There’s a bit of a running joke in our household around this time of year.
I strategically place Mother’s Day catalogues about the house and drop some not so subtle hints to Dave about a special day coming up, while he jokes around saying Mother’s Day is just another day.
Just another day.
He gives me his signature cheeky grin as he teases me, while I respond with an overly fake laugh and tell him it’s too soon.
Too soon after the Mother’s Day where I was forgotten.
*Cue dramatic music* Dum, dum, duuuummmmmmm!
It was a couple of years go when I was a newbie mum. I had woken up on Mother’s Day anticipating to be showered with love, but there wasn’t a single homemade card in sight. While Dave slept beside me, I got out of bed to tend to our toddler and started my day as per usual.
Half the day passed and no-one uttered a single Happy Mother’s Day to me. No special cuddles, no homemade cards. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zero.
After scrolling through Facebook and seeing all of my other mummy friends being spoilt, I couldn’t take it any longer. I had been stewing on it all morning and eventually the pot boiled over. It wasn’t pretty. There were some very ugly tears that day.
‘You’re not my mum,’ Dave had told me when I confronted him.
Ahh Dave. My poor sweet, Dave. He had no idea what he’d just gotten himself into uttering those words.
If I was rational at the time I would have explained that no, you doofus, I am not your mother, but I am the mother of your child. Your child that isn’t old enough to know when it is Mother’s Day.
Instead, as I do in all emotional situations, I cried some more and moaned about just wanting a card and a daggy pair of slippers.
And then he put salt in the wound when he told me that Mother’s Day was just another day.
Ahh Dave. Bless him. He clearly missed out on the Mother’s Day for Dummies course.
The thing is that I’m not a materialistic type of person. I don’t need to and don’t want to be showered with extravagant gifts. I just want some acknowledgement. I want a crappy homemade card and a cuddle. I want to put my feet up and be spoilt because it’s not just another day. It’s a celebration. It’s a day to honour mothers and all that we do. It’s a day to say thank you. It’s a day where I don’t want to be ironing, cooking dinner or refereeing squabbling kids. I just want the good stuff – cuddles and lots of love.
Am I being silly? Should I be this hung up on one day? Did I give Dave a hard time over nothing?
Last Sunday morning, Miss Four jumped into bed with me for a snuggle and a chat. Our conversation got me thinking. I am celebrated and honoured every day. Some days I just need to look for it a little harder.
Here’s a snippet of our conversation.
Me: What do you like doing with mummy the best?
Miss Four: I like it when you tuck me into bed, um, I like eating breakfast and dinner with you. I love you so much. You’re the best mum in the whole wide world. I like it when you dance with me. I like colouring in with you. You’re good at colouring in the lines. I’m good at colouring too. And because you work so hard.
Me: What do I do that’s hard work?
Miss Four: Working on your computer and cooking dinner.
Me: Do you want to be a mummy one day.
Miss Four: I want to be a fairy one day.
Me: A fairy? Really?
Miss Four: Yes. And Elsa, and a builder, and a mummy.
*All together now … awww*
Now, it seems I’ve promised you another giveaway. I want YOU to be spoilt this Mother’s Day because you deserve it, God damn it 😉
Pink Woods and I have teamed up again for this gorgeous giveaway. (If you were reading last week, you’d know I absolutely adore Pink Woods. Please check out their Facebook page now and give them some love).
Today, I am giving away a red crochet necklace and matching dahlia earrings to one lucky reader.
All you need to do is tell me in the comments about your ideal Mother’s Day.
This giveaway is now closed. Congratulations to Allison Vainionpaa! I hope you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day.
Terms and conditions
– This giveaway is only open to Australian residents (excluding ACT).
– This giveaway closes at 8pm AEST on Saturday 9 May.
– Winners will be contacted via email on Sunday 10 May.
– This is a game of skill. The most interesting answer as judged by a panel will be deemed a winner.
Linking up today with Jess for IBOT.