My mum has given me plenty of advice over the years, but the one thing she’s been particularly firm on is that you’re never fully dressed without lipstick or a belt.
She first uttered these pearls of wisdom when I started clubbing around the age of 18 or 19.
I’d head out au naturel. I don’t think I even owned foundation back then.
I was only interested in perfecting my dance moves to every Spice Girl song on the charts and umm hello Thursday night $1 drinks. Lipstick and a belt were the last things on my mind.
Mum wouldn’t let the lipstick issue go lightly though as ‘… you never know who you’re going to meet’. She bought me a lipstick and insisted I wear it. It was a burgundy colour, a signature colour of the mid to late nineties. Mocha java was its name. Ahh yes, good old mocha java. Do you remember it, mum?
I took mum’s advice and her lipstick. She would know. She has such a great sense of style. She knows how to put an outfit together complete with makeup and accessories and looks amazing all of the time.
My sister is the same. She is a magician with a makeup brush and can make a pair of shorts and a t shirt look stunning.
Me on the other hand, I didn’t quite inherit the ability my mum and sister have to effortlessly throw an outfit together or have the patience to carefully choose something off the rack that I know is going to look perfect on me.
They’ve been training me over the years though and there was a time when I made a lot of effort with my appearance. I had a lot of fun with it too. I was brave in my clothing and makeup choices and considered myself a bit of a fashionista.
And then I became pregnant and had horrible morning sickness. Things began to slide.
I stopped wearing perfume first of all, then dropped all of the accessories because I couldn’t bear anything touching my skin, then I stopped doing my eye makeup and then lastly the lipstick went out the door. Bye bye mocha java.
I’d do the basics, a light covering of foundation and throw on my clothes. I could not muster the strength to do anymore.
Since then, I’ve been in a bit of a rut and I’ve not been feeling overly confident in how I look.
I have a bad track record of being overly critical of myself. I’m no stranger to staring at myself in the mirror and rolling off a list of things I hate about my appearance.
On a low day, I read Emily from You learn something new every day’s post about a style challenge she joins in with and how it’s made a difference to her.
For those of you not in the know, the style challenge is Styling You’s #everydaystyle. Emily’s explanation of why she joins in struck a chord with me and so just under a month ago, I joined in too.
If you follow me on Facebook, you’ll see that most days I post a picture of myself in my outfit for the day.
I’ve noticed a change in myself since I started doing #everydaystyle. I’m paying more attention to my appearance again and it’s making me feel good about myself.
Like Emily, I’m having a good look at what’s in my wardrobe and getting creative. I’ve discovered that I’ve been in a serious clothing rut. I’d circulate the same few outfits at work each week and wear my standard mummy uniforms at home. No wonder I was feeling blah about myself.
I’ve also been doing a 21 day health challenge run by my good mate Simone over at The Wellness Warung. I’ve spent the last three weeks focusing on how to make me feel good on the inside and out and I tell you what, it’s made a difference. My skin feels great and I’m less bloated.
As for the lippy, mum you’re right. I’ve started wearing it again and it’s making me feel like a new person.
Ps. Thanks for letting me raid your lipstick drawer.
What are your secrets to feeling good about yourself? Has your mum given you any pearls of wisdom? Do you participate in #everydaystyle? Are you enjoying my #everydaystyle? Do you have a favourite lipstick? Do you know all of the dance moves to Stop?
Linking up to today with the delightful Jess for I Blog On Tuesday.