Why I write

The house is as quiet as a mouse. The girls are sleeping soundly apart from the occasional cough and Dave lies still beside me. The sun is yet to rise. Why then am I awake?

I close my eyes, roll over and tell myself to go back to sleep because God knows I need it.

It’s no use though. It has started already. The words. Once they start dancing through my mind there’s no chance of me returning to slumber.

I roll over again, this time to pick up my iPhone which I key a few phrases into. I save these beauties for later when I can craft them into something special. I put the phone down feeling satisfied and attempt to go back to sleep.

As I begin to drift off, the words whisper in my ear. They pull off my blankets, put on my dressing gown and guide me downstairs to the breakfast table where I sit in front of my Notebook. The words are impatient, desperate to be written, shaped and loved.

You see, I write because I have no choice not too. It is what I do. It’s my therapy, my love, my thing.

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I was just 17 when I saw my words in print for the first time – in the Sunday Mail no less. Talk about starting my writing career off with a bang.

At that point though I hadn’t realised I wanted a career in writing.

While I will never forget the rush of adrenalin that ripped through me when I saw my name in black and white for the first time and realised that people would read my words, it wasn’t enough to light my internal fire.

Even when I studied Journalism, I didn’t crave to be a writer. I simply did it because I was good at English and hopeless at Maths.

I loved seeing my name in print again and again and seeing my silly mug on QUT News, but it was clear to me from the start that I would never be a Journalist. I just didn’t have the confidence nor drive.

It was to be five years after I graduated that I started freelancing. I loved it, but when I was offered a secure 9 to 5, I settled for that.

It wasn’t until I started this blog that the fire within me was brought to life and is now an ever growing flame.

These days I live and breathe words. These days I crave to be a writer. I think that deep down I knew this all along, I just didn’t have the courage until now.

I’m sharing why I write today as part of a fun blog-hop moving around the blogging community. I was chuffed to bits when one of my favourite bloggers, Carla from My Yellow Heart asked me to join in. Thank you so much, Carla.

Now … for the answers to this blog hop’s questions.

What am I working on?

My little blog has my heart and soul at the moment. I am investing as much time as I can to create posts that are open, honest, a little funny, and something my readers can relate to.

All the while I am working on becoming a better writer and mastering my craft. I have been trained to write in particular styles for news stories, media releases, web content and advertorials. I am cherishing this opportunity to experiment with my writing.

When time in my busy schedule allows, I also plan to focus on building my profile as a writer and seeing where this journey takes me.

How does my writing differ from others in my genre?

I started this blog with the intention that it would have an underlying rediscovery theme. Mummy, Wife, Me came about when I felt trapped in a Mummy fog and feared I had lost my identity. I write about juggling the various roles in my life, while not losing sight of me.

Because of my background, my writing tends to be structured and concise. I am attempting to stretch my wings and be more creative.

Why do I write what I do?

I write about the ups and downs of my crazy life partly as therapy and partly to assure other parents out there that they are not alone. I want to strike a chord with my readers and let them know their crazy lives are normal.

How does my writing process work?

Every second of the day I brainstorm various post ideas. I have post it notes scattered throughout the house begging to be picked up and fleshed out.

The early mornings are when I am most creative. I speedily tap away purging all of the words from my mind. In the evenings, I edit, mould and fuss over them to create a post.

I don’t have an office or desk, I simply sit at the breakfast/dinner table with my headphones on to block out the sound of Dave watching TV a metre or so from me.

After I have finished a post, I read it out loud to hear how the words sound. Do they roll off my tongue? Do they dance? Do they evoke emotion?

I probably spend way too much time on each post, but that’s just me. I need to ensure each word is right and special.

Thanks for indulging me today in this way too long post. If you’ve read the whole way through, you’ve done well!

Part of this blog-hop is to nominate three writers to pass onto. I am in awe of so many writers it was hard to narrow it down to just three. In the end I chose three writers whose individual styles stand out to me and who I can’t wait to learn more about.

Left to right: You learn something new everyday, Random Acts of Zen, Createbakemake

Left to right: You learn something new every day, Random Acts of Zen, Createbakemake

Emily is a stay-at-home mum, wife, daughter, reluctant housewife, freelance copywriter and proofreader, serial winner of 25-words-or-less competitions, former marketeer, recovering chocoholic, wordsmith, pianist and geek. And that’s just the short version. You’ll find her at You learn something new every day, the bloggy home where she tucks her thoughts into bed.

Lisa blogs at Random Acts of Zen, where she discusses ways that zen and good karma impact on our lives. She’s the mum of an 11-year-old girl and married to her best friend. She would also much rather look for the good in life, than the bad.

Hi I’m Lauren from Createbakemake. I live in Brisbane with my two beautiful boys and my very patient and supportive husband. Β I have an insatiable sweet tooth and love nothing more than spending time in the kitchen baking sweet treats with my two little helpers. Β I believe recipes are just a starting point, and I love experimenting with different ingredients and flavour combinations. Β I also love reading and writing and I make the most of being an early bird and indulge in these two passions in those precious hours before the a new day dawns and the chaos begins!

And thanks again to Carla for nominating me. If you haven’t already visited My Yellow Heart, get over there now. Carla writes as though she’s chatting to you over a cuppa about her life in a remote part of Australia. She is a delight to read and is always interesting and relatable.

Linking up today with the ever hilarious Jess for IBOT.

74 comments on Why I write

  1. Josefa @always Josefa
    June 17, 2014 at 6:43 am (3 years ago)

    Love these insights into your writing Renee, I think the most common theme after reading so many of these wonderful posts is that most of us write…well because our heart begs us to and that little voice is not one we choose to ignore anymore. That is both a beautiful and powerful realisation. Thanks for joining in to this great little blog hop! I had no idea it would spread so far and wide when I published the first little link those weeks ago xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:55 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Josefa! I will have to remember to add my link to your special page πŸ™‚ x

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  2. Lydia C. Lee
    June 17, 2014 at 6:59 am (3 years ago)

    Great insight into your processes…and yay you getting in print so young!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:55 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lydia πŸ™‚

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  3. Kathy
    June 17, 2014 at 7:07 am (3 years ago)

    Love that description of words whispering to you, leading you into your night gown and downstairs to write. And love that photo light in your dining room.!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:13 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s a pretty awesome light. A great talking point for newcomers to the house. Thanks for your kind words πŸ™‚

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  4. Bec | Mumma Tells
    June 17, 2014 at 7:37 am (3 years ago)

    Gorgeous Renee. I hear words in the same way. I look forward to seeing where yours take you. X

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  5. Emily
    June 17, 2014 at 7:58 am (3 years ago)

    Beautiful post! Thanks for choosing me! Now the pressure of doing one… and of choosing three more people! GAH!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

      I can’t wait to hear your story, Emily. I love the way you write!

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  6. Susan Tyler
    June 17, 2014 at 8:36 am (3 years ago)

    Renee- as always, when I recieve an email notice that you have blogged again- your writing is a bright and shining light in my day!!!! thanks for sharing, Susan

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:57 pm (3 years ago)

      Ahh Susan, thank you! What a kind thing to say. I’m so glad you enjoy it πŸ™‚

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  7. Toni
    June 17, 2014 at 9:37 am (3 years ago)

    I can so relate to the best words coming to me as Im trying to sleep. I really need to take my laptop to my bedroom at night so I can write it all down as it pops into my head. I can fully write and edit a post in my head in 20 mins at night. Of course once I wake up the next morning it normally takes hours to remember those golden words that flowed so freely at night.

    P.S – hoe friggen awesome is your light! I love it! Can’t wait to see you Friday πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:58 pm (3 years ago)

      Yep, that happens to me too sometimes πŸ™‚ Can’t wait to see you Friday either!! Fun πŸ™‚

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  8. Zanni Louise
    June 17, 2014 at 9:44 am (3 years ago)

    Yes…I know that fire. I am glad this blog reignited it for you. You are a lovely writer! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:58 pm (3 years ago)

      Aww thanks so much, Zanni x

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  9. Caitlin
    June 17, 2014 at 10:54 am (3 years ago)

    I love the imagery you have created of the words waiting to be released and purged from your mind. That is exactly how I feel. Thanks for sharing your writing with us.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 9:59 pm (3 years ago)

      And thanks for reading Caitlin πŸ™‚

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  10. Bronwyn @ preschool mummy
    June 17, 2014 at 11:02 am (3 years ago)

    HI Renee! I loved reading this post and even from the first two paragraphs I identified with it. Those thoughts can overwhelm and envelop you, and I find if I don’t tap them into the notes section of my iPhone, I can’t rest.

    I was also a QUT journo graduate. I didn’t have the drive or competitive streak, or whatever, to succeed. I did my internship in the ABC newsroom at Toowong. I was set for a career in journalism but my heart wasn’t in it. I became a teacher instead.

    But now, writing is calling me back. Blogging has allowed me to enter back into the world of publishing on my own terms. It’s all-consuming though. Trying to find balance!

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:01 pm (3 years ago)

      I love that writing is calling you back!!! Oh and guess what I did a brief stint at Toowong too?! So brief it was only two days. I was desperately heartbroken at the time too lol.

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  11. Robyn (Mrs D)
    June 17, 2014 at 11:04 am (3 years ago)

    I am loving all these posts and it’s so great to learn more about you. (I’m yet to hit publish on mine). I am very envious that you studied journalism, it’s something that never occurred to me when I was young but something I really wish I had done. I’m hoping once the kids don’t need me as much any more I’ll be able to sink my teeth into a good writing course xxx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:02 pm (3 years ago)

      I’d love to do a couple of refresher courses too. Perhaps in creative writing. I’m looking forward to reading your post, Robyn πŸ™‚

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  12. Jody at Six Little Hearts
    June 17, 2014 at 11:49 am (3 years ago)

    You have a very similar background to myself Renee. So lovely to learn more about you here.
    I am a chronic insomniac and so I turned to blogging to try and fill in all those blank nights. Motherhood can rob you of a sense of self too which blogging can definitely cure. πŸ˜€

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:02 pm (3 years ago)

      It is great therapy isn’t it, Jody?! I don’t know what I’d do without it πŸ™‚

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  13. EssentiallyJess
    June 17, 2014 at 2:33 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow I didn’t realise you were so qualified! (And I don’t mean that in a bad way; I just didn’t realise you did so much professional writing. Clearly you’re qualified, and write brilliantly. Have I dug myself out of my hole yet?)
    I love your passion for it. And the fact that you can get up early and blog. I just can’t do that! I’m more of a night person. Or a middle of the day person really.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:04 pm (3 years ago)

      Lol Jess. Like Em said in her post today, qualifications don’t make you a kick-ass writer, being a kick ass person makes you a kick ass writer – or something like that. She said it better πŸ™‚

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  14. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me
    June 17, 2014 at 3:29 pm (3 years ago)

    An interesting read lovely and yes I surely did make it to the end!! I felt the same way when I wrote my blog hop thingee, so much to say! Writing is who I am, I live and breathe it also, just wish I could get paid to blog full time, one day maybe! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:05 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes one day that would be very nice indeed!! x

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  15. Carla from myyellowheart
    June 17, 2014 at 4:05 pm (3 years ago)

    Love and admire the fact that you’re up early to blog and write. Great photo of you also!! How did you manage that angle? Didn’t find your post about the whys of blogging difficult to read at all! And my reasons are the same as your also, because I enjoy it, despite it not really making sense xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:06 pm (3 years ago)

      Yes, it really doesn’t make sense to me most of the time! I totally related to your post πŸ™‚ My hubby took the photo from our staircase πŸ™‚

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      • Carla from myyellowheart
        June 18, 2014 at 12:14 am (3 years ago)

        Ok well that makes sense (it never occurred to me that you might have a staircase!!) I was wondering how did your husband manage to get so high into the corner of the room, stupid now I think of it lol x

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  16. Tegan
    June 17, 2014 at 4:47 pm (3 years ago)

    It’s great reading how others write. I have the little notes to myself too, often Paul will wake up and ask me what I’m doing as I’m tapping away on my phone in the middle of the night. It’s much easier to get it all out of my head where I can tend to it later.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:08 pm (3 years ago)

      I suspected I wasn’t the only blogger to do that, Tegan πŸ™‚

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  17. Jodie@FreshHomeCook
    June 17, 2014 at 5:35 pm (3 years ago)

    Love your work Renee – beautifully written as always. It still amazes me how hard that writing bug bites but once bit you can’t go back. πŸ™‚
    Seems we have similar likes in our bloggers too – Lauren is on my list too!
    Great to learn a little more about you. xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:08 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Jodie. I am yet to read yours, but I have scheduled it in for a must read before bed x

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  18. Christy
    June 17, 2014 at 7:11 pm (3 years ago)

    Great insight for someone just starting out like me.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:09 pm (3 years ago)

      I’m glad you found it helpful, Christy. Welcome to the world of blogging. It’s awesome!

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  19. Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages
    June 17, 2014 at 7:25 pm (3 years ago)

    Once I am awake and my mind starts going there is no chance I will get back to sleep. I wish I could jot down notes and go back to sleep. Anyway, it seems that your early rising is well worth it with great words coming from you

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Malinda πŸ™‚ I so wish I was one of those people who could nod back off, but no such luck!

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  20. JM Peace
    June 17, 2014 at 8:06 pm (3 years ago)

    Ahh, the QUT News… you just made me smile πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Are you an ex QUT News cast member too, JM Peace?

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  21. Lisa@RandomActsOfZen
    June 17, 2014 at 8:36 pm (3 years ago)

    This describes your passion beautifully, Renee. There’s no wonder that your writing is enjoyed so much, you write from the heart.
    Thank you for asking me to join in this hop, I’m extremely flattered!
    And I LOVE your light!!! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 17, 2014 at 10:12 pm (3 years ago)

      It’s pretty cool isn’t it, Lisa? It actually came with Asian cartoons on them. It’s a designer light. We got rid of those though and replaced them with photos. And thank you for your kind words. I can’t wait to read your story. xx

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  22. Lucy @ Bake Play Smile
    June 18, 2014 at 6:57 am (3 years ago)

    What a great idea! It’s so wonderful that you have reignited your passion..you certainly have a talent for writing! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 18, 2014 at 1:07 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lucy πŸ™‚ x

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  23. Aroha @ Colours of Sunset
    June 18, 2014 at 10:56 am (3 years ago)

    “Even when I studied Journalism, I didn’t crave to be a writer. I simply did it because I was good at English and hopeless at Maths.” – hahaha ME TOO! Exactly this.

    “I loved seeing my name in print again and again and seeing my silly mug on QUT News, but it was clear to me from the start that I would never be a Journalist. I just didn’t have the confidence nor drive.” And again, exactly this, except substitute QUT News for “JU Navigator” (our uni paper).

    Great read Renee, thanks for sharing! And thanks for stealing my nomination – Lisa! Oh well, she can be nominated by 2 people, right?! πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 18, 2014 at 1:08 pm (3 years ago)

      She sure can! I’m sure she would love that. Can’t wait to read yours πŸ™‚

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  24. Sarah from Creating Contentment
    June 19, 2014 at 11:05 am (3 years ago)

    I love that you write amongst the mess of the day. And that you use headphones is brilliant! I will have to try this myself. Thank you so much for this lovely insight into your writing.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 19, 2014 at 8:58 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks very much, Sarah πŸ™‚

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  25. Marnie
    June 19, 2014 at 9:56 pm (3 years ago)

    I love the honesty and integrity of your posts and they are so beautifully written. I also started blogging for the same reason, a way to keep hold of something that is me (before becoming a mum). I would love to guest post for you so please keep me in mind…I have a unique angle x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 19, 2014 at 10:03 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Marnie. That is very kind of you. I will keep that in mind. Thanks πŸ™‚ x

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  26. Lauren @ Create Bake Make
    June 20, 2014 at 7:32 pm (3 years ago)

    I love this Renee, and it certainly wasn’t too long at all! I can relate to many of your thoughts, throughout the day words will randomly come to me and I am desperately trying to write them all down.
    Thank you for asking me to be a part of this, it’s a work in progress at the moment, hoping to have it ready to post on Tuesday x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 24, 2014 at 10:35 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Lauren. I can’t wait to read what you write x

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  27. Maxabella
    June 25, 2014 at 1:37 pm (3 years ago)

    We are all such kindred spirits – no wonder we find ourselves writing in our heads all say every day. So much to share!! x

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      June 25, 2014 at 7:31 pm (3 years ago)

      We sure are, Bron! I’ve loved reading everyone else’s reasons for writing πŸ™‚ x

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  28. Vicki @ Knocked Up and Abroad
    June 29, 2014 at 7:02 am (3 years ago)

    I always love reading your words. It’s like having a cup of tea and a chat with a friend. So friendly, open and relate-able.

    I love that image of you on the table working! xx

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 9:06 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Vicki. Your words mean the world to me xx

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  29. Marnie
    June 30, 2014 at 9:09 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m just about to publish my post on ‘Why I Write’, self-nominated, but I would love to pass the blog hop batten on…any recommendations and how do I let them know?

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 1, 2014 at 10:49 am (3 years ago)

      Hi Marnie. There are so many interesting bloggers our there, it is hard to choose just a few. When I nominated a few bloggers I sent them a quick email to see if they would be keen. Most people are excited to participate. Good luck πŸ™‚

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  30. Deborah
    July 2, 2014 at 1:12 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m really enjoying this series and it’s amazing how many talented writers there are – from all sorts of backgrounds and with so many passions. I loved that you mentioned reading out loud. I do that with important posts or documents…

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 2, 2014 at 1:48 pm (3 years ago)

      I always pick up more mistakes when I read out loud. I don’t know why that is, but I definitely don’t publish without doing it πŸ™‚

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      July 3, 2014 at 11:21 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Amber. You are too kind x

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  31. The Exercise Hitlist
    September 4, 2014 at 11:52 pm (3 years ago)

    It is so easy to lose your sense of self after becoming a mother….for me I found myself again through exercise but now I feel like I have a voice. Now I am trying to find my voice through words and blogging. It is a work in progress! Thanks for dropping by.

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    • mummywifeme
      mummywifeme
      September 5, 2014 at 9:10 pm (3 years ago)

      Good on you!! That makes me so happy to hear that. It is amazing how therapeutic writing can be.

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  32. The Sane Mum
    June 11, 2017 at 2:16 pm (4 months ago)

    Thank you for these insights! Writing on my blog gives me so much joy, I love the feeling of pressing ‘publish’ when I complete a post! Can’t believe I procrastinated for so long with actually starting: I’ve only been blogging for half a year, but I’ve had my domain purchased for over three years! Now that I’ve started, I can’t wait to see the blog grow into the vision I have for it! πŸ™‚ xx

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