A couple of weeks ago, I celebrated my one year anniversary of returning to work after having my second child.
One full year of working three days a week, being a mum and wife, growing this blog, and maintaining my sanity. I made it!
This past year has been a roller coaster ride of emotions for me as I struggled to find my groove returning to the workforce.
I remember starting my first day back at work after having been up the entire night before with a vomiting child. I remember crying to Dave that I couldn’t do it all and that I was failing in all aspects of my life. I remember lamenting the fact that my status at work isn’t what it used to be.
I have spent much of this past year battling to keep my head above water and placing unnecessary pressure on myself.
And then, something just clicked for me a few months ago.
I think I reached my limit.
I was exhausted from the constant stress of worrying about whether I was performing at work, whether I was spending enough time with the kids, and whether I was taking advantage of my family asking them time and time again to look after my children, who have been sick for the better part of the last seven months.
Being a working mum is tiring enough as it is, let alone me adding extra pressure on myself worrying about things I didn’t need to worry about.
I resolved to give myself a break and to not focus unnecessarily on what is out of my control.
Cutting myself some slack was the best thing I could have done. It helped me to realise what an amazing job of everything I am doing, that I am doing my best, and that while things aren’t the way they used to be, this is the way it is now and I need to make peace with that.
It has taken me a full year to work all of this out, but I believe that I am settled now.
I read an article in The Courier Mail recently about working mothers being in demand. There has reportedly been a 100 per cent rise in the past year in companies wanting mothers to fill positions.
The article made my heart sing.
It claimed that a growing number of businesses consider the ‘get in, get the job done, get out,’ approach of mothers an asset to business.
I love the notion of the get in, get it done, and get out approach.
I would say I’m one of these women.
As I do all daycare drop offs and pickups for the girls, I don’t have the flexibility of coming into work earlier or working later.
When I get to work, I need to Get. Stuff. Done! I of course love the social aspect of work and having adult conversation, but my focus is on churning out the work like a machine to get done what I can in the time I have available.
And sure, there are times when I can’t get it all done and it is stressful. I am lucky enough to have an amazing support network around me and can lean on certain family members when I need to pick up an extra day or work from home.
Rather than working myself up about it like I used to, I now be realistic with my expectations.
I am so glad I have stuck with being a working mother. The benefits for me, our family, the kids, definitely outweigh the negatives.
If I could say anything to the working mothers out there who are struggling to keep their heads above water, I would say hang in there. You are killing it and are doing an amazing job even when you think you’re not. Be kind to yourself and it will make a world of difference.
Are you a working parent? Do you enjoy it or not so much? Did it take you awhile to find your groove after returning to work?
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