crew to let them know what had happened.

After what seemed an eternity we were taken in to see a doctor. Again I explained the story to her.

‘She can’t have a broken bone,’ I said.

‘We have a jumping castle coming on Saturday for her fourth birthday.’

The doctor searched my eyes. She knew I was borderline crazy.

‘I’m pretty sure it’s broken,’ she said kindly.

‘But, I’ve been wrong before. Let’s take a photo.’

Our brave little sausage lay on the table whimpering as the radiologist pulled down the giant x-ray machine above her. She was terrified the poor love, but lay as still as she could.

Moments later we were back in the emergency room to find Dave waiting for us. Thank God.

We looked at the x-ray and there it was as plain as day, a broken collarbone.

The tears welled in my eyes and my glasses fogged up. Our poor baby. Again, I took a deep breath, blinked the tears away and listened to the instructions on caring for a broken collarbone.

She is to wear a sling 24 7, apart from the bath, for 4 – 6 weeks.

We are three weeks into the sling and Miss Four is doing amazingly well. She has rarely complained, even when she couldn’t suck her favourite thumb. The first week was tough with sleepless nights, but besides that she has been a soldier. It’s amazing how resilient these kids of ours are, isn’t it? We couldn’t be prouder of our little girl.

I’d like to take this opportunity to thank my mum, mother-in-law and aunt for pulling together to look after Miss Four over the past two weeks. We are ever so grateful and don’t know what we’d do without you.

Have your kids or loved one had any major accidents or injuries? How did you all cope?

Linking up today with Kylie Purtell for IBOT.

39 comments on A broken bone, birthday, and brave little girl

  1. Michelle V
    November 1, 2016 at 5:10 am (11 months ago)

    Oh Renee, what a stressful time for all involved!!
    Kids are resilient like you say, and sounds like your daughter is a courageous little sweetie! I wish her all the best for a speedy recovery. Xxxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:23 am (11 months ago)

      Thank you so much, Michelle x

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    November 1, 2016 at 5:36 am (11 months ago)

    Whoa! How stressful! That’s awful. Here’s to a fast 6 weeks!

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  3. Raychael Case
    November 1, 2016 at 6:15 am (11 months ago)

    What an ordeal. My eldest ran into a door just before her 3rd birthday when I was in intensive care having our third child ten weeks early. She too broke her collar bone. Hubby took her straight to the hospital but they stupidly gave her pethadine rather than an xray and sent her home. It clearly wasn’t an obvious break. Two days later when the bruising came out and Ash still wasn’t her usual happy self, she was back at the hospital. I felt so helpless not being there for her.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:24 am (11 months ago)

      Oh my goodness! That sounds absolutely awful. What a stressful time for you all. I can’t believe they didn’t xray!

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  4. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    November 1, 2016 at 6:18 am (11 months ago)

    Oh you poor loves! I can only imagine how stressful it was, especially so close to the birthday party. Kids are so resilient aren’t they? I love how they take everything in their stride. We adults think we’re the ones teaching kids, but really we grown ups can learn so much from them! Hope the next 1-3 weeks zooms by – here’s to being sling free!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:25 am (11 months ago)

      We all can’t wait!! Thanks Sammie x

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  5. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    November 1, 2016 at 6:22 am (11 months ago)

    It is terrifying when your child is injured and you don’t know what to do. My No.3 broke his collarbone running around outside and slipped over while I was watching having a glass of wine.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:26 am (11 months ago)

      Oooh that would have been tough, Nat! I’m thinking breaking collarbones is easier than I thought. I’ve heard of quite a few.

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  6. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    November 1, 2016 at 7:13 am (11 months ago)

    What a brave little girl you have Renee!

    I absolutely hate it when any of my children are injured. I feel so helpless that I can’t make them better myself! Both my twins have had serious injuries. My daughter had surgery in February but despite this her injury has not fully healed and will probably need more surgery in December/January. I find it hard putting on a brave face in front of the kids and not showing my own fears to them.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:27 am (11 months ago)

      Yes, it really is hard. Your poor daughter. I can’t believe she has to go back for more surgery. I hope this time it will solve the problem for her x

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  7. Tonia Zemek
    November 1, 2016 at 7:48 am (11 months ago)

    Ouch! Reading this I felt her pain (and yours). She sure was brave. Glad to hear she’ll be back to her old self in a few weeks.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:27 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks Tonia 🙂

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  8. Nicole @ The Builder's Wife
    November 1, 2016 at 8:50 am (11 months ago)

    Hurt children is so difficult on poor Mums. The first break my son suffered was his arm, and it was broken for 2 weeks before we did anything about it! I thought he was being a bit of a sook, but it turned out he had a greenstick fracture. Such a difficult time. I thought after break 4 I was pretty OK with the whole broken bones thing, but number 5 break was the most traumatic of the lot! Just the most horrific experience and as the only parent there with him at the time, I had to be strong. I cried buckets for days after, had to speak with a Councillor and still struggle when he is playing sports, naturally then break number 6 really shocked me, but he took it in his stride. Fingers crossed for no more! and a great big hug for you xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:28 am (11 months ago)

      Nicole!! Oh my God! Six breaks. Is it always his arm? No wonder you had to see someone. That is dreadful xx

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  9. Denyse Whelan Blogs
    November 1, 2016 at 9:44 am (11 months ago)

    Oh Renee, I know I was already aware of this accident to your Miss but it was hard to read…I really felt for you and her! She looks amazing now in each of the pics I have seen. Yes, this happened to us…our 4 year old son was outside playing on our swing set, nearby was his 11 year old sister, and hub was cooking a barbie, and I was there too. Son climbed on the bar of the swing set and said ‘I’m going to jump’…we all looked..wordless, as he did, and landed on his left arm…which broke so badly it was a U-shape in the forearm. OMG. Our DD stayed home, the fire was out out, I took son in my arms and held ‘his arm’ to me with him close, and in the front seat (I cant even recall if we bothered with seat belts and hub drove us (A Sunday evening) to the local private hospital. It didnt even have casualty but they were wonderful and arranged the Xray and for an orthopaedic surgeon (on call) to see us straightaway. Because our son had eaten in the arvo, they had to wait a few hours and he was operated on that night, the two breaks were stabilised without pins, and plaster applied up to the elbow. It was one of the most traumatic events for us too, as we watched as it happened and we powerless to stop! He is now 37! He has done a few more things to himself thanks to motorbikes and BMX bikes but this was pretty horrid.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:30 am (11 months ago)

      Oh my Gosh, Denyse. That sounds like a horrifying ordeal. What a bad break. When you can see it deformed it is sickening. You fear so much for how they will cope with the pain. Glad to hear he’s mostly stayed out of trouble since.

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  10. Vanessa
    November 1, 2016 at 9:55 am (11 months ago)

    I’m pretty calm during emergencies but then get wiped out from maintaining the calm! I’m sorry to hear this happened – it must have been so frustrating when you couldn’t even get a park!!
    The biggest thing I learned from working a few months in a GP clinic was that GPs can’t do a lot. Always aim to go where the resources are when there’s an emergency. Even on weekdays when radiology places are open, vacancy may be tight, so it could be best to avoid your GP. Also the other one I learned was eyes – GPs have limited ability (due to tool limitations) to investigate eye injuries. That was another one where we used to encourage people to go straight to hospital as they can investigate more.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:31 am (11 months ago)

      That is excellent advice, Vanessa. Thank you!

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  11. Andrea
    November 1, 2016 at 11:25 am (11 months ago)

    She gets her bravery from her mum you know! Although the panic tries to take hold, mummy always rallies and gets on with what needs to be done to fix the problem – your girls are strong because you are. Biggest hugs xxxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:31 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks so much darling xx

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  12. Simone
    November 1, 2016 at 12:01 pm (11 months ago)

    So horrible darling, you handled it so well. As someone who is accident prone- as a child I broke my arm twice, wrist once, dislocated my shoulder, dislocated my knee among many other childhood injuries, I honestly don’t know how my mother did it with me! It is amazing how well little Smiley has handled it, especially with her birthday party- she sure is a brave and resilient little thing!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:33 am (11 months ago)

      She sure is!! Ouch Simone. I can just imagine how stressed your mum was with all of those injuries 🙂 I thought she had dislocated her shoulder at first by the way it was drooping. Goodness me. Let’s hope that’s the last of it xx

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  13. Bec Senyard
    November 1, 2016 at 6:36 pm (11 months ago)

    The poor pet. She did so well on her Birthday even though the jumping castle had to be cancelled. You’re a fabulous mum and I would have fretted and worried too. You never know if something is serious… until it is. Those 3 weeks have gone quickly. She’ll be out of her sling before we know it. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:33 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks Bec and thanks for helping to make the party a fun event with your face painting skills! xx

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  14. annette charlton
    November 1, 2016 at 8:35 pm (11 months ago)

    Oh dear, what a hard time. Seeing your children hurt is without doubt the hardest part of being a parent. Best wishes for a speedy recovery… Annette

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:34 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks very much, Annette.

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  15. Druimé
    November 1, 2016 at 10:35 pm (11 months ago)

    Oh god, the tears are falling upon my cheeks. What a horrible experience. So glad she is ok what a trooper !!!!!. Brave mummy too x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:34 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks so much, Druime. I must admit I cried when I wrote this xx

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  16. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    November 2, 2016 at 12:46 am (11 months ago)

    Poor thing (and you!). Miss T broke her arm when she was 4 and the sounds of that initial cry are so different – you just know something’s not right. Kids are such troopers though and incredibly resilient. So happy to hear that your girl has been going well xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:34 am (11 months ago)

      Yes, that’s right. It’s all in the cry isn’t it. You can just tell xx

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  17. Zanni
    November 2, 2016 at 5:16 am (11 months ago)

    No never!! But your poor little poppet! How brave she was. I dread the day we get a broken bone. I hope she found something to enjoy on her 4th bday xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 2, 2016 at 5:35 am (11 months ago)

      Thanks Zanni. Fingers crossed for no broken bones for your wee cherubs xx

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  18. Emily Toxward
    November 2, 2016 at 12:04 pm (11 months ago)

    Oh my goodness how stressful, I would have been a wreck! The poor sweetheart, kids are super resilient aren’t they? Health vibes her way x

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  19. Cat@life through the haze
    November 3, 2016 at 12:54 pm (11 months ago)

    Oh poor poppet how is she doing now? How great are family when you need them!

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  20. Jo @ You had us at hello
    November 7, 2016 at 3:22 pm (11 months ago)

    Oh you poor things!! Hospitals and kids are just too much for the parent heart strings. Hope the party still went off as planned. Hope it heals super fast xx #teamIBOT

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  21. Vicki @ Knocked Up & Abroad
    November 7, 2016 at 9:35 pm (11 months ago)

    I will never forget that cry when Baby Vick broke his leg. It was more than the average cry and it went on and on and yet we still didn’t rush him off to hospital like we should have. He actually sat up and ate dinner! Gosh, I cringe now knowing what pain he must have been in. What a soldier! Aren’t kids amazing how they adapt and deal with the nightmare scenario better than we expect?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      November 8, 2016 at 9:46 pm (11 months ago)

      Oh, the cry is the worst. You will never forget it. It really is amazing how strong and brave they are. Miss Four has blown me away xx

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