Daddy’s little girl

There once was a time when I was Miss Five’s favourite.

I know kids shouldn’t have favourite parents, but she did, and I was it.

‘Mummy do it,’ has been her catchphrase since she started talking. I was the one and the only one she wanted to dress her, comb her hair, buckle up her car seat and wipe her bottom. Nothing could beat the way mummy did it. She was my little shadow and best friend, never far from my side.

This frustrated Dave and I could see him feel hurt every now and then. It wasn’t as if I was shouting ‘winner winner chicken dinner’ from the rooftops or rubbing it in his face all of the time, but coming in second best was taking its toll on poor old Dave. The guy just couldn’t get a look in. I would tell him not to be silly. It was just a phase and he was lucky to not have to do every single thing for her all of the time. It was exhausting.

And then the tides turned and I’ve found out just what it’s like to be on the outer. I’ve gone from A grade celebrity status to C grade overnight. That kid has dropped me like a hot potato for no given reason and Dave is now the one happily basking in the limelight.

In the past months, Miss Five has been actively seeking out more time with Dave. Perhaps it’s because she doesn’t see him as much as she would like to or perhaps she’s just bored with me. *Sob*.

They work in their veggie patch, he teaches her to ride her bike and they climb together. He gives her his undivided attention. As far as she is concerned, Daddy is the greatest person ever to walk the land.

In the lead up to Father’s Day she made him card after card.

‘How do you write love?’ she would ask.

‘Another Father’s Day card for Dave,’ I would think.

‘How cute.’

She could have set up her own news agency with the amount of cards she created. Father’s Day was two weeks ago and she’s still declaring her love for him in the written form.

For weeks she talked about the Father’s Day breakfast she would take him to at daycare. She was determined to arrange for his favourite meal to be served at the event. She tirelessly told anyone and everyone about how she would spoil him with a delicious breakfast.

‘Daddy’s favourite is Weet-bix,’ she would say confidently.

‘He eats it every day.’

‘Are you sure he wouldn’t like something like bacon and eggs for a special treat?’ I queried her.

‘No he loves Weet-bix. It has to be Weet-bix’.

Daddy's little girl

When Miss Five was sick recently, I told her I’d take the day off work. She’d been carted around to other family members during the week and mummy guilt was weighing me down. As I attempted to cuddle her under my nook, I told her I’d take the day off work to look after her and spend time with her.

She let out a wail similar to that of an ambulance on its way to an emergency.

‘I don’t want you! I want Daaaaadddyyy!’

Ouch. I felt a little stab in the heart.

I explained to her that Daddy couldn’t take the day off and I would look after her instead.

In between sobs she declared that if she couldn’t have Daddy, then she wanted someone else, but not me. Grandma, Nan, her Great Aunty. Anyone but me.

Stab, Stab, Stab.

‘Well, you’re stuck with me,’ I said in a tone similar to that of my two-year-old when she’s attempting to assert her authority.

I stayed home with her that day and we had a lovely time together cuddling, reading and colouring, just like old times.

She still has a soft spot for me, of course, but at the moment daddy is reigning king in her eyes.

Anyway, I’m not bothered – at least the two-year-old still thinks I’m awesome 😉

Do your kinds play favourites in your household? Have you had a fall from fame recently?

Linking up today with Essentially Jess for IBOT.

54 comments on Daddy’s little girl

  1. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
    September 15, 2015 at 6:43 am (4 years ago)

    I’m not sure which way my kids swing. I think it depends on who has the goods (and isn’t being all grumpy and disciplinary) at the time

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 7:55 pm (4 years ago)

      Lol. Yes, that definitely makes a difference.

  2. Amy @ HandbagMafia
    September 15, 2015 at 6:53 am (4 years ago)

    Awww, they know how to get you in the feels, don’t they?

  3. JodiGibson (@JFGibsonWriter)
    September 15, 2015 at 7:19 am (4 years ago)

    Don’t worry, it will swing back again. And just wait till the teenage years when you’ll both be so out of fashion it’s not funny!

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 7:58 pm (4 years ago)

      Lord. With two girls, I can’t say I’m looking forward to that 😉

  4. Ingrid @ Fabulous and Fun Life
    September 15, 2015 at 8:04 am (4 years ago)

    My kids have learnt to go to which ever parent they think will do what they want or say yes to whatever want they currently have!

  5. Natalie @ Our Parallel Connection
    September 15, 2015 at 8:10 am (4 years ago)

    Thats cute really. I am still the favourite with my kids but as they get older they love spending time with Dad. I am the one they go to for advice. I am the one they go to when sick. I am the one they go to when need something done but Dad is always patient and ready to help.

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:00 pm (4 years ago)

      That’s lovely, Natalie, that you both have such a great relationship with your kids.

  6. Druimé@SnippetsandSpirits
    September 15, 2015 at 9:11 am (4 years ago)

    I love how you have written this Renee. So cute. I know all about being flavour of the month , year. They are so funny I’d love to know what goes through their little minds sometimes. Gorgeous post.

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:02 pm (4 years ago)

      Oh me too, Druime. They’re little characters 🙂

  7. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    September 15, 2015 at 9:25 am (4 years ago)

    Yep, Daddy is the favorite here at the moment. Mummy is just a tired, cranky, naggy dragon unfortunately. No fun at all. Daddy however, all the rage. He is hilarious and spontaneous and does all the fun things. Don’t they know who feeds them???? Talk about get us in the feels.
    I love that gorgeous picture of Dave and your babe. What a delight!

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:06 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks darling! Yes, they’re funny little creatures, aren’t they?!

  8. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    September 15, 2015 at 11:09 am (4 years ago)

    All my three are like this at various times but I encourage it because I am there one constant, always there and it’s nice to know we are interchangeable, I only get cranky when he gets adoration for all MY hard work – eg the cool remote controlled digger he got yesterday, he gave dad the biggest hug and was so loving but I got it. But I didn’t say anything because I think it’s cool they idolise their dad! xxx

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:07 pm (4 years ago)

      Haha oh no! Yes, that would get me too. Good on you for biting your tongue xx

  9. Kathy
    September 15, 2015 at 12:27 pm (4 years ago)

    Miss YIn and Mr Yang have a mutual admiration society going that I am not part of. And lately Little Yang has been Daddy’s boy too. Oh, well (sobs in the corner) – teach me for being the ‘mean mum’. Chin up Renee.

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:07 pm (4 years ago)

      Ahh Kathy. You poor thing 🙂 Still, it must be nice to have a break 🙂

  10. Danielle @ Several Kinds of Crazy
    September 15, 2015 at 2:13 pm (4 years ago)

    Daddy is often the favourite here too. I think because Mr 4 has seen my face all day, when Dad comes home he’s all over him like a rash. I don’t mind, it’s nice to see the kids interacting well with Hubby.

  11. EssentiallyJess
    September 15, 2015 at 2:26 pm (4 years ago)

    All mine have done this at some stage. It does hurt, but it’s also nice if you get a bit of a break. 😉

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:09 pm (4 years ago)

      I’m relishing my alone time on the weekends 🙂

  12. Toni @ Finding Myself Young
    September 15, 2015 at 3:39 pm (4 years ago)

    Bub’s all about me, until Daddy comes home from work then its all daddy, daddy, daddy. “oh hi daddy”, “hi my daddy” etc etc. But then when he tries to put her to bed she all of a sudden loves me again lol. She still comes to me when she’s hurt, sick or upset so I think for now I’m still winning favourite parent 🙂

  13. KezUnprepared
    September 15, 2015 at 3:52 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m the favourite when it comes to all the ‘looking after’ stuff. The Little Mister wants all the nurturing from me, but the fun stuff from dad! Sometimes I feel a little bit like chopped liver! However, if it’s dad’s turn to do some of the ‘looking after’ then we stick to that. I want the Little Mister to see his dad as a nurturer too.

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:11 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, definitely. Your situation sounds very similar to ours actually, Kez.

  14. Bec Senyard
    September 15, 2015 at 4:07 pm (4 years ago)

    The girls tend to wake Jacob up in the morning instead of me. I don’t mind this arrangement and I’m quite happy if he remains the person they wake up first. Esther has gone through seasons of wanting her daddy to do things for or with her. Last night Maggie wanted me to put her to sleep and didn’t want daddy. It’s all different seasons. Christmas might turn the situation around. Xx

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:18 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes they do tend to chop and change quite quickly 🙂 x

  15. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    September 15, 2015 at 5:27 pm (4 years ago)

    They switch so quickly, though I do have to say that always being the one in demand is just as hard as always being pushed away. It is exhausting having to be the sole carer.

  16. Hugzilla
    September 15, 2015 at 5:54 pm (4 years ago)

    Ooooh, I’m dreading this day with my youngest. My eldest has ALWAYS been a Daddy’s boy and – I’m not gonna lie – it was so lovely when my second son decided that I was his favourite. So far we have one each, but I bet there comes a day when my little boy decides that daddy is going to be the hero-role model. I’m just gonna lap it up while I can…

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:22 pm (4 years ago)

      They’re funny little creatures and it’s interesting who they are drawn to. I’m sure they’ll chop and change many times over the years x

  17. Josefa @always Josefa
    September 15, 2015 at 6:50 pm (4 years ago)

    Winner, winner, chicken dinner – that is gold Renee! We alternate between good cop and bad cop in this house, between hubby and I, and whoever is good cop – that is the fave. It changes instantly though. When they were little they were both clingy to me – but I think it was more because of milk than mummy love 😉

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:23 pm (4 years ago)

      Yes, that does tend to be the case when they’re younger and mums play a larger role. We do a bit of good cop bad cop in our house too 🙂 x

  18. Becky from BeckyandJames
    September 15, 2015 at 8:26 pm (4 years ago)

    I love when daddy is flavour of the month. It gives me a break! I don’t love how black and white they make it though, those blanket statements like “I don’t want you!” are very hurtful.

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:24 pm (4 years ago)

      Yep, they sure get you in the feels 🙂

  19. [email protected]
    September 15, 2015 at 9:59 pm (4 years ago)

    I’m the favorite still, though my boy is happy to spend time with Dad much more than when he was younger.

  20. [email protected] my2morrows
    September 15, 2015 at 10:36 pm (4 years ago)

    I love when they go through the daddy phase. Daddy put me to bed, daddy bath me, daddy wipe my bum! 🙂
    They always come back to mummy eventually though, especially when they hurt themselves because here’s nothing like mummy kisses to fix a wound! Gorgeous pic!

  21. Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers
    September 15, 2015 at 11:48 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh that does stab doesn’t it? Mine have gone through phases but usually it’s me, I’ve trained them to wake Daddy up in the mornings though instead of me though which is a win!

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:27 pm (4 years ago)

      Now that’s clever. I like the way you work!

  22. Tash @ Gift Grapevine
    September 16, 2015 at 1:10 am (4 years ago)

    Ouch – little kids have no tact whatsoever! We’re lucky there’s no favourites with Miss T – she will work both Handy Hubby and I – but with Mr TT it’s mostly about me. He loves to follow Handy Hubby around when he’s renovating at home but when it comes to the everyday things like changing nappies, reading books, buckling his seatbelt, attempting to feed him at dinner, changing his clothes, it’s all about Mummy doing it. I do love the cuddles and am making the most by squeezing extra tight as I know there will come a time when cuddling Mum is considered too embarrassing! (PS – I love that photo of Dave and Miss Five – just beautiful).

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:29 pm (4 years ago)

      Thanks Tash. Yep, I’m making the most of the cuddles too.

  23. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid
    September 16, 2015 at 8:16 am (4 years ago)

    Five year olds! They’re so fickle and they totes know how to play the system! At least, now you and Dave have one adoring fan each which kind of evens things out, it’s all about balance, right?!

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:31 pm (4 years ago)

      True that, Sammie, and they sure do know how to work the system. You hit the nail on the head.

  24. [email protected] The Builders Wife
    September 16, 2015 at 12:45 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh but they swing back again! I am often the favourite one day, only to be ousted the next. Back and forth they swing. Doesn’t feel great though xxx

    • Mummy, Wife, Me
      September 17, 2015 at 8:31 pm (4 years ago)

      Temperamental little things 😉

  25. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    September 16, 2015 at 9:24 pm (4 years ago)

    Hehehe oh Renee!!! You’ll totally be the fave again soon. So nice that you guys had a lovely, snuggly day together though! xx

  26. Dannielle @ Zamamabakes
    September 21, 2015 at 11:04 am (4 years ago)

    It’s only taken me forever to get over here this week Renee but finally I made it before your next post 😉
    I’m not classified the ‘fun’ parent that’s for sure, but I think (hope) the kidlets would miss me if I wasn’t here. Zadada arrives home from work and he has this abundance of enthusiastic energy to give the kidlets my Mum is the same when she comes out to visit, I usually just watch on mentally and physically drained (not quite but almost) and I try to just enjoy the reprieve.
    Glad you got to have a nice snugly day, trust me Miss 5 would be lost without you sweet lady! xx

  27. Bec @ Seeing the Lighter Side
    September 21, 2015 at 7:55 pm (4 years ago)

    Naaaw:( My 3yo is very much Mummy’s little boy and it is hard on my husband. He’s starting to come around a little. My 5yo has always been more even handed – a bit of a bias toward Mummy but he at least would let Daddy bath him, do his teeth and put him to bed! It is tiring being the favourite but it would be harder to be constantly rejected!


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