Dave and I had our first date in six months last Friday night. Six whole months.
We went to the Banff Mountain Film Festival for Dave’s birthday to watch their Radical Reels tour. It was more than two hours of extreme mountain biking, climbing and wingsuit piloting.
Dave was in heaven. And I was in heaven too. It was fun getting dressed up and sharing a bite to eat before the films as we watched the sun set over the Brisbane River.
We cuddled up in the back row of the theatre, had a sneaky snog or two, and simply enjoyed some sweet uninterrupted time together.
I realised last weekend that we only usually go on a date three times a year for my birthday, our anniversary, and Dave’s birthday.
Three dates. Surely we can do better than that.
It got me to thinking how often couples have date nights and whether we were the norm or not.
I asked the question on Facebook and many of you were in the same boat as us rarely venturing out on a date night with your other half. During this pop quiz, a friend of ours asked why it was so long between dates for us.
We are extremely lucky to have a fantastic support network of family who are always willing to help out and look after the kids. The kids have been sick quite a bit this year and I’ve had a number of specialist appointments meaning we’ve had to call on our network a lot. We’re conscious of not taking advantage of them.
If Dave and I go out, it is usually separately. Dave will go out with his mates while I look after the kids and vice versa. Plus, we’re tired at the end of the day and don’t have a great deal of extra cash lying around with me still working part-time.
That’s not to say we don’t still have plenty of time together. Friday and Saturday nights we usually rent a DVD and have a couple of drinks. I ALWAYS get into my pjs as soon as the kids are in bed and nearly always fall asleep before the movie’s end. Romantic :/
After last Friday’s successful date, I’m keen to keep things rolling, spice things up, get talking and rekindle the romance.
Just because we can’t always get out doesn’t mean we can’t make our time at home a little bit special.
Sometimes the dates at home are just as, or even more, fun and romantic.
Today, I’m sharing five stay-at-home date night ideas for those of us whose dates are few and far between.
Umm Renee, did you just mention the C word? Yuh-huh, I did. We’ve done this little activity before and it’s so much fun. (Just between you and me it’s the closest Dave is going to get to camping for a while.) Think sitting around a fire pit toasting marshmallows, star gazing, enjoying the quiet and getting cosy. Decorate the tent with fairy lights or candles and pillows to add a little romance.
This is another fun one we’ve done before. We chose a Mexican theme where I cooked a truckload of Mexican food and we drank Coronas while listening to Mexican music. I think the next one we’ll do is a Thai night to relive our honeymoon. You don’t have to base your theme on a country. Grab any theme and run with it. A 1970s night complete with flares, a ‘fro and fondue could be fun.
Remember the time
Dig up your old emails or cards from the early days of your relationship. If you’re anything like us, it will be great for a laugh and the perfect opportunity to reminisce. You could also do this with an old photo album. It doesn’t have to be photos of you together. It could be from your childhood or from school. It’s a time to share, open up, and get talking.
I don’t know about you, but I really like cheese … and wine. Mmmm cheese and wine. Select a few wines to taste and pair them with some cheese for a sublime night in. I found this site recently which can help you pair wines and cheese. You could even rent Sideways to get you into the wine tasting mood.
Gold Class at home
Grab some takeaway (I’m thinking decent takeaway, not Maccas) complete with a decadent dessert, a good flick, dim the lights and put your feet up. Dave has suggested you throw some popcorn down the back of the couch to create the right ambience.
What would you add to the list? Have you tried any of the above? How often do you and your partner have a date night? What’s stopping you from going out with your partner more?
Linking up today with EssentiallyJess for IBOT.