I unbuttoned my shorts while Dave and I were out to lunch the other day.
I was gorging myself on a burger and chips and washing it down with an icy cold beer. I wasn’t even hungry to be honest. I’d spent the morning stuffing myself silly with Tim Tam brownies.
The burger, beer and chips chaser was a ‘we’re-on-holidays’ treat.
When you’re on holidays you deserve to spoil yourself, don’t you? We’ve worked hard all year, we’ve been good all year – mostly. It’s okay to indulge a little.
Well, that’s what I’ve been telling myself for weeks and now I have a jiggly joggly jelly belly that rivals Santa’s.
The daily diet of cheese, chocolate and beer is all fun and games until someone has to unbutton their shorts. If that’s not incentive enough to get back on track, I don’t know what is.
I’m over feeling guilty and disappointed in myself and quite simply I don’t like the way I look or feel.
Worst of all, I feel like a fraud.
My posts on quitting sugar are among the most popular on this blog. People look to me for inspiration, yet I have fallen off the wagon big time and am battling to get back on.
It’s time to call in the big guns.
Fortunately, one of the big guns is my dear friend, Simone.
Simone is the founder and owner of The Wellness Warung where she practices as an holistic health and lifestyle coach focused on helping women feel happy, healthy AND sexy. Bring that on, y’all! Oh and she’s a raw food chef extraordinaire, too.
Because I’m in a generous mood, I’m going to share my darling friend with you today.
Hi Simone! Thanks so much for sharing some of your healthy living secrets with us. Can you tell us a little about what you do?
Thanks for having me here Renee to share with your readers! I love to work with busy women who are sick and tired of feeling, well, sick and tired. I help them to get off the endless diet train and to instead focus on their diet and lifestyle holistically to help them to get more energy, to lose weight and to feel amazing in their bodies.
Have you always been committed to a healthy lifestyle?
I haven’t always. I used to eat whatever I wanted, but would then get guilty and start a crazy diet so that my weight always yo-yoed and I was never really happy with how I looked. I was also very much a party-girl who cared more about having a good time than how I looked after myself. I went through a huge transition period back in 2010 and that is when I started focusing more on my health and diet. I became a health coach and raw food chef and that changed everything for me as I finally figured out how to eat well and live abundantly, so that my weight now is stable and I understand how to eat for my unique body.
We are desperate to stop our unhealthy food and lifestyle cycle. What are your top three tips to help us get back on track?
First of all, you need to be really clear with what I call your Big Motivating Factor (or MOFA for short). This is different to a goal, where you say, ‘yeah, I really want to lose 5kg by March’. With your Big MOFA, you go deeper than that. You need to do some inner inquiry. Why do you want to lose 5kg? Why is that important to you? What will losing weight do for you?
Once you have your BIG MOFA really clear in your mind, write it down and keep it somewhere that you can see every day. This will help to anchor your desired state to your everyday actions and stop you from falling off the wagon. I like to put my BIG MOFA on my computer screen saver, set it as a reminder a few times a day in my phone, on post-it notes in my day planner and by my dresser mirror, so that it remains front and centre of my mind.
My third tip is to then make sure that you set yourself up for success. If you know that having Tim Tams in the cupboard is just going to make sabotaging your efforts inevitable, then give them away and replace them with something that will bring you one step closer to your MOFA rather than further away. Make the time and space in your day necessary to do the things which will bring you closer to your desired state – that might mean asking your husband to come home earlier two nights a week to mind the kids so you can go to a yoga class or the gym, or scheduling a block of time over the weekend to prepare some healthy meals for during the week when it is busy and easy for you to get way-laid, for example. I believe strongly in setting yourself up for inevitable success by clearing potential blocks so that they don’t happen in the first place.
Do you ever fall off the wagon and if you do how do you get back on?
Of course I do, but it is nowhere near as often as I used to, basically because now it is easier to respect my body and my life and how I treat myself. I do the things that I have suggested above, reminding myself of why I want to feel amazing and radiant and how good that will feel when I am. I’m also not too hard on myself, I know that if I indulge in something while on holidays for example that it is only temporary and I trust in myself enough to know that I can get back on track again pretty quickly. I have just been away travelling in a pretty remote place and the only option for breakfast that I could have every day was a banana pancake. This is a far cry from what I would normally eat for breakfast (usually a green smoothie!) but I went with the flow, and really enjoyed every mouthful of those pancakes every day so I felt satisfied and not guilty. I really couldn’t wait to get back into my regular routine again when back from hols and that daily pancake experience made me really appreciate how great it is to be able to eat nourishing and clean, healthy food every day.
How do you treat yourself without feeling guilty?
It is no secret that I love chocolate. I will enjoy a few squares of organic, raw dark chocolate most days, and I also love to make chia puddings which feel so decadent but they are really very healthy. You can try making one yourself by adding 2 tablespoons of chia seeds, 1/2 cup lite coconut milk, 1 tablespoon of cacao powder and some frozen berries into a mason jar, giving it a little stir and letting it sit for about 30 mins. Sooo good!
Is there are secret to maintaining a healthy lifestyle?
What I believe to be the secret is to make sure you nourish what I call your Soul Foods. These are: Loving Relationships, Passion & Purpose, Movement, Spirituality and Self Care. When you actively engage in your Soul Foods, and when they are in balance, then you feel good. When you feel good, you look after yourself properly and without difficulty. So often we turn to food (usually junk food and sugary food) when we are out of alignment, flow and balance, which is usually what happens when one or more of our Soul Foods hasn’t been nourished or has been completely neglected. We fill the void with food, or use food as a reward system (I have worked so hard today, I deserve this chocolate cake/glass of wine/piece of pizza) which then gets us off track. But when we are feeling satisfied and fulfilled we magically don’t desire the crap and instead really want to focus on feeling good and looking after ourselves. It isn’t easy to keep these Soul Foods in check all the time, but if you are feeling really unhealthy I do encourage you to think about which area of your life is lacking right now and try to put more energy into that to see how you start to feel energetically.
Were you a little naughty over the holiday period? Have you been able to get on track or are you battling a little like me?
Linking up today with Essentially Jess for IBOT.